Are you cynical towards life?

I just realised my problem, I’m cynical

It’s pretty simple and basic but now that I think of it I’ve been a cynic since I was an adolescent teenager and had to grow up and all that shit.

Looking back at myself when I was a kid I was so naive but I was so positive and hopeful and curious about life.

It’s like I’m always anticipating the worst from everyone and I hate it, it’s like I’m waiting for people to fuck me over and that it’s only a matter of time.

Or that I see people being positive and living the good life and I can’t see that for me. Because I feel like it’s not real, they’re just being fake...

This is quite a revealation for me because Ive been like this for so long so maybe if I fix it it may set me on a different path.

Yeah I kind of am. I don't really trust people in general. It's a Scorpio Moon thing

Posted by themilkyway36
Yeah I kind of am. I don't really trust people in general. It's a Scorpio Moon thing

Lmao it’s funny that you mentioned Scorpio moon because I’m a Scorpio moon and in my last draft of this topic I wrote that a part of me (Scorpio moon) needs to see people’s dark side because I don’t trust positive people. It’s a bit sad...

Anyways I just went onto YouTube and literally just found this video on being cynical and it is exactly me!!!

Omg you’re too cute and right aswell Timon.

But it’s not that I expect people are going to fuck me over it’s just that I’m not surprised anymore which is kind of the same thing. I just don’t invest too much in people.

The thing I hate most is that my brother is EXACLTY like what I was like at the early stages and he is an aqua with an aqua moon and he’s so much colder than me lol.

We are both performers in the entertainment industry and he’s more established than I am because he’s worked with some of the best in his industry and they treated him like shit and he’s trying to do it to me and he wants me to approach the industry the same way he did but I don’t want to become bitter like he is.

Anyways thanks for the insight, I’ve got a new perspective which will keep me busy for a while. I always knew I had to keep positive but now I have a reason to FEEL positive.

Yay go me

Posted by The_eleventh_sign_11
I just realised my problem, I’m cynical

It’s pretty simple and basic but now that I think of it I’ve been a cynic since I was an adolescent teenager and had to grow up and all that butter.



Looking back at myself when I was a kid I was so naive but I was so positive and hopeful and curious about life.



It’s like I’m always anticipating the worst from everyone and I hate it, it’s like I’m waiting for people to treetrunk me over and that it’s only a matter of time.



Or that I see people being positive and living the good life and I can’t see that for me. Because I feel like it’s not real, they’re just being fake...



This is quite a revealation for me because Ive been like this for so long so maybe if I fix it it may set me on a different path.

Im exactly like that too only Im cool with being with my self-absorbed self. I don't add ppl to my life because I need some noise.



Also I was naive af way into my teens.



The older I get the more I realize friends are for single people who can't find a partner and for ppl who crave constant input or suffer from abandenment issues. Truth is yes, "friends" will treetrunk you over eventually but not necesserily bc they are bad people but bc we may have a different definition of what seperates friends from acquaintances.



A while ago I made friends with a Pisces dude through my gf, he pursued me hard and I decided to keep an open mind.



So what happened? Without further details, he turned out to be a wishy-washy, two-faced, spineless Fish. He couldn't face the music either when I confronted him so I literally had to tell him "I don't what you to feel like you need to run every time you see me in the corner of your eye" which is what he literally did at one occassion lmao, but that "we just have different values" or some butter like that.



The thing is he sucked my dick hard for as long as I was a listener, me being an introvert, but when I opened my mouth and roared the tune became all like "Enfant has changed lately".

The Fish thught I was a meek follower just bc I don't yap like some women 24/7. Cute.



There are more examples that confirm your notions. Literally every single person who's entered my life in the last 2 years has been proved to be a tool despite coming with hugs and smiles. Now this may sound like Im bitter and defeated but fact is I feel all fuzzy inside like I just came back from a field trip with new scientific research.



The reality is: Before and during high-school they say bfs/gfs come and go, friends stay. But when we mature and enter adulthood, it seems the soundest approach is that friends actually come and go. Find a person to build a nest with and make that person a priority over everyone else. Everyone else you gotta make time for but this one person is your time, your life. When I look at the few ppl I know who lead healthy lives and relationships, this is their mantra. Friends come and go, this person stays. Provided you have a sound mind and heart, most ppl don't i guess.

Sorry for hijacking your thread

Anticipate the worst bc ppl will test you, chew you up and spit you out if you let them. If you don't, they're not your friends anymore. If you're not comfortable being on your own, then you are more likely to draw this type of negativity into your life. Im just glad I had a loving upbringing cuz i know a lot of ppl who didn't and they struggle with all kinds of abandonment issues and cant be alone without wanting to slit their own wrists.

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Posted by enfant_terrible
Anticipate the worst bc ppl will test you, chew you up and spit you out if you let them. If you don't, they're not your friends anymore. If you're not comfortable being on your own, then you are more likely to draw this type of negativity into your life. Im just glad I had a loving upbringing cuz i know a lot of ppl who didn't and they struggle with all kinds of abandonment issues and cant be alone without wanting to slit their own wrists.

That's a part of the problem though. lol



I can relate to most of what you're all saying, and used to lie to myself regularly: "I'm not expecting the worst, I just want to be prepared in case it happens." But you end up adopting the same cynical mindset OP is talking about, and over time it becomes harder to see the silver lining. click to expand

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Well i suspected someone would come up and say if this is your mindset then it will become a self-fulfilling prophecy of sorts. It may be to some ppl , I dunno... but my "problem" is that I neither want or need friends, if it happens it happens. I don't fight for it. So far it hasn't happened. And when i look around, it doesnt seem to be happening to a lot of other ppl either, they're just willing to put up with more crap than i am.

Btw I do have friends, just none that I've made as an adult.

I can be at times, but for the most part I'm not. In most cases my cynical thinking leads me to a gray area in between the positive and the negative, where I can understand them both equally. If I see something that seems to perfect I try to find it's flaws to balance it out, and if I see something flawed I try to find its significance in the same way. I'm at the point I'm just used to it. Even with betrayal or evil seen from others. I'm more likely to think "Well that's people for ya. Some good, some bad, and all unpredictable."

Absolutely.

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Posted by themilkyway36
Yeah I kind of am. I don't really trust people in general. It's a Scorpio Moon thing

Lmao it’s funny that you mentioned Scorpio moon because I’m a Scorpio moon and in my last draft of this topic I wrote that a part of me (Scorpio moon) needs to see people’s dark side because I don’t trust positive people. It’s a bit sad...



Anyways I just went onto YouTube and literally just found this video on being cynical and it is exactly me!!!

Yeah i knew you were a Scorpio moon cause it says so on your tagline. i was trying to relate because i'm a scorpio moon too

i mean our radar is up for a reason and it helps us weed people out at least

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Posted by The_eleventh_sign_11
I just realised my problem, I’m cynical

It’s pretty simple and basic but now that I think of it I’ve been a cynic since I was an adolescent teenager and had to grow up and all that butter.



Looking back at myself when I was a kid I was so naive but I was so positive and hopeful and curious about life.



It’s like I’m always anticipating the worst from everyone and I hate it, it’s like I’m waiting for people to treetrunk me over and that it’s only a matter of time.



Or that I see people being positive and living the good life and I can’t see that for me. Because I feel like it’s not real, they’re just being fake...



This is quite a revealation for me because Ive been like this for so long so maybe if I fix it it may set me on a different path.

Im exactly like that too only Im cool with being with my self-absorbed self. I don't add ppl to my life because I need some noise.



Also I was naive af way into my teens.



The older I get the more I realize friends are for single people who can't find a partner and for ppl who crave constant input or suffer from abandenment issues. Truth is yes, "friends" will treetrunk you over eventually but not necesserily bc they are bad people but bc we may have a different definition of what seperates friends from acquaintances.



A while ago I made friends with a Pisces dude through my gf, he pursued me hard and I decided to keep an open mind.



So what happened? Without further details, he turned out to be a wishy-washy, two-faced, spineless Fish. He couldn't face the music either when I confronted him so I literally had to tell him "I don't what you to feel like you need to run every time you see me in the corner of your eye" which is what he literally did at one occassion lmao, but that "we just have different values" or some butter like that.



The thing is he sucked my dick hard for as long as I was a listener, me being an introvert, but when I opened my mouth and roared the tune became all like "Enfant has changed lately".

The Fish thught I was a meek follower just bc I don't yap like some women 24/7. Cute.



There are more examples that confirm your notions. Literally every single person who's entered my life in the last 2 years has been proved to be a tool despite coming with hugs and smiles. Now this may sound like Im bitter and defeated but fact is I feel all fuzzy inside like I just came back from a field trip with new scientific research.



The reality is: Before and during high-school they say bfs/gfs come and go, friends stay. But when we mature and enter adulthood, it seems the soundest approach is that friends actually come and go. Find a person to build a nest with and make that person a priority over everyone else. Everyone else you gotta make time for but this one person is your time, your life. When I look at the few ppl I know who lead healthy lives and relationships, this is their mantra. Friends come and go, this person stays. Provided you have a sound mind and heart, most ppl don't i guess.



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You can hijack my thread if u want, I like the part about the Pisces sucking your cock.

Honestly I’ve started becoming more positive now and it’s working, I’m starting to see things already like synchronicity kind of things, life is starting to become serendipitous.

It’s not rainbows and sunshine but it’s genuine and real.

It’s probably a false epiphany...oops there I go again

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Posted by themilkyway36
Yeah I kind of am. I don't really trust people in general. It's a Scorpio Moon thing

Lmao it’s funny that you mentioned Scorpio moon because I’m a Scorpio moon and in my last draft of this topic I wrote that a part of me (Scorpio moon) needs to see people’s dark side because I don’t trust positive people. It’s a bit sad...



Anyways I just went onto YouTube and literally just found this video on being cynical and it is exactly me!!!



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Yeah i knew you were a Scorpio moon cause it says so on your tagline. i was trying to relate because i'm a scorpio moon too



i mean our radar is up for a reason and it helps us weed people out at least click to expand

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Yeh I’m gonna post a topic about Scorpio moons in the moon section cos I need to address this radar.

Being cynical is fine as long as you can find the humor in it.