Adreamuponwaking
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Are Aries mooners/ ares suns secretly insecure?
My husband is Aries Moon& Venus and he can be very insecure, but I don't think that's all of thrm
Yes, all the people i have known that are Aries sun or moon are insecure
So what?
We are all human and possibly suffer from some degree of insecurity at times?
So what?
We are all human and possibly suffer from some degree of insecurity at times?
Posted by SomeSortOfMermaidMaybe it's up to interpretation.Posted by AdreamuponwakingNah you're very wrong there. All the Aries moons I know all demand respect. No respect? No relationship.
From my experience dealing with both Aries suns and now Aries moons
it seems the only way to get and keep their interest is to treat them
with a mixture of indifference/detachment and contempt.
They more you disapprove of them the more they seem to be drawn to you.
The minute you treat them though with respect they seem to drop you.
It's maddening.
I had to relearn this lesson.
To be honest I had high hopes for the Pisces Sun Aries mooner that I was recently interested in.
Turns out she was just like the other Aries Sun and Aries moon people I've dealt with in the past.
Nikki Giovanni sums what I feel is Arien logic in one of her infamous poems
"cause i ain't sh**..... you must be lower than that to care".
One thing I will say though is that I do tend to go for more aloof/detached guys, but I'm an aries venus to boot, the chase excites me.
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I've tried talking to Aries Sun people about this and my suspicion was confirmed that
Aries Sun and I guess possibly Aries Moon often interpret
lack of investment and even sometimes disdain as a partner simply remaining
"aloof" and independent.
Someone to still be won over.
It just frustrating for someone like me.
I've found myself in the same situation with three different Aries Sun / Aries Moon people.
One was a Aries Sun gem venus female , the other was A triple Aries male in his 30s
and the last was a Pisces sun Aries moon.
They were all very persistent in the beginning.... texting me and trying to hang out with me.
The latter person I mentioned initiated texting me every day for a period of several weeks.
For me, I found their initial interest in me to be strange because with all of three of these people
I didn't necessarily feel an initial connection with them at all or at least, in my opinion, have some sort interaction that justified that interest.
So as such I treated these people as acquaintances....no emotional investment..barely responding to text in a timely matter if at all etc....
"acted aloof" if you will.....
until I took their continued persistence ( weeks and months in some cases) as genuinely wanting to really get to know me and be friends or more in one of the cases I mentioned above.
So naturally, I started replying to their texts in a timely manner and I tried to arrange a hangout sessions.....
in all three cases, I like to add that when I started to reciprocate I was nowhere near as intense as the Aries sun/moon people. I'm talking about 1 or 2 texts over a period of several weeks.
The minute I reciprocated in EVERY scenario the Aries sun/Aries moon person pretty much started to act weird and then effectively stopped interacting with me.
In a couple of the cases, I grew to really dislike these people because it just really irks me
because I see this as childish. The minute I lost interest as in they would see me in public and I wouldn't engage with them..... these people would chase after me again.
Annoying.
Posted by MyStarsShineJust trying to tease out and examine how some of us deal with that insecurity.
Yes, all the people i have known that are Aries sun or moon are insecure
So what?
We are all human and possibly suffer from some degree of insecurity at times?
I personally find it gross to render someone less than you because they don't actively disrespect you and actually try to give you the benefit of the doubt.
I've known of Aries sun people to have long relationships with toxic individuals that pretty much treated them like garbage the entire relationship and then have really short affairs with genuinely nice guys who in the end didn't pose enough of a challenge?
like seriously?lol
Anywho I guess it's not in my cards to date an Aries mooner. There's just a fundamental incompatibility regarding what we value and need but also, in general, seeing the world.
I blacklisted Aries Sun people as dating prospects a long time ago.It just sucks I have to add Aries mooners too. Whatevs.
Posted by SomeSortOfMermaidIn reference to you not buying that I was actually aloofPosted by AdreamuponwakingIdk, I think you're generalising here. Idk about aries sun folks (don't know many) but I know it's not true for aries moon folks. The ones I know very much seek someone that is all about *them*, even aries venus ole me. Aloof people still have a heart you know. 😛Posted by SomeSortOfMermaidMaybe it's up to interpretation.Posted by AdreamuponwakingNah you're very wrong there. All the Aries moons I know all demand respect. No respect? No relationship.
From my experience dealing with both Aries suns and now Aries moons
it seems the only way to get and keep their interest is to treat them
with a mixture of indifference/detachment and contempt.
They more you disapprove of them the more they seem to be drawn to you.
The minute you treat them though with respect they seem to drop you.
It's maddening.
I had to relearn this lesson.
To be honest I had high hopes for the Pisces Sun Aries mooner that I was recently interested in.
Turns out she was just like the other Aries Sun and Aries moon people I've dealt with in the past.
Nikki Giovanni sums what I feel is Arien logic in one of her infamous poems
"cause i ain't sh**..... you must be lower than that to care".
One thing I will say though is that I do tend to go for more aloof/detached guys, but I'm an aries venus to boot, the chase excites me.
I've tried talking to Aries Sun people about this and my suspicion was confirmed that
Aries Sun and I guess possibly Aries Moon often interpret
lack of investment and even sometimes disdain as a partner simply remaining
"aloof" and independent.
Someone to still be won over.
It just frustrating for someone like me.
I've found myself in the same situation with three different Aries Sun / Aries Moon people.
One was a Aries Sun gem venus female , the other was A triple Aries male in his 30s
and the last was a Pisces sun Aries moon.
They were all very persistent in the beginning.... texting me and trying to hang out with me.
The latter person I mentioned initiated texting me every day for a period of several weeks.
For me, I found their initial interest in me to be strange because with all of three of these people
I didn't necessarily feel an initial connection with them at all or at least, in my opinion, have some sort interaction that justified that interest.
So as such I treated these people as acquaintances....no emotional investment..barely responding to text in a timely matter if at all etc....
"acted aloof" if you will.....
until I took their continued persistence ( weeks and months in some cases) as genuinely wanting to really get to know me and be friends or more in one of the cases I mentioned above.
So naturally, I started replying to their texts in a timely manner and I tried to arrange a hangout sessions.....
in all three cases, I like to add that when I started to reciprocate I was nowhere near as intense as the Aries sun/moon people. I'm talking about 1 or 2 texts over a period of several weeks.
The minute I reciprocated in EVERY scenario the Aries sun/Aries moon person pretty much started to act weird and then effectively stopped interacting with me.
In a couple of the cases, I grew to really dislike these people because it just really irks me
because I see this as childish. The minute I lost interest as in they would see me in public and I wouldn't engage with them..... these people would chase after me again.
Annoying.
Also, I don't buy that you were aloof towards the Pisces tbh. It just doesn't corroborate with what you've stated on dxp before about wanting to sweep her away etc.click to expand
She even told me that she had no clue I was interested in her that way.
Which again makes sense as I made every effort not show interest.I never even saved her number and would actively delete texts from her so I couldn't reply/initiate further texting.
I'm a scorpio moon cusp w/ a taurus venus....I know how to hold things in.
Also
If you remember there was also a post about the same person entitled sex with someone you don't like.
I made that one after interacting with her a third time at a party in which she said all of this disrespectful stuff about her now ex-boyfriend , and technically cheated on him. Later on that night she said some things that hinted at racists sentiments she had.
The sweeping her off of feet thing was just fantasy. All based on extremely limited initially interaction with her...mainly due to a myriad a factors.Delusions as a Pisces sun.Caught up in the physical attraction that again I have never felt with anyone. I honestly thought it meant something.
Stupid I know I actually tried to use compatibility charts and opinions of people with the same or similar sign makeup as her to try to both figure out and confirm she was the person I thought she was.
All strategic and necessary before I felt like I could and should make a move.
A move that I should have never made....but did because I was encouraged to do so by people on here.lol
Aries mooners love "straightforwardness." Not true at all .
Aries moon people like detached people who barely pay them interest...even if they crave attention.
Facts.
She liked me more when I responded to her texts 6-24 hours later with one or two-word replies.
Posted by SomeSortOfMermaidShe confirmed she was physically attracted to me after I told her I was romantically interested in her...
Tbh I had my doubts in regards of her seeing anything more than a friend in you. If she led you on then obviously shame on her, but from what you said she didn't seem to give "more than friends" vibes.
So the psychical cues I alluded to in previous posts regarding interactions weren't imagined.
She did flirt with me several times...back when I was "elusive."
I don't feel led on per se...well at least romantic relationship wise.Friendship wise is another story.
I thought honesty/lack of playing games could lead to a solid friendship but no.
I'm more upset with myself.
I noticed things about her the second and third time we hung out that were red flags.
I tried to actively ignore them because of a very strong physical attraction that would persist mainly after we interacted....even when she did or said things I despised.
I tried to be her friend even having my reservations as if I liked her as a person...which again waivered.
These were all mistakes that I didn't need to repeat as I've learned these lessons before.
Just not in a romantic context and w/ A Pisces Sun Aries Moon person.
Posted by AdreamuponwakingI'm insecure but it's not a secret, my close friends all know how insecure i can be. and i tend to get attracted to people who approve of me and not disapprove.. cause that just makes me wanna go and hide inside my shell again.
From my experience dealing with both Aries suns and now Aries moons
it seems the only way to get and keep their interest is to treat them
with a mixture of indifference/detachment and contempt.
They more you disapprove of them the more they seem to be drawn to you.
The minute you treat them though with respect they seem to drop you.
It's maddening.
I had to relearn this lesson.
To be honest I had high hopes for the Pisces Sun Aries mooner that I was recently interested in.
Turns out she was just like the other Aries Sun and Aries moon people I've dealt with in the past.
Nikki Giovanni sums what I feel is Arien logic in one of her infamous poems
"cause i ain't sh**..... you must be lower than that to care".
Posted by SomeSortOfMermaidI always replied with at least a text...just not right away...andPosted by AdreamuponwakingI get that you're disappointed and disillusioned.Posted by SomeSortOfMermaidIn reference to you not buying that I was actually aloofPosted by AdreamuponwakingIdk, I think you're generalising here. Idk about aries sun folks (don't know many) but I know it's not true for aries moon folks. The ones I know very much seek someone that is all about *them*, even aries venus ole me. Aloof people still have a heart you know. 😛Posted by SomeSortOfMermaidMaybe it's up to interpretation.Posted by AdreamuponwakingNah you're very wrong there. All the Aries moons I know all demand respect. No respect? No relationship.
From my experience dealing with both Aries suns and now Aries moons
it seems the only way to get and keep their interest is to treat them
with a mixture of indifference/detachment and contempt.
They more you disapprove of them the more they seem to be drawn to you.
The minute you treat them though with respect they seem to drop you.
It's maddening.
I had to relearn this lesson.
To be honest I had high hopes for the Pisces Sun Aries mooner that I was recently interested in.
Turns out she was just like the other Aries Sun and Aries moon people I've dealt with in the past.
Nikki Giovanni sums what I feel is Arien logic in one of her infamous poems
"cause i ain't sh**..... you must be lower than that to care".
One thing I will say though is that I do tend to go for more aloof/detached guys, but I'm an aries venus to boot, the chase excites me.
I've tried talking to Aries Sun people about this and my suspicion was confirmed that
Aries Sun and I guess possibly Aries Moon often interpret
lack of investment and even sometimes disdain as a partner simply remaining
"aloof" and independent.
Someone to still be won over.
It just frustrating for someone like me.
I've found myself in the same situation with three different Aries Sun / Aries Moon people.
One was a Aries Sun gem venus female , the other was A triple Aries male in his 30s
and the last was a Pisces sun Aries moon.
They were all very persistent in the beginning.... texting me and trying to hang out with me.
The latter person I mentioned initiated texting me every day for a period of several weeks.
For me, I found their initial interest in me to be strange because with all of three of these people
I didn't necessarily feel an initial connection with them at all or at least, in my opinion, have some sort interaction that justified that interest.
So as such I treated these people as acquaintances....no emotional investment..barely responding to text in a timely matter if at all etc....
"acted aloof" if you will.....
until I took their continued persistence ( weeks and months in some cases) as genuinely wanting to really get to know me and be friends or more in one of the cases I mentioned above.
So naturally, I started replying to their texts in a timely manner and I tried to arrange a hangout sessions.....
in all three cases, I like to add that when I started to reciprocate I was nowhere near as intense as the Aries sun/moon people. I'm talking about 1 or 2 texts over a period of several weeks.
The minute I reciprocated in EVERY scenario the Aries sun/Aries moon person pretty much started to act weird and then effectively stopped interacting with me.
In a couple of the cases, I grew to really dislike these people because it just really irks me
because I see this as childish. The minute I lost interest as in they would see me in public and I wouldn't engage with them..... these people would chase after me again.
Annoying.
Also, I don't buy that you were aloof towards the Pisces tbh. It just doesn't corroborate with what you've stated on dxp before about wanting to sweep her away etc.
She even told me that she had no clue I was interested in her that way.
Which again makes sense as I made every effort not show interest.I never even saved her number and would actively delete texts from her so I couldn't reply/initiate further texting.
I'm a scorpio moon cusp w/ a taurus venus....I know how to hold things in.
Also
If you remember there was also a post about the same person entitled sex with someone you don't like.
I made that one after interacting with her a third time at a party in which she said all of this disrespectful stuff about her now ex-boyfriend , and technically cheated on him. Later on that night she said some things that hinted at racists sentiments she had.
The sweeping her off of feet thing was just fantasy. All based on extremely limited initially interaction with her...mainly due to a myriad a factors.Delusions as a Pisces sun.Caught up in the physical attraction that again I have never felt with anyone. I honestly thought it meant something.
Stupid I know I actually tried to use compatibility charts and opinions of people with the same or similar sign makeup as her to try to both figure out and confirm she was the person I thought she was.
All strategic and necessary before I felt like I could and should make a move.
A move that I should have never made....but did because I was encouraged to do so by people on here.lol
Aries mooners love "straightforwardness." Not true at all .
Aries moon people like detached people who barely pay them interest...even if they crave attention.
Facts.
She liked me more when I responded to her texts 6-24 hours later with one or two-word replies.
Just food for thought: if you say you were not contacting her as much as she did for all these months, how does that make you any better than her not responding straight away now?
If you're truly done then just accept that it wasn't meant to be.click to expand
most times if she continued to text me I wouldn't respond to a second third or fourth text by her
unless she asked me something.I'm not the type of person to completely disregard someone...everyone does a minimal level of respect imho and acknowledging them is part of that.
Just to add I don't like being attached to my phone...which also acted to negate prolonged interaction with her via phone.
We're all insecure, no matter the sun sign. I have yet to figure it out who's the least insecure....maybe leo?
Also, it's not that she responds to my text hours or days later. To date
she hasn't responded to one text I sent her last week.
Also in texting her before this past couple of the weeks, her behavior has changed greatly since I've told her.
Hard to describe but she just seems more dismissive and less considerate than before even though she initiated these texting convos...the only difference is unlike before
I showed interest in them and started to reply to her third, fourth, with texts...etc..
it's like she started taking me for granted all of a sudden.I hate that....especially regarding my friendships.
I'm not sad so much that "it wasn't meant to be" just that she's not the person I thought she was.
If she was we could have had a healthy friendship.....I was looking forward to having a concert/movie and travel buddy.
...and now I know not even that
We are fundamentally incompatible...just like the Aries sun girl and Aries sun guy I mentioned.
she hasn't responded to one text I sent her last week.
Also in texting her before this past couple of the weeks, her behavior has changed greatly since I've told her.
Hard to describe but she just seems more dismissive and less considerate than before even though she initiated these texting convos...the only difference is unlike before
I showed interest in them and started to reply to her third, fourth, with texts...etc..
it's like she started taking me for granted all of a sudden.I hate that....especially regarding my friendships.
I'm not sad so much that "it wasn't meant to be" just that she's not the person I thought she was.
If she was we could have had a healthy friendship.....I was looking forward to having a concert/movie and travel buddy.
...and now I know not even that
We are fundamentally incompatible...just like the Aries sun girl and Aries sun guy I mentioned.
Posted by SomeSortOfMermaidThis is the truth. The issue isn't based in insecurity at all. We just need to be challenged. The right way. If you do it the wrong way... we can chase till we get what we want, then when we get it, we don't want it anymore. I do like aloofness as well. I enjoy Aquarius placements for this reason.Posted by AdreamuponwakingNah you're very wrong there. All the aries moons I know all demand respect. No respect? No relationship.
From my experience dealing with both Aries suns and now Aries moons
it seems the only way to get and keep their interest is to treat them
with a mixture of indifference/detachment and contempt.
They more you disapprove of them the more they seem to be drawn to you.
The minute you treat them though with respect they seem to drop you.
It's maddening.
I had to relearn this lesson.
To be honest I had high hopes for the Pisces Sun Aries mooner that I was recently interested in.
Turns out she was just like the other Aries Sun and Aries moon people I've dealt with in the past.
Nikki Giovanni sums what I feel is Arien logic in one of her infamous poems
"cause i ain't sh**..... you must be lower than that to care".
One thing I will say though is that I do tend to go for more aloof/detached guys, but I'm an aries venus to boot, the chase excites me.
click to expand
Everyone can be confident and insecure at times. Just apart of life. But our confidence is based in "self" where as other signs tend to put their confidence in other things. So as long as we have a strong sense of self and like and are proud in who we are, our confidence isn't easily effected
Posted by Adreamuponwaking
Also, it's not that she responds to my text hours or days later. To date
she hasn't responded to one text I sent her last week.
Also in texting her before this past couple of the weeks, her behavior has changed greatly since I've told her.
Hard to describe but she just seems more dismissive and less considerate than before even though she initiated these texting convos...the only difference is unlike before
I showed interest in them and started to reply to her third, fourth, with texts...etc..
it's like she started taking me for granted all of a sudden.I hate that....especially regarding my friendships.
I'm not sad so much that "it wasn't meant to be" just that she's not the person I thought she was.
If she was we could have had a healthy friendship.....I was looking forward to having a concert/movie and travel buddy.
...and now I know not even that
We are fundamentally incompatible...just like the Aries sun girl and Aries sun guy I mentioned.
Aries energy has short attention spans. We tend to lose interest fast. You have to move us in a way that we think and feel that we want to keep you around. It has to be who you are naturally. You can't fake it. Because you won't be able to keep it up. It can't be about getting advice from other ppl are using strategy. It won't work. You have to naturally being interesting enough to hold our attention and keep us coming back.
I wouldn't say I'm insecure. If anything I have a bloated sense of self esteem lol.
It is true what your saying about us losing interest if you come on too strong, the one exception to this rule is if I really like the person from the get go. But if your pursuing me it helps build your brand to have a bit of mystique about you. Peaks my interest a bit. Don't go all in at the beginning.
It is true what your saying about us losing interest if you come on too strong, the one exception to this rule is if I really like the person from the get go. But if your pursuing me it helps build your brand to have a bit of mystique about you. Peaks my interest a bit. Don't go all in at the beginning.
Posted by SomeSortOfMermaidPosted by Aries_LuminaryYou said it better than I could.Posted by SomeSortOfMermaidThis is the truth. The issue isn't based in insecurity at all. We just need to be challenged. The right way. If you do it the wrong way... we can chase till we get what we want, then when we get it, we don't want it anymore. I do like aloofness as well. I enjoy Aquarius placements for this reason.Posted by AdreamuponwakingNah you're very wrong there. All the aries moons I know all demand respect. No respect? No relationship.
From my experience dealing with both Aries suns and now Aries moons
it seems the only way to get and keep their interest is to treat them
with a mixture of indifference/detachment and contempt.
They more you disapprove of them the more they seem to be drawn to you.
The minute you treat them though with respect they seem to drop you.
It's maddening.
I had to relearn this lesson.
To be honest I had high hopes for the Pisces Sun Aries mooner that I was recently interested in.
Turns out she was just like the other Aries Sun and Aries moon people I've dealt with in the past.
Nikki Giovanni sums what I feel is Arien logic in one of her infamous poems
"cause i ain't sh**..... you must be lower than that to care".
One thing I will say though is that I do tend to go for more aloof/detached guys, but I'm an aries venus to boot, the chase excites me.
Everyone can be confident and insecure at times. Just apart of life. But our confidence is based in "self" where as other signs tend to put their confidence in other things. So as long as we have a strong sense of self and like and are proud in who we are, our confidence isn't easily effected
I relate a lot to what you said about our confidence coming from our sense of self. And there is no aries moon that I know that doesn't have a strong inner sense of self, even if it might not always show on the outside. (My moon is in the 12th)click to expand
Yes. In my weakest moments, most insecure moments, most heartbroken moments; my confidence was still always there because I have a strong sense of self. And a persons words or opinion could never change that.
Posted by -elle-
there is a whole lot of projection on this thread...lol
if someone doesn't do what you expect them to do, when you expect them to do it....it does not mean they are insecure....it means you are being insecure by setting expectations that they may not have signed up for.
If I don't respond, it's because I don't respond....there isn't usually anything behind it. I'm busy or just plain forgot. My priorities are always moving and they are like herding cats.
Sometimes that hurts people's feelz....and if they tell me (instead of posting about it on a message board, maybe?), then I can try to address it.
Aries is not long sighted....it's short sighted. Long sighted is for the elder sign, Pisces.
-Aries Moon
*Squirrel!!!!!!!!!!✨
Thank you for saying this! I'm reading some of these comments and I'm like "huh" .... the funniest thing is someone trying to tell you who you are when they have no real perspective except the fact they had a form of relationship with. You can never fully know who a person is when we all have parts of ourselves that we never share no matter how much we love you.
You're a Scorpio Moon thinking Aries Moons are insecure? LOL
I mean I would answer but this is just the 93487430598 topic a Scorpio placement makes about a correspondent Aries placement and as always...they get it wrong.
Scorpio Moons do it with Aries Moons
Scorpio Mars with Aries Mars
Scorpio Sun with Aries Sun
....I think Scorpio Venus is more sympatico with Aries Venus but still.
Just LMAO @ the rationalization of "Oh well it must be because I treated them with respect and they can't do that". Nah.
You know the story of the emperor with no clothes? They probably pursued you and when you started reciprocating it wasn't because you suddenly start reciprocating and OMG they cannot deal now the chase is gone...but they probably got worn out in the process and when you did reciprocate it dawned on them that you really are not all that (not a general statement on you as in you're not all that across the board, just that they realized you really aren't their heart's desire). I mean insecure people would never chase to begin with because it's high risk low reward to do that if you don't know where the other person is standing.
My guy has your moon and his aloofness and caution weren't things that made my heart go pitter patter. I found him intriguing and wanted to know him better so I dealt with that aloofness. When he reciprocated I didn't go "Oh crap chase is gone lolz you're boring now", it made me overjoyed.
If you want an honest answer, you really aren't aloof at all. From everything you shared on DXP you are calculated/strategic and THAT doesn't sit well with Aries placements because we're all about genuine behavior. And genuine behavior is what falls in line with what you actually are, not the reactions you want to elicit from others. Strategy is linked to us to emotional cowardice on a level because people just match at their essence or they don't.
I mean I would answer but this is just the 93487430598 topic a Scorpio placement makes about a correspondent Aries placement and as always...they get it wrong.
Scorpio Moons do it with Aries Moons
Scorpio Mars with Aries Mars
Scorpio Sun with Aries Sun
....I think Scorpio Venus is more sympatico with Aries Venus but still.
Just LMAO @ the rationalization of "Oh well it must be because I treated them with respect and they can't do that". Nah.
You know the story of the emperor with no clothes? They probably pursued you and when you started reciprocating it wasn't because you suddenly start reciprocating and OMG they cannot deal now the chase is gone...but they probably got worn out in the process and when you did reciprocate it dawned on them that you really are not all that (not a general statement on you as in you're not all that across the board, just that they realized you really aren't their heart's desire). I mean insecure people would never chase to begin with because it's high risk low reward to do that if you don't know where the other person is standing.
My guy has your moon and his aloofness and caution weren't things that made my heart go pitter patter. I found him intriguing and wanted to know him better so I dealt with that aloofness. When he reciprocated I didn't go "Oh crap chase is gone lolz you're boring now", it made me overjoyed.
If you want an honest answer, you really aren't aloof at all. From everything you shared on DXP you are calculated/strategic and THAT doesn't sit well with Aries placements because we're all about genuine behavior. And genuine behavior is what falls in line with what you actually are, not the reactions you want to elicit from others. Strategy is linked to us to emotional cowardice on a level because people just match at their essence or they don't.
I'm Aries sun , yes we can be insecure sometimes but that's also a regular human trait .. every sign has insecurities , I wouldn't say us Aries tops the list of most insecure though .. I like a lil bit of a chase but only after I've been chased to a certain degree .. respect is very important to me, I'll cut u off with the quickness if I'm direspected... if I feel I've been slighted a little, I'll let it be known that I don't play that & will give a 2nd chance , just depends what it is.. when I was younger I let things slide that I would never let slide now, that's why age plays a serious roll.. I've said this before & I'll say it again .. I think There are evolved Aries & the childish Aries ... no matter what I'm a kid at heart & always will be .. lol .. I actually have been in shorter term relationships with guys that were too nice .. I don't want to be with someone that agrees with everything I say & do .. there's no challenge, I find it frustrating .. it's strange how these Aries ppl were chasing after u so hard without u barely saying anything back .. I would get bored quickly with that
Aries sun woman here and I'll just say that we really want most peoples approval. The insecurity comes from a fear of loss..we want to feel and be treated with respect and adoration but it is a fine..very fine balance between that and too much chase. We like to chase a little and be chased a little. Give in to easily/quickly or seem disinterested for too long and we're out.
Posted by Aries_LuminaryIt's interesting how that energy plays on depending on the placement. E.g- aries venus , vs, moon , vs sun.Posted by Adreamuponwaking
Also, it's not that she responds to my text hours or days later. To date
she hasn't responded to one text I sent her last week.
Also in texting her before this past couple of the weeks, her behavior has changed greatly since I've told her.
Hard to describe but she just seems more dismissive and less considerate than before even though she initiated these texting convos...the only difference is unlike before
I showed interest in them and started to reply to her third, fourth, with texts...etc..
it's like she started taking me for granted all of a sudden.I hate that....especially regarding my friendships.
I'm not sad so much that "it wasn't meant to be" just that she's not the person I thought she was.
If she was we could have had a healthy friendship.....I was looking forward to having a concert/movie and travel buddy.
...and now I know not even that
We are fundamentally incompatible...just like the Aries sun girl and Aries sun guy I mentioned.
Aries energy has short attention spans. We tend to lose interest fast. You have to move us in a way that we think and feel that we want to keep you around. It has to be who you are naturally. You can't fake it. Because you won't be able to keep it up. It can't be about getting advice from other ppl are using strategy. It won't work. You have to naturally being interesting enough to hold our attention and keep us coming back.
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As someone with no Aries placements prominent her chart ..I can't relate.My strength has always been my reliability, charm and focus on whoever I'm with ( friend or romantic companion).Texting or posting things on snap chat while hanging out with someone else just irks me.It's gross.
I have a Taurus venus. Cap Mars.
The funny thing is she has she had those same placements so I honestly thought she'd be like me in this regard.
As a matter of fact, we have all of the same placements except for our opposite moons and incompatible mercuries.
And just to clarify I wasn't seeking advice as for strategy but for confirmation that all of the stuff I read via astro books/websites was true.I never altered anything regarding my behavior except when I visited her on her bday and expressed romantic interest in her.
If I think I like someone I need about 1-2 years of positive experiences with them before I open up and convey interest.
Until then you probably won't even get a compliment from me...at least not on physical appearance.
..which has nothing to do with playing games ....but is just a part of my personality.
I hate games.
And regarding all of you who commented you need a challenge and it has nothing to do with insecurity.....
regardless whatever I did or did not do and
whatever is causing this behavior with her
if it is her Aries moon, or
if she has attachment issues or
a short attention span...or whatever......
it's not something I anticipated and moreover, it's not compatible with me ..even on a friendship level.
I guess the Astro websites were wrong. There is no great friendship in the cards.
Crazy though some aspects seemed to be dead accurate including the sexual attraction thing Double Venus Mars Trine connections. Opposite moons and . Double opposite venus pluto conjunctions.
The miscommunication thing. Merc in Aqua . Merc in Pisces.
as well as other aspects. Oh well.
It's not meant to be even friendship wise.
I'm going to miss her freckles. I fell in love with her freckles above all.
I only hope that I can meet someone that will check all of the right boxes in terms of hobbies, values, goals and compatibility but also I'm equally attracted to.
I never experienced sexual attraction to anyone else before her...but maybe she was just the beginning.
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regardless whatever I did or did not do and
whatever is causing this behavior with her
if it is her Aries moon, or
if she has attachment issues or
a short attention span...or whatever......
it's not something I anticipated and moreover, it's not compatible with me ..even on a friendship level.
I guess the Astro websites were wrong. There is no great friendship in the cards.
Crazy though some aspects seemed to be dead accurate including the sexual attraction thing Double Venus Mars Trine connections. Opposite moons and . Double opposite venus pluto conjunctions.
The miscommunication thing. Merc in Aqua . Merc in Pisces.
as well as other aspects. Oh well.
It's not meant to be even friendship wise.
I'm going to miss her freckles. I fell in love with her freckles above all.
I only hope that I can meet someone that will check all of the right boxes in terms of hobbies, values, goals and compatibility but also I'm equally attracted to.
I never experienced sexual attraction to anyone else before her...but maybe she was just the beginning.
🙂
Posted by SofiaV87
I'm Aries sun , yes we can be insecure sometimes but that's also a regular human trait .. every sign has insecurities , I wouldn't say us Aries tops the list of most insecure though .. I like a lil bit of a chase but only after I've been chased to a certain degree .. respect is very important to me, I'll cut u off with the quickness if I'm direspected... if I feel I've been slighted a little, I'll let it be known that I don't play that & will give a 2nd chance , just depends what it is.. when I was younger I let things slide that I would never let slide now, that's why age plays a serious roll.. I've said this before & I'll say it again .. I think There are evolved Aries & the childish Aries ... no matter what I'm a kid at heart & always will be .. lol .. I actually have been in shorter term relationships with guys that were too nice .. I don't want to be with someone that agrees with everything I say & do .. there's no challenge, I find it frustrating .. it's strange how these Aries ppl were chasing after u so hard without u barely saying anything back .. I would get bored quickly with that
I like your honesty Sofia....much more refreshing than when people defend every placement in their chart
Lol
Maybe a thing with the Sun, mother and brother sun, mercury and venus in aries, both insecure.
I have moon mercury and venus in aries instead
Im not insecure, maybe timid with some situations, but i will kick your ass, if you try to fool me.
So take out aries mooners from the equation.
I have moon mercury and venus in aries instead
Im not insecure, maybe timid with some situations, but i will kick your ass, if you try to fool me.
So take out aries mooners from the equation.
Posted by MyStarsShineThanks Star .. worst truth is better than the best lie lolPosted by SofiaV87
I'm Aries sun , yes we can be insecure sometimes but that's also a regular human trait .. every sign has insecurities , I wouldn't say us Aries tops the list of most insecure though .. I like a lil bit of a chase but only after I've been chased to a certain degree .. respect is very important to me, I'll cut u off with the quickness if I'm direspected... if I feel I've been slighted a little, I'll let it be known that I don't play that & will give a 2nd chance , just depends what it is.. when I was younger I let things slide that I would never let slide now, that's why age plays a serious roll.. I've said this before & I'll say it again .. I think There are evolved Aries & the childish Aries ... no matter what I'm a kid at heart & always will be .. lol .. I actually have been in shorter term relationships with guys that were too nice .. I don't want to be with someone that agrees with everything I say & do .. there's no challenge, I find it frustrating .. it's strange how these Aries ppl were chasing after u so hard without u barely saying anything back .. I would get bored quickly with that
I like your honesty Sofia....much more refreshing than when people defend every placement in their chart
Lol
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Posted by magmaTrue that to not holding grudges.. I don't hold them at all.. it's a waste of my energy
Call us insecure, that's fine, maybe we are compared to some others. All I know is that some of us get over shit and people fast, and if it isn't happening fast enough we'll speed things up. And we don't hold grudges as long as it's really over with and out of our face.
Edit: for the record, I never have held a grudge.. I honestly don't know how, it's outta character for me.. yes I'll get mad but I won't hold on to anger for that long, I let it go
Posted by RindarooI love ppl that can compromise , I'm good at that.. I used to get mad when ppl didn't agree with me when I was younger .. I've come a long way from that . I realized that just because someone doesn't agree with me doesn't mean I have to get angry , we can just agree to disagree .. I'm stubborn but open to other ppls opinions.. I've learned to listen more & talk less .. I used to be so critical with other ppl , I'm not anymore .. in the past I was always more self critical & in present time I'm still more self critical .. i don't consider myself a judgemental/criticizing person at all.. I'm open minded .. now I do look at what's bothering me before I run off at the mouth & say something that can potentially traumatize the other person .. I'm damn proud of the progression I've made Hahahaha
I was married to an Aries sun for 17 years. You know we were attached at the hip pretty quickly. This was before texting existed. The chemistry was insane, we had a great time together & that was that.
I think he asked me to go "steady" after 4 dates.
What I have to say though is Aries are stubborn, don't budge and there isn't really a partnership. There is what they want & the other person compromising. Do they like a challenge, sure but if you hit a nerve they are throwing daggers at you verbally & attacking about you. I have a friend who is exactly the same so it's not just my ex.
Rigid, and inflexible I'd say. But a ton of fun & chemistry when things are good. I am a Sag & it's supposed to be my best match. But seriously they need to listen without being so critical & look at what's bothering them instead of attacking.
Sorry maybe I'm venting.. she pissed me off yesterday!!! Idk take it into account when you aren't getting the response you desire. Maybe you're lucky & not getting the daggers from the cardinal fire sign.. just saying
For myself I have my insecurities but any sign of a clinger and I'm outta there. I love my independence and space and can't stand to feel controlled in any way.
Maybe you two are just incompatible and that happens. It sucks, especially when you're immensely physically and sexually attracted to that person. My husband is Pisces Sun Aries Moon & Venus.... he's been chasing me for 10 years. It's not because I'm strategically trying to run from.... im Aqua with lots of Cap placements. I get so caught up in work & im so independent.... I don't even notice I'm "running" so to speak.
Posted by Wineaux15Thanks for your comment.
Maybe you two are just incompatible and that happens. It sucks, especially when you're immensely physically and sexually attracted to that person. My husband is Pisces Sun Aries Moon & Venus.... he's been chasing me for 10 years. It's not because I'm strategically trying to run from.... im Aqua with lots of Cap placements. I get so caught up in work & im so independent.... I don't even notice I'm "running" so to speak.
I know..that's what I liked the most about our compatibility..or at least what astro websites said.
"This relationship encourages independence and freedom...blah blah blah...you will encourage each other to reach your goals.....blah blah...financially prosperous couple.....blah blah you will travel together...and sexually ....this match is a powerhouse."
I'm pre med. I need someone who won't feel so neglected if and when I work long hours....
but also help me relax and get my mind off of work when I get home if you know what I'm saying.lol
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