@angie2080
9 Years
Please give me an advice. My Libra boyfriend said he doesn't love me.
Understanding Libra Relationship Behavior
Libra partners can be indecisive and sensitive, often acting out of frustration and then apologizing. His inconsistent behavior may stem from emotional confusion or difficulty handling anger. Clear communication and observing his actions over time can help determine his true feelings. Consider discussing boundaries and seeking couples counseling if needed to improve understanding.
Totally agree with the emotionally immature part. That sounds so frustrating and weird, like manipulation to keep you. I hate when people play games.
8 months is early days.
You can't REALLY love each other cause you don't really KNOW each other. Yet.
But this wishy washy back and forth game playing on his part is such a turn off. Yuck.
Dump him. Do you want wrinkles early? You don't need that kind of negativity in your life.
Dudes love having a confused, accused, and distraught woman right at their disposal. Soon with all the gaslighting, you won’t question any more red flags that come. You’ll suck his dick a little longer, cook food a little tastier, clean a little more often, and dress a little nicer for him.
At the cost of nothing to him. He already manipulated you into his pocket, he knows of your desperate and confused feelings, peppered with your love for him. He knows that you’ll do anything to keep the peace (and him).
He’s in control here, not you.
Don’t be a dumb woman.
All relationships require us to be a little crafty and a little wise. Men are not that simple as everybody makes them out to be. Lol
A couple lines into your post....
The answer was quite clear.
He cheated on you and is feeling guilty.
Trying to push you away with bad behavior is projection.
Leave him because unless he comes out with the truth, this will continue.
Hes a coward struggling with guilt.
You want that kind of man for your kids?
Cause that's coming next..hes going to try n get you pregnant.
Dont tell me how I know...I just know
Edit...hes still cheating on you. This is current.
Hi
I'm really desperate for some advice.
I have a Libra boyfriend and we've been together for 8 months.
He was the most romantic guy in the first months but suddenly started being rude to me little by little. I don't know what's the reason of this change and that's what I want to find out.
There have been times that he tells me he doesn't want to continue but minutes later he apologizes and says I'm the woman of his life. This really confuses me because he has done it a few times.
Yesterday he was rude to me again so I wanted to talk about it and he got mad when I told him his behavior bothered me. He told me that he acted like that because he doesn't love me anymore. I was schocked because a few days before he wrote a very romantic letter and he had told me he loved me in the morning! So it didn't make sense. He said a lot of hurtful things. Of course, I was mad and hurt.
This morning he apologized one more time and started kissing me and told me that what he said was not true and that he does love me!! Oh my God. He's really driving me insane. Why does he keep doing this? He told me that when he gets mad he says things out of anger but I have told him not to do that because he keeps confusing me. Yet, he won't understand.
How can I know for SURE if he loves me—? And why is he rude and apologizes after—?
What's his birthday out of curiosity?
Dudes love having a confused, accused, and distraught woman right at their disposal. Soon with all the gaslighting, you won’t question any more red flags that come. You’ll suck his dick a little longer, cook food a little tastier, clean a little more often, and dress a little nicer for him.
At the cost of nothing to him. He already manipulated you into his pocket, he knows of your desperate and confused feelings, peppered with your love for him. He knows that you’ll do anything to keep the peace (and him).
He’s in control here, not you.
Don’t be a dumb woman.
All relationships require us to be a little crafty and a little wise. Men are not that simple as everybody makes them out to be. Lol
All facts.
Majority of men have to feel "needed" to be secure in a relationship.
A woman who "wants" them creates tremendous insecurity.
And they call women, the needy ones.
I feel like he's playing games too! And it's not fair because he's playing with my emotions.
What I don't understand is that when I finally say: "ok, let's not continue if you don't want to" instead of leaving he tells me he loves me again.
Does this have anything to do with his sign? Because Libras are indecisive and he could be indecisive about his feelings maybe. His birthday is September 28
I feel like he's playing games too! And it's not fair because he's playing with my emotions.
What I don't understand is that when I finally say: "ok, let's not continue if you don't want to" instead of leaving he tells me he loves me again.
Does this have anything to do with his sign? Because Libras are indecisive and he could be indecisive about his feelings maybe. His birthday is September 28
Ditch the sun sign aside and listen to what experienced people on here are telling you (every post so far). Call him out and see what happens. If he bucks - better for you, you’ll dodge a bullet.
It sounds like he doesn’t want to be in the relationship, but is “trying” and it’s not really working out because his true feelings are coming forward.
Bingo!
Dudes love having a confused, accused, and distraught woman right at their disposal. Soon with all the gaslighting, you won’t question any more red flags that come. You’ll suck his dick a little longer, cook food a little tastier, clean a little more often, and dress a little nicer for him.
At the cost of nothing to him. He already manipulated you into his pocket, he knows of your desperate and confused feelings, peppered with your love for him. He knows that you’ll do anything to keep the peace (and him).
He’s in control here, not you.
Don’t be a dumb woman.
All relationships require us to be a little crafty and a little wise. Men are not that simple as everybody makes them out to be. Lol
Truth! In a nutshell 🤷
A couple lines into your post....
The answer was quite clear.
He cheated on you and is feeling guilty.
Trying to push you away with bad behavior is projection.
Leave him because unless he comes out with the truth, this will continue.
Hes a coward struggling with guilt.
You want that kind of man for your kids?
Cause that's coming next..hes going to try n get you pregnant.
Dont tell me how I know...I just know
Edit...hes still cheating on you. This is current.
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Hi
I'm really desperate for some advice.
I have a Libra boyfriend and we've been together for 8 months.
He was the most romantic guy in the first months but suddenly started being rude to me little by little. I don't know what's the reason of this change and that's what I want to find out.
There have been times that he tells me he doesn't want to continue but minutes later he apologizes and says I'm the woman of his life. This really confuses me because he has done it a few times.
Yesterday he was rude to me again so I wanted to talk about it and he got mad when I told him his behavior bothered me. He told me that he acted like that because he doesn't love me anymore. I was schocked because a few days before he wrote a very romantic letter and he had told me he loved me in the morning! So it didn't make sense. He said a lot of hurtful things. Of course, I was mad and hurt.
This morning he apologized one more time and started kissing me and told me that what he said was not true and that he does love me!! Oh my God. He's really driving me insane. Why does he keep doing this? He told me that when he gets mad he says things out of anger but I have told him not to do that because he keeps confusing me. Yet, he won't understand.
How can I know for SURE if he loves me—? And why is he rude and apologizes after—?
No matter the sign this is gaslighting. You need to kick his butt to the curb....surely this is making you feel insignificant. How can you stand it?
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I feel like he's playing games too! And it's not fair because he's playing with my emotions.
What I don't understand is that when I finally say: "ok, let's not continue if you don't want to" instead of leaving he tells me he loves me again.
Does this have anything to do with his sign? Because Libras are indecisive and he could be indecisive about his feelings maybe. His birthday is September 28
“Let’s not continue if you don’t want too..”
WHY is it up to him?
Hell no.
If there is one thing I finally learned after 18 years in an abusive marriage is that no one holds any control over the outcome of my life except me.
So- do ****I**** want to be with an abusive jackass? NO.
will ****I**** be with an abusive jackass??
HELL NO.
it’s up to you, NOT him.
I feel like he's playing games too! And it's not fair because he's playing with my emotions.
What I don't understand is that when I finally say: "ok, let's not continue if you don't want to" instead of leaving he tells me he loves me again.
Does this have anything to do with his sign? Because Libras are indecisive and he could be indecisive about his feelings maybe. His birthday is September 28
“Let’s not continue if you don’t want too..”
WHY is it up to him?
Hell no.
If there is one thing I finally learned after 18 years in an abusive marriage is that no one holds any control over the outcome of my life except me.
So- do ****I**** want to be with an abusive jackass? NO.
will ****I**** be with an abusive jackass??
HELL NO.
it’s up to you, NOT him.
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Apparently I’m this case it’s up to him...woman clearly suffering from a afraidness if losing a dick syndrome.
You all are right that I should leave him. I know my answer will sound stupid but I'm scared of being alone again. I've had bad luck in relationships and I'm not ready to face another failure 😔
And I hate jumping from one boyfriend to another one. I just want to stick with one person and do whatever is possible to work things out. Seriously, I hate giving away my heart to more than one guy. I hate dating and I want to settle down. I'm a Cancer btw.
Set his house on fire and than murder his family and ask who else does he have to love left but you
Set his house on fire and than murder his family and ask who else does he have to love left but you
So harsh
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Joke T comeeeeee onnnn 🤗
Set his house on fire and than murder his family and ask who else does he have to love left but you
Lol
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MB got it
You all are right that I should leave him. I know my answer will sound stupid but I'm scared of being alone again. I've had bad luck in relationships and I'm not ready to face another failure 😔
And I hate jumping from one boyfriend to another one. I just want to stick with one person and do whatever is possible to work things out. Seriously, I hate giving away my heart to more than one guy. I hate dating and I want to settle down. I'm a Cancer btw.
Darling you will stick with emotional abuse just so you aren’t alone with yourself? Dating is trying people out to see if they fit YOU. it’s your world girl. You have to look at it differently. It’s not a failure at all, he Just isn’t up to par. Get some standards and keep them. Whoever doesn’t measure up, dead them.
I’ve had so much bad luck in love, it’s because I didn’t heed red flags and didn’t keep my standards. Once you know your self worth so will others.
I understand, I am a Cancer myself. I went through the gauntlet of controlling, manipulative, wrong for me men. You know what I look back on and regret? Staying in bad relationships with men who confused me and made me angry/sad.
These bad relationships will impact your self esteem and self worth and the worst part is you know deep down it’s not going anywhere and yet you want to be stubborn and stick it out. The only thing you should gain from these horrible men is what to look out for as red flags and weed out until you meet the right guy. The guy for you will not bring confusion and hurt you without regards to your feelings. The right guy will come along when you least expect it and are emotionally and mentally ready. You dear, are not there yet because as you want a good man, so does a good man want a good woman and you are allowing some guy to disrespect and lie to you just because you don’t want to be alone... That’s not maturity, that’s self-torture you are allowing and causing more damage then you realize. But hey, By all means just keep doing what you’re doing until you fall into depression/mental breakdown/despair.
I hope you don’t let this abuse go on though, and heed the advice of everyone. Do you have a pet? That will help with the love you are craving.
When he told you he no longer loved you you should have gotten up, got your things and said "nice knowing you", left and never looked back. Then you should have blocked him and deleted all of his info. Anything less than that and you don't deserve his respect.
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Hi
I'm really desperate for some advice.
I have a Libra boyfriend and we've been together for 8 months.
He was the most romantic guy in the first months but suddenly started being rude to me little by little. I don't know what's the reason of this change and that's what I want to find out.
There have been times that he tells me he doesn't want to continue but minutes later he apologizes and says I'm the woman of his life. This really confuses me because he has done it a few times.
Yesterday he was rude to me again so I wanted to talk about it and he got mad when I told him his behavior bothered me. He told me that he acted like that because he doesn't love me anymore. I was schocked because a few days before he wrote a very romantic letter and he had told me he loved me in the morning! So it didn't make sense. He said a lot of hurtful things. Of course, I was mad and hurt.
This morning he apologized one more time and started kissing me and told me that what he said was not true and that he does love me!! Oh my God. He's really driving me insane. Why does he keep doing this? He told me that when he gets mad he says things out of anger but I have told him not to do that because he keeps confusing me. Yet, he won't understand.
How can I know for SURE if he loves me—? And why is he rude and apologizes after—?