“Well That’s Life”

What would you say if someone told you this after you express concern over your pet being sick and saying you don’t want to lose them?

I want second/third/fourth opinions on this.

Wouldn't need to say anything, just show him this on my phone



and if I'm properly pissed, I'd show him this for added dramatic effect



or tap into my inner Mickey like @shakedown likes to say, and



Moral of the story: some occasions warrant actions, because actions speak far louder than words, where words no longer suffice.

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Wouldn't need to say anything, just show him this on my phone



and if I'm properly pissed, I'd show him this for added dramatic effect

Ok so I’m not buggin.

Although my friend just said this I feel bad for how things went down. We’re both going through some really shitty things right now. I tried telling how wrong that was to say and he blew up, then I blew up then shit went left.

Either way what he said was fucked, instead of admitting he didn’t know what to say or he didn’t mean it he goes insane.

I just wanted to see if anyone else sees his side and maybe I overreacted but I don’t think so. I know how hard it is to say the right words when someone is hurting, I struggle with this myself, however I would have just said don’t worry and rubbed his back or something. Or I do understand, it’ll be ok. Something comforting.

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Wouldn't need to say anything, just show him this on my phone



and if I'm properly pissed, I'd show him this for added dramatic effect

Ok so I’m not buggin.

Although my friend just said this I feel bad for how things went down. We’re both going through some really shitty things right now. I tried telling how wrong that was to say and he blew up, then I blew up then shit went left.

Either way what he said was fucked, instead of admitting he didn’t know what to say or he didn’t mean it he goes insane.

I just wanted to see if anyone else sees his side and maybe I overreacted but I don’t think so. I know how hard it is to say the right words when someone is hurting, I struggle with this myself, however I would have just said don’t worry and rubbed his back or something. Or I do understand, it’ll be ok. Something comforting.

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Anyone who views pets as more than handbag accessories would understand that they're family members. We got 2 rescue dogs, and if either one of them got seriously sick I'd be extremely upset. And if some fuckwit tries to downplay what those beautiful boys mean to me, then the fuckwit better have dental insurance.

I'd think someone recently watched Joker and is looking at the world from a different perspective

Maybe that was the coping mechanism he used for himself. I think he should try to be more sensitive especially considering the circumstances. I'm not sensitive at all, but when it comes to end of life on this world I try to be really mindful of how I word things. Blowing up tho? He needs to check himself. Or you need to check who you are & who your people are.

Posted by 7thHouse

Is your friend an air sign? Just wondered. It's typical for some air signs to act that way. Not because they are mean people but sometimes they just say things out of saying it. They have a hard time grasping and expressing emotions.

I was thinking the same

Ugh 😑

I mean, I wouldn't ever say that to someone myself. At the same time its true. Not just about a pet, but everything you love. You will either die young, or watch everything you love die before you. That's life.

Posted by 7thHouse

Is your friend an air sign? Just wondered. It's typical for some air signs to act that way. Not because they are mean people but sometimes they just say things out of saying it. They have a hard time grasping and expressing emotions.

As an air sign and dominant I don't say "well that's life" to someone who lost a loved one or about to lose em. I don't know how to express my deepest condolences therefore I prefer to stay out of it.

Nice to know people can treat animals with more humanity than their fellow man

Posted by xy_sigh

People who accept life as it is for whatever reason, express the feeling differently.

Their outlook in life isn't about you. Colour your own life.

Absolutely. More people need to understand that all others do not think or feel as them.

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Is your friend an air sign? Just wondered. It's typical for some air signs to act that way. Not because they are mean people but sometimes they just say things out of saying it. They have a hard time grasping and expressing emotions.

Cancer sun gem moon and mercury

Posted by Soul

I mean, I wouldn't ever say that to someone myself. At the same time its true. Not just about a pet, but everything you love. You will either die young, or watch everything you love die before you. That's life.

Shut up

You don’t think I know that? That’s not the point.

Posted by Arielle83

Maybe he’s going through something as well or depressed.

I said that in OP

That’s not the point.

I acknowledge he’s going through a lot right now, I understand that. What he said was shitty and so were his subsequent actions. He actually made it worse.

Posted by xy_sigh

People who accept life as it is for whatever reason, express the feeling differently.

Their outlook in life isn't about you. Colour your own life.

I don’t give a shit about his outlook, when his mom just died you think if I said that he would be ok with that?

Color my own life?

You’re trying to sound so profound but really aren’t saying anything. Annoying.

Posted by jezzyboo21

Nice to know people can treat animals with more humanity than their fellow man

Who are you?

Posted by black773

Posted by xy_sigh

People who accept life as it is for whatever reason, express the feeling differently.

Their outlook in life isn't about you. Colour your own life.

Absolutely. More people need to understand that all others do not think or feel as them.

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Yes because that’s the point of the thread.

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Posted by 7thHouse

Is your friend an air sign? Just wondered. It's typical for some air signs to act that way. Not because they are mean people but sometimes they just say things out of saying it. They have a hard time grasping and expressing emotions.

As an air sign and dominant I don't say "well that's life" to someone who lost a loved one or about to lose em. I don't know how to express my deepest condolences therefore I prefer to stay out of it.

Exactly. Geez. Why do we get such a bad rap for this? Its not that we aren't emotional. For me I try not to lose myself in emotions to keep my wits about me. I will try to stay focused and get through what ever is happening without panicking or losing it. Not everyone is an animal lover OP so maybe that's it. They didn't know what to say so said something stupid. I for one would have expressed sympathy about your plight. Just wouldn't be tearful about it. Anyway hope your furbaby gets better.

Oh and I see said person is a cancer....well now how do you explain that?...

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You don’t need to be an animal lover. Had he said nothing we wouldn’t even be talking about it. I know exactly where his words come from. Old anger. Some people look for any reason to stick it to you. Look at some of the thinly veiled butt hurt comments in this thread. It’s all good.

Posted by Araujo97

I said the same, to myself, when my first cat died damn i loved him so much

To yourself. That’s fine.

But he knows I literally had a death in the fam first week of Jan and now I’m worried about my dog, best he could have done is kept quiet. He’s an asshole.

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Posted by xy_sigh

People who accept life as it is for whatever reason, express the feeling differently.

Their outlook in life isn't about you. Colour your own life.

Absolutely. More people need to understand that all others do not think or feel as them.

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This topic is clear proof - that humanity is still far from that level of acceptance and understanding. The same old story: one person feels and sees things in a specific way - then looks for others alike - to gossip, hate and dehumanize the ones that are different. The root cause behind discrimination, religion, racism, bullying, war or any forms of hate against other human beings - that are not alike to a T. Oh well, that's life. 🤷‍♂️

I’d be caught a little off guard and might chortle a little at their callousness and be on my way to better vibes, shaking my head. Probably logging that one away for later 🥶 You don’t have to be insensitive to be a realist. Of course, my Libra mom already instilled in me that “life’s not fair” so that hardened me a wee bit from my original mush ball self.

When I lost my dog I had to take a week off work because I was in severe mourning.

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Posted by 7thHouse

Is your friend an air sign? Just wondered. It's typical for some air signs to act that way. Not because they are mean people but sometimes they just say things out of saying it. They have a hard time grasping and expressing emotions.

As an air sign and dominant I don't say "well that's life" to someone who lost a loved one or about to lose em. I don't know how to express my deepest condolences therefore I prefer to stay out of it.

Exactly. Geez. Why do we get such a bad rap for this? Its not that we aren't emotional. For me I try not to lose myself in emotions to keep my wits about me. I will try to stay focused and get through what ever is happening without panicking or losing it. Not everyone is an animal lover OP so maybe that's it. They didn't know what to say so said something stupid. I for one would have expressed sympathy about your plight. Just wouldn't be tearful about it. Anyway hope your furbaby gets better.

Oh and I see said person is a cancer....well now how do you explain that?...

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Anytime something bad happen I stay completely calm cool collective and serene. I don't react all panicky and out of control and stuff. And of course everybody gets emotional. It's just air signs and air dominants gets finger pointed for not having emotions because we don't like to show them. Only to people who are worth my time and effort are most likely the ones that are worthy to see me get emotional. I don't know. I guess Im just not much of a people's person at all. I see people as no good.

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Posted by xy_sigh

People who accept life as it is for whatever reason, express the feeling differently.

Their outlook in life isn't about you. Colour your own life.

Absolutely. More people need to understand that all others do not think or feel as them.

This topic is clear proof - that humanity is still far from that level of acceptance and understanding. The same old story: one person feels and sees things in a specific way - then looks for others alike - to gossip, hate and dehumanize the ones that are different. The root cause behind discrimination, religion, racism, bullying, war or any forms of hate against other human beings - that are not alike to a T. Oh well, that's life. 🤷‍♂️

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Very true.

I wouldn't say anything, but I would know that they aren't the kind of person I would be able to come to, and I wouldn't share things of this nature with them. They would be compartmentalized into a category.

The funny thing is once this happens, most will come back around with a "OMG, Why didn't you tell me!"

Posted by AbbyNormal

You don’t have to be insensitive to be a realist.

This!!!!



How and when it became popular to pass insensitivity, and in some cases cruelty, for realistic approach is baffling to me?! It’s so hip these days to label those who display emotions as being out of control or unhinged. I just can’t...

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Posted by AbbyNormalYou don’t have to be insensitive to be a realist.

This!!!!



How and when it became popular to pass insensitivity, and in some cases cruelty, for realistic approach is baffling to me?! It’s so hip these days to label those who display emotions as being out of control or unhinged. I just can’t...

You don't have to display emotions if you don't want to. Plenty of people don't display their emotions at the funeral of parent etc but they still do their duty.

Plenty of people manage to be decent and respectful without being insipid.

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I think you missed my point here, but besides that, I’m not disagreeing with you. My general observation above still stands as in that it is not necessary to swing the pendulum in either extreme direction. One can emote without making a twit out of themselves, but they shouldn’t be abased for it either.

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Posted by AbbyNormalYou don’t have to be insensitive to be a realist.

This!!!!



How and when it became popular to pass insensitivity, and in some cases cruelty, for realistic approach is baffling to me?! It’s so hip these days to label those who display emotions as being out of control or unhinged. I just can’t...

You don't have to display emotions if you don't want to. Plenty of people don't display their emotions at the funeral of parent etc but they still do their duty.

Plenty of people manage to be decent and respectful without being insipid.

Saying 'that's life' ...it just sounds immature. Someone who is too lazy to be bothered in case they get drawn in to having to offer comfort to another human being.

I mean if comfort isn't your thing ...offer practical help.

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Agreed!

I'd explain what an obnoxious phrase that is, as well as its origin and usage as nothing more than a thought-stopping cliche. Be wary of anyone who uses this kind of language, because there is likely no limit of what they will follow, using this un-logic to relieve their cognitive dissonance or discomfort from a situation.

Shit's fucked up.

Posted by akitu

I agree it’s insensitive but I wonder how he actually said it? Seems like an unusual response, so I’m just thinking did he maybe mean it in a ‘oh life really sucks, I’m sorry but hey chin up we gotta keep going ay that’s life’ kind of a way trying to help, or if he literally just looked OP dead in the eyes like ‘that’s life loser’ and then strode out the room, knocking over a small child on his way.... I feel like there are levels to this

Your imagery made me chuckle haha

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Posted by AbbyNormalYou don’t have to be insensitive to be a realist.

This!!!!



How and when it became popular to pass insensitivity, and in some cases cruelty, for realistic approach is baffling to me?! It’s so hip these days to label those who display emotions as being out of control or unhinged. I just can’t...

You don't have to display emotions if you don't want to. Plenty of people don't display their emotions at the funeral of parent etc but they still do their duty.

Plenty of people manage to be decent and respectful without being insipid.

Saying 'that's life' ...it just sounds immature. Someone who is too lazy to be bothered in case they get drawn in to having to offer comfort to another human being.

I mean if comfort isn't your thing ...offer practical help.

I see I responded before the edit.



Agreed!

Ah sorry.

I have to say i am glad people are mostly on the same page in the replies.

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Nah! You needn’t be sorry... at the very least not for the misunderstanding created on my part. All good! And once again, agree on both counts/posts.

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Posted by Soul

I mean, I wouldn't ever say that to someone myself. At the same time its true. Not just about a pet, but everything you love. You will either die young, or watch everything you love die before you. That's life.

I agree. The truth of the matter is, everyone dies. It's scary and painful but it's what happens. I lost someone before to cancer. An uncle said that same thing to me. I didn't get all emo and I was like 8 years old. I just said.... I know that but how do I deal with it?

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Tbh it will always suck no matter how you look at it. We've all lost. For me watching the strongest person I knew succumb to cancer and die was terrible. Also watching my dad succumb to drugs due to my grandmother dying was also terrible. The only advice I can really give is to look up to the elders in life. I consider them the veterans of life. Grandparents are truly special, and have knowledgeand understandingwe cant yet fathom. They have seen their pets, parents, aunts, uncles, cousins, and friends pass. Yet they always kept moving forward. That is the best advice imo. Just let it all out and mourn, then move forward with your own life.

It might sound dumb or silly to some, but I try to keep a spiritual connection with those who pass. Whether its just a simple memory or an idea, or a true spiritual connection I try to listen to their message. Everyone will leave a message or personal ode to life. I believe I can feel them even if its just the wind blowing through the trees. Sometimes I think its them saying hello. Sometimes it could be a song that comes on that reminds me of them, or a situation I feel they were leading me to. In many ways I feel its them connecting with me from the spirit world, so I fully believe they are truly closer then you think.

Posted by DonnaLibra When I lost my dog I had to take a week off work because I was in severe mourning.

I’m bracing myself.

Right now emotionally I’m really fragile, I need her.

Posted by DonnaLibra When I lost my dog I had to take a week off work because I was in severe mourning.

And sorry for your loss

I know that’s not easy lost one dog before. They are our babies, our family. At least for me.

Posted by akitu

I agree it’s insensitive but I wonder how he actually said it? Seems like an unusual response, so I’m just thinking did he maybe mean it in a ‘oh life really sucks, I’m sorry but hey chin up we gotta keep going ay that’s life’ kind of a way trying to help, or if he literally just looked OP dead in the eyes like ‘that’s life loser’ and then strode out the room, knocking over a small child on his way.... I feel like there are levels to this

He was cavalier about it. He said those words verbatim then hopped up and put his hat on a proceeded to walk towards my terrace door for a smoke. The words and the tone was wrong. I don’t care to speculate on what he meant as I he had time to clear that up, yet he stood by his initial response. He was wrong and strong. Otherwise we would have worked it out and I wouldn’t be here.

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Posted by bkbella86

What would you say if someone told you this after you express concern over your pet being sick and saying you don’t want to lose them?

I wouldn't say anything to them.

But I know now there is something wrong with them.

No 1 they have shown no respect towards me and my feelings. No 2 they have no empathy for animals. And they don't value the lives of animals.

That is not normal. I mean its not even a vegan/veggie thing etc. Its normal to say ....wow shit that sucks.

I mean they are not even smart enough to fake sympathize.

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Lol exactly. Even fake sympathy!

That’s why I said he wanted to stick it to me for whatever perceived slights he’s felt

Over the years.

Posted by bkbella86

What would you say if someone told you this after you express concern over your pet being sick and saying you don’t want to lose them?

Would probably depend on their tone of voice and facial features. If it wasn’t said mockingly I wouldn’t take offense. Some people are shit at saying comforting things. Shrug. It is what it is.

I had a client who knew I was out of town taking care of my mother who just had major surgery and they kept blowing up my phone, texting leaving vm etc.

I literally texted them, hey I’m here with the surgeon going over care for my mother post surgery and I will call you back in another hour or so.

They responded, ok thanks.

Then 30/35 minutes later proceeded to blow up my phone 3xs.

I legit was shocked they could be this rude. And I told them as much. For context this was a client that I went out of my way (at no extra charge to them) to start the process for city permits on street tree removal and new driveway apron. No good deed goes unpunished my friends.

I continue to work with him but am charging an extra $ 500 ‘asshole’ fee to deal with the headache.

I would say that's really not very helpful, and sorry I brought it up, and discontinue that conversation.

Nothing you can do or say. except maybe acknowledge that, is not helpful.

The hardest thing I ever dealt with was losing my 4.5 yr old cat Sassea. Thankfully I did not hear any such response. "That's life" is a "matter of fact" response but should not be said when someone is upset.