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How do guys approach you?
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I always extend the hand and give out a fake name and then say you didn't think I would give my name that easy ?
It's easy for me to connect with people cause I'm more of a listener than a talker so I don't use pick up lines cause females do pick up on the bs.
Posted by xXxAliciaXxX
Agreed. I don't understand why it's so hard for millennial dudes to just say "hi" without the extra bullshit and the dehumanizing names.Prime excuse I hear: "Well when we talk to you respectfully you just ignore us!"
It's called life you cry baby bitch.
Such entitled mentalities. Not every woman you want is going to want you back. Get over it.
Lol ☝️️She's right
I usually just say "hi" I introduce my self, say I just wanted to introduce myself and I leave them alone, usually I notice that their eyes wonder towards me If im still in the room, shows how curious or interested she is in talking some more.
I'd like to know why are you only attracting those types of guys (?)
Posted by DeadStool
I like the one sided blame game here. Sure you(the general you not pinpointed to one individual) may not like the names they call you, but if they aren't sexualized is it really that bad? Sure you'll cringe, but have you thought maybe the guy is mustering up courage in general to say something? Being approached tough, approaching someone is tougher. What's the guarantee a specific hi will work? What's the guarantee a "hey cutie" will work? I don't think women realize this but guys who are genuine in their intentions, it takes a lot for them to go up and approach a woman. Not because they're afraid of being rejected, but because they also don't want to make her feel some of way (negatively). Doesn't mean they're sensitive, it means they're to a degree thoughtful. Cause who tf wants to have an awkward encounter especially with a person of interest? And not many people regardless of gender are privy to great conversational skills.
I totally get what you're saying but i'm saying for my preference that I would like a different approach I like to be met on equal footing and talk to like a human being. If you don't have a lot of time say hello my name is such and such you look like an interesting person can I give you my number or could I get yours she's either going to say yes or no. But for me personally the hey cutie approach does not work for me.
Guys don't approach me.
Posted by xXxAliciaXxX
Let's step outside of men, women, and courting.Let's try to remember that women are people first and foremost.
With that being said, you would not walk up to any man and say to him: "hey cutie", "sweetie", "doll", etc. Therefore you clearly know better. Using the excuse of "well it's hard to approach women" doesn't justify it. Unless you know someone, male or female female, you should not be approaching them by calling them anything other than their name (if you know it), or a simple hello.
Even people who lack conversational skills should know better than that.
THIS^^^ CoSIGn!
Posted by Koniuchaa
One of the few times I have been approached was in the cleaning aisle at the grocery store. A guy asked me what I was going to clean
Hey I liked it! Better than cat calls from nasty old guys
Aww ok. Well if you liked it, I love it.
That would have completely caught me off guard though lol
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See I like being Caught offguard and a positive way. That would've been interesting to me that he asked that question and we would've got into a whole conversation and who knows what other conversations with a stand off of that and at the end of it we would've both feel comfortable and then initial I would've been broken and he would've had no problem asking for my number
usually pretty direct after reasonable eye contacts, chemistry and friendliness. haven't had a chance to date shy guys, I'll only hear about their interest in me through others and usually too late to do anything about it.
Posted by Koniuchaa
One of the few times I have been approached was in the cleaning aisle at the grocery store. A guy asked me what I was going to clean
and what did you say
this is like a hen house
Posted by aphrodite3
If women can just suck dick and shut up.. there would be no problems
Listen take your negative ass somewhere else with all that lip Poppin. Go sit and think about why you have settled in the past because obviously you believe in settling because you think that women should just be happy with what they get. Maybe you should worry about not settling and getting what you actually want. If you cut all that negative energy out you might attract someone who gives a damn about you. Thinking with your dick probably got you in those situations that you were in. It sounds like you feel victim to symbiotic relationships where you get something from them and they get something from you until it no longer serves either one of you so think about that before you start saying that women should be doing anything.
what if i approach you with chloroform?
Posted by DeadStool
I like the one sided blame game here. Sure you(the general you not pinpointed to one individual) may not like the names they call you, but if they aren't sexualized is it really that bad? Sure you'll cringe, but have you thought maybe the guy is mustering up courage in general to say something? Being approached tough, approaching someone is tougher. What's the guarantee a specific hi will work? What's the guarantee a "hey cutie" will work? I don't think women realize this but guys who are genuine in their intentions, it takes a lot for them to go up and approach a woman. Not because they're afraid of being rejected, but because they also don't want to make her feel some of way (negatively). Doesn't mean they're sensitive, it means they're to a degree thoughtful. Cause who tf wants to have an awkward encounter especially with a person of interest? And not many people regardless of gender are privy to great conversational skills.I totally get what you're saying but i'm saying for my preference that I would like a different approach I like to be met on equal footing and talk to like a human being. If you don't have a lot of time say hello my name is such and such you look like an interesting person can I give you my number or could I get yours she's either going to say yes or no. But for me personally the hey cutie approach does not work for me.
And that's perfectly fine that it doesn't work for you, because well it just doesn't. And i hope the guy whoever employs that understands it.
But, put yourself in a guys position; masculine, little charm, no idea of seduction(cause most guys suck at this) and this isn't seduction as in let's go to my bed seduction, but a let me interest you in getting to know me. He's gonna say idiotic things lol. Lemme ask you a question though, if he uses a hey cutie or anything like that which turns you off, but you're physically attracted to him. What would you do then? Cause he's said his "line" and well lol seems he's been shut down for now. I'm sorry but i'm just playing devils advocate here.
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I said in my original post doesn't matter what he looks like. I had a guy message me on Facebook the other day. I didn't know him we had mutual friends and he message me "Hot" that's it that's all he said was hot. Mind you he was very attractive, had a very good job, and even seem to love his family from what I could gather from his Facebook. I immediately wrote back "well that's a turn off" and "he writes back oh you don't like compliments so long." My words to him were "for the record girls want to know that there is intellect and respect when you approached us first impressions matter even on the Internet." Because the way I see it if you genuinely see me as a potential relationship material you wont think I am just "hot" you will look at me and say wow that girl looks pretty intelligent, she carries herself well, looks to be doing shit with her life. You can't tell me that you would approach someone who you see as relationship material like a meathead.
Posted by Koniuchaa
One of the few times I have been approached was in the cleaning aisle at the grocery store. A guy asked me what I was going to cleanand what did you say
I told him my cleaning plan. This was years ago, so I don't remember all the details
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sounds familiar
Posted by Scrumptious
what if i approach you with chloroform?Lol smh
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Posted by ParisianCappy
how do you want to be aproach'd ?
I want someone to start a conversation with me based on the things that are in our surrounding or things about me and that other person that connect. Hell even if you have to say hey you look familiar don't you work at such and such I know it sounds corny but start a conversation with me that is the quickest way for me to see How you handle your thought process. It may be a little bit different later but I can initially see if you're someone I would be attracted to and if I'm not really attracted to you I'm not really going to continue the conversation I'll try to get into as quickly as possible
Posted by ParisianCappy
how do you want to be aproach'd ?I want someone to start a conversation with me based on the things that are in our surrounding or things about me and that other person that connect. Hell even if you have to say hey you look familiar don't you work at such and such I know it sounds corny but start a conversation with me that is the quickest way for me to see How you handle your thought process. It may be a little bit different later but I can initially see if you're someone I would be attracted to and if I'm not really attracted to you I'm not really going to continue the conversation I'll try to get into as quickly as possible
and if i dont know you
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Exactly if you don't know me and you see me out in public and want to talk to me find a way to make conversation I'm a very friendly person I will make conversation especially if I'm attracted to you.
Posted by xXxAliciaXxX
Let's step outside of men, women, and courting.Let's try to remember that women are people first and foremost.
With that being said, you would not walk up to any man and say to him: "hey cutie", "sweetie", "doll", etc. Therefore you clearly know better. Using the excuse of "well it's hard to approach women" doesn't justify it. Unless you know someone, male or female female, you should not be approaching them by calling them anything other than their name (if you know it), or a simple hello.
Even people who lack conversational skills should know better than that.
Unless you're at a strip club then this don't apply ?
Posted by MiZLeo
I laughed at this 21 yo who approached me the other day. I said straight up "Hahaha, you need to work on your game!"ya not even worth having game for.. like? wtf is the point of getting a girl? they're fucking pricks
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What happened that you feel like this? You don't want to get married? Have children? A life partner?
I understand the anger but you don't think that some people are diff?
The moment a man showers me with compliments - it's game over. Nothing turns me off more than a man who flatters my ego. I smile and graciously thank them, but in my mind, the brick wall goes up.
Posted by Koniuchaa
One of the few times I have been approached was in the cleaning aisle at the grocery store. A guy asked me what I was going to clean
cute - I just met my new Libra man at Home Depot ...
Posted by Librasetting
I try not to talk to woman they're such a complicated creatures.
So are you switching sides or just staying single? Everyone is afraid all around. If a guy thinks I am complicated it is because I am not getting clear security from him. The worst thing you can do is make a woman feel like she can't talk to you. And then there are these spoiled women out here giving us a bad name. What kind of issues have you had with women?
Ya hate that too, I just pretend like I didn't hear anything and walk on
Posted by Librasetting
I try not to talk to woman they're such a complicated creatures.So are you switching sides or just staying single? Everyone is afraid all around. If a guy thinks I am complicated it is because I am not getting clear security from him. The worst thing you can do is make a woman feel like she can't talk to you. And then there are these spoiled women out here giving us a bad name. What kind of issues have you had with women?
I was just teasing but I'm staying single for now my last gf who was a libra cheated on me emotionally and when she saved up enough of my money she kicked me out of our house and moved him in lol.shes one of those spoiled woman whos dumb and downgrade her man they lasted three months because he couldn't get a decent paying job last I heard he worked at a gas station making 7 something...god must have my back because I was about to ask her to marry me too.
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Yuck! Thank God! That's 20 shades of dispicable
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How do guys approach you? Am I the only one who hates the "what's up cutie" or any other sickening name they can think of type approach? Maybe it is all in my head but I mediately feel sexualized and no matter how cute they are I get turned off. what's wrong with sparking a conversation randomly like a normal person and then inte what's wrong with sparking a conversation randomly about things in our atmosphere inducing yourself and then go for the number! catch me off guard a little bit if I can tell that you're down to earth that makes me feel 10 times better than knowing you have already pictured yourself having sex with me in your head.
I don't know maybe I am too picky.