@Lunabee
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Do men protect women automatically?
Posted by tiziani
maybe Southern Hospitality?
Hmm..nah.
I encountered this same thing with my male colleagues in the oil and gas industry. Older guys (40s to 50s) mostly from Australia and South Africa. The European guys were also helpful in a similar fashion. Maybe they think it's the gentlemanly thing to do?
Posted by tiziani
maybe Southern Hospitality?
My boss is a white man from Africa. He constantly cusses and makes his employees feel nervous. Very intense man. His culture is intriguing to me.
Posted by CanthalTilt
——? GOAT movie series
Posted by Lunabee
I started a new job 2+ weeks ago. And thewn protect the heck out of me! I perform wrong and they cover me. I produce shit work and they fix it. On the down low telling me what I did wrong.They all have enveloped me. Is this a common male trait?
You must be cute
I love men for this. They're sweet that way ?
Posted by LadyNeptune
Posted by Lunabee
I started a new job 2+ weeks ago. And thewn protect the heck out of me! I perform wrong and they cover me. I produce shit work and they fix it. On the down low telling me what I did wrong.They all have enveloped me. Is this a common male trait?
You must be cute
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Why?
Posted by Lunabee
Posted by LadyNeptune
Posted by Lunabee
I started a new job 2+ weeks ago. And thewn protect the heck out of me! I perform wrong and they cover me. I produce shit work and they fix it. On the down low telling me what I did wrong.They all have enveloped me. Is this a common male trait?
You must be cute
Why?
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Cause dudes don't go out of their way for anything less than cute.
Posted by Teena
I love men for this. They're sweet that way ?
Thanks teena for proving my point. Cause whose cuter than teena?!
Posted by Impulsv
I guess if ur starting but if it continues n becomes the norm wil they be annoyed ?Curious to hear from men lol
I cover ass if she looks good. If not, I just get annoyed from the get-go lol
Posted by Ram416
Posted by tiziani
maybe Southern Hospitality?
Hmm..nah.
I encountered this same thing with my male colleagues in the oil and gas industry. Older guys (40s to 50s) mostly from Australia and South Africa. The European guys were also helpful in a similar fashion. Maybe they think it's the gentlemanly thing to do?
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By no complaint from me.Did you get a good vibe from them?
Posted by LadyNeptune
Posted by Teena
I love men for this. They're sweet that way ?
Thanks teena for proving my point. Cause whose cuter than teena?!
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Lol..aww?! But c'mon...most guys are really sweet in general I guess. They must be having some protective instincts 😄
Posted by Teena
Posted by LadyNeptune
Posted by Teena
I love men for this. They're sweet that way ?
Thanks teena for proving my point. Cause whose cuter than teena?!
Lol..aww?! But c'mon...most guys are really sweet in general I guess. They must be having some protective instincts 😄
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When you say in general you mean in general based on YOUR experiences, as a cute person.
Posted by Lunabee
Posted by Ram416
Posted by tiziani
maybe Southern Hospitality?
Hmm..nah.
I encountered this same thing with my male colleagues in the oil and gas industry. Older guys (40s to 50s) mostly from Australia and South Africa. The European guys were also helpful in a similar fashion. Maybe they think it's the gentlemanly thing to do?
By no complaint from me.Did you get a good vibe from them?
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Yes. No sleazy agenda. I was new to the industry back then and they were teaching me stuff about equipment and safety procedures (practical aspects). I think their approach helped me to create a bond with them and communication became easier, work wise.
It's weird cos that industry is infamous for its sexist "boys will be boys" mindset.
Posted by TheLibraMudra
Yea.There's this Taurus at my work who watched a new nurse talk rudely to me time and time again. Without telling me, he got some email action to the unit director and the nurse educator. They pulled her into a room and had a talk with her and she had to apologize to me lol. I had no idea what was going on. And it was like awwwwwwww you sweet man. I can handle it, though, ya know? I dish it right back out or let it go because everyone is just under stress.
The guys will also step in and take care of all post Mortem stuff so no woman has to... If they can...
And all of the stuff this Leo has done to protect me even if I told him not to...
It's just a natural thing they do. I love it.
Your job isn't easy one. The Leo is a a good man.
You are hardworking and deserving of protective services
Posted by tiziani
maybe Southern Hospitality?
They are all gun carrying folk. How much do you believe looks/actions play a role?
Posted by LadyNeptune
Posted by Teena
Posted by LadyNeptune
Posted by Teena
I love men for this. They're sweet that way ?
Thanks teena for proving my point. Cause whose cuter than teena?!
Lol..aww?! But c'mon...most guys are really sweet in general I guess. They must be having some protective instincts 😄
When you say in general you mean in general based on YOUR experiences, as a cute person.
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I'm not saying I'm cute...but they are definitely my experiences yeah. I can't deny your point at all coz seeming cute to guys change a lot of things..hell lot.. Can't deny that. N I've seen it not being the same for all yeah.
Posted by Ram416
Posted by tiziani
maybe Southern Hospitality?
Hmm..nah.
I encountered this same thing with my male colleagues in the oil and gas industry. Older guys (40s to 50s) mostly from Australia and South Africa. The European guys were also helpful in a similar fashion. Maybe they think it's the gentlemanly thing to do?
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What's your experience with African men?
Posted by Impulsv
Well if go n get ur work done n make honest mistakeBut if ur purpously trying to get away with it by batting ur eyes well yeah
Luckly I work in male dominated field n all my female conworker are above this because our lives depend on it as we need to have each other's back in the line
Male n female
I'm working my fingers to the bone, literally. I'm so out of my element.
I don't want to fuck up but I seem to do it a lot. I know my sweet demeanor will only work so long before it gets tiring.
I'm working in a field that requires a degree that I don't have, so I'm being trained. And one day I'm golden doing everything right, days like today... Well let's say I messed up everything I could before 9am.
I feel you on having each other's backs. That's what I'm getting from it too.ita this whole initiation phase where I think they pity me and fix my crap. But I'm trying as hard as I can. Some days I wonder if I'm going to make it through the day.
Posted by Ram416
Posted by Lunabee
Posted by Ram416
Posted by tiziani
maybe Southern Hospitality?
Hmm..nah.
I encountered this same thing with my male colleagues in the oil and gas industry. Older guys (40s to 50s) mostly from Australia and South Africa. The European guys were also helpful in a similar fashion. Maybe they think it's the gentlemanly thing to do?
By no complaint from me.Did you get a good vibe from them?
Yes. No sleazy agenda. I was new to the industry back then and they were teaching me stuff about equipment and safety procedures (practical aspects). I think their approach helped me to create a bond with them and communication became easier, work wise.
It's weird cos that industry is infamous for its sexist "boys will be boys" mindset.
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My boss is a micromanaging, cuss at you make you feel two inches tall, type. I think they help me because they don't want him to yell at me.
Posted by yupvirgoo
I always try to help (coz Virgo) but it's kinda hard to help someone who are... cranky.If she's cranky, then it's a nope for me.
Yeah, not me. I'm always kind, eager to please and dedicated.
Posted by PootyButt
Men will do this for a new woman in a male-dominated job. Subconsciously or maybe even consciously, they're competing to woo you. It's the sweet side of male chauvinism. I worked in a few jobs like that, and it happened every place. And the other women who'd been there a while detested me for it. I never stayed long enough to become one of them.
There's only one other female. She avoided me the first week but I think she is hilarious. I really like her. She started showing me her tricks of the trade and helped me too. But she also secretly talks shit about everyone so I get the down low on them all from her perspective.
The men, one of which already asked for my number after I asked him is there anything else I can help you with before I clock out for the night. The other guy shaved off his huge beard and came to work clean cut Monday. Complimented me on my perfume today lol.
If you're cute, you damn well know men are going to try to protect you. General rule really. Why wouldn't a man protect a cute employee? They need to have some fun in the work place.
Posted by Lunabee
Posted by Ram416
Posted by Lunabee
Posted by Ram416
Posted by tiziani
maybe Southern Hospitality?
Hmm..nah.
I encountered this same thing with my male colleagues in the oil and gas industry. Older guys (40s to 50s) mostly from Australia and South Africa. The European guys were also helpful in a similar fashion. Maybe they think it's the gentlemanly thing to do?
By no complaint from me.Did you get a good vibe from them?
Yes. No sleazy agenda. I was new to the industry back then and they were teaching me stuff about equipment and safety procedures (practical aspects). I think their approach helped me to create a bond with them and communication became easier, work wise.
It's weird cos that industry is infamous for its sexist "boys will be boys" mindset.
My boss is a micromanaging, cuss at you make you feel two inches tall, type. I think they help me because they don't want him to yell at me.
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Yeah I can see that being the case. They know what it's like to be on the receiving end. They don't want that to happen to you or least try to help minimize the chances of it happening.
Posted by Ram416
Posted by tiziani
maybe Southern Hospitality?
Hmm..nah.
I encountered this same thing with my male colleagues in the oil and gas industry. Older guys (40s to 50s) mostly from Australia and South Africa. The European guys were also helpful in a similar fashion. Maybe they think it's the gentlemanly thing to do?
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My boss is from South Africa! He said their custom is to talk loud because if you whisper people will think you're talking about them. He said in Africa, people express anger more openly.
Posted by earlorg16
If you're cute, you damn well know men are going to try to protect you. General rule really. Why wouldn't a man protect a cute employee? They need to have some fun in the work place.
They all keep telling me to stay strong and stick it out. I think they like my vibes
Posted by bobby678
Posted by Lunabee
Posted by Ram416
Posted by tiziani
maybe Southern Hospitality?
Hmm..nah.
I encountered this same thing with my male colleagues in the oil and gas industry. Older guys (40s to 50s) mostly from Australia and South Africa. The European guys were also helpful in a similar fashion. Maybe they think it's the gentlemanly thing to do?
My boss is from South Africa! He said their custom is to talk loud because if you whisper people will think you're talking about them. He said in Africa, people express anger more openly.
LOL yeah they do...by shooting echother
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Blat blat!
No, he said it is more vocalized. Which makes sense. He can bring the heat down on my co workers but this far he has been leniuent towards me.
Posted by Ram416
Posted by Lunabee
Posted by Ram416
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Posted by Ram416
Posted by tiziani
maybe Southern Hospitality?
Hmm..nah.
I encountered this same thing with my male colleagues in the oil and gas industry. Older guys (40s to 50s) mostly from Australia and South Africa. The European guys were also helpful in a similar fashion. Maybe they think it's the gentlemanly thing to do?
By no complaint from me.Did you get a good vibe from them?
Yes. No sleazy agenda. I was new to the industry back then and they were teaching me stuff about equipment and safety procedures (practical aspects). I think their approach helped me to create a bond with them and communication became easier, work wise.
It's weird cos that industry is infamous for its sexist "boys will be boys" mindset.
My boss is a micromanaging, cuss at you make you feel two inches tall, type. I think they help me because they don't want him to yell at me.
Yeah I can see that being the case. They know what it's like to be on the receiving end. They don't want that to happen to you or least try to help minimize the chances of it happening.
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Exactly.
Which almost concerns me more when my boss does yell/attack me. How will I respond? I'll probably yell and cuss back or cry depending on my mood. But I need this job to survive so there is that
Posted by yupvirgoo
I always try to help (coz Virgo) but it's kinda hard to help someone who are... cranky.If she's cranky, then it's a nope for me.
Actually, that makes sense with all your Libra placements 🙂
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I started a new job 2+ weeks ago. And thewn protect the heck out of me! I perform wrong and they cover me. I produce shit work and they fix it. On the down low telling me what I did wrong.
They all have enveloped me. Is this a common male trait?