Anyone else like this? An over thinker

It’s been a long time where I’ve met someone that I really like infact it’s probably the second time in my life I have met someone straight away and liked them a lot and they’ve been interested in me too.

Now I’m just over thinking everything I’m stressing that he doesn’t like me anymore and I’m feeling really insecure and vulnerable at the moment I feel so rejected and I kinda want to just push him away because I feel like he does t like me but I know he does but a big part of me is scared he’s going to hurt me but it’s too late because now I really like him and now he knows that I feel vulnerable like I’ve exposed myself to him. I’m a Scorpio moon so maybe it might be a Scorpio thing but is there any other person the same way as me? I just feel like now he knows I like him he doesn’t want me and I feel like I’m rushing things like I’m rushing him to want me the same way I want him.

Continue to grow internally and enjoy the experience. Don't sabotage something that can blossom into something beautiful because you are worthy.

So if you know he likes you, then what makes you second guess that? I am an overthinker as well but this is the type of question I would ask myself to calm the overthoughts.

But that's only if you truly know he's into you.

Thanks guys I suppose I should just go with the experience and flow

Posted by Anomalous

So if you know he likes you, then what makes you second guess that?

For instance I saw him Monday night and he didn’t even bother to suggest another date after.

And I feel like he isn’t opening up to me like he should, like he’s not telling me how he feels about me. I’m never usually like this I think I’m being really needy, I’m not showing him this side though.

Another thing is I said to him I can’t wait to see him next and all he said was I didn’t expect to enjoy your company as much as I did. I don’t know just makes me think he doesn’t want to see me .

Posted by Klh1203

Posted by Anomalous

So if you know he likes you, then what makes you second guess that?

For instance I saw him Monday night and he didn’t even bother to suggest another date after.

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Then why don't you get out of your comfort zone and suggest another date yourself? Then you could answer your own question based off his response. Sometimes you gotta ride the bull to see what happens next.

Posted by pisceswoman123

Go with the flow and try not to panic or think about the future. Enjoy what you have with him right now and be your best. That is all you can control.

Thank you girl

Posted by Klh1203

Posted by Anomalous

So if you know he likes you, then what makes you second guess that?

For instance I saw him Monday night and he didn’t even bother to suggest another date after.

And I feel like he isn’t opening up to me like he should, like he’s not telling me how he feels about me. I’m never usually like this I think I’m being really needy, I’m not showing him this side though.

Another thing is I said to him I can’t wait to see him next and all he said was I didn’t expect to enjoy your company as much as I did. I don’t know just makes me think he doesn’t want to see me .

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See, he likes you more than he thought, so if you make the second move, then you could really see that you aren't alone. He seems taken aback and doesn't know how to respond so swim in your direction and see how he takes it. Or do nothing and just overthink more about the same thoughts until he moves.

Go with the flow but give him a rift to swim with first

What will be, will be.

Do what we Pisces do best and go with the flow.

Posted by Anomalous

Posted by Klh1203

Posted by Anomalous

So if you know he likes you, then what makes you second guess that?

For instance I saw him Monday night and he didn’t even bother to suggest another date after.

And I feel like he isn’t opening up to me like he should, like he’s not telling me how he feels about me. I’m never usually like this I think I’m being really needy, I’m not showing him this side though.

Another thing is I said to him I can’t wait to see him next and all he said was I didn’t expect to enjoy your company as much as I did. I don’t know just makes me think he doesn’t want to see me .

See, he likes you more than he thought, so if you make the second move, then you could really see that you aren't alone. He seems taken aback and doesn't know how to respond so swim in your direction and see how he takes it. Or do nothing and just overthink more about the same thoughts until he moves.

Go with the flow but give him a rift to swim with first

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Thank you. This situation has taught me that I always think I know everything but I actually don’t sometimes my “Pisces senses” are just me over thinking, then when I do over think I put a whole situation together from my thoughts and bring it to life then cut people off. He’s a cancer so it just makes me think he should be a bit more forward than he is

Allow the foundation to be built.

Try not to see everything through an emotional lens.

Work on your insecurities but focus on your strengths while getting to know him.

Relax. Breathe. Trust your decision making. Enjoy.

Posted by Klh1203

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Posted by Klh1203

Posted by Anomalous

So if you know he likes you, then what makes you second guess that?

For instance I saw him Monday night and he didn’t even bother to suggest another date after.

And I feel like he isn’t opening up to me like he should, like he’s not telling me how he feels about me. I’m never usually like this I think I’m being really needy, I’m not showing him this side though.

Another thing is I said to him I can’t wait to see him next and all he said was I didn’t expect to enjoy your company as much as I did. I don’t know just makes me think he doesn’t want to see me .

See, he likes you more than he thought, so if you make the second move, then you could really see that you aren't alone. He seems taken aback and doesn't know how to respond so swim in your direction and see how he takes it. Or do nothing and just overthink more about the same thoughts until he moves.

Go with the flow but give him a rift to swim with first

Thank you. This situation has taught me that I always think I know everything but I actually don’t sometimes my “Pisces senses” are just me over thinking, then when I do over think I put a whole situation together from my thoughts and bring it to life then cut people off. He’s a cancer so it just makes me think he should be a bit more forward than he is

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Yeah I've had a former Cancer friend for 20 years. Sometimes they overthink too and need reassuring. Especially after him being wrong about not liking you as much as he did. He probably went back into his shell but that doesn't always mean he doesn't wanna be bothered. The situation you put together in your head is probably exactly what he's doing so somebody has to take the lead or this might not go anywhere.

Crabs catch fish that swim past them not the other way around.

There is no "over thinking", it's always under-thinking. Observe, make plans, be ready

Yes, way too much. My shyness doesn’t help with that either.

When I start to overthink things, I submerge myself in work and other productive things; also Meditate to look for answers. Try to start thinking about all of the positive things, in the situation. What are all of the possibilities/what can go right? What can I do to better the situation? Instead of, “what can go wrong?”

Posted by Skeleton

Do you have an experience of being abandomenent?

Yeah stems from being adopted my birth mother got rid of me and then at school I was bullied by boys from a young age and then my ex partner cheated on me and was abusive then after that I’ve had men just randomly love me then out of nowhere lose interest in me

I’m a Scorpio Moon too. I feel like my overthinking has led to insecurities and then led to creating unnecessary drama in my relationships. My solution- take away the things that created the anxiety and begin trusting.