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i'm always worried about that.
Why is that?
just because i love him and i want to make him happy. i want to give him the best sex he has ever had.

i've had no complaints but i can't deny there is a thought in the back of my head that perhaps there is a trick i'm missing that would just blow his mind.
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Right right. So what makes you at ease to make that thought leave your mind for good?
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i'm always worried about that.
Why is that?
just because i love him and i want to make him happy. i want to give him the best sex he has ever had.

i've had no complaints but i can't deny there is a thought in the back of my head that perhaps there is a trick i'm missing that would just blow his mind.
Right right. So what makes you at ease to make that thought leave your mind for good?
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i don't think anything could really. there is nothing he could do or say would not make me want to strive to be better.
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i'm always worried about that.
Why is that?
just because i love him and i want to make him happy. i want to give him the best sex he has ever had.

i've had no complaints but i can't deny there is a thought in the back of my head that perhaps there is a trick i'm missing that would just blow his mind.
Right right. So what makes you at ease to make that thought leave your mind for good?
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i don't think anything could really. there is nothing he could do or say would not make me want to strive to be better.
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i'm always worried about that.
Why is that?
just because i love him and i want to make him happy. i want to give him the best sex he has ever had.

i've had no complaints but i can't deny there is a thought in the back of my head that perhaps there is a trick i'm missing that would just blow his mind.
Right right. So what makes you at ease to make that thought leave your mind for good?
i don't think anything could really. there is nothing he could do or say would not make me want to strive to be better.
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I hope he knows how lucky he is to have you.
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i'm always worried about that.
Why is that?
just because i love him and i want to make him happy. i want to give him the best sex he has ever had.

i've had no complaints but i can't deny there is a thought in the back of my head that perhaps there is a trick i'm missing that would just blow his mind.
Right right. So what makes you at ease to make that thought leave your mind for good?
i don't think anything could really. there is nothing he could do or say would not make me want to strive to be better.

I hope he knows how lucky he is to have you.
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thanks but i figure everyone is like that. i want to be the best partner, friend, support, cook, best looking, most funniest, smartest, sweetest smelling person he has ever been with. if there is a problem in the relationship, i want to hear it so i can fix it. if there is something he needs, i want to provide it. if he wants to do something, go somewhere, try something, let's do it. if it's within my power to make him happier, i'm all for it.

in my mind, that's just what it means to be with someone.
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i'm always worried about that.
Why is that?
just because i love him and i want to make him happy. i want to give him the best sex he has ever had.

i've had no complaints but i can't deny there is a thought in the back of my head that perhaps there is a trick i'm missing that would just blow his mind.
Right right. So what makes you at ease to make that thought leave your mind for good?
i don't think anything could really. there is nothing he could do or say would not make me want to strive to be better.

I hope he knows how lucky he is to have you.

thanks but i figure everyone is like that. i want to be the best partner, friend, support, cook, best looking, most funniest, smartest, sweetest smelling person he has ever been with. if there is a problem in the relationship, i want to hear it so i can fix it. if there is something he needs, i want to provide it. if he wants to do something, go somewhere, try something, let's do it. if it's within my power to make him happier, i'm all for it.

in my mind, that's just what it means to be with someone.
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No, everyone else is not like that. In fact, it is quite rare. People might go into relationships with this mindset, but over time they become complacent and return to their selfish ways after a certain level of comfort is established.

If more people had and maintained your mindset, there would be far more successful relationships and marriages out there than what we have now.
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i'm always worried about that.
Why is that?
just because i love him and i want to make him happy. i want to give him the best sex he has ever had.

i've had no complaints but i can't deny there is a thought in the back of my head that perhaps there is a trick i'm missing that would just blow his mind.
Right right. So what makes you at ease to make that thought leave your mind for good?
i don't think anything could really. there is nothing he could do or say would not make me want to strive to be better.

I hope he knows how lucky he is to have you.

thanks but i figure everyone is like that. i want to be the best partner, friend, support, cook, best looking, most funniest, smartest, sweetest smelling person he has ever been with. if there is a problem in the relationship, i want to hear it so i can fix it. if there is something he needs, i want to provide it. if he wants to do something, go somewhere, try something, let's do it. if it's within my power to make him happier, i'm all for it.

in my mind, that's just what it means to be with someone.
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Omg your amazing. At least you can talk it out.
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i'm always worried about that.
Why is that?
just because i love him and i want to make him happy. i want to give him the best sex he has ever had.

i've had no complaints but i can't deny there is a thought in the back of my head that perhaps there is a trick i'm missing that would just blow his mind.
Right right. So what makes you at ease to make that thought leave your mind for good?
i don't think anything could really. there is nothing he could do or say would not make me want to strive to be better.

I hope he knows how lucky he is to have you.

thanks but i figure everyone is like that. i want to be the best partner, friend, support, cook, best looking, most funniest, smartest, sweetest smelling person he has ever been with. if there is a problem in the relationship, i want to hear it so i can fix it. if there is something he needs, i want to provide it. if he wants to do something, go somewhere, try something, let's do it. if it's within my power to make him happier, i'm all for it.

in my mind, that's just what it means to be with someone.

No, everyone else is not like that. In fact, it is quite rare. People might go into relationships with this mindset, but over time they become complacent and return to their selfish ways after a certain level of comfort is established.

If more people had and maintained your mindset, there would be far more successful relationships and marriages out there than what we have now.
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You got that right.
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i'm always worried about that.
Why is that?
just because i love him and i want to make him happy. i want to give him the best sex he has ever had.

i've had no complaints but i can't deny there is a thought in the back of my head that perhaps there is a trick i'm missing that would just blow his mind.
Right right. So what makes you at ease to make that thought leave your mind for good?
i don't think anything could really. there is nothing he could do or say would not make me want to strive to be better.

I hope he knows how lucky he is to have you.

thanks but i figure everyone is like that. i want to be the best partner, friend, support, cook, best looking, most funniest, smartest, sweetest smelling person he has ever been with. if there is a problem in the relationship, i want to hear it so i can fix it. if there is something he needs, i want to provide it. if he wants to do something, go somewhere, try something, let's do it. if it's within my power to make him happier, i'm all for it.

in my mind, that's just what it means to be with someone.
Omg your amazing. At least you can talk it out.
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thanks. it took some time to get to a good place with each other but i genuinely can't remember the last time we had a fight. communication is key and i check in with him every now and again to gauge the pulse of things. the smoother things run, the easier it is just to be ourselves and appreciate one another. we flirt and joke and play and it feels that there is nothing we couldn't talk about. but i'm not going to lie, it took work (and lots of tears) to get here.
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i'm always worried about that.
Why is that?
just because i love him and i want to make him happy. i want to give him the best sex he has ever had.

i've had no complaints but i can't deny there is a thought in the back of my head that perhaps there is a trick i'm missing that would just blow his mind.
Right right. So what makes you at ease to make that thought leave your mind for good?
i don't think anything could really. there is nothing he could do or say would not make me want to strive to be better.

I hope he knows how lucky he is to have you.

thanks but i figure everyone is like that. i want to be the best partner, friend, support, cook, best looking, most funniest, smartest, sweetest smelling person he has ever been with. if there is a problem in the relationship, i want to hear it so i can fix it. if there is something he needs, i want to provide it. if he wants to do something, go somewhere, try something, let's do it. if it's within my power to make him happier, i'm all for it.

in my mind, that's just what it means to be with someone.
Omg your amazing. At least you can talk it out.
thanks. it took some time to get to a good place with each other but i genuinely can't remember the last time we had a fight. communication is key and i check in with him every now and again to gauge the pulse of things. the smoother things run, the easier it is just to be ourselves and appreciate one another. we flirt and joke and play and it feels that there is nothing we couldn't talk about. but i'm not going to lie, it took work (and lots of tears) to get here.
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You inspire me and my situation. I'm learning a great deal of patience. You 2 dont stay together? Is he a libra like you?
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i'm always worried about that.
Why is that?
just because i love him and i want to make him happy. i want to give him the best sex he has ever had.

i've had no complaints but i can't deny there is a thought in the back of my head that perhaps there is a trick i'm missing that would just blow his mind.
Right right. So what makes you at ease to make that thought leave your mind for good?
i don't think anything could really. there is nothing he could do or say would not make me want to strive to be better.

I hope he knows how lucky he is to have you.

thanks but i figure everyone is like that. i want to be the best partner, friend, support, cook, best looking, most funniest, smartest, sweetest smelling person he has ever been with. if there is a problem in the relationship, i want to hear it so i can fix it. if there is something he needs, i want to provide it. if he wants to do something, go somewhere, try something, let's do it. if it's within my power to make him happier, i'm all for it.

in my mind, that's just what it means to be with someone.
Omg your amazing. At least you can talk it out.
thanks. it took some time to get to a good place with each other but i genuinely can't remember the last time we had a fight. communication is key and i check in with him every now and again to gauge the pulse of things. the smoother things run, the easier it is just to be ourselves and appreciate one another. we flirt and joke and play and it feels that there is nothing we couldn't talk about. but i'm not going to lie, it took work (and lots of tears) to get here.



You inspire me and my situation. I'm learning a great deal of patience. You 2 dont stay together? Is he a libra like you?
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thanks. i'm glad to help if i can.

no he is a taurus. no, we don't live together. lots of boring reasons why not.
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i'm always worried about that.
Why is that?
just because i love him and i want to make him happy. i want to give him the best sex he has ever had.

i've had no complaints but i can't deny there is a thought in the back of my head that perhaps there is a trick i'm missing that would just blow his mind.
Right right. So what makes you at ease to make that thought leave your mind for good?
i don't think anything could really. there is nothing he could do or say would not make me want to strive to be better.

I hope he knows how lucky he is to have you.

thanks but i figure everyone is like that. i want to be the best partner, friend, support, cook, best looking, most funniest, smartest, sweetest smelling person he has ever been with. if there is a problem in the relationship, i want to hear it so i can fix it. if there is something he needs, i want to provide it. if he wants to do something, go somewhere, try something, let's do it. if it's within my power to make him happier, i'm all for it.

in my mind, that's just what it means to be with someone.
Omg your amazing. At least you can talk it out.
thanks. it took some time to get to a good place with each other but i genuinely can't remember the last time we had a fight. communication is key and i check in with him every now and again to gauge the pulse of things. the smoother things run, the easier it is just to be ourselves and appreciate one another. we flirt and joke and play and it feels that there is nothing we couldn't talk about. but i'm not going to lie, it took work (and lots of tears) to get here.



You inspire me and my situation. I'm learning a great deal of patience. You 2 dont stay together? Is he a libra like you?
thanks. i'm glad to help if i can.

no he is a taurus. no, we don't live together. lots of boring reasons why not.
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Yes you definitely are. How do you get him to open up completely and talk instead of keeping things inside? Do you do that?
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i'm always worried about that.
Why is that?
just because i love him and i want to make him happy. i want to give him the best sex he has ever had.

i've had no complaints but i can't deny there is a thought in the back of my head that perhaps there is a trick i'm missing that would just blow his mind.
Right right. So what makes you at ease to make that thought leave your mind for good?
i don't think anything could really. there is nothing he could do or say would not make me want to strive to be better.

I hope he knows how lucky he is to have you.

thanks but i figure everyone is like that. i want to be the best partner, friend, support, cook, best looking, most funniest, smartest, sweetest smelling person he has ever been with. if there is a problem in the relationship, i want to hear it so i can fix it. if there is something he needs, i want to provide it. if he wants to do something, go somewhere, try something, let's do it. if it's within my power to make him happier, i'm all for it.

in my mind, that's just what it means to be with someone.
Omg your amazing. At least you can talk it out.
thanks. it took some time to get to a good place with each other but i genuinely can't remember the last time we had a fight. communication is key and i check in with him every now and again to gauge the pulse of things. the smoother things run, the easier it is just to be ourselves and appreciate one another. we flirt and joke and play and it feels that there is nothing we couldn't talk about. but i'm not going to lie, it took work (and lots of tears) to get here.



You inspire me and my situation. I'm learning a great deal of patience. You 2 dont stay together? Is he a libra like you?
thanks. i'm glad to help if i can.

no he is a taurus. no, we don't live together. lots of boring reasons why not.
Yes you definitely are. How do you get him to open up completely and talk instead of keeping things inside? Do you do that?
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how did i get him to open up?

1. at first, we would fight and i would force it out of him.

2. other times i was just patient hoping he would eventually come round.

3. at some point, after waiting so long i stopped giving a fuck

4. strangely enough it was around that time that he started to open up. i think because i loosened my grip, he began to feel less pressured by my desire to know everything. i don't think that was the healthiest of dynamics so i don't recommend it.

5. the more he spoke, the more he realised that i wouldn't judge him or try to tell him what to do, or argue with him or get defensive or use what he said against him. i just listened. i asked him questions to learn more. i was genuinely curious to hear his thoughts.

6. i still do that but now he doesn't feel like he is on trial and i am the prosecutor. we just chat and he seeks me out for a rant or as a sounding board.
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i'm always worried about that.
Why is that?
just because i love him and i want to make him happy. i want to give him the best sex he has ever had.

i've had no complaints but i can't deny there is a thought in the back of my head that perhaps there is a trick i'm missing that would just blow his mind.
Right right. So what makes you at ease to make that thought leave your mind for good?
i don't think anything could really. there is nothing he could do or say would not make me want to strive to be better.

I hope he knows how lucky he is to have you.

thanks but i figure everyone is like that. i want to be the best partner, friend, support, cook, best looking, most funniest, smartest, sweetest smelling person he has ever been with. if there is a problem in the relationship, i want to hear it so i can fix it. if there is something he needs, i want to provide it. if he wants to do something, go somewhere, try something, let's do it. if it's within my power to make him happier, i'm all for it.

in my mind, that's just what it means to be with someone.
Omg your amazing. At least you can talk it out.
thanks. it took some time to get to a good place with each other but i genuinely can't remember the last time we had a fight. communication is key and i check in with him every now and again to gauge the pulse of things. the smoother things run, the easier it is just to be ourselves and appreciate one another. we flirt and joke and play and it feels that there is nothing we couldn't talk about. but i'm not going to lie, it took work (and lots of tears) to get here.



You inspire me and my situation. I'm learning a great deal of patience. You 2 dont stay together? Is he a libra like you?
thanks. i'm glad to help if i can.

no he is a taurus. no, we don't live together. lots of boring reasons why not.
Yes you definitely are. How do you get him to open up completely and talk instead of keeping things inside? Do you do that?

how did i get him to open up?

1. at first, we would fight and i would force it out of him.

2. other times i was just patient hoping he would eventually come round.

3. at some point, after waiting so long i stopped giving a fuck

4. strangely enough it was around that time that he started to open up. i think because i loosened my grip, he began to feel less pressured by my desire to know everything. i don't think that was the healthiest of dynamics so i don't recommend it.

5. the more he spoke, the more he realised that i wouldn't judge him or try to tell him what to do, or argue with him or get defensive or use what he said against him. i just listened. i asked him questions to learn more. i was genuinely curious to hear his thoughts.

6. i still do that but now he doesn't feel like he is on trial and i am the prosecutor. we just chat and he seeks me out for a rant or as a sounding board.

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See and that's what I do. We have to argue to get it out. Lately that's what I been doing not paying him any mind. So hopefully it's working. It's like I be wanting answer right away but I see I cant do that with him.
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i'm always worried about that.
Why is that?
just because i love him and i want to make him happy. i want to give him the best sex he has ever had.

i've had no complaints but i can't deny there is a thought in the back of my head that perhaps there is a trick i'm missing that would just blow his mind.
Right right. So what makes you at ease to make that thought leave your mind for good?
i don't think anything could really. there is nothing he could do or say would not make me want to strive to be better.

I hope he knows how lucky he is to have you.

thanks but i figure everyone is like that. i want to be the best partner, friend, support, cook, best looking, most funniest, smartest, sweetest smelling person he has ever been with. if there is a problem in the relationship, i want to hear it so i can fix it. if there is something he needs, i want to provide it. if he wants to do something, go somewhere, try something, let's do it. if it's within my power to make him happier, i'm all for it.

in my mind, that's just what it means to be with someone.
Omg your amazing. At least you can talk it out.
thanks. it took some time to get to a good place with each other but i genuinely can't remember the last time we had a fight. communication is key and i check in with him every now and again to gauge the pulse of things. the smoother things run, the easier it is just to be ourselves and appreciate one another. we flirt and joke and play and it feels that there is nothing we couldn't talk about. but i'm not going to lie, it took work (and lots of tears) to get here.



You inspire me and my situation. I'm learning a great deal of patience. You 2 dont stay together? Is he a libra like you?
thanks. i'm glad to help if i can.

no he is a taurus. no, we don't live together. lots of boring reasons why not.
Yes you definitely are. How do you get him to open up completely and talk instead of keeping things inside? Do you do that?

how did i get him to open up?

1. at first, we would fight and i would force it out of him.

2. other times i was just patient hoping he would eventually come round.

3. at some point, after waiting so long i stopped giving a fuck

4. strangely enough it was around that time that he started to open up. i think because i loosened my grip, he began to feel less pressured by my desire to know everything. i don't think that was the healthiest of dynamics so i don't recommend it.

5. the more he spoke, the more he realised that i wouldn't judge him or try to tell him what to do, or argue with him or get defensive or use what he said against him. i just listened. i asked him questions to learn more. i was genuinely curious to hear his thoughts.

6. i still do that but now he doesn't feel like he is on trial and i am the prosecutor. we just chat and he seeks me out for a rant or as a sounding board.


See and that's what I do. We have to argue to get it out. Lately that's what I been doing not paying him any mind. So hopefully it's working. It's like I be wanting answer right away but I see I cant do that with him.
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yes, give him some time. he is also grieving at the moment. men can really isolate themselves in grief. add to that that it was his father (a huge influence in his life) and now he has the pressure of looking after his mother and brothers and the household. it's a lot to be dealing with all at once. the last thing that is going to work is for you to be needling him with "so tell me how you feel?".

if it were me i would do a lot of reading to understand about what he is going through, what he is likely thinking and how best to deal with the situation. maybe he just needs your friendship at this point and your support to help him with everything he is going through. perhaps what he would really appreciate is if you check in on his mother, support her the best you can. maybe he needs your stoicism to give him strength and belief at this point in his life.

the chat can come later.
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i'm always worried about that.



Why is that?



just because i love him and i want to make him happy. i want to give him the best sex he has ever had.
i've had no complaints but i can't deny there is a thought in the back of my head that perhaps there is a trick i'm missing that would just blow his mind.



Right right. So what makes you at ease to make that thought leave your mind for good?



i don't think anything could really. there is nothing he could do or say would not make me want to strive to be better.


I hope he knows how lucky he is to have you.


thanks but i figure everyone is like that. i want to be the best partner, friend, support, cook, best looking, most funniest, smartest, sweetest smelling person he has ever been with. if there is a problem in the relationship, i want to hear it so i can fix it. if there is something he needs, i want to provide it. if he wants to do something, go somewhere, try something, let's do it. if it's within my power to make him happier, i'm all for it.

in my mind, that's just what it means to be with someone.



Omg your amazing. At least you can talk it out.



thanks. it took some time to get to a good place with each other but i genuinely can't remember the last time we had a fight. communication is key and i check in with him every now and again to gauge the pulse of things. the smoother things run, the easier it is just to be ourselves and appreciate one another. we flirt and joke and play and it feels that there is nothing we couldn't talk about. but i'm not going to lie, it took work (and lots of tears) to get here.



You inspire me and my situation. I'm learning a great deal of patience. You 2 dont stay together? Is he a libra like you?



thanks. i'm glad to help if i can.

no he is a taurus. no, we don't live together. lots of boring reasons why not.



Yes you definitely are. How do you get him to open up completely and talk instead of keeping things inside? Do you do that?


how did i get him to open up?

1. at first, we would fight and i would force it out of him.
2. other times i was just patient hoping he would eventually come round.
3. at some point, after waiting so long i stopped giving a treetrunk
4. strangely enough it was around that time that he started to open up. i think because i loosened my grip, he began to feel less pressured by my desire to know everything. i don't think that was the healthiest of dynamics so i don't recommend it.
5. the more he spoke, the more he realised that i wouldn't judge him or try to tell him what to do, or argue with him or get defensive or use what he said against him. i just listened. i asked him questions to learn more. i was genuinely curious to hear his thoughts.
6. i still do that but now he doesn't feel like he is on trial and i am the prosecutor. we just chat and he seeks me out for a rant or as a sounding board.




See and that's what I do. We have to argue to get it out. Lately that's what I been doing not paying him any mind. So hopefully it's working. It's like I be wanting answer right away but I see I cant do that with him.



yes, give him some time. he is also grieving at the moment. men can really isolate themselves in grief. add to that that it was his father (a huge influence in his life) and now he has the pressure of looking after his mother and brothers and the household. it's a lot to be dealing with all at once. the last thing that is going to work is for you to be needling him with "so tell me how you feel?".

if it were me i would do a lot of reading to understand about what he is going through, what he is likely thinking and how best to deal with the situation. maybe he just needs your friendship at this point and your support to help him with everything he is going through. perhaps what he would really appreciate is if you check in on his mother, support her the best you can. maybe he needs your stoicism to give him strength and belief at this point in his life.

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Yeah your right. I talk to his mom all the time. At first she was upset I guess cause she didn't know what was going on. But now it's like nothing has ever happened. She even called me the other day. I figure he must be talking about me. It's a work in progress but I'm ready and willing to go there.
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🤔 yeah. My libra always asks me if his pleasing me, because his last 2 relationships in the past would call him "small", afterwards, from breaking up.

Since he gets so insecure about it, I give him special treatments during intimacy. Letting him know that he does give me pleasure, since I want to do the same for him as well. ☺
Yeah see he has asked me that from time to time and I be like shit this the best sex ever honestly but now I can understand his mindset with the more feedback I've been getting.
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Do libras think their not pleasing their partner sexually from time to time?







oh yes and that is why I try so hard and end up being way too rough in bed. This sometimes scares the girl away. click to expand





Do you think it's something you do in a different way? click to expand



I do everything as it is done but with more passion and intensity i guess. Normal sex bores me. I can only feeel it if its rough. click to expand
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I can dig it. Maybe its them then.
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Do libras think their not pleasing their partner sexually from time to time?











oh yes and that is why I try so hard and end up being way too rough in bed. This sometimes scares the girl away. click to expand









Do you think it's something you do in a different way? click to expand







I do everything as it is done but with more passion and intensity i guess. Normal sex bores me. I can only feeel it if its rough. click to expand





I can dig it. Maybe its them then. click to expand


LOL maybe.. click to expand
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When is your birthday?
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Posted by Awesomeyo
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Posted by Awesomeyo
Posted by Brickhouse27
Do libras think their not pleasing their partner sexually from time to time?















oh yes and that is why I try so hard and end up being way too rough in bed. This sometimes scares the girl away. click to expand













Do you think it's something you do in a different way? click to expand











I do everything as it is done but with more passion and intensity i guess. Normal sex bores me. I can only feeel it if its rough. click to expand









I can dig it. Maybe its them then. click to expand




LOL maybe.. click to expand





When is your birthday? click to expand


2nd OCT click to expand
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OMFG that's my libra guys birthday!
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Posted by Awesomeyo
Posted by Brickhouse27
Posted by Awesomeyo
Posted by Brickhouse27
Posted by Awesomeyo
Posted by Brickhouse27
Posted by Awesomeyo
Posted by Brickhouse27
Do libras think their not pleasing their partner sexually from time to time?



















oh yes and that is why I try so hard and end up being way too rough in bed. This sometimes scares the girl away. click to expand

















Do you think it's something you do in a different way? click to expand















I do everything as it is done but with more passion and intensity i guess. Normal sex bores me. I can only feeel it if its rough. click to expand













I can dig it. Maybe its them then. click to expand






LOL maybe.. click to expand









When is your birthday? click to expand




2nd OCT click to expand





OMFG that's my libra guys birthday! click to expand



SO is his mars in Libra? If it is then roughness in bed is a given. click to expand
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How would I know?
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Posted by Awesomeyo
Posted by Brickhouse27
Posted by Awesomeyo
Posted by Brickhouse27
Posted by Awesomeyo
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Do libras think their not pleasing their partner sexually from time to time?























oh yes and that is why I try so hard and end up being way too rough in bed. This sometimes scares the girl away. click to expand





















Do you think it's something you do in a different way? click to expand



















I do everything as it is done but with more passion and intensity i guess. Normal sex bores me. I can only feeel it if its rough. click to expand

















I can dig it. Maybe its them then. click to expand








LOL maybe.. click to expand













When is your birthday? click to expand






2nd OCT click to expand









OMFG that's my libra guys birthday! click to expand







SO is his mars in Libra? If it is then roughness in bed is a given. click to expand



How would I know? click to expand


oh i thought you knew his chart.. click to expand
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I'm trying to learn, I know the pieces I need.
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I always want to be the perfect lover. In bed, my looks, my attitude, my support. I genuinely want to give my all when committed.



So, yes for me.



I love it, there is nothing wrong with that. When your mad at your partner do you stay mad for a long period of time? click to expand
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I can't stay mad for more than 5 minutes at anyone. Honestly.
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I always want to be the perfect lover. In bed, my looks, my attitude, my support. I genuinely want to give my all when committed.





So, yes for me.





I love it, there is nothing wrong with that. When your mad at your partner do you stay mad for a long period of time? click to expand




I can't stay mad for more than 5 minutes at anyone. Honestly. click to expand
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That's a positive. I guess mines is still upset...