What I've learned.

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I actually believed dxpnet wouldn't come back up. It's easy for a Scorpio moon to believe the worst, especially mixed with some of the rumors I was seeing. I know it was only a week or 2, but still I though the site was over. For many reasons. One in particular is how much people, or at least myself take this place for granted. I log in every day, vent what I want, post what I want, act toxic when I want, and pretty much do things for myself. It wasn't until it was down I realized how important this place is. Just the site itself is amazing. It doesn't even remind me of a forum. Imo it's much more than that. Its like all social media sites combined, mixed with astrology and then some. Nothing will ever be like dxp, and nothing will ever truly replace it. Though the connection that some people have to this place and each other will last way past the life of this site. There is always a plan B, and regular members would try their best to recreate something in honor of this place. Just to keep the connection going.

Something I never really realized but should have is nothing is guaranteed to last forever. Especally when you have no idea who is controlling the things in the first place. We just assume because everything worked fine for 20 years that it will last forever. That isn't the case with anything in life though. Which brings me to my point. This place is more then an astrology site to me and many others. Its like a home. A safe private place where somewhat like-minded people can congregate. Its also hardly moderated, so people can feel comfortable and show their deeper side, which makes it easier to study placements and astrology. This place is practically perfect imo. Its just we never truly know how long it will last. So while it's still here respect the site and the community the best you can. Its all about having fun and the priceless connections that will never be obtained the same way anywhere else.

I know some people are likely thinking "Stop being a big paranoid baby Soul." but I mean this in a strong mature way. It's like the saying you don't know what you had till it's gone, and that saying holds true for me. Its really weird but I feel differently about this place now. In a positive way. Maybe this outage was a good thing for others also, or maybe it's just me. I just wanted to get this out while I still can lol. Anyway I'm glad I had the chance to come back here and see you all again. I have lots of faith and hope that everything will be fine. I hope you all are doing well, and I'm really happy we have this moment to chat again.
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Posted by GC02
β€œI’m not sure what it is, but I just can't relate to this place anymore. All the topics are just uninteresting imo. Maybe I'm just getting too old for all this childish drama. I really wish I could be like some of the great dxp Leos like Seraph, Monty, or Wagtail, but instead I just find myself constantly knee deep in bs I truly dislike. People around here wonder why dxp is so bad today. It's all these people with the ME ME ME attitude. Holding on to a dxp award or title like it's actually a great accomplishment. Most people here don't reach out to help members or give advice. They just stick around to brag and fulfill their own selfish needs. I'm just sick of it and truly dislike these people. They mean nothing in the big picture of life, yet they think they do. This place just feels like Hell. Then I realize me deleting is just as selfish and those I can't stand. The only reason I stay is because of the Chill Music Thread. I feel that thread is special to some people, and those that come to post and listen get to connect and relate on a spiritual level. It's somewhat like medicine and its beautiful. If me sticking around and suffering means others get to feel good for just a moment and mend a bit then it's all worth it. With this new view Hell begins to feel like home.”

-Soul

Wow coming from the guy who said he only stays for the chill music threadβ€” πŸ˜‚πŸ‘πŸΌ

I’m teasing but still.....


All of that was just some bs I was throwing around as a reason to why I would never comform to this place and the people. Many people liked it too. Those same people however freaked out when this place went down, myself included. Its impossible to resist. If you're a regular here, or even check in every now and then you've considered this place a home long ago.

If anything I want those same people who agreed with me then to agree with me now. Its not about the likes, validation, or even being most popular. Its about everything. All the people, all the topics, and every single thing. I realize that now.

Even with that post I hint my love for this place. Not just me also, but for many members. "With this new view Hell begins to feel like home." It doesn't have to be Hell though. Its whatever we the members make it. That doesn't just go for this site too, but for life in general.
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Posted by GC02
β€œI’m not sure what it is, but I just can't relate to this place anymore. All the topics are just uninteresting imo. Maybe I'm just getting too old for all this childish drama. I really wish I could be like some of the great dxp Leos like Seraph, Monty, or Wagtail, but instead I just find myself constantly knee deep in bs I truly dislike. People around here wonder why dxp is so bad today. It's all these people with the ME ME ME attitude. Holding on to a dxp award or title like it's actually a great accomplishment. Most people here don't reach out to help members or give advice. They just stick around to brag and fulfill their own selfish needs. I'm just sick of it and truly dislike these people. They mean nothing in the big picture of life, yet they think they do. This place just feels like Hell. Then I realize me deleting is just as selfish and those I can't stand. The only reason I stay is because of the Chill Music Thread. I feel that thread is special to some people, and those that come to post and listen get to connect and relate on a spiritual level. It's somewhat like medicine and its beautiful. If me sticking around and suffering means others get to feel good for just a moment and mend a bit then it's all worth it. With this new view Hell begins to feel like home.”

-Soul

Wow coming from the guy who said he only stays for the chill music threadβ€” πŸ˜‚πŸ‘πŸΌ

I’m teasing but still.....


this thread is him full on embracing the addiction. before he was in denial. but now he's at peace with it. lol

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There's no escaping it. We could point out the positives or negatives all day. In the end this place means a lot to many different people. I've personally seen that first hand, and developed a new respect for this place and everyone that embodies it. For the good and bad.
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Posted by CrimsonGirl
I kinda felt like my pet died or something. I think my Scorpioness kicked into overdrive and I was like "Well I guess I'll never talk to any of those people again. Too bad. Such is life" lmao! But I was really sad. I'm very very happy it's back up and running though and I almost want to give out my actual name incase it happens again so people can hit me up lol.
Add people you like on FB if you have one. If worst comes to worst people will reach out and keep connected.

I felt the same way too. I won't lie, I refreshed dxpnet at least 2 times a day in hopes the site would be back up, and everyone would be making threads like they always do. By day 6 I was sure it was over, and began reaching out to people from dxp on my fb. No one knew what was going on, and everyone felt the same. Just concern and hopes it would come back up.
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Posted by EnochtheWise
Posted by CrimsonGirl
I kinda felt like my pet died or something. I think my Scorpioness kicked into overdrive and I was like "Well I guess I'll never talk to any of those people again. Too bad. Such is life" lmao! But I was really sad. I'm very very happy it's back up and running though and I almost want to give out my actual name incase it happens again so people can hit me up lol.
it was seriously sad...don't give out your name though...there are some hackers on here who probably already have it....we just need a solid backup plan....this should be the meetup if it happens again:

https://www.dxpforum.com/

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about 40 peeps on the other one i just mentioned.. that for some reason it won't let me link.

dxp-after-dark
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I was kinda hoping it would stay down just for the lolz because of the atrocity that it was turning into prior.

"Wow, even Duncan is fed up with this place. Lolz."

With a lot of the trash littering the entire site with their garbage topics, a LOT of people here were getting really annoyed and fed up with it. This place always ebbs and flows, but as of late, it was just becoming a real, real turn off to a lot of users here. I was calling it section 8 housing for a reason- because it was really freaking reminding me of it- trashy elements move in and the place goes to shit.

This site is in srs need of gentrification. Maybe that's what the downtime was for?













...oh man, I hope my block function works again. It was fucked up after the last semi long term overhaul, maybe it was reversed?? *hopes*
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Posted by justagirl
Posted by EnochtheWise
Posted by CrimsonGirl
I kinda felt like my pet died or something. I think my Scorpioness kicked into overdrive and I was like "Well I guess I'll never talk to any of those people again. Too bad. Such is life" lmao! But I was really sad. I'm very very happy it's back up and running though and I almost want to give out my actual name incase it happens again so people can hit me up lol.
it was seriously sad...don't give out your name though...there are some hackers on here who probably already have it....we just need a solid backup plan....this should be the meetup if it happens again:

https://www.dxpforum.com/


about 40 peeps on the other one i just mentioned.. that for some reason it won't let me link.

dxp-after-dark
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dxp-after-dark dot freeforums dot net
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Posted by rockyroadicecream
I was kinda hoping it would stay down just for the lolz because of the atrocity that it was turning into prior.

"Wow, even Duncan is fed up with this place. Lolz."

With a lot of the trash littering the entire site with their garbage topics, a LOT of people here were getting really annoyed and fed up with it. This place always ebbs and flows, but as of late, it was just becoming a real, real turn off to a lot of users here. I was calling it section 8 housing for a reason- because it was really freaking reminding me of it- trashy elements move in and the place goes to shit.

This site is in srs need of gentrification. Maybe that's what the downtime was for?













...oh man, I hope my block function works again. It was fucked up after the last semi long term overhaul, maybe it was reversed?? *hopes*
If you feel it's so bad then change it. Be the opposite of what you feel is so wrong with it. Many members just ignore the toxic aspects other members show. By admitting it bothers you it just promotes toxic people to do just that.
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Posted by 2Moon
I was thinking about starting a new dxpnet website πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚

I love this place.

It could be a nice idea actually.. the entrepreneur in me can see the potential πŸ˜‹πŸ˜πŸ˜

" Dxp2.0.com "

filled with tons of ads on each page, automatic videos, pay to change name system + monthly membership for extra features.

πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚

I could become rich af πŸ˜‹πŸ˜ 😎

πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚
Only true idiots

would pay to be

on this website.
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Posted by TachibanaSan
Posted by 2Moon
I was thinking about starting a new dxpnet website πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚

I love this place.

It could be a nice idea actually.. the entrepreneur in me can see the potential πŸ˜‹πŸ˜πŸ˜

" Dxp2.0.com "

filled with tons of ads on each page, automatic videos, pay to change name system + monthly membership for extra features.

πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚

I could become rich af πŸ˜‹πŸ˜ 😎

πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚
Only true idiots

would pay to be

on this website.


if this website was moderated as heavily as normal sites and and people who are abusive RAPEY or just all around dick head status were banned then hell yeah i'd pay $ 15 a month. same as i do to post on the wow forums. (you have to have an active wow account to post on those forums)

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Those will always be.

I can go to seedy part

of town and get same.

I do not have to pay for

a same treatment here.
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Solid point @Soul. For those who care about this community, it would be best if we all treat this place a lot better than a social dumping ground. DXP seems to work a lot more smoothly and is far more engaging when it's not a mish mash of infighting and egos, but rather a place to share ideas and experiences. Hopefully this short hiatus will inspire people to appreciate the site for what it is and be more respectful to one another.
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Posted by Soul
I actually believed dxpnet wouldn't come back up. It's easy for a Scorpio moon to believe the worst


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Day 1: It will be back up tomorrow.

Day 2: I've seen it go down for a few days.

Day 3: If not today then tomorrow for sure.

Day 4: Hope eveything is ok..

Day 5: Wtf is going on?

Day 6: I've heard some crazy rumors the owner died. What if it never comes back up?

Day 7: It's over. Its never coming back up. What will I do? What is life?

Day 8: *Steps into the horoscope section of Yahoo answers* These people are the worst. What the hell has this place become? *Steps into lindaland, instantly leaves* checks other astro forums unrelated to dxp, all look ugly and suck. Goes to Reddit. Still sucks. How does one go from a palace of a forum to a trailer?

Day 9: Where the hell am I going to go? Where will I write stuff? Writing is like my main outlet.

Day 10: Empty.

Day 11: Word gets around to a handful of members that dxpnet has come back up. Omg finally! Wait, glass of rum, check. Comfortable bed, check. Headphones, music, check. Fresh palette of a thread, check. *Sips rum* Starts to type fast. Not good enough. *Sips more rum* Goes to work.
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good for you soul.. self reflection is awesome... glad to see everyone and how i may have never been able to interact with you again... after leaving i realized.. i don't need anyone giving me mixed emotions im already feeling in my relations with a man or others so no longer will be making those threads.. and it worked out better dealing with it on my own than searching for another answer than my gut feeling.

glad you got some realization.
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Posted by Soul
Posted by startwars
Posted by Soul
I actually believed dxpnet wouldn't come back up. It's easy for a Scorpio moon to believe the worst


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Day 1: It will be back up tomorrow.

Day 2: I've seen it go down for a few days.

Day 3: If not today then tomorrow for sure.

Day 4: Hope eveything is ok..

Day 5: Wtf is going on?

Day 6: I've heard some crazy rumors the owner died. What if it never comes back up?

Day 7: It's over. Its never coming back up. What will I do? What is life?

Day 8: *Steps into the horoscope section of Yahoo answers* These people are the worst. What the hell has this place become? *Steps into lindaland, instantly leaves* checks other astro forums unrelated to dxp, all look ugly and suck. Goes to Reddit. Still sucks. How does one go from a palace of a forum to a trailer?

Day 9: Where the hell am I going to go? Where will I write stuff? Writing is like my main outlet.

Day 10: Empty.

Day 11: Word gets around to a handful of members that dxpnet has come back up. Omg finally! Wait, glass of rum, check. Comfortable bed, check. Headphones, music, check. Fresh palette of a thread, check. *Sips rum* Starts to type fast. Not good enough. *Sips more rum* Goes to work.

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the best lol