Libra man asked for space ?

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I have been talking to this libra man since September on a daily basis. Morning to good nights, he seemed to be extremely into me we talked almost all day long for a few months. We planned to see eachother one day, and the night before I had asked him if we were still on schedule with our “date”. Received no response from him all day and the next day same thing no where to be found and I left a few messages asking if we was okay and to let me know, he’s usually very good at keeping me in the loop about what’s going on. He messaged me the day after saying “hey, I’m ok just going through some family problems and it would be nice if u got some space, sorry to keep you on the edge” I responded saying “no problem, if you need anything I’m here for you”. We didn’t talk no contact for over a week, so I decided to check in and texted him saying “hey I know u wanted space but just wanted to check in see how you’re doing hope everything’s well” and he responds back saying “hey Thankyou, I appreciate it”.... I feel as if he hates me or is pushing me away and I don’t know why because we’ve never had a problem we’ve never fought before everything has been great up until now I am very confused. I’m not sure what to do how to get him to communicate with me and tell me what exactly is going on it has me extremely stressed out and confused. Help

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i suspect there is someone else he is more interested in.

i would move on.

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Like Jeane said...there is someone else.

Libra men tend to come on strong 1000% and then fade away to black. He'll be back after his first, second, and third choice options fall through. Question is will you still be waiting on him...

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Posted by Timon
So you have never met him? He probably freaked out when it turned "real". Maybe he was just passing time fantasizing about how it could be but didn't really want to make it a reality.

Or he has a gf/fiance/wife. Cause this time of year is when they disappear on the side chick to spend the holidays with the fam.

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So what should I do at this point? Should I say anything to him?

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what should I do from this point? As I feel extremely blindsided by his behaviour.

Do I confront him do I go quiet? I’m confused

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Posted by Via123
what should I do from this point? As I feel extremely blindsided by his behaviour.

Do I confront him do I go quiet? I’m confused

what would make you feel better? whatever it is, do that.

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Posted by Timon
Maybe family problems mean wife problems lol.

If he isn't sharing things with you he is trying to distance himself from you. If he felt close to you he would share his problems with you. Maybe he's only using that as an excuse to fade away.

Either way I think you should move on.

maybe but family problems is the perfect excuse. it's too vague to have any real meaning but also too serious for anyone to call bullshit.

oh, i have to leave early today. i have family problems.

oh, i no i cant help you move. there is a family problem i have to deal with.

oh, i can't see you right now. i have family problems.

there are no family problems.

(this message is brought to you by someone who regularly uses the excuse of "family problems")

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Posted by jeane
Posted by Timon
Maybe family problems mean wife problems lol.

If he isn't sharing things with you he is trying to distance himself from you. If he felt close to you he would share his problems with you. Maybe he's only using that as an excuse to fade away.

Either way I think you should move on.

maybe but family problems is the perfect excuse. it's too vague to have any real meaning but also too serious for anyone to call bullshit.

oh, i have to leave early today. i have family problems.

oh, i no i cant help you move. there is a family problem i have to deal with.

oh, i can't see you right now. i have family problems.

there are no family problems.

(this message is brought to you by someone who regularly uses the excuse of "family problems")
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Posted by Librasetting
the chance is he just wants space and to recharge his energy. These people are just fucking with you.

space to recharge his energy?

energy he had to speak to her online for months but suddenly that energy depletes the night before they are meant to meet for the first time? he ignores her for two days and then gives her some vague excuse with no real form of resolution (ie no hey, lets try again in a week, two weeks, month).

when she contacts him again, she doesn't get any further information, nor does it kick start conversations again. she gets a bland "thanks, i appreciate it" and he goes back to silence.

i mean the use of the term "space" is interesting. how often were these messages? did she initiate most of them? was he feeling smothered by her attentions or was he just trying to extricate himself from a position he no longer wanted to be in.

sure, there is a chance, that the family problem (that reached catastrophic levels the day before they were supposed to meet for the first time - bad timing) he speaks about is so time and emotionally consuming that a single text message drains him of all life.

however, the likelihood is that he is continuing to chat to women in the same way he started talking to her and when push came to shove, he didn't want to see her.

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Posted by Via123
what should I do from this point? As I feel extremely blindsided by his behaviour.

Do I confront him do I go quiet? I’m confused

Whenever I get a letter from a crosswatcher asking about a Libra, I scan the email for one thing; and one thing only - the frequency of physical face to face meetings. In my experience with Libras if they come to see you in person - especially with frequency they are taking you seriously. This guy doesn't see enough things in common to further a connection or he could not be 'ready' right now. His interest is lukewarm and it sound like it's over. Space in a new association to me, to me, means it's over and we will talk every now and again. Until eventually you just go your separate ways.

What should you do? Accept it. The quicker you accept he's not into you and this is going nowhere and cry and talk it out, the sooner you will get over it.

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It’s so weird he would initiate almost all of the conversations, what’s even more weird is he would call me his wife and talk about how he sees me in his future. Would constantly say “you’re the girl for me let’s get married you’re perfect” and he’s actually more than a handful of times has said “I love you”. Reason why I’m so confused is this space thing came out of left field. He’s never ghosted before he’s never acted weird before either he’s always vocal about anything going on. And the day before he’s the one who initiated the conversation with a goodmorning beautiful how’s your day going and then after disappeared. It all just seems strange to me and me even asking him what’s wrong isn’t going to resolve it. I just want to make sense of the situation.

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Posted by Via123
It’s so weird he would initiate almost all of the conversations, what’s even more weird is he would call me his wife and talk about how he sees me in his future. Would constantly say “you’re the girl for me let’s get married you’re perfect” and he’s actually more than a handful of times has said “I love you”. Reason why I’m so confused is this space thing came out of left field. He’s never ghosted before he’s never acted weird before either he’s always vocal about anything going on. And the day before he’s the one who initiated the conversation with a goodmorning beautiful how’s your day going and then after disappeared. It all just seems strange to me and me even asking him what’s wrong isn’t going to resolve it. I just want to make sense of the situation.

well none of any of this makes sense so forget him

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Posted by lesenfantterribles
why is no one entertaining that this person is a catfish??

OP have you seen him in person?? skype? video phone??

if not, your first post sounds just like an episode of catfish.

family problems my ass.

Lol, could be but don't catfish keep them strung along?

I couldn't meet you because

- My cat vomited on my favourite shirt

- it started to rain and I didn't have an umbrella

- My plant died and we were very close

Let's keep talking though bay-bee

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hmm... he probably got scared to meet you. Could be insecurity... or someone else. These 2 options seem the most credible. I'd also add that maybe he was flirting with other women (since it was online) and it got too real, got scared to move forward, unsure.

I have flaked on people last minute and totally ran away... Insecurity on my part and also not ready, felt I couldn't expose myself emotionally yet.

Did you guys ever snap/ facetime or anything?

Or maybe he does need space, does need to recharge. Im a Scorpio and WILL disappear on you as I recharge but Im not totally sure how Libras work :/ What I have noticed from Libras is that they do pursue you full force when into you. They are romantics, after all.

Also, never believe the words but the actions.

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In all possible likelihood, @Via123, it would be best that you occupy yourself. Whether be it with your work, or your education. Keep yourself busy, because in all outcomes, you would not have wasted your time.

You cannot control what he is doing, what he is thinking, or what he will decide. However, you could control how you expend your thoughts. Spare those poor brain cell of yours, give them a break instead of running them to the ground wondering. If you go about living your life, letting those thoughts of him, glide past your mind. Then you will feel much happier.

If he happens to come back, then great. If not, at least you will still be in a much more content state than one of a worry wart.

Be kind to yourself. 🙂

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yes We snap chatted almost everyday and he would send me direct videos of him acknowledging me by my name. Also we have a lot of mutual friends so he’s definitely not a cat fish. Just a complete weirdo. Changed up in the matter of seconds

Also my birthday just passed on dec 24, he texted me the night before to say “Thankyou I appreciate it” but never wished me a happy birthday?

Only thing I’m doing at this point is occupying myself

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Posted by Via123
yes We snap chatted almost everyday and he would send me direct videos of him acknowledging me by my name. Also we have a lot of mutual friends so he’s definitely not a cat fish. Just a complete weirdo. Changed up in the matter of seconds

Also my birthday just passed on dec 24, he texted me the night before to say “Thankyou I appreciate it” but never wished me a happy birthday?

Only thing I’m doing at this point is occupying myself

Regardless, do not wait on him.

You could think, think, and think. You still will not know why. Trust me, every woman and sometimes men, have been there. Being neurotic about it, will not give you the answer. There is no answer, accept that uncertainty.

When you no longer expect anything from him, you will free yourself from the pain of pining and longing. Besides, what has he shown or proven that warrants so much of your efforts, and time.

No, none of us here could give you the answer as to why he disappeared. We could provide you as many possibilities under the moon, but will that give you relief. Truly think about it, would it not make your mind run all the worse, churning out one possibility over another ?

Meditate, dissociate yourself from the situation, and focus on yourself. When you do that, you become a far more attractive person overall. Your energy will be relaxed, and if he does not find that attractive. At least, you know men around you will pick that up. Trust me, they will, and you will be off unto a different adventure. Perhaps, an even more exciting man to sweep you off your feet.

Who knows, accept uncertainty. Life is much more adventurous and fun that way. If he misses out, then he misses out. You would have enjoyed yourself to the full. 🙂

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Woah Nelly!

"would call me his wife and talk about how he sees me in his future. Would constantly say “you’re the girl for me let’s get married you’re perfect” and he’s actually more than a handful of times has said “I love you”."

If a guy I hadn't even MET yet, had said this to me I'd get an allergic reaction and possibly change my name and address. This is unhealthy, no-substance, un-authentic online-manipulative bile.

You don't need to be looking into his astrological chart for the answer to this one. This isn't a "Libra thing".

I agree with @wiseblood regarding: "A lot of these males just want attention, someone to stroke their ego, they can drop it just as quickly as they began it."

At best, this is what it was. At best he was saying what he "thinks girls want to hear" to charm you, not because it was genuine, and at best it was meant as a harmless, fun distraction, like flicking through a magazine.

Stear clear of men that haven't even met you, declaring their "undying love" for you.

And regardsless of all of this, why are you trying to GET a guy to communicate with you?

"I’m not sure what to do how to get him to communicate with me"

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Posted by Librasetting
the chance is he just wants space and to recharge his energy. These people are just fucking with you.

True bitchboy speak.

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OP, the situation is obvious. You're just not seeing the logic because you've been brainwashed by pretty words. Get some damned self esteem and don't take someone's words so seriously when it comes to online stuff. Libras are masters at using pretty words to lull women into romance and not mean a single thing.

In your situation, it's plain as day that he clearly had no interest in meeting. The second you mentioned meeting, he went missing. How can you not connect the dots there?

Yes, there could be other women. Guys like this tend to juggle several and it's all purely for ego.They get off emotionally from it. "Look, I have so many women making me feel good about myself."

But that reality kicks in and they run off like the bitch boy cowards they can be.

The fact that he made such sweeping declarations in a short amount of time, as well as online with zero actual face to face contact says it all. IRL, if someone had the same thing- dude rushing in fast and making sweeping declarations, they're told the same thing- be careful, they're moving too fast and will bail just as fast as they jumped in. Same thing is happening here. You pushed to make the situation more real and he ran off like a piece of shit.

The only thing you need to make sense of is that this guy lives in fairy tale land. They exist all over the internet with people trying to push for online "relationships." They're perfectly okay keeping them online and won't move it any further. They like the fantasy because they cannot come to grips with reality and live online because on the internet, you can cultivate your ideal life/reality that suits your needs unlike how reality works.

Use this as a learning experience to not allow yourself to desperately cling on to such dog shit like he wants to marry you. You should have been fucking running, not swooning. You need to reevaluate the state of your self esteem if you're blindly falling for this bullshit. Wake the hell up, dear. He's not the only one who was living in fantasy here.

Overall, this isn't worth fretting over. You've seen enough red flags to go "fuck it" and move on. Easier said than done, but it's not worth keeping in touch.

Block him and go on with your bad self.

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Posted by Librasetting
Posted by rockyroadicecream
Posted by Librasetting
the chance is he just wants space and to recharge his energy. These people are just fucking with you.
True bitchboy speak.
We all know you wanna be a man we get it.
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At least I'm more of a man than you. All you do is justify fuckboy behavior. Tiz Jr. here. Congrats.

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oh lord, again with the fucking snap chats arrgghhhahsbsjdjdhdhwjabsb

IKR!

I don't even have that shit on my phone. Damn this snapchats. 😆
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I said fuck it. I'm over the constant ADD people have developed with social media apps. Facebook was it for quite awhile, then it was Instagram. Then Whatsapp/other group chat apps, then snapchat. I said fuck it at snapchat. It all sounds stupid as shit.

"DID YOU SEE MY SNAP?"

You sound like a fucking idiot, you know that right?

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Could he just be scared and insecure?

Maybe he’s short or has crooked teeth. Maybe he’s heavier than what he appears in pictures. Maybe he just is not good at meeting new beautiful girls.

Just trying to be positive

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Posted by pinkbird03
Could he just be scared and insecure?

Maybe he’s short or has crooked teeth. Maybe he’s heavier than what he appears in pictures. Maybe he just is not good at meeting new beautiful girls.

Just trying to be positive

if this was the case, he wouldn't be ignoring her.

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Posted by pinkbird03
Could he just be scared and insecure?

Maybe he’s short or has crooked teeth. Maybe he’s heavier than what he appears in pictures. Maybe he just is not good at meeting new beautiful girls.

Just trying to be delusional

Fixed.

You cannot spin "positivity" onto a situation where someone is being treated badly by another. Shame on you. Gtfo, kthx.

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Posted by lesenfantterribles
oh lord, again with the fucking snap chats arrgghhhahsbsjdjdhdhwjabsb

IKR!

I don't even have that shit on my phone. Damn this snapchats. 😆
I said fuck it. I'm over the constant ADD people have developed with social media apps. Facebook was it for quite awhile, then it was Instagram. Then Whatsapp/other group chat apps, then snapchat. I said fuck it at snapchat. It all sounds stupid as shit.

"DID YOU SEE MY SNAP?"

You sound like a fucking idiot, you know that right?

The only app that I've had is watsapp. But I used that for work, family and friends.

The rest, I am done with all of those shit. Fb, Instagram etc etc are all history for me. The latest one, this snapchat, oh Lord! I can't even! Lol

It's crazy af. I agree with you on this. It is really stupid.

I ditched Facebook. Still have IG, and Whatsapp I use to keep in touch easier with a friend overseas.

All of it really is. I was at a party with a bunch of coworkers the other night and a few of us noticed how many were spending a majority of the time doing stupid shit for the sole purpose of posting to social media. Actually interacting at the party? Not so much. Doing stupid shit while recording themselves? Over 9000. I was like wow you all are sad cunts.

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Posted by pinkbird03
Could he just be scared and insecure?

Maybe he’s short or has crooked teeth. Maybe he’s heavier than what he appears in pictures. Maybe he just is not good at meeting new beautiful girls.

Just trying to be positive
if this was the case, he wouldn't be ignoring her.
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I seriously dislike the mentality of some of the women on this site. They don't realize how fucking stupid and sad they sound with the shit they spout.

"OH I WANT TO TELL THEM WHAT THEY WANT TO HEAR BECAUSE IT'S SO MEAN AND HARSH TO TELL THEM THE REALITY!!"

All it does is cause more damage. Women do more damage to each other in the advice department because they're raised to be passive weenies and say some of the stupidest fucking shit. They sound borderline psychotic and delusional all for the sake of trying to make someone feel better. Sad bitch stuff right there.

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Posted by rockyroadicecream
Posted by pinkbird03
Could he just be scared and insecure?

Maybe he’s short or has crooked teeth. Maybe he’s heavier than what he appears in pictures. Maybe he just is not good at meeting new beautiful girls.

Just trying to be delusional
Fixed.

You cannot spin "positivity" onto a situation where someone is being treated badly by another. Shame on you. Gtfo, kthx.

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Rude much?

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Posted by Starslikeyou
Woah Nelly!

"would call me his wife and talk about how he sees me in his future. Would constantly say “you’re the girl for me let’s get married you’re perfect” and he’s actually more than a handful of times has said “I love you”."

If a guy I hadn't even MET yet, had said this to me I'd get an allergic reaction and possibly change my name and address. This is unhealthy, no-substance, un-authentic online-manipulative bile.

You don't need to be looking into his astrological chart for the answer to this one. This isn't a "Libra thing".

I agree with @wiseblood regarding: "A lot of these males just want attention, someone to stroke their ego, they can drop it just as quickly as they began it."

At best, this is what it was. At best he was saying what he "thinks girls want to hear" to charm you, not because it was genuine, and at best it was meant as a harmless, fun distraction, like flicking through a magazine.

Stear clear of men that haven't even met you, declaring their "undying love" for you.

And regardsless of all of this, why are you trying to GET a guy to communicate with you?

"I’m not sure what to do how to get him to communicate with me"

By the way @Via123, the fact that this moron has been disingenuous in his words and bailed on meeting you, is not a reflection on you. You're probably perfectly lovely. Next time you'll smell the rat.

I mean, think about it: is it natural to "love" someone you've only communicated with for a few months in a cropped reality of snapchats and the likes? I highly doubt you could have even reached the stage of actual infatuation, having not met each other in person even. Be careful of wanting to be in love just for the sake of it, you blind yourself. Be careful what you wish for.

Good luck to you!

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Posted by Mutabull
Ahh Libras..the masters of no confrontation. They are clingers. Never had the Libra ask me for space, ever...nor disappear in almost 2 years..if they love you they are nosy and always wanna be close...and don’t let you walk away, even when you try 😏

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