YOU HAVE GOT TO BE KIDDING ME (Page 2)

Didn't seem subtle enough as in....?

I know what he wanted. That comment he said about what he'd get if he fixed my computer...that was innuendo. so maybe that's what you mean by he wasn't subtle enough. I'm sure he's just horny and needing someone to help out in that area. I could babble on and on about this, but I should get my ass to bed.

I think you're right, HP! 'Night!

i'm right about going to bed. ok...nite

Yeah HP, you knnow what he wanted. He wasn't asking for a date. Like you said there is nothing wrong with it if you want to do it. If you don't don't. It is what it is. I need to go to bed as well- I only have 5 hours left.

I wasn't hoping for a date either 😛

Just wish ...well never mind. It's bedtime.

If that was me, showing little interest, trying to a certain respones from you and being fairly persistant with it.. I'd say he's interested.
I think he's just trying to know all the quirks about you and by asking that, it shows hes interested in knowing more about you. Its what i do sometimes.

HP, I know you weren't looking for a date, but it is nice to do more than shagg sometime right—

Regarding subtlety:

Over Christmas I had a Oct 9 Libra male that I had not spoken to for months, suggest to get together and get it on. Per text yet using HIGHLY direct and unsubtle language. But as he later confessed, it was meant as a one-off. So he had nothing to lose but a shag...

I think subtle is when we're serious, unsubtle is when it's a one-off.

Why are you doing this to yourself?

Not really doing anything to myself. He didn't come over. I told him that my other friend was going to help me.

I know what his ulterior motive was when he said what he did. If he had come over to fix my computer, then that's all he would have done. He would have been in for a rude awakening if he was expecting anything from me showing my appreciation.

The main reason for posting this was to try to figure out why he is the way he is and why he would act jealous over something he clearly agreed was not right in his life at the moment. I've moved on in the sense that I'm not dwelling about him a few hours a day. He's lucky to get a few thoughts a day now.

He called while my friend was at my house fixing my computer, but I didn't hear the phone ring. After my friend left, I listened to my VM, and he said "I guess you aren't answering because you're still on your date". WTF, it wasn't a date and he knew it.

So anyway, school is starting soon and I'll get busy busy busy...that'll be good.

They are not into saying what they mean unless you act completely clueless and goad them into it. Meaning he wants to know your busy...he cant have his cake and eat it too.

Whatever happened to the days when you paid for services with old fashioned money...

HP, good move, you are forcing him to realize that you are not interested in just shagging and he is getting unbalanced, because he has lost control.

I told you... He will chase you now, the jealousy thing seems to be part of the losing control thing more than pure jealousy I think. Like I said my Libra friend has done this to me and really acted jealous. I just act like he was being wierd and chalked it up to being just how he is... Can't explain why they are that way...

He tries to come off as not being jealous. In his VM last night his tone didn't come across as jealous but he still said "You're not answering because you must still be on your date". I didn't call him back, but i just choose the reply feature on my phone and told him "As I told you earlier today, he was coming over to fix my computer and that was what he did. it wasn't a date; just someone who offered to help me out. have a good night".

No response yet.

That was cool to respond. Remember they are reactionaries and you can subtly make them react and say what you want them to hear, so next time, try not to respond and he will cotninue to contact you until he gets one, then things he is really feeling will start slipping out unintentionally. Or just ask him why he acts jealous, when clearly he doesn't want a relationship...

***make them say what you want to hear them say***

Sometimes, I get tired of tiptoing around these guys and wait until I get them in front of me and take the forward approach.

HP, I am interested in knowing if he contacts you today... Probably not for a couple days.. weeks— Who knows...

He is JEALOUS with a capital "J." Nice job! You've handled it perfect.

I talked to him about the other Libra today. I told him that I thought the other Libra guy was the jealous type. He said, "We all are. Some of us just hide it better than others".

well there you go - he put "we" in there - he included 🙂

He just left - I really needed his help on my computer. He tried to "do" something with me, but I turned him down. While he was working on my computer, I took a call from another guy friend. He could hear the guy's voice and what I was saying on my end. The guy friend wanted me to go with him to see "Because I Said So" tonight and I told him I could possibly go, but that I'd get back with him.

After I got off the phone with him, Mr. Libra tried getting it on with me. But OMG! does he give goooooood neck massages...OMG OMG OMG ok, anyway...

I turned him down and just gave a quick little kiss. He got a little irritated and started to put his jacket on. I asked him where he was going and asked if he wanted to sit and hang out for a while. He said, "No, I need to be home in a bit to take my parents over to my sister's house. Besides, you have a date with 'X' "....

Yeah, he's jealous.

uh huh

yes, he did put "we" in there...that was his subtle way...

Like mine says "Im as subtle as a sledgehammer" LOL.

Actually something funny he did say to me on Wednesday night:..."all good things come to those that wait patiently"....oooooh argghhh!!!!

Pick me, pick me!!! LOL

Good deal HP, they don't like the competition either.

I know they don't, but it really sucks because I just don't know what I want with this guy.

And the sad thing is, I think he realizes that I don't know what I want from him so he's letting me "hang around"....hard to explain, but I'm sure you get my drift.

Got it, and he will until you decide and take charge either way.

Reminds me of "jealousy is as cruel as the grave" (from Song Of Solomon). Workin' it there. HOPE you figure out what you want soon, HP, to let him off the hook or secure the hook even deeper.

Hi everyone. I'm back. I saw Mr. Libra twice this week (Tuesday and Friday). We've had topics on here about how prim, fashionable, and stylish Libras are. I mentioned that Mr. Libra has tons of clothes and about 12 different colognes.

Tuesday night, when he came over to look over the computer, he hugged me when he saw me. My absolute favorite cologne on a man is Armani Agua d'Gio. When I hugged him, I took in that smell. I said "Wow, that cologne lasted all day" and he said "No, I put on a little more a few minutes ago".

Friday evening, we met up for dinner after work. He was at the restaurant first and when I walked up to the booth he was sitting at, I walked over and hugged him hi. I caught the wiff of Agua d'Gio again. I didn't say anything, but just knew I'd have to sit across from him in the booth smelling that awesome scent on that man.

With this said, perhaps I'm really over analyzing this, but he knows how much I love that scent. When we first met, he was wearing that scent and when I hugged him goodbye, I said "God, I love Gio"..he was impressed that I knew my scents (i guess it's a Venus thing).

So I can't help but think he's wearing this cologne for me....he has said a few times that he has tons of colognes. In fact, last month he mentioned that he was out of Gio. So if he was wearing it last Tuesday and Friday, then he bought a new bottle.

Am I over thinking this or do you think he is wearing it on purpose?

I know, silly question....

He's wearing it on purpose.

Men choose which cologne to wear for which circumstance (or particular woman) on purpose. (Hey! How come I'm always lagging behind nic'? Whazupwidat?).

I figured it was on purpose, but I didn't say anything when I had dinner with him on Friday. Wow, I saw him TWICE last week and he initiated the text messages this weekend while I was out of town...He's just as confused as me, huh?

" (Hey! How come I'm always lagging behind nic'? Whazupwidat?)."

You likely just have had more of a life than me in the last couple of weeks. Makes a big difference when I have no one to answer to but myself while I am working too.....so I have a lot of down time.

The whole dress-to-impress thing definitely includes cologne and accessories (and jewellery for girls)...

I was kind of interrested to find out so many Libra guys enjoy fine and expensive clothes and excessories. I have always had a "unique style " if you will but I try to avoid name brand or high end stuff. I'm not adamant about doing so but I never really realized it until I read about the other Libra guys tastes.

HP74!! OK.. I see you have been doing your thang since I have been a little ghost on DXP! How are you feeling about Mr. Libra now after the two dates? I am glad you mentioned the cologne. I was wondering what to get my libra for Valentines day and I was thinking about cologne. He always smells good, so I have no idea what he would like, but I am going to search out the one you mentioned and see if I like it. Maybe I will get that for him since you say it smells wonderful..

Go-on miss lady!

They really weren't dates; we just saw each other. He fixed my computer one night and then we met at the last minute for dinner. I initiated the dinner Friday, but he was clear on the other side of Houston when I asked him if he wanted to meet....he could have said no, but he didn't.

I still feel the same about mr. libra - nothing has changed. we're friends. i'm dating others casually (just because i'm dating doesn't mean i'm having sex - FYI to those who equate that to be the same). I still think he gets a bit jealous when I mention I'm going out with someone, so Im going to back off telling him what I'm doing and just let him wonder. If he asks, I'll tell him. But I'm not going to offer up any information.

Yes, Agua d'Gio...OMG OMG OMG OMG It's by Goirgio Armani.

How did I miss this?

Yes. The cologne is on purpose.

* I try to avoid name brand or high end stuff.

I am the same. I have a very enviable sense of style but most of my outfits cost under $ 150 including shoes.

Shopping is not creating.