Where is the Balance? (Page 2)

Posted by rockyroadicecream

Posted by aquarius09

Exactly! It's all priorities!! They have plenty of disposable income for their things, but when it comes to romance or object of their affection, they become cheap. My ex had all the money to spend on a $ 2k DSLR camera while I was being the understanding gf due to all the sob stories he told me.

Sounds like a typical immature guy thing. They tend to want to spend their money on frivolous shit, but can't prioritize when they should.

My Pisces friend was asking me when I was free to do birthday celebration stuff. He said he'd wanted to know because he wanted to do some sort of little shindig thing. Okay, cool. So I set up some plans with that group of friends. It was bowling and dinner later.

We all go, and he doesn't even play, nevermind I ended up paying for myself (nobody offered). ..okie doke. Later on, we went out to eat and I thought maybe he'd pick up the tab. Nope. I paid for myself.

Wow, okay. I dunno about anyone else, but I pick up tabs for the birthday friend. So it just left me a bit perplexed. It was the most unbirthday birthday I'd had in awhile.

Turns out he didn't have any money to go bowling with and barely had enough for dinner. ...which is understandable since he doesn't have a job, but he'd spent a bunch of money on his hobby stuff a few days prior. It just baffled me since he was all talk about wanting to do something nice for my birthday and he fell flat. Why? Because he spent it all on himself.

My Sag brother did that the first Christmas he was with his girlfriend. Dropped all sorts of cash on her, but suddenly didn't have enough to do any Christmas shopping for my mom or I (after asking what we wanted the month prior). Nevermind this was the same year that she'd been diagnosed with cancer and it had been a rough year for she and I, and it's "oh I don't have enough money to get you guys anything. I spent it all on my girlfriend." OH OKAY. WHY DID YOU ASK??

Priorities... Some guys just do not have them at all. :/

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In your Pisces friend story, what I fail to understand is why did he act as if HE's doing something special for your bday when he didn't even take the tab for anything (bowling or dinner)?!! If you wanted to treat yourself for your bday, you'd do it yourself and wouldn't n

wouldn't need his
Offer/invitation. If a friend told me they want to do something special for my bday, I'm gonna automatically assume that they are gonna be taking the tab since they are so gung-ho about celebrating my bday and making themselves look like a caring friend for doing such a thing for me. I'll be pissed if they didn't take the tab then. Now, if I know ahead of time that their unemployed, I'd mention that when they tell me that they wanna do something for my bday. I'd say something like "are you sure? I don't want to trouble you while you're unemployed. We can do it once you have cash coming in". If they alleviate my qualm and assure me that it's no trouble, only then would I proceed further.

I'd be more pissed and punk them off if they didn't take the tab when I know they had all the money in the world to splurge on themselves. I'll just snub them with "don't make claims you can't fulfill, especially when your priority is solely yourself!!"

Posted by chemengin
the unknown rich people. when i was younger my dad (Scorpio) and I would go downtown to the festival. I saw a homeless man. I was about to give him a $ 1 my dad stopped me and told me to give it to the other homeless man. My dad told me when you are down here never give that man money. I thought my dad was being mean. So when I got older that man was still on the streets. I was meeting my mom at work so we can go school shopping I think I was 14. I walked in the bank were my mom was filling out a withdrawl slip. The homeless man was filling out a deposit slip. I looked he was depositing a check from a brokerage company for $ 10,000.

Wow! What a douche! This story reminds me of this lady I worked with at the bank who was in public housing unit mooching off the government while she inherited 3 $ 100k insurance policies over the yrs.

I actually felt bad for her when she told me her sob stories during lunch time. One day, another co-worker who had been working there for a while, was training me and she goes, "don't listen and entertain her sob stories. She's a fraud!" She showed me this lady's bank account, which was with the same bank we all worked at, and this lady had more than 400k in her account.

Posted by aquarius09
wouldn't need his
Offer/invitation. If a friend told me they want to do something special for my bday, I'm gonna automatically assume that they are gonna be taking the tab since they are so gung-ho about celebrating my bday and making themselves look like a caring friend for doing such a thing for me. I'll be pissed if they didn't take the tab then. Now, if I know ahead of time that their unemployed, I'd mention that when they tell me that they wanna do something for my bday. I'd say something like "are you sure? I don't want to trouble you while you're unemployed. We can do it once you have cash coming in". If they alleviate my qualm and assure me that it's no trouble, only then would I proceed further.

I'd be more pissed and punk them off if they didn't take the tab when I know they had all the money in the world to splurge on themselves. I'll just snub them with "don't make claims you can't fulfill, especially when your priority is solely yourself!!"

Selfishness. I have a libra 'friend'. For her birthday I took her to her favorite place, the olive Garden. Then a few months later we were out shopping, My birthday had passed because my husband took me out of town. She was like lets get something to eat. We go to Taco Bell (yuck) but she said she was strapped for cash (i'm thinking, then why did you want to go shopping). Why did she tell me that was my birthday lunch! I was like what! I bust out laughing and told her she was full of shit. she will never get anything for her birthday from me again.

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Posted by chemengin
ugh! 😢
you know what when my mother in law put her mom (cap) in a assisted living home. It was in January of this year. They were having a birthday for all the people born in January, it was atleast 30 people in there that were caps and 3 aquas. LOL They penny pitch all the way to retirement.

LMAO. Wow. Those caps are something else. Funny thing about penny pinchers is that they're SO greedy. They're the type that'll empty all the leftovers into their pockets...making themselves feel intelligent for "saving" a buck that way. Not knowing that everyone is disgusted & laughing at them at the same time. Not one single person gets burried with money inside a coffin...so they are leaving it for the living really. Starve away, we'll be making it rain with YOUR money when you die, dumbass. LMAO

+100000 they are greedy and they save their money as if looking at how much they've saved in their bank account gives them a sense of relief.

When I worked at a bank, I came across a *drum eoll* Virgo woman with my sister's bday. I was blown away at how much money this lady had!!! The bank was insured $ 100k per client in case of bankruptcy. This lady had $ 500k in her account and in our 2 hr convo on the phone, she wanted to bring in another $ 500k. She and I had a professional yet it was personal at the same time. During this time she mentioned that she had no children because she diet want them. I asked so what would happen with the money if you died. She said her twin sister had 2 kids who would inherit. In my head I'm thinking "lucky sobs for inheriting that much overnight. Who wouldn't want an aunt like that!" She was so happy with her heart to heart that she was gonna come in with the other 500k the next day and wanted to personally meet me. Now I'm picturing a lady in nice, fancy, expensive clothes or jewelry. When I met her the next day, I was in awe!! She was dressed like a hobo and never in a million yrs would anyone think that this lady had 100k invested in a bank. I told my mom this story and she was like "this lady became rich by depriving herself, not by spending money on her attire".

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Wow. Well, at least she's thinking

about her family, so not bad.

Girl, just yesterday I was watching an episode on ID about this rich, candy heiress that went missing & was never found. After a few years she was declared dead by the courts, only to find out that in her will she left MILLIONS of dollars to her cat. Like, what the heck? A CAT? It better sing, dance & have a reality show to get a mention in MY will.

Rich people are so weird.

Helen Voorhees Brach

Posted by aquarius09
wouldn't need his
Offer/invitation. If a friend told me they want to do something special for my bday, I'm gonna automatically assume that they are gonna be taking the tab since they are so gung-ho about celebrating my bday and making themselves look like a caring friend for doing such a thing for me. I'll be pissed if they didn't take the tab then. Now, if I know ahead of time that their unemployed, I'd mention that when they tell me that they wanna do something for my bday. I'd say something like "are you sure? I don't want to trouble you while you're unemployed. We can do it once you have cash coming in". If they alleviate my qualm and assure me that it's no trouble, only then would I proceed further.

I'd be more pissed and punk them off if they didn't take the tab when I know they had all the money in the world to splurge on themselves. I'll just snub them with "don't make claims you can't fulfill, especially when your priority is solely yourself!!"

I'd already said something to that extent. He has ways of getting money, despite unemployment. The fact that he had money to drop on his hobby days prior to my birthday, only to fall short the day of, is what left me a bit wtf. He did make up for it a few weeks later when we went out to eat somewhere.

But I agree- he shouldn't make such statements if he has no intent on following up. If money is tight, fine. I don't expect it. But don't say such things and then fall short because, whoops, you spent all your money on yourself!

Oh, and might I add, it was a group of friends we went with. None of them picked up on anything, either. I think they assumed he was going to since they assume we're dating.

That birthday with them was almost disappointing. Thankfully, I had another birthday thing the next day with another group of friends and THAT was more birthday-esque. It would have been pretty disappointing otherwise, haha.

I just know I won't reserve any specific birthday plans with that group again.

Group 1- we go bowling/dinner. I had fun, but was wtf with paying for my own stuff. After bowling, we hung out at someone's house because they were having a bbq. Was kinda boring and uneventful. Not how I would have preferred to spend my birthday but eh. Then we went to that dinner later on, and again, I was paying for myself.

Group 2- We meet up at a restaurant. Several people show up with gifts and one snuck in paying for my tab. Work friends met outside of work friends and everyone got along. Some were relatively new friends so I was surprised they got me the things that they did. It was really nice and we all had fun.

Some people are just don't have common sense, I guess. I didn't say anything or make a big deal about it, but it just proved to me who I can't rely on.

Posted by chemengin


He wont be pissed. We are suppose to go out to lunch today, I suggested this place that doesnt take credit cards. He has no money in his wallet. I checked. So my plan is going good so far. When he finally gets dressed we can go.

Success! Hehehe. 😄 I bought lunch! It was 22.35+ tip. 🙂 We get there the food was awesome. He loved it. I ate at the restaurant a couple of times before because, its down the street from my job. So the the waitress comes with the check. Libra pulls out his wallet to get his debit card. Waitress tells him, Sorry we only accept cash. LOL He looked like he got shot playing Halo. I pull out my wallet and I pay for the lunch. He just looking at me smiling all he could say is, "You got me". Ha! So we talked about it some more, he said he really didnt know that it meant that much to me. He thought I was trying to be polite and make sure he knew I wasnt trying to take advantage of him by offering to pay. So thanks everybody! But I can only pay once a month, his manliness can only take that. I'll take it. its better than nothing. 🙂

Posted by tiziani
The rest of you get no ice cream. Nope.

LOL

Haha. yay!

That's exactly how I managed to cover things with the ex- cash only places haha. The perks of being a server...

*joins the hating earth sign men squad..*

Posted by WaterCup
about her family, so not bad.

Girl, just yesterday I was watching an episode on ID about this rich, candy heiress that went missing & was never found. After a few years she was declared dead by the courts, only to find out that in her will she left MILLIONS of dollars to her cat. Like, what the heck? A CAT? It better sing, dance & have a reality show to get a mention in MY will.

Rich people are so weird.

I love that channel. I like wicked attraction, who the _ did I marry and something else I cant remember. Oh and Criminal Minds.

Lmao at virgo influence. I've seen this in people with virgo rising, virgo venus and mars too. Lol

@Chemengin I'm glad you managed to find a way. 🙂

Leebs do love personalized gifts or handcrafts. It's not about how much you spend but the amount of love and creativity you put in it.

The best gift my husband gave me this year aside from his love is a poem he wrote for valentine's day.

I'll read the responses in a bit, gotta get into work. I'm the same way though, i always pay. I see your side of it but to be blunt, I don't care. I'm the provider. You're married, it's his job to take care of you. He takes pride in it. Let him have that.

Yes we like to feel loved but you paying doesn't do that for me. It makes me feel like I came short. I'm supposed to take care of that.

Lots of good points. I do spend very freely when it's something I like. Chemengin is married though, I'd spend just as freely on things my wife likes. Of course the bills get paid first and all that. Yes, if I invite a friend out for their birthday,I'm paying for that too. That's actually one of the few times I'd be okay with someone else paying, my birthday. Otherwise, no...not so much.

Thanks LibraSid 🙂
I understand. We have talked more. Our lunch open his eyes to somethings about us. And he told me that he is the husband and he will always be the provider. He told me that is his responsibility to support our family. He knows that I have his back 100% and he doesnt think I am ungrateful or trying to take advantage of him. I am his wife, his partner, and best friend. So I'm good. thank you all. 😄

I understand why. You're his wife. He feels responsible for your well-being. He's quite protective.