Libra Man confusing the hell out of me

i'm sure some other will give you a more comprehensive opinion but here is mine.

you don't trust him and your communication is pretty rubbish.

either improve your communication and begin to trust him or don't trust him (you might be justified in this) and call it a day.

either you have trust or you have nothing. if you think he is talking to other women and nothing he says convinces you otherwise then i think you're just wasting your time.

Posted by thatlibralife

Answered this in the Cancer and Libra board but see below..

Some thoughts:

Describe his flirting with other girls...texting doesn't mean too much. You don't know who he's texting and why is smiling doing it suspicious?..it could be a friend saying something funny..

When he's in the gym could he be concentrating on his work out routine? Why not just walk up and talk to him?

What do you mean lost interest? What signs he's with someone else that you are seeing?

I'm not seeing where he's "clearly" cheating..

Honestly seems like some insecurities on your part...

Cheating and losing interest to me would mean he is not calling as much, not taking you out, less intimacy....especially less conversation would be a big sign for him as the Libras I know including myself tend to be quite chatty especially with those we like. But if you piss me off or I don't want to be with you I'm shutting down all communication and go missing...

He doesn’t call hardly ever

We don’t go out anymore

We still had been having sex but it’s been a week

And yes we don’t talk much



I’ve complained about all these things but he always says I argue too much

But he doesn’t acknowledge that I “argue” about not spending time together

Should I just go no contact for a month? I know libras hate to be ignored and move on fast but I almost wonder if he needs space to appreciate me more. Or do I just keep seeing him and try not arguing with him about it and see if it naturally happens?

Posted by Untitled23

Posted by thatlibralife

Answered this in the Cancer and Libra board but see below..

Some thoughts:

Describe his flirting with other girls...texting doesn't mean too much. You don't know who he's texting and why is smiling doing it suspicious?..it could be a friend saying something funny..

When he's in the gym could he be concentrating on his work out routine? Why not just walk up and talk to him?

What do you mean lost interest? What signs he's with someone else that you are seeing?

I'm not seeing where he's "clearly" cheating..

Honestly seems like some insecurities on your part...

Cheating and losing interest to me would mean he is not calling as much, not taking you out, less intimacy....especially less conversation would be a big sign for him as the Libras I know including myself tend to be quite chatty especially with those we like. But if you piss me off or I don't want to be with you I'm shutting down all communication and go missing...

He doesn’t call hardly ever

We don’t go out anymore

We still had been having sex but it’s been a week

And yes we don’t talk much



I’ve complained about all these things but he always says I argue too much

But he doesn’t acknowledge that I “argue” about not spending time together

Should I just go no contact for a month? I know libras hate to be ignored and move on fast but I almost wonder if he needs space to appreciate me more. Or do I just keep seeing him and try not arguing with him about it and see if it naturally happens?

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are you sure that he actually likes you? i mean, even as a person? yikes.

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Posted by Untitled23

Posted by thatlibralife

Answered this in the Cancer and Libra board but see below..

Some thoughts:

Describe his flirting with other girls...texting doesn't mean too much. You don't know who he's texting and why is smiling doing it suspicious?..it could be a friend saying something funny..

When he's in the gym could he be concentrating on his work out routine? Why not just walk up and talk to him?

What do you mean lost interest? What signs he's with someone else that you are seeing?

I'm not seeing where he's "clearly" cheating..

Honestly seems like some insecurities on your part...

Cheating and losing interest to me would mean he is not calling as much, not taking you out, less intimacy....especially less conversation would be a big sign for him as the Libras I know including myself tend to be quite chatty especially with those we like. But if you piss me off or I don't want to be with you I'm shutting down all communication and go missing...

He doesn’t call hardly ever

We don’t go out anymore

We still had been having sex but it’s been a week

And yes we don’t talk much



I’ve complained about all these things but he always says I argue too much

But he doesn’t acknowledge that I “argue” about not spending time together

Should I just go no contact for a month? I know libras hate to be ignored and move on fast but I almost wonder if he needs space to appreciate me more. Or do I just keep seeing him and try not arguing with him about it and see if it naturally happens?

are you sure that he actually likes you? i mean, even as a person? yikes.

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lol yes he does if I didn’t think he did I wouldn’t want to speak to him any longer

I don’t see how fighting with someone equates to them not liking you as a person

People fight no relationship is perfect we’re fighting over miscommunications but yes we both like each other I’m just trying to gain clarity on my best course of action as I know I’m emotional atm

Posted by dilettante

also, i dont see where you said yall were dating? only “talking for a few months”.

so, he’s still free to do whatever he wants, which includes talking to other women.

yes we were dating nuerous time he said he wanted to be with me just him and i

i didnt write every detail of our relationship out i was sort of just writing the current situation so i left that out but yes we were dating

its not that i have an issue with him speaking to another female but theres a difference between conversing and being disrespectful...

this is clearly not a friend she was seeing his friend and texted him [idk how she got his number considering she was seeing his friend which never occured to me to ask him last night] and she wants it to be a secret so clearly they are doing something shady. Thats not innocent flirting thats crossing a line.

i just want mutual respect in the relationship

Posted by dilettante

if he isnt treating you how you want to be treated, even after bringing it up - he aint worth it.

do not resort to game playing, ie: “no contact for a month”. unless you are prepared for having him leave forever.

Just curious [not being defensive]

why do you assume no contact is a game? Its not a game and thats not the intention...i am considering it as a way to have breathing room on both parts i am not thinkiing clearly right now im being reactive which isn't helpful to him or i.

Posted by Untitled23

lol yes he does if I didn’t think he did I wouldn’t want to speak to him any longer

I don’t see how fighting with someone equates to them not liking you as a person

People fight no relationship is perfect we’re fighting over miscommunications but yes we both like each other I’m just trying to gain clarity on my best course of action as I know I’m emotional atm

going from how you've described things.

- he texts nonstop in front of you ie, someone is more interesting

- he flirts with other women and then gaslights you when you comment

- you feel like he doesn't want to know you at the gym

- he seems like he has lost interest in you

- he doesn't appreciate your efforts

- "He doesn’t call hardly ever

We don’t go out anymore

We still had been having sex but it’s been a week

And yes we don’t talk much "

- he minimises your feelings

- known to pick fights.

as a libra, this is how i treat someone if i didn't much care for/respect/bordering on resent them.

but i can see despite asking for advice, you're going to excuse it so i don't know, yeah, play some sort of scarcity game and see what happens. i don't think you've got much to lose at this point.

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Posted by Untitled23

lol yes he does if I didn’t think he did I wouldn’t want to speak to him any longer

I don’t see how fighting with someone equates to them not liking you as a person

People fight no relationship is perfect we’re fighting over miscommunications but yes we both like each other I’m just trying to gain clarity on my best course of action as I know I’m emotional atm

going from how you've described things.

- he texts nonstop in front of you ie, someone is more interesting

- he flirts with other women and then gaslights you when you comment

- you feel like he doesn't want to know you at the gym

- he seems like he has lost interest in you

- he doesn't appreciate your efforts

- "He doesn’t call hardly ever

We don’t go out anymore

We still had been having sex but it’s been a week

And yes we don’t talk much "

- he minimises your feelings

- known to pick fights.

as a libra, this is how i treat someone if i didn't much care for/respect/bordering on resent them.

but i can see despite asking for advice, you're going to excuse it so i don't know, yeah, play some sort of scarcity game and see what happens. i don't think you've got much to lose at this point.

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I dont mean to excuse it but i guess i feel, and he is communicating to me, that he wants to be together but that the way things have been going is the issue. I wrote the OP before he came to my house last night.

Last night he said he wants to be with me but he wants to stop arguing, i asked several times what the issue is, and he repeated it over and over again. I didn't want to believe that was it however that is the consistent thing he was saying...he told me he loves me. But again i dont know if im seeing things clearly so i was considering just giving space [ie no contact] as a way to reset myself and the relationship as i feel upset right now and i don't think its helpful to try communicatings with him right now...

Idk am i wrong in how im seeing it?

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Posted by Untitled23

lol yes he does if I didn’t think he did I wouldn’t want to speak to him any longer

I don’t see how fighting with someone equates to them not liking you as a person

People fight no relationship is perfect we’re fighting over miscommunications but yes we both like each other I’m just trying to gain clarity on my best course of action as I know I’m emotional atm

going from how you've described things.

- he texts nonstop in front of you ie, someone is more interesting

- he flirts with other women and then gaslights you when you comment

- you feel like he doesn't want to know you at the gym

- he seems like he has lost interest in you

- he doesn't appreciate your efforts

- "He doesn’t call hardly ever

We don’t go out anymore

We still had been having sex but it’s been a week

And yes we don’t talk much "

- he minimises your feelings

- known to pick fights.

as a libra, this is how i treat someone if i didn't much care for/respect/bordering on resent them.

but i can see despite asking for advice, you're going to excuse it so i don't know, yeah, play some sort of scarcity game and see what happens. i don't think you've got much to lose at this point.

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I should simplify my response...I want to work things out with him. i know im emotional right now and not being logical...so i guess im curious how i can do that? I felt no contact would be useful as it would allow me to like get stock of myself and my emotions...didn't want it to be a game. BUT if you have better advice i welcome that...

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I dont mean to excuse it but i guess i feel, and he is communicating to me, that he wants to be together but that the way things have been going is the issue. I wrote the OP before he came to my house last night.

Last night he said he wants to be with me but he wants to stop arguing, i asked several times what the issue is, and he repeated it over and over again. I didn't want to believe that was it however that is the consistent thing he was saying...he told me he loves me. But again i dont know if im seeing things clearly so i was considering just giving space [ie no contact] as a way to reset myself and the relationship as i feel upset right now and i don't think its helpful to try communicatings with him right now...

Idk am i wrong in how im seeing it?

he repeated what over and over again?

i'm going to side with tiz in that continually questioning his feelings is not going to go in your favour however, your earlier posts indicate that you may be justified in this.

i don't know, you seem all over the place. like you just can't get a read on the type of person he is. perhaps that's your doing or it might be his. i can't tell. as this point are you still feeling that you don't believe him when he says he loves you? and that he doesn't respect you?

if you want a break to reset yourself, then you should do that and be honest with him that that is the reason. don't however go no contact as a ploy to manipulate a response from him.

i think you have to consider as well if you are ready to date anyone at this point. are you dealing with baggage? personal issues that you haven't properly addressed? did your last relationship end badly? any of these things could be the reason why you are unable to be logical and instead ricocheting from one emotion to another.

Posted by tiziani

I would weigh in but I honestly do not understand your posts. It's as if one post is completely disconnected from another.

All I'd say is that it's lazy from him to be dismissive of you expressing your needs.

Completely separate from that, I've not been motivated to talk with a women who questions my feelings. There's just an age you get to where, respectfully, that isn't something up for discussion.

These are all separate things and I'm not sure what the real issue is where you're both butting heads right now, but that's my 2 cents.

I dont even know how to respond to this...my posts have consistently said:

-hes talking to someone else and i have an issue with it

-im emotional and not thinking from a place of logic rn and im aware of it

-i want to figure out the best course of action to take [hard to do when i know im upset and emotional]

-he told me he loves me but he doesn't want to argue anymore

so im not sure what you mean by they are disconnected from on another, the only thing i can think is that i am responding to indivual comments on my post thus they will differ slighting...

When you say "question your feelings" in what way? As in when a woman is seeking validation? I guess i don't understand what you mean by that.

The issue we're butting heads on is that he feels i argue alot with him...i don't know how to mend things right now. Im unsure if its best to give space or to just do my best to do what he seems to want which is for me to just move forward from where things are and not rehash anything we've already talked about [go with the flow if you will]...

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Posted by Untitled23

I dont mean to excuse it but i guess i feel, and he is communicating to me, that he wants to be together but that the way things have been going is the issue. I wrote the OP before he came to my house last night.

Last night he said he wants to be with me but he wants to stop arguing, i asked several times what the issue is, and he repeated it over and over again. I didn't want to believe that was it however that is the consistent thing he was saying...he told me he loves me. But again i dont know if im seeing things clearly so i was considering just giving space [ie no contact] as a way to reset myself and the relationship as i feel upset right now and i don't think its helpful to try communicatings with him right now...

Idk am i wrong in how im seeing it?

he repeated what over and over again?

i'm going to side with tiz in that continually questioning his feelings is not going to go in your favour however, your earlier posts indicate that you may be justified in this.

i don't know, you seem all over the place. like you just can't get a read on the type of person he is. perhaps that's your doing or it might be his. i can't tell. as this point are you still feeling that you don't believe him when he says he loves you? and that he doesn't respect you?

if you want a break to reset yourself, then you should do that and be honest with him that that is the reason. don't however go no contact as a ploy to manipulate a response from him.

i think you have to consider as well if you are ready to date anyone at this point. are you dealing with baggage? personal issues that you haven't properly addressed? did your last relationship end badly? any of these things could be the reason why you are unable to be logical and instead ricocheting from one emotion to another.

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He repeated that he doesn’t want to argue and that is his only issue with me according to him. He said he wants to start over.

I can see I am all over the place that’s why I kept repeating im emotional. I also have ADD which may contribute to it as well...

I don’t know if I believe that he loves me...I mean we have discussed marriage...but he’s pulled away now and so I do feel insecure. I want to believe it. Last night I told him I didn’t believe it that I thought he was just sayin it and he told me he keeps telling me for that same reason and that he will keep telling me til I do believe it.

I think I need a break of some sort to collect my houghts and examine my insecUrity it’s not helping me or him.

The only way to mend things is to do exactly what your friends said...

Pretend none of that exists. Stop arguing.

If you cant ignore and he doesnt wanna talk about it...leave

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Posted by Untitled23

I dont mean to excuse it but i guess i feel, and he is communicating to me, that he wants to be together but that the way things have been going is the issue. I wrote the OP before he came to my house last night.

Last night he said he wants to be with me but he wants to stop arguing, i asked several times what the issue is, and he repeated it over and over again. I didn't want to believe that was it however that is the consistent thing he was saying...he told me he loves me. But again i dont know if im seeing things clearly so i was considering just giving space [ie no contact] as a way to reset myself and the relationship as i feel upset right now and i don't think its helpful to try communicatings with him right now...

Idk am i wrong in how im seeing it?

he repeated what over and over again?

i'm going to side with tiz in that continually questioning his feelings is not going to go in your favour however, your earlier posts indicate that you may be justified in this.

i don't know, you seem all over the place. like you just can't get a read on the type of person he is. perhaps that's your doing or it might be his. i can't tell. as this point are you still feeling that you don't believe him when he says he loves you? and that he doesn't respect you?

if you want a break to reset yourself, then you should do that and be honest with him that that is the reason. don't however go no contact as a ploy to manipulate a response from him.

i think you have to consider as well if you are ready to date anyone at this point. are you dealing with baggage? personal issues that you haven't properly addressed? did your last relationship end badly? any of these things could be the reason why you are unable to be logical and instead ricocheting from one emotion to another.

He repeated that he doesn’t want to argue and that is his only issue with me according to him. He said he wants to start over.

I can see I am all over the place that’s why I kept repeating im emotional. I also have ADD which may contribute to it as well...

I don’t know if I believe that he loves me...I mean we have discussed marriage...but he’s pulled away now and so I do feel insecure. I want to believe it. Last night I told him I didn’t believe it that I thought he was just sayin it and he told me he keeps telling me for that same reason and that he will keep telling me til I do believe it.

I think I need a break of some sort to collect my houghts and examine my insecUrity it’s not helping me or him.

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can you start over? put everything behind and start fresh again? i think if you can do that, that probably would be my preferred option.

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Posted by Untitled23

Posted by tiziani

I would weigh in but I honestly do not understand your posts. It's as if one post is completely disconnected from another.

All I'd say is that it's lazy from him to be dismissive of you expressing your needs.

Completely separate from that, I've not been motivated to talk with a women who questions my feelings. There's just an age you get to where, respectfully, that isn't something up for discussion.

These are all separate things and I'm not sure what the real issue is where you're both butting heads right now, but that's my 2 cents.

I dont even know how to respond to this...my posts have consistently said:

-hes talking to someone else and i have an issue with it

-im emotional and not thinking from a place of logic rn and im aware of it

-i want to figure out the best course of action to take [hard to do when i know im upset and emotional]

-he told me he loves me but he doesn't want to argue anymore

so im not sure what you mean by they are disconnected from on another, the only thing i can think is that i am responding to indivual comments on my post thus they will differ slighting...

When you say "question your feelings" in what way? As in when a woman is seeking validation? I guess i don't understand what you mean by that.

The issue we're butting heads on is that he feels i argue alot with him...i don't know how to mend things right now. Im unsure if its best to give space or to just do my best to do what he seems to want which is for me to just move forward from where things are and not rehash anything we've already talked about [go with the flow if you will]...

yikes, you argue a lot? that’s one thing that will suuuper drive me away. i cant handle emotional instability for long periods of time.

also, im hard pressed to believe anyone can “fall in love” after a few months.

like do yall even fart in front of each other yet—

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It’s been 6 months I guess I shouldn’t have said a few

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if he isnt treating you how you want to be treated, even after bringing it up - he aint worth it.

do not resort to game playing, ie: “no contact for a month”. unless you are prepared for having him leave forever.

Just curious [not being defensive]

why do you assume no contact is a game? Its not a game and thats not the intention...i am considering it as a way to have breathing room on both parts i am not thinkiing clearly right now im being reactive which isn't helpful to him or i.

from the language you used in that post, i gleaned you were going silent in order to solicit a response from him, which usually back fires. it’s important to catch yourself & ask if you are doing something for attention OR out of genuine response. 9 times out of 10, people do things for attention.

it sounds like you two can’t communicate. taking space won’t fix that, only finding someone you CAN communicate w/ will. you’ve only been hanging out for a few months & are already having all these issues. it’s only going to get worse.

i am not a libra but i have a libra moon... like others said, if i start treating someone in the way you are describing, it’s bc i am not that into them but like the attention i am getting.

curious... does this person have leo placements? venus? &... are you a water sign?

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No I did not go silent for a reaction it’s just my natural response to situations like this

So you’re saying don’t believe that he wants to be with me and start over?

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if he isnt treating you how you want to be treated, even after bringing it up - he aint worth it.

do not resort to game playing, ie: “no contact for a month”. unless you are prepared for having him leave forever.

Just curious [not being defensive]

why do you assume no contact is a game? Its not a game and thats not the intention...i am considering it as a way to have breathing room on both parts i am not thinkiing clearly right now im being reactive which isn't helpful to him or i.

from the language you used in that post, i gleaned you were going silent in order to solicit a response from him, which usually back fires. it’s important to catch yourself & ask if you are doing something for attention OR out of genuine response. 9 times out of 10, people do things for attention.

it sounds like you two can’t communicate. taking space won’t fix that, only finding someone you CAN communicate w/ will. you’ve only been hanging out for a few months & are already having all these issues. it’s only going to get worse.

i am not a libra but i have a libra moon... like others said, if i start treating someone in the way you are describing, it’s bc i am not that into them but like the attention i am getting.

curious... does this person have leo placements? venus? &... are you a water sign?

No I did not go silent for a reaction it’s just my natural response to situations like this

So you’re saying don’t believe that he wants to be with me and start over?

unless he is taking immediate action to earn your trust, i would not believe the libra. as another user said action > words.

trust & communication is lacking here, 2 of the most important things for a healthy relationship.

his communication triggers you into feeling insecure. that will not change.

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I’m the one he wants to trust him though...

So if he’s asking to start over and trust him then shouldn’t it be me taking steps to trust more?

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Posted by dilettante

if he isnt treating you how you want to be treated, even after bringing it up - he aint worth it.

do not resort to game playing, ie: “no contact for a month”. unless you are prepared for having him leave forever.

Just curious [not being defensive]

why do you assume no contact is a game? Its not a game and thats not the intention...i am considering it as a way to have breathing room on both parts i am not thinkiing clearly right now im being reactive which isn't helpful to him or i.

from the language you used in that post, i gleaned you were going silent in order to solicit a response from him, which usually back fires. it’s important to catch yourself & ask if you are doing something for attention OR out of genuine response. 9 times out of 10, people do things for attention.

it sounds like you two can’t communicate. taking space won’t fix that, only finding someone you CAN communicate w/ will. you’ve only been hanging out for a few months & are already having all these issues. it’s only going to get worse.

i am not a libra but i have a libra moon... like others said, if i start treating someone in the way you are describing, it’s bc i am not that into them but like the attention i am getting.

curious... does this person have leo placements? venus? &... are you a water sign?

No I did not go silent for a reaction it’s just my natural response to situations like this

So you’re saying don’t believe that he wants to be with me and start over?

unless he is taking immediate action to earn your trust, i would not believe the libra. as another user said action > words.

trust & communication is lacking here, 2 of the most important things for a healthy relationship.

his communication triggers you into feeling insecure. that will not change.

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I didn’t go through his phone I asked him to see it and he gave it to me willingly if he didn’t want me to look he wouldn’t have given it to me

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Posted by dilettante

if he isnt treating you how you want to be treated, even after bringing it up - he aint worth it.

do not resort to game playing, ie: “no contact for a month”. unless you are prepared for having him leave forever.

Just curious [not being defensive]

why do you assume no contact is a game? Its not a game and thats not the intention...i am considering it as a way to have breathing room on both parts i am not thinkiing clearly right now im being reactive which isn't helpful to him or i.

from the language you used in that post, i gleaned you were going silent in order to solicit a response from him, which usually back fires. it’s important to catch yourself & ask if you are doing something for attention OR out of genuine response. 9 times out of 10, people do things for attention.

it sounds like you two can’t communicate. taking space won’t fix that, only finding someone you CAN communicate w/ will. you’ve only been hanging out for a few months & are already having all these issues. it’s only going to get worse.

i am not a libra but i have a libra moon... like others said, if i start treating someone in the way you are describing, it’s bc i am not that into them but like the attention i am getting.

curious... does this person have leo placements? venus? &... are you a water sign?

No I did not go silent for a reaction it’s just my natural response to situations like this

So you’re saying don’t believe that he wants to be with me and start over?

unless he is taking immediate action to earn your trust, i would not believe the libra. as another user said action > words.

trust & communication is lacking here, 2 of the most important things for a healthy relationship.

his communication triggers you into feeling insecure. that will not change.

I didn’t go through his phone I asked him to see it and he gave it to me willingly if he didn’t want me to look he wouldn’t have given it to me

lol OK... but why did you ask for it? why did you look at his messages? did you ask for the phone to specifically look through messages? or was it something else & you looked through his messages out of curiosity?

regardless, you snooped & found info that triggered your trust issues. find someone more along your lines of love & commitment.

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I don’t owe you explanations however I’ll explaim since you’re so triggered by this.

He came to my house and was going through my computer looking at my texts and grabbed my mouse and was trying to look at something on my computer...acting extremely suspicious

So I’m turn I said let me see your phone as an example what it’s like to have someone go through your stuff

He gave me the phone which wasn’t the answer I expected but he did and I found texts I didn’t expect to see

So now you know how and why I looked

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if he isnt treating you how you want to be treated, even after bringing it up - he aint worth it.

do not resort to game playing, ie: “no contact for a month”. unless you are prepared for having him leave forever.

Just curious [not being defensive]

why do you assume no contact is a game? Its not a game and thats not the intention...i am considering it as a way to have breathing room on both parts i am not thinkiing clearly right now im being reactive which isn't helpful to him or i.

from the language you used in that post, i gleaned you were going silent in order to solicit a response from him, which usually back fires. it’s important to catch yourself & ask if you are doing something for attention OR out of genuine response. 9 times out of 10, people do things for attention.

it sounds like you two can’t communicate. taking space won’t fix that, only finding someone you CAN communicate w/ will. you’ve only been hanging out for a few months & are already having all these issues. it’s only going to get worse.

i am not a libra but i have a libra moon... like others said, if i start treating someone in the way you are describing, it’s bc i am not that into them but like the attention i am getting.

curious... does this person have leo placements? venus? &... are you a water sign?

No I did not go silent for a reaction it’s just my natural response to situations like this

So you’re saying don’t believe that he wants to be with me and start over?

unless he is taking immediate action to earn your trust, i would not believe the libra. as another user said action > words.

trust & communication is lacking here, 2 of the most important things for a healthy relationship.

his communication triggers you into feeling insecure. that will not change.

I didn’t go through his phone I asked him to see it and he gave it to me willingly if he didn’t want me to look he wouldn’t have given it to me

lol OK... but why did you ask for it? why did you look at his messages? did you ask for the phone to specifically look through messages? or was it something else & you looked through his messages out of curiosity?

regardless, you snooped & found info that triggered your trust issues. find someone more along your lines of love & commitment.

I don’t owe you explanations however I’ll explaim since you’re so triggered by this.

He came to my house and was going through my computer looking at my texts and grabbed my mouse and was trying to look at something on my computer...acting extremely suspicious

So I’m turn I said let me see your phone as an example what it’s like to have someone go through your stuff

He gave me the phone which wasn’t the answer I expected but he did and I found texts I didn’t expect to see

So now you know how and why I looked

lmao im not “triggered” by anything.

dont come to forums looking for people to give you what you want to hear.

you admitted yourself that you have trust issues so why continue being w/ someone you clearly cant trust?

you looked at his messages for a reason. you found unsavory information. why continue making excuses for him?

i am just trying to suggest that it will only get worse from here. based on my personal experience for many many years, dating several men. i am not trying to antagonize you but having trust issues & dating is not good. work on your issues alone instead of w/ someone else. only then can you start putting trust in others.

projection is never cute. & neither is getting defensive when someone has another perspective.

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You made assumptions about the situation i cleared it up simple

Thx god I chose to remain single lol no offense.

Posted by Librasetting777

Thx god I chose to remain single lol no offense.

tf does this have to do with youre personal life...people just be saying anything just to say it

no offense

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Posted by Librasetting777

Thx god I chose to remain single lol no offense.

tf does this have to do with youre personal life...people just be saying anything just to say it

no offense

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it means you're psycho