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Stop using "gay" as an insult..
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What if it really *is* homoerotic, like boybands and pop music?
I reserve the right to call showtunes gay.
Posted by DopeFlyWhat if it really *is* homoerotic, like boybands and pop music?
I reserve the right to call showtunes gay.
Why are you homophobic?
Posted by CoffeeAndCreamis it an insult?
Just like calling bisexuals greedy. Chill it with the microaggressions. Sexuality is no different than race or disability.
Posted by MrsElleCappysnatchCan we add "retarded" too?
I have to be honest....when someone uses either of those words, I totally am judging their intelligence.
Sorry, not sorry
It's like, you can't find a more appropriate word to accurately describe your thoughts in an adult manner? There are like a billion words to choose from.
Exactly
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It's not being "insensitive". It's called not putting up with homophobic bullying.
Posted by _DazedPosted by DopeFlyWhat if it really *is* homoerotic, like boybands and pop music?
I reserve the right to call showtunes gay.
Why are you homophobic?
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Those things are literally gay. Stop zo-ing and take off your cape.
Posted by DopeFlyPosted by _DazedPosted by DopeFlyWhat if it really *is* homoerotic, like boybands and pop music?
I reserve the right to call showtunes gay.
Why are you homophobic?
Those things are literally gay. Stop zo-ing and take off your cape.
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Boybands and pop music are sexual identities?
Posted by GenXgemWhat about using gay as a compliment?
Post your chart.
Posted by _DazedPosted by DopeFlyPosted by _DazedPosted by DopeFlyWhat if it really *is* homoerotic, like boybands and pop music?
I reserve the right to call showtunes gay.
Why are you homophobic?
Those things are literally gay. Stop zo-ing and take off your cape.
Boybands and pop music are sexual identities?
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Lame
Posted by CoffeeAndCreamPosted by _DazedPosted by CoffeeAndCreamis it an insult?
Just like calling bisexuals greedy. Chill it with the microaggressions. Sexuality is no different than race or disability.
nah I'm sharing my opinion and you need to chill with trying to shut my freedom of expression
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You agree not to post, email, or otherwise make available Content:
c) that harasses, degrades, intimidates or is hateful toward an individual or group of individuals on the basis of religion, gender, sexual orientation, race, ethnicity, age, or disability;
Posted by GenXgemWhat about using gay as a compliment?
That would be rather vintage
Posted by GenXgemPosted by _DazedPosted by GenXgemWhat about using gay as a compliment?
Post your chart.
Ok. But after you post yours.
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It's in my profile
Posted by CoffeeAndCreamPosted by _DazedPosted by CoffeeAndCreamPosted by _DazedPosted by CoffeeAndCreamis it an insult?
Just like calling bisexuals greedy. Chill it with the microaggressions. Sexuality is no different than race or disability.
nah I'm sharing my opinion and you need to chill with trying to shut my freedom of expression
Dxp disagrees..
7. CONDUCT
You agree not to post, email, or otherwise make available Content:
c) that harasses, degrades, intimidates or is hateful toward an individual or group of individuals on the basis of religion, gender, sexual orientation, race, ethnicity, age, or disability;
Thats an extreme reach that saying gay would entail harassment intimidates and is hateful
you're reaching.
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It's always interesting to me how one thing applies to race for you.. but not when it comes to sexuality.
Posted by GenXgemPosted by DopeFlyPosted by GenXgemWhat about using gay as a compliment?
That would be rather vintage
Vintage how? You mean out dated?
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As in, retro, because that's what people did prior to the 1960s.
Posted by CoffeeAndCreamI love how Gay people try to equate their cause to black people. Stop that BS - Black people agenda and LGBTQ agenda is two different things.
1) Black people are conservative - just because a black person is for the black cause don't mean they need to back LGBTQ, most don't even agree with it - and racism to them is more of a problem than sexual orientation
2) 30% -40% Of Gay men (presuming they are white) voted for Trump (because white patriarchy)
Stop all this hem hawing
We're not all in the same fight.
Nobody said the struggle/cause is the same.
The discrimination based on perceived differences is.
Posted by CoffeeAndCreamPosted by Sith_RogenPosted by CoffeeAndCreamPosted by Sith_RogenPeople are still using "gay" as an insult in 2020?
Let me guess...they think an And 1 shirt, basketball shorts, knee socks, and slides is acceptable fashion in their 30s?
How does one use "gay" as an insult, saying something is agay is not an insult.
So are you okay with someone calling something they think is stupid "ablack"?
Stupid? Who siad anythhing about calling something stupid "agay" look I get it it's a slippery slope and I get your point- but that word meant something else before the gay community hijacked it
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You need a history lesson.
Posted by CoffeeAndCreamPosted by Sith_RogenPosted by CoffeeAndCreamI love how Gay people try to equate their cause to black people. Stop that BS - Black people agenda and LGBTQ agenda is two different things.
1) Black people are conservative - just because a black person is for the black cause don't mean they need to back LGBTQ, most don't even agree with it - and racism to them is more of a problem than sexual orientation
2) 30% -40% Of Gay men (presuming they are white) voted for Trump (because white patriarchy)
Stop all this hem hawing
We're not all in the same fight.
It's not a contest.
It's respecting people for who they are.
i don't respect gays who voted for Trump sorry.
Not all gays are the same, just like not all black people are a monolith.
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You literally just grouped all black folks into one category.
Posted by CoffeeAndCreamPosted by _DazedPosted by CoffeeAndCreamPosted by Sith_RogenPosted by CoffeeAndCreamI love how Gay people try to equate their cause to black people. Stop that BS - Black people agenda and LGBTQ agenda is two different things.
1) Black people are conservative - just because a black person is for the black cause don't mean they need to back LGBTQ, most don't even agree with it - and racism to them is more of a problem than sexual orientation
2) 30% -40% Of Gay men (presuming they are white) voted for Trump (because white patriarchy)
Stop all this hem hawing
We're not all in the same fight.
It's not a contest.
It's respecting people for who they are.
i don't respect gays who voted for Trump sorry.
Not all gays are the same, just like not all black people are a monolith.
You literally just grouped all black folks into one category.
I am speaking of majority here...but keep looking for details.
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It'll be nice when you finally come to terms with your homophobia so we can properly address it.
Posted by CoffeeAndCreamPosted by _DazedPosted by CoffeeAndCreamPosted by _DazedPosted by CoffeeAndCreamPosted by Sith_RogenPosted by CoffeeAndCreamI love how Gay people try to equate their cause to black people. Stop that BS - Black people agenda and LGBTQ agenda is two different things.
1) Black people are conservative - just because a black person is for the black cause don't mean they need to back LGBTQ, most don't even agree with it - and racism to them is more of a problem than sexual orientation
2) 30% -40% Of Gay men (presuming they are white) voted for Trump (because white patriarchy)
Stop all this hem hawing
We're not all in the same fight.
It's not a contest.
It's respecting people for who they are.
i don't respect gays who voted for Trump sorry.
Not all gays are the same, just like not all black people are a monolith.
You literally just grouped all black folks into one category.
I am speaking of majority here...but keep looking for details.
It'll be nice when you finally come to terms with your homophobia so we can properly address it.
I'm not homophobic at all, but keep stating that if it'll make you sleep easier at night.
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You've come a long way, but your homophobia is well documented here.
Posted by CoffeeAndCreamPosted by Moon_RiverJust gonna nudge this one out there.
and this is why America lost to trumpism 2016
ya'll can't read the tea leaves or know what people are truly thinking - pushing idealogy down people throat they don't want. I am only speaking from what I witness/read/see all the time being around people of color.
Someone else can have a different experience
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Trumpism? Are you talking about pushing race down their throats?
Posted by GenXgemPosted by DopeFlyPosted by GenXgemPosted by DopeFlyPosted by GenXgemWhat about using gay as a compliment?
That would be rather vintage
Vintage how? You mean out dated?
As in, retro, because that's what people did prior to the 1960s.
I meant more like “that style looks gay but I’d definitely wear it because gays have good sense of fashion”. My hair dresser is gay and I choose him because he is gay and a man, and I think he does best job, better than all the others did.
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Okay, so you're into stereotypes
You know how much of a Trumper you sound like when you say Black folks don't like the gays because of Conservativism?
Posted by CoffeeAndCreamPosted by Moon_RiverPosted by CoffeeAndCreamPosted by Moon_RiverJust gonna nudge this one out there.
and this is why America lost to trumpism 2016
ya'll can't read the tea leaves or know what people are truly thinking - pushing idealogy down people throat they don't want. I am only speaking from what I witness/read/see all the time being around people of color.
Someone else can have a different experience
I don’t have experience living as a black person but the ones I am friends with and interact with have extremely different views than what you are putting out there in this thread.
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That whole monolith thing....
Most Black people grow up in the church. But okay compare PNW , which has .05% black people the most dense black populations in America
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Most racist white people go to church.
Posted by CoffeeAndCreamPosted by _DazedYou know how much of a Trumper you sound like when you say Black folks don't like the gays because of Conservativism?
No, that's not what i am saying, i am saying they hate the association of we have same fight/cause.
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So you didn't mean that being gay goes against their Conservative, Christian beliefs?
Posted by GenXgemPosted by DopeFlyPosted by GenXgemPosted by DopeFlyPosted by GenXgemPosted by DopeFlyPosted by GenXgemWhat about using gay as a compliment?
That would be rather vintage
Vintage how? You mean out dated?
As in, retro, because that's what people did prior to the 1960s.
I meant more like “that style looks gay but I’d definitely wear it because gays have good sense of fashion”. My hair dresser is gay and I choose him because he is gay and a man, and I think he does best job, better than all the others did.
Okay, so you're into stereotypes
I am into honesty and keeping it real. We all do stereotyping, in some form or fashion.
I genuinely admire some things gay people do and I think they do it better than the rest. I hope it’s not offensive to compliment them on it?
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Well, it's sort of like saying Jews are naturally good bankers or that black people are exceptionally good at basketball and singing. So, yeah, if I were you I'd hold back on giving that as a compliment.
Posted by ElvisStalinWoodsAgain, who really cares? Asking seriously in the idea that it's pretty much agreed on that anyone who uses "Gay", "Retarded" and other words brandished in a derogatory manner aren't often worth paying any mind to.
Hate, bullying, oppression & co. all have worse manifestations. And I stand by anyone who wants to defend others against people who want to threaten another's wellbeing.
That being said; life is hard and it will never, ever be a utopia. If someone in an age range outside of the last throes of teen angst--say 22yrs old max., to be generous--is still suffering heavily because of words lobbed at them by an ignorant asshole, I'm not sure they're even worth defending.
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I think it not only depends on the intention but also your accent...for example, British people can call me queer and a “fairy” all day because it’s too funny to be insulted
Not even trying to make a joke
I’m serious
Research the history of the word gay, particularly the early 19th century's use of the word.
Posted by Moon_RiverPosted by QueenofthepheasantfairiesResearch the history of the word gay, particularly the early 19th century's use of the word.
That’s quite obviously not the meaning he’s mentioning if you read the bit in the title after the word gay. 🙄
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I never said otherwise. I said research the history of the word. Its interesting.
Posted by Moon_RiverPosted by QueenofthepheasantfairiesPosted by Moon_RiverPosted by QueenofthepheasantfairiesResearch the history of the word gay, particularly the early 19th century's use of the word.
That’s quite obviously not the meaning he’s mentioning if you read the bit in the title after the word gay. 🙄
I never said otherwise. I said research the history of the word. Its interesting.
But we aren’t talking or using it about prostitution at this point? Yeah the history is interesting but the current usage since circa mid 1990s from what I remember is referring to things that are lame or uncool as “gay” which honestly I used up until I was a teenager. Was a hard habit to break.
But once I grasped what I was really saying it felt necessary.
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Yeah there was a case here in UK about a radio dj who used it in similar reference if I recall. I think alot of kids used to, but thankfully times do change for most people
Posted by _DazedRegardless of the way you mean it to be used.
What is the proper word so we don't make that mistake?
Posted by aquarius_man_It was out of excessive love for the LGBTQ community that the OP was posting pics of another DXP user on the front page the other day, in the comments section. Parading 'Carlos' around in a futile attempt to troll me seemed like paki-bashing. So, I guess it's safe to say OP is a closet homophobe . As for the other one, the female support secretary , she's just clueless. She erroneously thinks that being politically correct means shoving your opinions down everyone's throat. That's a form of fascism, intolerance and policy of thought. OP and the woman are hypocrites.
I guess our DXP duo should be more like this, gay as in gay Paree :
You're pjxscott?
If not, you're post above means shit. It also means you're not an aqua.
Posted by ElvisStalinWoodsAgain, who really cares? Asking seriously in the idea that it's pretty much agreed on that anyone who uses "Gay", "Retarded" and other words brandished in a derogatory manner aren't often worth paying any mind to.
Hate, bullying, oppression & co. all have worse manifestations. And I stand by anyone who wants to defend others against people who want to threaten another's wellbeing.
That being said; life is hard and it will never, ever be a utopia. If someone in an age range outside of the last throes of teen angst--say 22yrs old max., to be generous--is still suffering heavily because of words lobbed at them by an ignorant asshole, I'm not sure they're even worth defending.
The target audience of this thread isn't here (not surprisingly), but their condoning of said terms by her young son among himself and friends, is the purpose of the thread.
Words like this don't cut me. But I do think it's important to point out that if grown ass users here are capable of throwing them around without regard, there's no doubt in my mind that they are doing so around their children as well, whom are most likely using it around their friends and other children.
Posted by QueenofthepheasantfairiesResearch the history of the word gay, particularly the early 19th century's use of the word.
What does that have to do with using it as a means to insult?
Posted by NemDeuxi need a fag right now lmao
I'm going to assume you mean "cigarette".. which means you didn't understand the intent of the thread. Not surprised.
Posted by QueenofthepheasantfairiesPosted by Moon_RiverPosted by QueenofthepheasantfairiesResearch the history of the word gay, particularly the early 19th century's use of the word.
That’s quite obviously not the meaning he’s mentioning if you read the bit in the title after the word gay. 🙄
I never said otherwise. I said research the history of the word. Its interesting.
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Is your goal here to contribute and inform the readers of this thread? Or is it to back up your ringleader?
Posted by DonnaLibraPosted by _DazedRegardless of the way you mean it to be used.
What is the proper word so we don't make that mistake?
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Lame
Uncool
Weak
Take your pick.
Posted by aquarius_man_Posted by _DazedPosted by NemDeuxi need a fag right now lmao
I'm going to assume you mean "cigarette".. which means you didn't understand the intent of the thread. Not surprised.
She meant f a g
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No shit. "fag" as in a cigarette. Which is why DXP's language filter changes "fag" to "cig"
Posted by aquarius_man_Posted by _DazedPosted by aquarius_man_Posted by _DazedPosted by NemDeuxi need a fag right now lmao
I'm going to assume you mean "cigarette".. which means you didn't understand the intent of the thread. Not surprised.
She meant f a g
No shit. "fag" as in a cigarette. Which is why DXP's language filter changes "fag" to "cig"
Yes but you need to look at this in a certain context. You can bum a f a g off someone, but you can’t call them a poofter
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"which means you didn't understand the intent of the thread. Not surprised."
Posted by CoffeeAndCreamPosted by capincc
Finally someone had the balls to say it.
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Thank you for using "balls" as a term defining strength.
Posted by CoffeeAndCreamPosted by _DazedPosted by CoffeeAndCreamPosted by capincc
Finally someone had the balls to say it.
Thank you for using "balls" as a term defining strength.
ok so now i can't say balls...
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I didn't say that. It's just an interesting choice of words to describe strength.
Posted by aquarius_man_Posted by _DazedPosted by aquarius_man_Posted by _DazedPosted by aquarius_man_Posted by _DazedPosted by NemDeuxi need a fag right now lmao
I'm going to assume you mean "cigarette".. which means you didn't understand the intent of the thread. Not surprised.
She meant f a g
No shit. "fag" as in a cigarette. Which is why DXP's language filter changes "fag" to "cig"
Yes but you need to look at this in a certain context. You can bum a f a g off someone, but you can’t call them a poofter
"which means you didn't understand the intent of the thread. Not surprised."
I don’t know what you meant by it I’ll admit but one thing is certain: I will always speak my mind. And you’re a hypocrite.
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Okay Carlos.
Posted by CoffeeAndCreamPosted by _DazedPosted by CoffeeAndCreamPosted by _DazedPosted by CoffeeAndCreamPosted by capincc
Finally someone had the balls to say it.
Thank you for using "balls" as a term defining strength.
ok so now i can't say balls...
I didn't say that. It's just an interesting choice of words to describe strength.
Thanks for being gay enough to post that capincc!
Feel better?
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This is why no one takes you seriously.
Posted by Aqua-MarineOh the hypocrisy is unbearable
Oh do explain..
Like most things, context matters.
My gay friends refer to me as faghag. I wear that tittle with pride.
Language is funny like that tho. Certain terms that were insulting and derogatory have been reclaimed and are worn as a badge of pride, like queer or n word. But you really should be part of that community in order to use that term. Otherwise your gonna offend.
But I promise you, people are more concerned about you voting to take away their basic rights as a human being then the derogatory terms your using to describe them.
Posted by CoffeeAndCreamToday i am feeling agay, should i get a croissant with my watered down coffee?
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Posted by Aqua-MarinePosted by _DazedPosted by Aqua-MarineOh the hypocrisy is unbearable
Oh do explain..
Do you really need me to?
You are playing some sort of social justice white night. Talking about “bullying” when you have bullied so many people on here. I don’t even know why you tagged me in this thread when I had nothing to do with the topic of using the word gay. I don’t like that word being used as an insult but I never said anything about that. I just replied with a gif to NemDeux cause I agreed with her post about moonriver taking everything out of context.
But gosh acting like you care now about people bullying others. I guess you only care about seeming like some social warrior but an individual person you don’t care about. So this is hypocritical. Bullying is bullying period.
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Who have I bullied?
Posted by Aqua-MarinePosted by NemDeuxPosted by Moon_RiverPosted by NemDeuxPosted by Moon_RiverPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by aquarius_man_Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by aquarius_man_Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by Moon_RiverPosted by aquarius_man_Virgo moon sounds kinda gay no offence is that my best match booo 😝
No. And “gay” isn’t something you should use in a negative context.
Unless you mean “happy”.
My son uses it a lot and i say to him "you'll get your lights punched out one day if you say that to a gay person".....he says "i do" and they laugh and do it themselves.....you're far too sensitive Mum".
To be fair he can take it back and gets called stuff but like he says they're not too sensitive...
You re prejudiced, gay people don't mind it. It's how they define themselves sexually, why would it be an offensive term—————————??
Anyway, what I meant is, str8 from the Urban Dictionary: 'So Gay not necessarily meaning homosexual, gay can mean stupid or pointless, even meek, lame or timid.'
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To conclusions maybe?
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Always,
but this time I thought I was replying to Magic Moon
My bad
Magic Moon
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cheers to that.
here´s to hoping that in your next reincarnation on dxp you´re not gonna be this insufferable.
like wtf really.
Still butt hurt about Pisces women threads? 😂😂😂
no. i don´t give a shit about starsigns.
i just see you blowing every little shit out of context. no matter the topic.
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Posted by Aqua-MarinePosted by _DazedPosted by Aqua-MarinePosted by _DazedPosted by Aqua-MarineOh the hypocrisy is unbearable
Oh do explain..
Do you really need me to?
You are playing some sort of social justice white night. Talking about “bullying” when you have bullied so many people on here. I don’t even know why you tagged me in this thread when I had nothing to do with the topic of using the word gay. I don’t like that word being used as an insult but I never said anything about that. I just replied with a gif to NemDeux cause I agreed with her post about moonriver taking everything out of context.
But gosh acting like you care now about people bullying others. I guess you only care about seeming like some social warrior but an individual person you don’t care about. So this is hypocritical. Bullying is bullying period.
Who have I bullied?
I shouldn’t have to tell you who you bullied. If you cant see it yourself then there’s a problem.
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Or is it because those that I attack are just as much a bully as you consider me, but you back them up because they are your "friends"?
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Regardless of the way you mean it to be used.