A Real Man ...

What is your definition of a real man, ladies ...

For me, he HAS to take care of his family needs, first and foremost ... if he's not bringing in enough money to support his children, he's a tosser.

I broke up with several men (years ago), for not working when they had children from prior relationships. My friends were like, "So what, they aren't your kids" .. doesn't matter to me whether the mouths to feed came from my womb, or not.

That pretty much is my main deciding factor of his manliness .. if he has children and he doesn't work his ass off to support them .. he's a loser.

Yeah, that's really important too. You know what though .. I found in my experiences that if a man treats one of those good, then it's usually all of them .. you know what I mean?

Thinking back, I don't know if I can recall a guy treating his girlfriend right and his mother bad, or his mother wonderfully and his children bad ..

I'm thinking along the lines of you .. if he's respectful, then he just is and this will carry over into all people in his life that he needs to care for.

My definition of a real man ... is someone who can handle me 😉

haha, a guy who wants to work for what he wants (in every sense). He also can't be afraid of commitment-- only boys run from resonsiblities 😄

A man who isn't intimidated by a real woman.

"Perhaps such men are full of guilt and self loathing based on their childhood experiences with their parents. The mother is idolised because they cannot bear the guilt of the reality of their feelings. Other women feel the anger that they truly feel towards the mother but cannot face."

I believe you have hit on something here. I too believe that the way men treat women says a lot about the feelings they have for their mother. Many are able to work through their negative feelings, but it takes awareness and willingness.

Women too tend to repeat patterns in relationships based on their relationship with their father.

Ldybg377 - your description of the type of relationship and the type of man you want is excellent.

Hmm...a real man? Makes commitments and keeps them. His word is his bond, period. He can show emotion, isn't afraid of being himself with everyone, can handle his alcohol, doesn't need adoration (no huge egos) and doesn't play games.

Also? He's seldom if ever spotted by me. 😛

moral character....

Wow. I just listened to 'A Woman's Worth'.
Since I'm a real woman and not a cheap one off the street, I want a man who's strong, sexy, and never-failing. And if he does fail me, well then. I never had a loss of tools.

"A real man .. makes crucial decisions (good or bad, moral or immoral) to seperate himself from mimicing his father and mother."

Seperation from parents defines being a man?
Individuality?

What if your parents were good, solid and honorable examples?

"like separating from being under the umbrella of his parents security/way of life/etc. and standing on his own two feet."

Oh, I see .. thanks for clarifying MIA 🙂

Actually 25, I think it's a gender thing ..