Opening up.

When you "open up" to someone - what does that mean? Have you ever opened up completely to someone?

When you and another person "tell each other everything" - what does that really mean? Do you really tell each other everything?

I'm talking about the people who are/have been the closest to you.

I have never opened up completely and I probably never will...
So, unfortunately I can't answer your questions in detail.
But, I like the topic so I'm following *click*

It means I feel comfortable..with you, and with expressing myself..

It's not quite possible to completely open up...lot of it is lost in ...trying to put words and frame sentences xD

Well... I don't really think i should question if beloved tells me "everything". I only think that "I am seeing everything i should" and, choose not to question beyond that. I have no right to. But ofcourse, when we talk to each other, I do my best to be there, support, give comfort, ask after them... I don't question beyond that.
It's definitely nice when we can share as much as words or eyes allow 😄

What about you...?

You are Capricorn, you should in fact talk about opening up! 😛

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I have never opened up completely and I probably never will...
So, unfortunately I can't answer your questions in detail.
But, I like the topic so I'm following *click*

Thank you!🙂

Why do you think that is? Would you like to at some point?

See, I'm also a closed mouthie.

Posted by RumiL
It means I feel comfortable..with you, and with expressing myself..

It's not quite possible to completely open up...lot of it is lost in ...trying to put words and frame sentences xD

Well... I don't really think i should question if beloved tells me "everything". I only think that "I am seeing everything i should" and, choose not to question beyond that. I have no right to. But ofcourse, when we talk to each other, I do my best to be there, support, give comfort, ask after them... I don't question beyond that.
It's definitely nice when we can share as much as words or eyes allow 😄

Thank you! Have you ever opened up to someone as much as words and body language can display?

Yeah but when it is not reciprocated or one is doing the most, I back down. Almost like they would have to again because at this point I have already expressed myself and it is just too much for them.

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Posted by wagtail
I have never opened up completely and I probably never will...
So, unfortunately I can't answer your questions in detail.
But, I like the topic so I'm following *click*

Thank you!🙂

Why do you think that is? Would you like to at some point?

See, I'm also a closed mouthie.

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No probs, it's a cool topic.
Why? Because I just don't see how it's possible to reveal all to anyone... I hardly know myself. Imagine trying to guide someone through my head, while still making sense and maintaining a trustworthy connection is laughable.
And even if it were possible- leads me to your second query Would I? Nope, definitely not.
You'd have to pry me open with a crowbar first.

On the other hand I would rather people kept things to themselves most of the time. I don't need to know all your deep, dark secrets...
If you share them with me I am a locked vault, but I would never ask first.

Posted by RumiL
What about you...?

You are Capricorn, you should in fact talk about opening up! 😛

Me? Ehrm... Well... THAT'S CLASSIFIED! 😏

No, I am extreemely bad at it. It's really weird when I think of most people I know/have known telling me waaay more than I would ever tell anyone ever. Even weirder is that has been so natural to me that I haven't really thought about it until not long ago. I couldn't know if people have told me everything about themselves and their lives, ofc, but judging by what they have told me, I'd say there's not much I don't know - and me, I talk in a way that makes them believe that they know pretty much everything worth knowing. I can't believe I'v been getting away with it.

Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428
Yeah but when it is not reciprocated or one is doing the most, I back down. Almost like they would have to again because at this point I have already expressed myself and it is just too much for them.

You mean you think they're overwhelmed - like, too much too soon?

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I have never opened up completely and I probably never will...
So, unfortunately I can't answer your questions in detail.
But, I like the topic so I'm following *click*

Thank you!🙂

Why do you think that is? Would you like to at some point?

See, I'm also a closed mouthie.

No probs, it's a cool topic.
Why? Because I just don't see how it's possible to reveal all to anyone... I hardly know myself. Imagine trying to guide someone through my head, while still making sense and maintaining a trustworthy connection is laughable.
And even if it were possible- leads me to your second query Would I? Nope, definitely not.
You'd have to pry me open with a crowbar first.

On the other hand I would rather people kept things to themselves most of the time. I don't need to know all your deep, dark secrets...
If you share them with me I am a locked vault, but I would never ask first.

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Thanks🙂

Must admit that I don't mind listening to deep dark secrets. When I hear them, yes, the vault is locked, but I do like to hear it.🙂

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Posted by RumiL
It means I feel comfortable..with you, and with expressing myself..

It's not quite possible to completely open up...lot of it is lost in ...trying to put words and frame sentences xD

Well... I don't really think i should question if beloved tells me "everything". I only think that "I am seeing everything i should" and, choose not to question beyond that. I have no right to. But ofcourse, when we talk to each other, I do my best to be there, support, give comfort, ask after them... I don't question beyond that.
It's definitely nice when we can share as much as words or eyes allow 😄

Thank you! Have you ever opened up to someone as much as words and body language can display?

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That's a difficult question you put for a Scorpio moon 😏

I'm haven't, it doesn't look possible.. I can't figure out how to be open in some instances. I'm very open with my parents yes, but I freeze and go blank or cannot bring myself to talk about few things.. but I try... some of it feels unnecessary..like it feels dramatic to say few things..lol...and thosefew things are for me, not for others ...or so it feels like.

Posted by Koniucha
I did with one person and they eventually turned it against me, so never again.

I am completely open with my family, that's it.

That's it? Wow! That's much more than I'm able to do. I'm impressed. 🙂

Posted by idk
i don't always say much...

but when i do it's usually tmi

the way i see it, if you don't like what i have to say now, you really won't like it later.

I see your point. But one question, though. Don't you think it's possible that people have a better chance of understanding what you tell them after they have gotten to know you better? I mean, one person's choices seen isolated without much context could be seen as pretty awful, but when you get a better picture of the situation and the person behind it, (get a better understanding of it) it's not gonna seem that bad after all.

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What about you...?

You are Capricorn, you should in fact talk about opening up! 😛

Me? Ehrm... Well... THAT'S CLASSIFIED! 😏

No, I am extreemely bad at it. It's really weird when I think of most people I know/have known telling me waaay more than I would ever tell anyone ever. Even weirder is that has been so natural to me that I haven't really thought about it until not long ago. I couldn't know if people have told me everything about themselves and their lives, ofc, but judging by what they have told me, I'd say there's not much I don't know - and me, I talk in a way that makes them believe that they know pretty much everything worth knowing. I can't believe I'v been getting away with it.

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I think its a common thing that happens with Capricorns. People write you off as simple, sorted, light hearted, sometimes even devoid of emotions... happy, because youd either put a poker face or be funny than dive into emotions... Even your username is happycapper.

Would you like to open up though?

Posted by whatthecrab
I open up when I see that there is a balance of respect in the relationship. The way someone delivers their "openness" gives me an indication of how to deal with it. Honesty is freeing. If you wear your true self with pride, no one will or can use it against you.

But do you open up all the way? And also, just because you don't tell people everything, doesn't mean you're not honest with them. Or? What do you think?

"The way someone delivers their "openness" gives me an indication of how to deal with it."
Totally agree.

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It means I feel comfortable..with you, and with expressing myself..

It's not quite possible to completely open up...lot of it is lost in ...trying to put words and frame sentences xD

Well... I don't really think i should question if beloved tells me "everything". I only think that "I am seeing everything i should" and, choose not to question beyond that. I have no right to. But ofcourse, when we talk to each other, I do my best to be there, support, give comfort, ask after them... I don't question beyond that.
It's definitely nice when we can share as much as words or eyes allow 😄

Thank you! Have you ever opened up to someone as much as words and body language can display?

That's a difficult question you put for a Scorpio moon 😏

I'm haven't, it doesn't look possible.. I can't figure out how to be open in some instances. I'm very open with my parents yes, but I freeze and go blank or cannot bring myself to talk about few things.. but I try... some of it feels unnecessary..like it feels dramatic to say few things..lol...and thosefew things are for me, not for others ...or so it feels like.

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Moon square pluto hears you. I don't even open up to my parents. Are you trying to get more open?

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It means I feel comfortable..with you, and with expressing myself..

It's not quite possible to completely open up...lot of it is lost in ...trying to put words and frame sentences xD

Well... I don't really think i should question if beloved tells me "everything". I only think that "I am seeing everything i should" and, choose not to question beyond that. I have no right to. But ofcourse, when we talk to each other, I do my best to be there, support, give comfort, ask after them... I don't question beyond that.
It's definitely nice when we can share as much as words or eyes allow 😄

Thank you! Have you ever opened up to someone as much as words and body language can display?

That's a difficult question you put for a Scorpio moon 😏

I'm haven't, it doesn't look possible.. I can't figure out how to be open in some instances. I'm very open with my parents yes, but I freeze and go blank or cannot bring myself to talk about few things.. but I try... some of it feels unnecessary..like it feels dramatic to say few things..lol...and thosefew things are for me, not for others ...or so it feels like.

Moon square pluto hears you. I don't even open up to my parents. Are you trying to get more open?

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I try...but it's a futile effort.. I can talk about it after I stop "feeling" about it sometimes..after a few months lol. I go blank mostly..dumb lol.

It's only few instances though, like sometimes when they hurt me, it's just shelved! Lol. I don't bring it up..

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I did with one person and they eventually turned it against me, so never again.

I am completely open with my family, that's it.

That's it? Wow! That's much more than I'm able to do. I'm impressed. 🙂

I have to be or else I would have lost my mind completely, long ago. I would say more with my parents, less with my brother and sister.

Wanted to add that I don't share sexual type things with them. Every once in a while, with something more benign perhaps

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Interesting. I've started to think that it would be beneficial for me to open up at least a little(partly why I'm on this site - I'm in training...anonymously😉), so I understand that. It's just so damned difficult. How does a fellow moon square pluto do that?

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What about you...?

You are Capricorn, you should in fact talk about opening up! 😛

Me? Ehrm... Well... THAT'S CLASSIFIED! 😏

No, I am extreemely bad at it. It's really weird when I think of most people I know/have known telling me waaay more than I would ever tell anyone ever. Even weirder is that has been so natural to me that I haven't really thought about it until not long ago. I couldn't know if people have told me everything about themselves and their lives, ofc, but judging by what they have told me, I'd say there's not much I don't know - and me, I talk in a way that makes them believe that they know pretty much everything worth knowing. I can't believe I'v been getting away with it.

🙂


I think its a common thing that happens with Capricorns. People write you off as simple, sorted, light hearted, sometimes even devoid of emotions... happy, because youd either put a poker face or be funny than dive into emotions... Even your username is happycapper.

Would you like to open up though?

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My name was actually brought from complete dry irony - it was so cheesy and fake happy that I couldn't resist.

I do think it's common for capricorn to put on a face outwardly, not willing to bother anyone else with our problems. I have heard simple, sorted and devoid of emotions, but light hearted...yup, this is the first time I've heard that.

For me, I think it goes beyond capricorn, though - I'm really terrible. Think it goes deeper than that. I would like to open up at least a little, because what i'm doing now is just plain weird.

Posted by LeoAquaRuler
Having been born on a full moon, my emotions are at its peak and always on display, if you cant handle it you gotta go.

I was born on a full moon as well - my emotions are rarely on display. Wish I could do what you do.

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It means I feel comfortable..with you, and with expressing myself..

It's not quite possible to completely open up...lot of it is lost in ...trying to put words and frame sentences xD

Well... I don't really think i should question if beloved tells me "everything". I only think that "I am seeing everything i should" and, choose not to question beyond that. I have no right to. But ofcourse, when we talk to each other, I do my best to be there, support, give comfort, ask after them... I don't question beyond that.
It's definitely nice when we can share as much as words or eyes allow 😄

Thank you! Have you ever opened up to someone as much as words and body language can display?

That's a difficult question you put for a Scorpio moon 😏

I'm haven't, it doesn't look possible.. I can't figure out how to be open in some instances. I'm very open with my parents yes, but I freeze and go blank or cannot bring myself to talk about few things.. but I try... some of it feels unnecessary..like it feels dramatic to say few things..lol...and thosefew things are for me, not for others ...or so it feels like.

Moon square pluto hears you. I don't even open up to my parents. Are you trying to get more open?

I try...but it's a futile effort.. I can talk about it after I stop "feeling" about it sometimes..after a few months lol. I go blank mostly..dumb lol.

It's only few instances though, like sometimes when they hurt me, it's just shelved! Lol. I don't bring it up..

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Yup. Again, I hear you!

Posted by tiziani
I'm open in general.

Telling each other everything? I'm not sure that's something within my control or anyone else's. Sometimes people can know you better than you know yourself, even just in moments.

Also sometimes you can be honest as the day is long with people without ever really sharing anything that risky or meaningful. If it's about "talking" I think you have to be able to ask each other meaningful questions to get meaningful answers. In that sense, honesty in discussion can just be a wall you bang your head against at times if both people never learn each other's rhythm and timing.

I'm talking about sex, obvs.

"Sometimes people can know you better than you know yourself, even just in moments."
Totally agree. Sometimes, you can be too much inside your head to see things clearly.

"Also sometimes you can be honest as the day is long with people without ever really sharing anything that risky or meaningful."
That's me in everyday life. I may share some small things that I find meaningful in the situation - maybe shared experiances. It's just that I keep it on a level that "keeps me out of it" in a way. Difficult to explain.

"In that sense, honesty in discussion can just be a wall you bang your head against at times if both people never learn each other's rhythm and timing."
Could you explain that further? I normally don't have a problem finding that with people I'm relatively close to. People I don't function well with in that way don't get that "close".

"I'm talking about sex, obvs."
But ofc.

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I did with one person and they eventually turned it against me, so never again.

I am completely open with my family, that's it.

That's it? Wow! That's much more than I'm able to do. I'm impressed. 🙂

I have to be or else I would have lost my mind completely, long ago. I would say more with my parents, less with my brother and sister.

Wanted to add that I don't share sexual type things with them. Every once in a while, with something more benign perhaps

Interesting. I've started to think that it would be beneficial for me to open up at least a little(partly why I'm on this site - I'm in training...anonymously😉), so I understand that. It's just so damned difficult. How does a fellow moon square pluto do that?

That is why I have to, to them at least. I tend to overthink so what started as a small thing, turns in to this monster I can't handle. I start to feel like my world is crumbling around me.

I have had stuff happen that has forced this. It just wasn't something I could handle alone anymore. I will call someone, my dad mainly, and then I feel as if a weight has been lifted and I can function again.

It is getting better, since I do now know my feelings can be extreme.

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That's what I would like to be able to do! I get pretty overwhelmed too but I point it inwards to no end with me as the only outlet - it's just that, somewhere there must be an end and I really don't want to reach it. I really wish I could do what you do!

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Having been born on a full moon, my emotions are at its peak and always on display, if you cant handle it you gotta go.

I was born on a full moon as well - my emotions are rarely on display. Wish I could do what you do.

So you have cancer moon?, nice! are lunar qualities of emotions and instincts reach their peak at a full moon.

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No, I'm a gem moon - just a few more minutes and I would have been a cancer moon, though. Hmm, I just realised that I must sound a little cancer moonish in this thread. No?🙂

What's your moon?

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Posted by HappyCapper "In that sense, honesty in discussion can just be a wall you bang your head against at times if both people never learn each other's rhythm and timing."
Could you explain that further? I normally don't have a problem finding that with people I'm relatively close to. People I don't function well with in that way don't get that "close".

It boils down to compassion imo.

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Probably, yes.

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Having been born on a full moon, my emotions are at its peak and always on display, if you cant handle it you gotta go.

I was born on a full moon as well - my emotions are rarely on display. Wish I could do what you do.

So you have cancer moon?, nice! are lunar qualities of emotions and instincts reach their peak at a full moon.

No, I'm a gem moon - just a few more minutes and I would have been a cancer moon, though. Hmm, I just realised that I must sound a little cancer moonish in this thread. No?🙂

What's your moon?

Thats quite unusual because almost all full moon have opposite sun and moon. You do sound a bit like a cancer. But after all you are a gem moon. I have aquarius moon, i was quite stunned when i found out i was born on a blue moon. Check if you were born on a blue moon?

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I do have a sun-moon opposition...in degree, not sign, though.

Born on a blue moon? Cool!

No, I was not born under a blue moon. Damn!😢 Or is that good? *blushes*

@idk

LOL Absolutely! Must say that if people were really inquisitive about what I was going to do, I would probalby not have a problem telling them either. Maybe switch on the GPS so they know which way I took to the bathroom. Scribble down how many sheets of paper I used. And also, there are colour sheets with different hues of brown so I could point at which one came closer to the original. Yup. If they really wanted to know, I'd tell them. I'm not very sensitive in that way, though.🙂

Yes, I totally agree - you have different relationships with different people. I never even had the birds and bees discussion with my parents and I would never ever bring that subject up with them. But I don't have a problem discussing sex with my friends...except no intimate details. I could discuss positions and gadgets all day long with them, but the intimate bonding part and with whom I did what, I leave way out of the discussion.

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Having been born on a full moon, my emotions are at its peak and always on display, if you cant handle it you gotta go.

I was born on a full moon as well - my emotions are rarely on display. Wish I could do what you do.

So you have cancer moon?, nice! are lunar qualities of emotions and instincts reach their peak at a full moon.

No, I'm a gem moon - just a few more minutes and I would have been a cancer moon, though. Hmm, I just realised that I must sound a little cancer moonish in this thread. No?🙂

What's your moon?

Thats quite unusual because almost all full moon have opposite sun and moon. You do sound a bit like a cancer. But after all you are a gem moon. I have aquarius moon, i was quite stunned when i found out i was born on a blue moon. Check if you were born on a blue moon?

I do have a sun-moon opposition...in degree, not sign, though.

Born on a blue moon? Cool!

No, I was not born under a blue moon. Damn!😢 Or is that good? *blushes*

ahh and yeah a blue moon can be the second full moon in a month, i see it as meaning something to me! whether it be something from my past life or future i don't know. But the folklore have some pretty cool things to say about it. Although it is depicted as being lonely and in despair.

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Oh. I'm so gonna read about it - sounds interesting. Thanks for opening my eyes to it! One thing we know for sure, though, is that whatever it means, it's special. I mean it only happens once in a...yeah, you know.😉

I am open too much and intense too soon.

It's not easy for mercury in taurus. I can't find the words so I do it by action. I also feel if u like someone I am straight up and an open book.

@whatthecrab

First of all:

"Sorry for turning this into something heavy" Seriously, I opened this thread and I can assure you that nothing you can say is too heavy. Don't worry and thanks for commenting!🙂

I have never lived in a war plagued country and I can't even imagine what that would be like. I'm so sorry that happened to you!

I have contemplated my own death, though, and I am quite at peace with it and have been since I was ten. If I told you what I've been through(good and bad) you wouldn't believe me. Whatever my life has been, it sure hasn't been boring - l'll tell you that much. On the subject, I can tell you that I have definitely faced death. What I'm trying to say is that I'm pretty sure I have the perspective.

You wrote that "Relationships are built on trust/openness". The trust has been there and they think I've been open(...ehrm...at least for the most part) - I've told them lots of stuff, just not what they will never know is also there. The only person who knows is me. I know it's kind of unfair, but it has been so natural for me to keep that kernel of myself to myself that it hasn't even crossed my mind what I've been doing until not long ago. And now I'm trying to do something about it - I just wish I knew how to do it. I have started, but the steps forward are so small it's pathetic.

More tips are very welcome - keep it as heavy as you like.🙂

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Having been born on a full moon, my emotions are at its peak and always on display, if you cant handle it you gotta go.

I was born on a full moon as well - my emotions are rarely on display. Wish I could do what you do.

So you have cancer moon?, nice! are lunar qualities of emotions and instincts reach their peak at a full moon.

No, I'm a gem moon - just a few more minutes and I would have been a cancer moon, though. Hmm, I just realised that I must sound a little cancer moonish in this thread. No?🙂

What's your moon?

Thats quite unusual because almost all full moon have opposite sun and moon. You do sound a bit like a cancer. But after all you are a gem moon. I have aquarius moon, i was quite stunned when i found out i was born on a blue moon. Check if you were born on a blue moon?

I do have a sun-moon opposition...in degree, not sign, though.

Born on a blue moon? Cool!

No, I was not born under a blue moon. Damn!😢 Or is that good? *blushes*

ahh and yeah a blue moon can be the second full moon in a month, i see it as meaning something to me! whether it be something from my past life or future i don't know. But the folklore have some pretty cool things to say about it. Although it is depicted as being lonely and in despair.

I must say i did have a rather fortunate and weird but funky childhood.

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That's pretty awsome! I'm happy for you!🙂

Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428
I am open too much and intense too soon.

Teach me, oh wise one.🙂

The mean value of us would probably be pretty great.😉

Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428
It's not easy for mercury in taurus. I can't find the words so I do it by action. I also feel if u like someone I am straight up and an open book.

That sounds wonderful - uncomplicated. And who says you can't be like that - you're a friggin gold mine to people who had to deal with people like me.🙂

Posted by BullShit
I'm an open book, but my drafts and scratch paper is usually not open to anyone. I did however completely open up to my ex scorp like I've never done with anyone not even my best friends or family. Felt used and abused afterwards. Don't know if I can do it again. I usually keep my open book mindset so I can make the other person feel safe and calm around me.

Yeah, don't be like me. Yes, you risk getting hurt...but if you do get hurt, you get up again - stronger.

(at least, that's what I try to tell myself...)

You already have it in you to be open, so please don't close yourself off...or you'll be like me. Was that motivation, or what?😏

Posted by xyIrising
I'm open but it's one of those "hidden in the most obvious place"

Oh. If I understand you correctly, I use that trick too. Neat, isn't it?🙂

Does it make us open, though?

Posted by littlemegabytes
After my last relationship ended with an Aqua and left me wounded for more than a year, I had always accused him of "never opening up" to me. But it wasn't until much after the breakup that I had the revelation that it was me who never opened up to him.

I never accepted his love willingly and even now, in my current relationship, it almost feels like if someone ever wants to love me, they have to be dragged around to the ends of earth in a series of obstacles. Maybe once they arrived at the finish line, I would accept it, or maybe sometimes still not. When they try to turn those cards back on me, I can't seem to articulate anything besides "okay bye then." At least now I'm consciously aware that instead of testing people that I love, maybe I should allow them access to my life instead. The problem is that's easier said than done. It's a difficult step to make and one that I hadn't been able to make yet. Maybe one day.

It's friggin difficult. I'm sitting here thinking about how bad I've been in my relationships and it's even worse than I thought it was when I opened this thread. I honestly have no idea how these guys could stand me for more than a month - and they didn't even complain...much. Friggin saints.

I wish I could give you any form of advice other than "relax, give him a chance and trust him" Also think it would have been a lot easier to write this if I would have been anything close to a rolemodel. It's so much easier in theory than it is in practice, isn't it? I'm single, so it's easier for me to sit here and speculate - you are in a relationship and are pretty much forced to roll up your sleeves.

Oh well, at least we're aware - but what is our plan? Do you have a plan?

if you are talking about opening up in a romantic relationship, how emotionally compatible two people are play a big role. i'm very emotionally expressive with the right partner yet i couldn't open up to any of my ex until i wanted out. i learned that emotional compatibility is crucial for me to reach my true potential in a love relationship. it did take a bit of time to get more and more comfortable with the right person but with the wrong person there was always this blockage.

Nope. I dont do that shit no more.

@HappyCapper- Yeah I try to be simple, straight up and I am so straight forward. I do spot inconsistencies in others as why I trust usually right away until you give me the reason to detach, over think, and then I come back and speak my mind. It takes a lot of energy to always confront. I should not be always asking someone if they like me, do you love me, how do you see each other, is there anything wrong, is their actions giving me an impression of something odd, because I will notice it the more I am around them. I should see the consistencies right away within a certain timeline.

As I am a grounded earth sign so I am very steady..I have a very hard time expressing but not if there's a connection almost like I will lock on a target and get to know that person better. So I can see if they can endure my moods, I do have an air moon so I embrace emotions but make sure there are legit and sincere.

I embrace you come my dear, I like you!

Posted by HappyCapper
When you "open up" to someone - what does that mean? Have you ever opened up completely to someone?

When you and another person "tell each other everything" - what does that really mean? Do you really tell each other everything?

I'm talking about the people who are/have been the closest to you.

I'm a very open person...one thing I can think of is that I sometimes don't open not because I don't want to ...but because I can't remember all the details of my life. I will bring that up at another point so there's no secrecy to me.

However...

...I can gauge really well why people want to know some things and a lot of people want to know when they...don't really want to know, you know? In that case..it's meaningless.

I'm a vulnerability fiend and a first house Neptune so it's all perception truly. Kaleidoscope. The best disguise is always a self portrait.

My father knows me best, he might be the only person to know me before I figure out myself from time to time. The rest of my family...they have no clue. Not because I haven't opened up, it's because their bias is very strong so I just don't bother clarify some things that are obvious. Smug maybe but..it's an insult to my intelligence.

My friends also know a lot...but it's funny because to me opening up with major things I've been through hasn't been a problem. It's the idle thoughts, the random ideas and emotions I get ...where I am liable not to share them if it makes sense. Those make up a private world and I'd have to gauge if I can pull you in..not because I'm worried of betrayal but because you'd have to vibe in the same way with me to get it and that's a dynamic better suited for partnership. It's a bit like this story I read about putting stones in a jar then presenting it to people like "Look, it's full to the brink". Then they all agree and you add sand to it, proving it wasn't really full. So the stones aka milestones in my life I share easily because they don't define me...,it's more the sand that defines me. But the best people? They don't care about sand or stones or anything, we just build a universe and live in it. No words or great confessions needed at times.

No idea, cause I can't open up to ANYONE fully.

Posted by iCloud9
if you are talking about opening up in a romantic relationship, how emotionally compatible two people are play a big role. i'm very emotionally expressive with the right partner yet i couldn't open up to any of my ex until i wanted out. i learned that emotional compatibility is crucial for me to reach my true potential in a love relationship. it did take a bit of time to get more and more comfortable with the right person but with the wrong person there was always this blockage.

I'm talking about any human relationship.

May I ask, have you ever opened up to someone completely?

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Posted by BullShit
I'm an open book, but my drafts and scratch paper is usually not open to anyone. I did however completely open up to my ex scorp like I've never done with anyone not even my best friends or family. Felt used and abused afterwards. Don't know if I can do it again. I usually keep my open book mindset so I can make the other person feel safe and calm around me.

Yeah, don't be like me. Yes, you risk getting hurt...but if you do get hurt, you get up again - stronger.

(at least, that's what I try to tell myself...)

You already have it in you to be open, so please don't close yourself off...or you'll be like me. Was that motivation, or what?😏

Stop being so wise!! 😄 I wanna be irrational and guard my heart like a peach guards it's core. But on a real note, i know i'll eventually find someone to be that open with just it may take a little bit this time.

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But I can't. It's a compulsion. I just keep doing it. Aaaarrrrrgh!😉

Good to hear!🙂

Posted by malloryor
Nope. I dont do that shit no more.

But you used to?

Got burned?

Posted by littlemegabytes
Today I talked to Sven and said "I want to work on being a better girlfriend to you because I really love you a whole lot." Lol do you know how lame that sounds saying out loud? 😆 Anyway, at this point I'll continue in private message.

The classical: if I do THIS to you and you still stay...then maaaybe you could be able to stand me long term? Must admit to having done that. Just once or twice, but still. 😢

But thing is: you're older and wiser now - you know yourself better - have learnt from your mistakes - are prepared - stronger...and as proof of that:

"Today I talked to Sven and said "I want to work on being a better girlfriend to you because I really love you a whole lot.."

That is so awsome and, yes, brave. Not everyone have the guts to do that.

Kudos!🙂

Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428
@HappyCapper- Yeah I try to be simple, straight up and I am so straight forward. I do spot inconsistencies in others as why I trust usually right away until you give me the reason to detach, over think, and then I come back and speak my mind. It takes a lot of energy to always confront. I should not be always asking someone if they like me, do you love me, how do you see each other, is there anything wrong, is their actions giving me an impression of something odd, because I will notice it the more I am around them. I should see the consistencies right away within a certain timeline.

As I am a grounded earth sign so I am very steady..I have a very hard time expressing but not if there's a connection almost like I will lock on a target and get to know that person better. So I can see if they can endure my moods, I do have an air moon so I embrace emotions but make sure there are legit and sincere.

I embrace you come my dear, I like you!

I can imagine some people might get scared by that and draw back, but I gotta be honest. This dating thing is so weird to me. It's like you're supposed to buy a friggin manual and behave accordingly or no one will like you. And then when two people have found each other, the masks start to wear off and both find themselves in their true personalities and the other person goes ——————? Who is this person? And they inevitably break up. Why not just be yourself from the very beginning, like you are?

Sure, a person could probably learn a few tricks that make them grow, but...

And also, just being yourself without having to pretend this or that would probably make the person less nervous and more comfortable and confident in the situation...making the chance of success so much bigger. Imo. But I don't know - I'm not American, so I don't have to date. Mwahahahahaaaa🙂

Posted by BullShit

Posted by littlemegabytes
Today I talked to Sven and said "I want to work on being a better girlfriend to you because I really love you a whole lot." Lol do you know how lame that sounds saying out loud? 😆 Anyway, at this point I'll continue in private message.

That does not sound lame. AT ALL. DO you know how much that means to a guy? It really gives him reassurance and will make him love you even more.

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Yup.

Posted by champranger

Posted by HappyCapper
When you "open up" to someone - what does that mean? Have you ever opened up completely to someone?

When you and another person "tell each other everything" - what does that really mean? Do you really tell each other everything?

I'm talking about the people who are/have been the closest to you.

Pretty close to fully open:
Friends (met in person) - 1 Cap

Family - It use to be my younger Scorp cousin until I come to realize that she's never gonna trust me (for some reason). Now it's my Scorp mom.

I have a hard time resisting opening up to a Scorp by the way. I'm not sure I understand why.

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You know you can trust your mom and cousin and you see similar traits in other scorps - maybe that's why?

And caps? Well, ofc! 😄

Must be great to be able to just let go and trust another person who gives you time and support! Takes guts. I'm happy for you!🙂