Are you usually jealous/possessive of your close friends?

I decided to post about this topic because I rarely have close friends anymore.

I used to be besties with this girl. Let’s call her Cindy. So Cindy and I used to hang out all the time, talk about our problems, joke around and do stuff together. I considered her a close friend.

Then I met this other girl named Natalie who I talked to ocasionally but I wouldn’t consider her a close friend. I had a better connection with Cindy. One day I was with Natalie and I had to introduce her to Cindy because she happened to be at a friend’s house and we were meeting with other people as a group. I don’t know how it happened but Cindy and Natalie slowly started becoming friends and now they are like besties.

Cindy talks to Natalie a lot more than she talks to me 😟 and I hate it for some reason. I have both of them on social media and I haven’t talk to them in ages but I see how they always interract while I am pretty much pushed to the side. And it’s not the first time it happens. Back in middle school I remember a girl who always had to hang out with different people, otherwise she would get bored. So she went from being a cool friend to totally distancing herself once she found a more interesting person.

I do know I had a really good friend who was an Aquarius. She had TONS of friends but never “ditched” me to hang out with someone else. They say Aquas make good friends and maybe it’s true. But she went to different schools and we didn’t see each other again.

Do you have similar experiences? Are you jealous of your friends or hate it when they prefer to hang out with others rather than with you?

No not at all. I’m happy they’ve other friends and don’t mind sharing 🙋‍♀️

Sharing lovers is another story

No way José

😀

-yes, I did have. Totally understandable. But nothing to do with this, just meet other people.

Maybe ages ago when I was a teenager. Not now tho.

I'm actually more and more concerned about one of my friends. Since we both moved further away from each other we haven't seen each other as much + global pandemic so of course that makes sense.

But I also see he's surrounding himself with people that appear to only mooch off of him. It worries me because he's very giving and sharing personality and financially (with his partners money who pays for everything). But I question whether these are just fair weather friends. If his relationship ends he will not have all the stuff that this group seems to flock to him for. So yeah, I worry about his choice of friends. Especially as people can be very superficial here and while he has that aspect to his personality (loves designer shit, plastic surgery, sm flex, etc) he's also a really genuine character underneath all that fluff. I know he's getting emotionally involved and I worry where he will be at when it inevitably will come crashing down.

But also he is an adult and his own person... so I keep my mouth closed cause it ain't my business.

For example, he was thinking of going back to work to gain some financial independence because his partner pays for everything. And one of these new friends was like, no don't do that cause then we can't go for fun lunches and adventures (that he pays for!).

Ughhhh it annoys me. Obviously I gave him the opposite advice. Yes get a job! Even part time. Build your credit, save your money. All your bills are being paid by your partner atm... but that could change. Don't feel stuck in the relationship... plan for the future.

I might be territorial about my significant other but definitely not my friends. You know why? Cause even if they frolic off to someone else, the other person won’t ever be as great as me 💅 Friends come and go. It is what it is.

No. If "Cindy" and "Natalie" have a lot more in common and "vibe" well, I'm happy to have introduced them to each other.

One of my friends says to me that i’m her fave friend

Takes me back to school days

She has Teen Sun/child Moon

😀🌈

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Posted by MyStarsShine

No not at all. I’m happy they’ve other friends and don’t mind sharing 🙋‍♀️

Sharing lovers is another story

No way José

😀

Four in a bed and the little one said rollover.

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....and one fell out....

Three is a lucky 🍀number

No, but I attract possessive friends because I'm a loner who gives any close friend lots of attention and priority.

That's your Leo Moon, I think.

I have to keep my friend groups separate and hang out with them one at a time, because I spotlight them so much when we are together.

My friends will notice and think I'm doing exactly what you said and it makes me feel like I'm not being loyal to them.

It's just easier to hang out separately.

Posted by Maxian

God no. They're usually possessive of me, and need to tell them to give me space and find new friends to hang out with.

I'm always happy when I can connect my friends with new people, so they can help themselves and I can go back in cave-mode 🥳

Amen to this 😀

I use to be. As I got older it mattered less and less. Now I enjoy my solitude and personal life more tbh. I feel like I spent more time focused on other people and what they were doing rather then myself.

Only if I'm worried about their safety 🤫

It’s like you want people to be lonely like you

Possessive of my friends. No, not at all.