Friendliest and unfriendliest cities?

This topic was created in the Miscellaneous forum by munchkin on Thursday, February 27, 2014 and has 20 replies.

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Which cities do u find the easiest to make new friends... ie, at least people who you make plans with.

And which cities do you find to be harder to make new friends?

In my case, I've made friends easiest in Texas and Boston, and believe it or not, here in NY. The East Coasters aren't always the most sugary (I'm the same way, an East Coaster myself), gracious sorts from the outset, but before you know it, you've got friends who you can go on urban adventures with.

In LA, people are friendly and outgoing, and will invite you to stuff, but it's hard to find a consistent group of friends.

San Francisco...ew. People there were so standoffish and too self - involved and wrapped up in their own circle/smugness. Whenever I struck up a conversation to another girl while waiting for our coffee orders, the response was so forced, and it was like I committed some ghastly intrusion. Even when I managed to get into a conversation with someone, I got the vibe that every single thing I said was subject to judgment, as if I should be grateful for the opportunity to talk to them. *eyeroll*

In Las Vegas...nope nope. People there seemed too transient and potentially sketchy.

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Also state where you're from.. and your AC

(Me - grew up in Boston till I went to college, and now I'm still in NY for grad school. I've been to the other cities on short term basis for work)

(Aquarius AC)

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Posted by munchkin
Which cities do u find the easiest to make new friends... ie, at least people who you make plans with.

And which cities do you find to be harder to make new friends?

The easiest-- hmm

Hard to say because I don't do "acquaintances" very well; I click with someone, or I just don't.

But still-- the easiest was probably New Mexico; the people out west are authentic.. almost to a fault, but I like that.

LA? No.. I never understood LA, or its lure.

San Francisco, I was fortunate to know and meet some very nice people but I wasn't there long enough to even think about establishing friendships.

But I have to tip my hat to Bakersfield; the people there were fabulous, and LA confused them just as much as it did me.

North Carolina I had a few friends, but I worked SO much when I was there I didn't have time for much of a life.

And Tennessee easily had the friendliest people, I think I've met to this day-- maybe it was the drawl?

"Nice to meet yeeewww"-- lol, I loved it.

Orlando... pffft.

Ohio-- nice people, for certain but they all seemed so BUSY-- with idk, just socially maybe?

Jury's still out on that one. 🙂

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If you come to australia steer clear of sydney everyone are cunts and I think its got something to do with the layout of the city....go to melbourne because its the best city in the world for fucks sake!! melbourne had hipster before it was a word and they are too hip to function.

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Any city with a bar or club, lol no really, you could turn the LEAST friendliest person into a friend if you do somethin good for em (wining and dining included).

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This world is all for servin a purpose even if its buyin someone a case of 24 or lendin em a cigarette, you servin a purpose. You servin a purpose? You make friends. See? Most loners you meet got no purpose, so thats why they alone! You ain't servin a purpose, you can't help somebody. If you can't help somebody you aint gonna have friends and gonna be lone WHEREVER you go.

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Posted by tsar322
This world is all for servin a purpose even if its buyin someone a case of 24 or lendin em a cigarette, you servin a purpose. You servin a purpose? You make friends. See? Most loners you meet got no purpose, so thats why they alone! You ain't servin a purpose, you can't help somebody. If you can't help somebody you aint gonna have friends and gonna be lone WHEREVER you go.

yea, not everyone's a user. Apparently I serve a purpose everywhere except in San Fran.

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Posted by Montgomery
The easiest-- hmm

Hard to say because I don't do "acquaintances" very well; I click with someone, or I just don't.

But still-- the easiest was probably New Mexico; the people out west are authentic.. almost to a fault, but I like that.

LA? No.. I never understood LA, or its lure.

San Francisco, I was fortunate to know and meet some very nice people but I wasn't there long enough to even think about establishing friendships.

But I have to tip my hat to Bakersfield; the people there were fabulous, and LA confused them just as much as it did me.

North Carolina I had a few friends, but I worked SO much when I was there I didn't have time for much of a life.

And Tennessee easily had the friendliest people, I think I've met to this day-- maybe it was the drawl?

"Nice to meet yeeewww"-- lol, I loved it.

Orlando... pffft.

Ohio-- nice people, for certain but they all seemed so BUSY-- with idk, just socially maybe?

Jury's still out on that one. 🙂

Oh I'm originally from Florida (aka the South)-- Taurus rising. 🙂

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Posted by Montgomery

Posted by munchkin
Which cities do u find the easiest to make new friends... ie, at least people who you make plans with.

And which cities do you find to be harder to make new friends?

And Tennessee easily had the friendliest people, I think I've met to this day-- maybe it was the drawl?

Posted by arietteheart2
I will agree with Tennessee being one of the friendliest. Everyone fed me and welcomed me like their own family. Southern hospitality.

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D'awwwwh, shucks 🙂

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Posted by Andalusia

Posted by Montgomery

Posted by munchkin
Which cities do u find the easiest to make new friends... ie, at least people who you make plans with.

And which cities do you find to be harder to make new friends?

And Tennessee easily had the friendliest people, I think I've met to this day-- maybe it was the drawl?

Posted by arietteheart2
I will agree with Tennessee being one of the friendliest. Everyone fed me and welcomed me like their own family. Southern hospitality.

D'awwwwh, shucks 🙂

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Tis true.

I lived in Sevierville (right outside Pigeon Forge)-- Dolly's hometown, of course.

Beautiful, imo.

And I'll read your posts with the fabulous drawl figured in, now.

😄

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Posted by Montgomery

Posted by CapTenn
I'm happy to see that a few of you have enjoyed the hospitality of my state.

We've got our warts, but hospitality isn't one of them. Even my avi reflects this.

I did.

Even went back a few years ago, just to be sure. 🙂

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Well, you saw the best the state has to offer then. That entire Smoky Mountain area of East Tennessee is beautiful.

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Oh, Monty. If only I had the fabulous drawl.

But alas.. I was born in Michigan and raised by two parents from the Midwest. My accent reflects this, and as a result, everyone thinks I'm Canadian. 😢

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People in the South were by far the friendliest. I kinda forgot to even really mention them, because their legendary warmth is almost a given.

It's definitely not something to take for granted, tho. Everyone everywhere should have manners like that.

I will admit to being startled by having so many strangers talking to me wherever I went, and inviting me over their houses so readily. It was super sweet.