Is he done or do I need to be more patient? (Page 2)

Posted by GoingDutch
Not all Cancer are like this, it also depend on her Venus placement
Ms. Op, where is your Venus? I'm curious, cuz the way you work your love is so different from mine.

My Venus is in Aquarius, and I'm very independent when it come to love. I'm not a romantic person, I'm just dry out when come to love stuff. I'm also Not clingy, most of the time I just feel detatch. Can't imagine myself washing emotions over a guy, must be this Venus in Aquarius thing I have.
I wish I can be so attatch like you.

Let him go, most Libra are indecissive anyways. And regardless of what ever sign they might be, "indecessive" in a man is a turn off, a man should know what he wants and be the lead on things.
How old is he? Libra men as they get older, they find it easier to make choices and less confused compared to their younger age days.

My Moon sign is Gemini but my Venus is Cancer....so I am generally quite independent, love my alone time, HATE clingy people.... but I am very emotional, find it hard to find logic in situations and I find it really hard to let go of someone I like or love.

I know I knew this guy a short time, but he was the first guy I've liked in a loooong time. I'm extremely fussy when it comes to men, and I have weird taste in things.. so when I find a guy, who firstly is taller than me (I'm tall for a woman), who likes the same things I do, who I have fun with, who we have similar backgrounds, who I'm attracted to PLUS who I have chemistry with... then to me that is a unicorn! And I can't imagine finding someone else like that anytime soon.

But yes, I realise I have put him on a pedestal, because of course he is not perfect, and we had a bit of a weird situation....

GoingDutch - I wish I could be dettached like you, my emotions haunt me. But I don't know what I can do about them.

Posted by sunshinelove

Posted by GoingDutch
Not all Cancer are like this, it also depend on her Venus placement
Ms. Op, where is your Venus? I'm curious, cuz the way you work your love is so different from mine.

My Venus is in Aquarius, and I'm very independent when it come to love. I'm not a romantic person, I'm just dry out when come to love stuff. I'm also Not clingy, most of the time I just feel detatch. Can't imagine myself washing emotions over a guy, must be this Venus in Aquarius thing I have.
I wish I can be so attatch like you.

Let him go, most Libra are indecissive anyways. And regardless of what ever sign they might be, "indecessive" in a man is a turn off, a man should know what he wants and be the lead on things.
How old is he? Libra men as they get older, they find it easier to make choices and less confused compared to their younger age days.

My Moon sign is Gemini but my Venus is Cancer....so I am generally quite independent, love my alone time, HATE clingy people.... but I am very emotional, find it hard to find logic in situations and I find it really hard to let go of someone I like or love.

I know I knew this guy a short time, but he was the first guy I've liked in a loooong time. I'm extremely fussy when it comes to men, and I have weird taste in things.. so when I find a guy, who firstly is taller than me (I'm tall for a woman), who likes the same things I do, who I have fun with, who we have similar backgrounds, who I'm attracted to PLUS who I have chemistry with... then to me that is a unicorn! And I can't imagine finding someone else like that anytime soon.

But yes, I realise I have put him on a pedestal, because of course he is not perfect, and we had a bit of a weird situation....

GoingDutch - I wish I could be dettached like you, my emotions haunt me. But I don't know what I can do about them.

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Venus in Cancer is tough when it comes to dating. I have this Venus sign, Gemini Sun, with Moon in Scorpio. I don't fall fast but if I do, it hurts to let go. I understand it's hard to imagine finding someone that you click with, I don't date a lot b/c I am the same way. Super selective in what I like.

let's just say he will respect you more for not giving in but after he get his fix he WILL contact you claiming how he miss you and he's tired of easy lay by that time you'll be like umm I'm engaged by douchbag 😄

Posted by sunshinelove

I know I knew this guy a short time, but he was the first guy I've liked in a loooong time. I'm extremely fussy when it comes to men, and I have weird taste in things.. so when I find a guy, who firstly is taller than me (I'm tall for a woman), who likes the same things I do, who I have fun with, who we have similar backgrounds, who I'm attracted to PLUS who I have chemistry with... then to me that is a unicorn! And I can't imagine finding someone else like that anytime soon.

But yes, I realise I have put him on a pedestal, because of course he is not perfect, and we had a bit of a weird situation....

The fact that you put this guy on a pedestal after the crap he pulled tells me you have NO standards, so I'm not quite sure why you're telling us you're so "fussy."

Don't be desperate. Are you reading what you're writing here? You want to cling on because you're afraid you won't find someone else? Ooooh, chemistry and height and a bunch of other random traits/"qualities" doesn't negate the fact that he's been kind of a jerk to you. ...Yet you'll glady ignore all of it because he's tall and has similar interests?

You are setting yourself up to live a miserable existence if you don't get your shit together. You need to learn to be comfortable while single because you shouldn't sound like some desperate, beaten housewife over ONE guy that you met that happens to make your vagina tingle.

Do not. Contact him. At all.

The end.

Let him do the communicating. If he is NOT in touch, then he's not as great as you thought he was now is he?

...something tells me you already reached out to him though. :/

Cancer, you have my sympathies. That whole worrying process is me to a T.

Posted by Damnata
"Life is what happens while we're busy making other plans".

Very true!

Posted by Damnata
Cancer, you have my sympathies. That whole worrying process is me to a T.

Yes I did wonder if I had just asked him straight out at first when I noticed something was wrong, but I wasn't sure if I was overanalysing.
And anyway, now its too late...

And to those who said I have probably contacted him, no I haven't. I may appear desperate in my messages here, but I am stronger than you think. And I am trying to keep my self-respect.

I like this Damnata, thank you 🙂

'Thing is..sometimes things fall out of place no matter what you do so it's not a guilt on any party. There's just a disconnect at some point. Like that Lennon quote goes "Life is what happens while we're busy making other plans". Just don't see anything as wasted time, you guys did enjoy each other fwiw.'

ooh I don't know why my post came out in a quote box, woops!

You get a gold star. Stay strong, chica. I have a Cancer moon and I can relate more than you realize.