I don't want to let go of her.... But I need to. Help :(

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What is your sign?

Posted by WaterDevil
I think Im deeply in love with a Pisces. I left her alone for 10 months last year after she didnt want to "take things further". I dated other beautiful, intellectually stimulating women. But she never fully left my mind. She became a muse for my music.

Last night I went out with a beautiful scorpio woman. And had a great time. I really did.

But in all honesty... The entire ride home I thought about the pisces...

I feel broken..

Posted by WaterDevil

Posted by Easha23000us
What is your sign?

me:

cancer sun, sag moon, libra rising

her:

Pisces sun, Lib moon, virgo rising

we are both women btw...

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Posted by WaterDevil
I think Im deeply in love with a Pisces. I left her alone for 10 months last year after she didnt want to "take things further". I dated other beautiful, intellectually stimulating women. But she never fully left my mind. She became a muse for my music. Than she came back in to my life.. Started liking me again. And kissing me. AND than did her fickle thing all over again and "didn't feel it anymore" as she puts it always so suddenly.

We decided to stay friends and hung out Saturday to work on a project she's helping me with. I still feel like our connection and chemistry is so undeniable. YET it seems like there is some denyal there. maybe with both parties. Every time she "didn't feel it anymore" it was after we didnt hang for two weeks or so.. and it was always due to impersonal forms of communication. Like a text message or something that she didn't receive well. Or maybe I wouldn't be as "deep" to her one day in comparison to another. And than every time we'd reconnect as friends, it feels like our chemistry is there again.

On saturday she was at my house for 4 hours.. she was helping me with a project. But she didnt have to stay that long. And every time we'd make eye contact... its as if the sparks are there again.

I know when someone can't make up their mind about you, than it's time to let go, I do.. I know this. But im having such a difficult time, she never truly leaves my mind..... 😢

Last night I went out with a beautiful scorpio woman. And had a great time. I really did.

But in all honesty... The entire ride home I thought about the pisces...

I feel broken..

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Posted by WaterDevil
I think Im deeply in love with a Pisces. I left her alone for 10 months last year after she didnt want to "take things further". I dated other beautiful, intellectually stimulating women. But she never fully left my mind. She became a muse for my music.

Last night I went out with a beautiful scorpio woman. And had a great time. I really did.

But in all honesty... The entire ride home I thought about the pisces...

I feel broken..

The story of my life.

I've been taking guitar classes to channel my overwhelming emotions/sexual energy I've had due to encounters with my last Pisces love interest.

I never dreamed about marrying someone before.Crazy.

She was hot.

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Posted by WaterDevil

Posted by Easha23000us
What is your sign?

me:

cancer sun, sag moon, libra rising

her:

Pisces sun, Lib moon, virgo rising

we are both women btw...

what's her venus and your venus?

also what's your mars and her mars?

did you have sex with her? how was it?

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Posted by Adreamuponwaking

Posted by WaterDevil

Posted by Easha23000us
What is your sign?

me:

cancer sun, sag moon, libra rising

her:

Pisces sun, Lib moon, virgo rising

we are both women btw...

what's her venus and your venus?

also what's your mars and her mars?

did you have sex with her? how was it?

I dont know her other placements... my venus and mars are both virgo.

And we had sex twice last summer before it ended. Both times were intimate and amazing... the kind of sex that had us obsessing over one another for days after.. especially after the first time... problem now though, is since last year i got in deep butter over her i was having a hard time being open with her second time around.. and didnt even try to have sex with her.. or get too hot and heavy.. i was treating her more like a friend because i had a huge wall up.. but than when id finally say something about my feelings it would throw her off.. so we decided to stay friends like I said.. she told me she doesnt want to take things further.. but she's said this before and changed her mind.. i just can't shake the feeling that she may be a soul mate of mine.. but to be honest.. this time around it feels better having her as a friend than nothing at all. I just care about her all too much. it hurts. Especially since she has not a clue how deeply i truly feel for her.

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Posted by WaterDevil
I think Im deeply in love with a Pisces. I left her alone for 10 months last year after she didnt want to "take things further". I dated other beautiful, intellectually stimulating women. But she never fully left my mind. She became a muse for my music. Than she came back in to my life.. Started liking me again. And kissing me. AND than did her fickle thing all over again and "didn't feel it anymore" as she puts it always so suddenly.

We decided to stay friends and hung out Saturday to work on a project she's helping me with. I still feel like our connection and chemistry is so undeniable. YET it seems like there is some denyal there. maybe with both parties. Every time she "didn't feel it anymore" it was after we didnt hang for two weeks or so.. and it was always due to impersonal forms of communication. Like a text message or something that she didn't receive well. Or maybe I wouldn't be as "deep" to her one day in comparison to another. And than every time we'd reconnect as friends, it feels like our chemistry is there again.

On saturday she was at my house for 4 hours.. she was helping me with a project. But she didnt have to stay that long. And every time we'd make eye contact... its as if the sparks are there again.

I know when someone can't make up their mind about you, than it's time to let go, I do.. I know this. But im having such a difficult time, she never truly leaves my mind..... 😢

Last night I went out with a beautiful scorpio woman. And had a great time. I really did.

But in all honesty... The entire ride home I thought about the pisces...

I feel broken..

Or we will "smell" him (body odor) and we get turned off. We won't tell you to change your deodorant or use cologne. I went out on a date with a guy that had teeth the color of corn on the cob 😆 THAT really turned me off! (bleh!). I called him and said I had met another guy and wished him good luck (he said he was 6 feet tall and lied; he was 5'10"). You're the one that is fascinated with her beauty as she doesn't leave your mind. She's her own woman and you cannot make her love/like you. So what if y'all looked intently into each others' eyes. We memorize with our "look". It's hard for some Piscean women to look deep in your soul when she gives you eye contact. It just means she's not shy but she is intense when she looks at you; but that doesn't mean she's madly in love with you; that comes with time. Be her friend. Her BEST friend. She will one day come to you and say, "I have a female BFF, but you're my male BFF". Afterwards, let her make that decision if she wants to get more serious. For right now, don't rush her. Good luck.

🤗 cyber hugs!

Love,

Eva

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Posted by WaterDevil
I think Im deeply in love with a Pisces. I left her alone for 10 months last year after she didnt want to "take things further". I dated other beautiful, intellectually stimulating women. But she never fully left my mind. She became a muse for my music. Than she came back in to my life.. Started liking me again. And kissing me. AND than did her fickle thing all over again and "didn't feel it anymore" as she puts it always so suddenly.

We decided to stay friends and hung out Saturday to work on a project she's helping me with. I still feel like our connection and chemistry is so undeniable. YET it seems like there is some denyal there. maybe with both parties. Every time she "didn't feel it anymore" it was after we didnt hang for two weeks or so.. and it was always due to impersonal forms of communication. Like a text message or something that she didn't receive well. Or maybe I wouldn't be as "deep" to her one day in comparison to another. And than every time we'd reconnect as friends, it feels like our chemistry is there again.

On saturday she was at my house for 4 hours.. she was helping me with a project. But she didnt have to stay that long. And every time we'd make eye contact... its as if the sparks are there again.

I know when someone can't make up their mind about you, than it's time to let go, I do.. I know this. But im having such a difficult time, she never truly leaves my mind..... 😢

Last night I went out with a beautiful scorpio woman. And had a great time. I really did.

But in all honesty... The entire ride home I thought about the pisces...

I feel broken..

Or we will "smell" him (body odor) and we get turned off. We won't tell you to change your deodorant or use cologne. I went out on a date with a guy that had teeth the color of corn on the cob 😆 THAT really turned me off! (bleh!). I called him and said I had met another guy and wished him good luck (he said he was 6 feet tall and lied; he was 5'10"). You're the one that is fascinated with her beauty as she doesn't leave your mind. She's her own woman and you cannot make her love/like you. So what if y'all looked intently into each others' eyes. We memorize with our "look". It's hard for some Piscean women to look deep in your soul when she gives you eye contact. It just means she's not shy but she is intense when she looks at you; but that doesn't mean she's madly in love with you; that comes with time. Be her friend. Her BEST friend. She will one day come to you and say, "I have a female BFF, but you're my male BFF". Afterwards, let her make that decision if she wants to get more serious. For right now, don't rush her. Good luck.

🤗 cyber hugs!

Love,

Eva

I appreciate the feedback. But let me clarify. Im not obsessed over her looks. She is the most the most beautiful person Iv ever met. But im talking inside and out here... internally she has mentally stimulated me more than anyone iv ever met. And so she is the most beautiful person iv ever met inside and out... And you twisted my words bit... I NEVER claimed she may THINK she's in love with me... My entire point here is that I need to let her go because I know she's not.

ALSO, I need to ad she didnt want to stop kissing me necessarily. At least I dont know for sure. But when we decided to be friends it was my idea.. i said "if you arnt interested in taking this further let's be friends. But if we are friends you CANNOT kiss me anymore".

I believe she is very physically attracted to me. That was never the issue. Im also ocd about my hygene and smelling nice j/s 😉

And I know her expressions very well.. I know that look she has when she's buttery.. iv gotten to know that look.. because Its the look she gave me on our first date.. and everytime she felt buttered by me. And every time she wanted me to kiss her.. Its a specific look. Yes she's good at eye contact. And Iv seen that in comparison as well. But I know certain expressions of hers for the most part. Im not saying a "look" means she's in love. I just think IM in love and SHE is fickle. Why she is fickle i dont know. But she is. she knows it. Matter fact I called her fickle on saturday and she smirked. She knew I was right.

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Posted by Distilled
I don't know about the Adonis stuff,

But if I like you I'm all in. If I said no before it's not gonna change-meaning my feelings won't grow in "that way", because I've already decided that it's not meant to be- for one reason or another. I may still hang out with you because there are other reasons I like you as a person. But I won't lead you on because I'll make it clear it's not gonna go further- choice is up to you if you wanna keep being around me. I would respect if you didn't because I could understand it would hurt.

I know it's hard to let go, but you should protect yourself. She could be using you for an ego boost.

And the Scorpio woman- if you're not ready, don't lead her on and be honest.

Take care.

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Posted by EvatheDiva

Posted by WaterDevil
I think Im deeply in love with a Pisces. I left her alone for 10 months last year after she didnt want to "take things further". I dated other beautiful, intellectually stimulating women. But she never fully left my mind. She became a muse for my music. Than she came back in to my life.. Started liking me again. And kissing me. AND than did her fickle thing all over again and "didn't feel it anymore" as she puts it always so suddenly.

We decided to stay friends and hung out Saturday to work on a project she's helping me with. I still feel like our connection and chemistry is so undeniable. YET it seems like there is some denyal there. maybe with both parties. Every time she "didn't feel it anymore" it was after we didnt hang for two weeks or so.. and it was always due to impersonal forms of communication. Like a text message or something that she didn't receive well. Or maybe I wouldn't be as "deep" to her one day in comparison to another. And than every time we'd reconnect as friends, it feels like our chemistry is there again.

On saturday she was at my house for 4 hours.. she was helping me with a project. But she didnt have to stay that long. And every time we'd make eye contact... its as if the sparks are there again.

I know when someone can't make up their mind about you, than it's time to let go, I do.. I know this. But im having such a difficult time, she never truly leaves my mind..... 😢

Last night I went out with a beautiful scorpio woman. And had a great time. I really did.

But in all honesty... The entire ride home I thought about the pisces...

I feel broken..

Or we will "smell" him (body odor) and we get turned off. We won't tell you to change your deodorant or use cologne. I went out on a date with a guy that had teeth the color of corn on the cob 😆 THAT really turned me off! (bleh!). I called him and said I had met another guy and wished him good luck (he said he was 6 feet tall and lied; he was 5'10"). You're the one that is fascinated with her beauty as she doesn't leave your mind. She's her own woman and you cannot make her love/like you. So what if y'all looked intently into each others' eyes. We memorize with our "look". It's hard for some Piscean women to look deep in your soul when she gives you eye contact. It just means she's not shy but she is intense when she looks at you; but that doesn't mean she's madly in love with you; that comes with time. Be her friend. Her BEST friend. She will one day come to you and say, "I have a female BFF, but you're my male BFF". Afterwards, let her make that decision if she wants to get more serious. For right now, don't rush her. Good luck.

🤗 cyber hugs!

Love,

Eva

I appreciate the feedback. But let me clarify. Im not obsessed over her looks. She is the most the most beautiful person Iv ever met. But im talking inside and out here... internally she has mentally stimulated me more than anyone iv ever met. And so she is the most beautiful person iv ever met inside and out... And you twisted my words bit... I NEVER claimed she may THINK she's in love with me... My entire point here is that I need to let her go because I know she's not.

ALSO, I need to ad she didnt want to stop kissing me necessarily. At least I dont know for sure. But when we decided to be friends it was my idea.. i said "if you arnt interested in taking this further let's be friends. But if we are friends you CANNOT kiss me anymore".

I believe she is very physically attracted to me. That was never the issue. Im also ocd about my hygene and smelling nice j/s 😉

And I know her expressions very well.. I know that look she has when she's buttery.. iv gotten to know that look.. because Its the look she gave me on our first date.. and everytime she felt buttered by me. And every time she wanted me to kiss her.. Its a specific look. Yes she's good at eye contact. And Iv seen that in comparison as well. But I know certain expressions of hers for the most part. Im not saying a "look" means she's in love. I just think IM in love and SHE is fickle. Why she is fickle i dont know. But she is. she knows it. Matter fact I called her fickle on saturday and she smirked. She knew I was right.

She backed off because of your suggestion, "Let's be friends". I was ALSO kissing a guy last week and he said, "Whoa!". I bumped the breaks. Real hard to try that again when someone hands you a stop sign.





🤗 cyber hugs!

Love,

Eva

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Posted by peo
Cold turkey (reducing contact) and time. That's what helps me. Not that I'm good at commiting to that myself.

Making a list with the negative traits of someone might be eye opening too.

Posted by Distilled
I don't know about the Adonis stuff,

But if I like you I'm all in. If I said no before it's not gonna change-meaning my feelings won't grow in "that way", because I've already decided that it's not meant to be- for one reason or another. I may still hang out with you because there are other reasons I like you as a person. But I won't lead you on because I'll make it clear it's not gonna go further- choice is up to you if you wanna keep being around me. I would respect if you didn't because I could understand it would hurt.

I know it's hard to let go, but you should protect yourself. She could be using you for an ego boost.

And the Scorpio woman- if you're not ready, don't lead her on and be honest.

Take care.

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Posted by WaterDevil
I think Im deeply in love with a Pisces. I left her alone for 10 months last year after she didnt want to "take things further". I dated other beautiful, intellectually stimulating women. But she never fully left my mind. She became a muse for my music. Than she came back in to my life.. Started liking me again. And kissing me. AND than did her fickle thing all over again and "didn't feel it anymore" as she puts it always so suddenly.

We decided to stay friends and hung out Saturday to work on a project she's helping me with. I still feel like our connection and chemistry is so undeniable. YET it seems like there is some denyal there. maybe with both parties. Every time she "didn't feel it anymore" it was after we didnt hang for two weeks or so.. and it was always due to impersonal forms of communication. Like a text message or something that she didn't receive well. Or maybe I wouldn't be as "deep" to her one day in comparison to another. And than every time we'd reconnect as friends, it feels like our chemistry is there again.

On saturday she was at my house for 4 hours.. she was helping me with a project. But she didnt have to stay that long. And every time we'd make eye contact... its as if the sparks are there again.

I know when someone can't make up their mind about you, than it's time to let go, I do.. I know this. But im having such a difficult time, she never truly leaves my mind..... 😢

Last night I went out with a beautiful scorpio woman. And had a great time. I really did.

But in all honesty... The entire ride home I thought about the pisces...

I feel broken..

Or we will "smell" him (body odor) and we get turned off.

Love,

Eva

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Posted by Piscox
Let her go. She isn't ever going to be in it, especially with how inconsistent she is.

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Posted by EvatheDiva

Posted by WaterDevil
I think Im deeply in love with a Pisces. I left her alone for 10 months last year after she didnt want to "take things further". I dated other beautiful, intellectually stimulating women. But she never fully left my mind. She became a muse for my music. Than she came back in to my life.. Started liking me again. And kissing me. AND than did her fickle thing all over again and "didn't feel it anymore" as she puts it always so suddenly.

We decided to stay friends and hung out Saturday to work on a project she's helping me with. I still feel like our connection and chemistry is so undeniable. YET it seems like there is some denyal there. maybe with both parties. Every time she "didn't feel it anymore" it was after we didnt hang for two weeks or so.. and it was always due to impersonal forms of communication. Like a text message or something that she didn't receive well. Or maybe I wouldn't be as "deep" to her one day in comparison to another. And than every time we'd reconnect as friends, it feels like our chemistry is there again.

On saturday she was at my house for 4 hours.. she was helping me with a project. But she didnt have to stay that long. And every time we'd make eye contact... its as if the sparks are there again.

I know when someone can't make up their mind about you, than it's time to let go, I do.. I know this. But im having such a difficult time, she never truly leaves my mind..... 😢

Last night I went out with a beautiful scorpio woman. And had a great time. I really did.

But in all honesty... The entire ride home I thought about the pisces...

I feel broken..

Or we will "smell" him (body odor) and we get turned off.

Love,

Eva

A Pisces in love will be addicted to your funk .

Pheromones are real .

Thinking about my Pisces sweaty after a a long climb / workout is a turn on .

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Posted by glasshalffull
The connection / pull between Cancer and Pisces can be intense. If you want to keep it platonic, try to avoid the eye contact. 😉

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Posted by glasshalffull
The connection / pull between Cancer and Pisces can be intense. If you want to keep it platonic, try to avoid the eye contact. 😉

That's actually very good advice! Thank you. That's such a simple solution I think. Because there is a definite pull for sure. And it's as if I know I could kiss her again if I wanted to when that eye contact happens. And that she'd be positively receptive to it. But it's redundant. Because in the end of the day it will just be a kiss to her. Nothing more. Thank you. That makes a lot of sense in my head... I really just need to let go of the hope....

BUT here-in lies one problem.....

she is about to be in a music video with me. For me.... the eye contact is going to be necessary in certain scenes.... and it's intense... hopefully I'll survive.

You're welcome. I learned the hard way. In one case, it seriously complicated the friendship and we may never recover. With another...it can be hard to look away...but the friendship is too important to me to risk it happening again.

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I don't know about the Adonis stuff,

But if I like you I'm all in. If I said no before it's not gonna change-meaning my feelings won't grow in "that way", because I've already decided that it's not meant to be- for one reason or another. I may still hang out with you because there are other reasons I like you as a person. But I won't lead you on because I'll make it clear it's not gonna go further- choice is up to you if you wanna keep being around me. I would respect if you didn't because I could understand it would hurt.

I know it's hard to let go, but you should protect yourself. She could be using you for an ego boost.

And the Scorpio woman- if you're not ready, don't lead her on and be honest.

Take care.

Oh you're one of the good mature Pisces women .

I know a lot of who use their admirers for ego boosts and play dumb .

It's kind of cruel .

I wouldn't say I'm always good. Don't believe there is such a thing- to always be.

But maturity on some levels, I do believe exists.



🙂

Sucks about your experience(s?).

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Posted by nats
To the OP I understand your pain. I'm going through a similar sitch with a Pisces. I'm a Gemini but have venus and mars in Cancer and her and I are also lesbians.

Pisces girls are HOT. They just have this way about them. My one drives me wild!

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I don't know about the Adonis stuff,

But if I like you I'm all in. If I said no before it's not gonna change-meaning my feelings won't grow in "that way", because I've already decided that it's not meant to be- for one reason or another. I may still hang out with you because there are other reasons I like you as a person. But I won't lead you on because I'll make it clear it's not gonna go further- choice is up to you if you wanna keep being around me. I would respect if you didn't because I could understand it would hurt.

I know it's hard to let go, but you should protect yourself. She could be using you for an ego boost.

And the Scorpio woman- if you're not ready, don't lead her on and be honest.

Take care.

Oh you're one of the good mature Pisces women .

I know a lot of who use their admirers for ego boosts and play dumb .

It's kind of cruel .

I wouldn't say I'm always good. Don't believe there is such a thing- to always be.

But maturity on some levels, I do believe exists.



🙂

Sucks about your experience(s?).

Meh . I got further than most . One became my gf at one point .she still hits on me but I don't reciprocate .

my ex best friend was the queen of guilt tripping me though when I had feelings and tried to make space to get over her the first couple of years of our friendship .

That did suck but I eventually got over her . She last came onto me this past December . I turned her down for numerous reasons .

I feel like karmically it worked out .

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Posted by glasshalffull
@WaterDevil Two different Pisces males. With the first friend, we both didn't understand the natural connection, his eyes would lock on and not let go, he started having feelings and pulled back (I'm married and he was coming off an ugly divorce). I will never give up hope that he'll come back into my life some day.

The other friend came into my life a year later. I started the 'connection' conversation as soon as I found out he's a Pisces as a proactive measure. He immediately got it, no problem. He's also married. We've been good friends for over a year. But, still those eyes...man...they are dangerous! lol

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To the OP I understand your pain. I'm going through a similar sitch with a Pisces. I'm a Gemini but have venus and mars in Cancer and her and I are also lesbians.

Pisces girls are HOT. They just have this way about them. My one drives me wild!

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Posted by glasshalffull
The connection / pull between Cancer and Pisces can be intense. If you want to keep it platonic, try to avoid the eye contact. 😉

For me.... the eye contact is going to be necessary in certain scenes.... and it's intense... hopefully I'll survive.

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Posted by nats
To the OP I understand your pain. I'm going through a similar sitch with a Pisces. I'm a Gemini but have venus and mars in Cancer and her and I are also lesbians.

Pisces girls are HOT. They just have this way about them. My one drives me wild!

its the best and the worst. but at best so lovely. isn't it?

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Posted by glasshalffull
The connection / pull between Cancer and Pisces can be intense. If you want to keep it platonic, try to avoid the eye contact. 😉

For me.... the eye contact is going to be necessary in certain scenes.... and it's intense... hopefully I'll survive.

were sunglasses at all other times.

also still waiting on her birthdate

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Posted by glasshalffull
@WaterDevil Two different Pisces males. With the first friend, we both didn't understand the natural connection, his eyes would lock on and not let go, he started having feelings and pulled back (I'm married and he was coming off an ugly divorce). I will never give up hope that he'll come back into my life some day.

The other friend came into my life a year later. I started the 'connection' conversation as soon as I found out he's a Pisces as a proactive measure. He immediately got it, no problem. He's also married. We've been good friends for over a year. But, still those eyes...man...they are dangerous! lol

everybody talks about the Scorpio stare but

the Pisces stare is totally underrated.

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Posted by urbane101
This is gonna sound really wierd but the people that usually keep me are the ones who make me work for it a little bit and at the same time are a little broken inside. My advice?

Date other people and keep doing it. She may come around. It's hard to get your mind off fish but in order to do that, you need to rid yourself of reminders. Find something that is strictly YOU. something you never let anyone touch, or know about. I have that, so that's what helps me.

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Posted by urbane101
This is gonna sound really wierd but the people that usually keep me are the ones who make me work for it a little bit and at the same time are a little broken inside. My advice?

Date other people and keep doing it. She may come around. It's hard to get your mind off fish but in order to do that, you need to rid yourself of reminders. Find something that is strictly YOU. something you never let anyone touch, or know about. I have that, so that's what helps me.

hmmm.... i get what you are saying... but i have no time on my hands im very busy... and date other people... and barely message her unless its about our project. she already knows she's not aloud to kiss me if we are platonic... and honestly i don't think she cares. im not trying to hold on to false hope. ya know?

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This is gonna sound really wierd but the people that usually keep me are the ones who make me work for it a little bit and at the same time are a little broken inside. My advice?

Date other people and keep doing it. She may come around. It's hard to get your mind off fish but in order to do that, you need to rid yourself of reminders. Find something that is strictly YOU. something you never let anyone touch, or know about. I have that, so that's what helps me.

hmmm.... i get what you are saying... but i have no time on my hands im very busy... and date other people... and barely message her unless its about our project. she already knows she's not aloud to kiss me if we are platonic... and honestly i don't think she cares. im not trying to hold on to false hope. ya know?

Well, I know how you feel there. Dating to me is horrible so I'm single AF and I am keeping other people away until I find the right person. less goodbyes, more hellos. I was in a relationship with a scorp that was very much like this ('friends' now, it's a little awkward) with the back and forth thing. Some days we were totally into eachother other times one of us was like "i need space". a lot of that I feel like has to come from understanding o that person actually is. Emotionally, it seems you two are on point. mentally, the contrary.

If you don't want to hold onto false hope then cut her out, tell her straight up that you don't like it when she says "im just not feeling it anymore", but she keeps bouncing back. There's going to be off days, but usually "boredom" comes from too much effort, or a LACK of effort on the other hand. does that make sense? I recently let go of a scorp woman I was pretty enamored with, but she had told me she moved on and just wanted to be friends and she was fighting for the friendship. Bad break, sometimes still really hurts but she still wants to meet me again when I move near her. My point is, maybe you should try to keep this as a "civil" friendship. Meaning you are able to converse with each other, but you don't go deep into feelings. Try that out and see how it works? If you two were important to each other, then you both have to work on at least that.

Either way, I know scorps are good at disappearing, as I've experienced it myself (so are we but to do that takes a calamity or epiphany) so If I were you, I would just disappear. for 4 weeks, don't even talk to her about the project. see what she says. then talk, take charge, make a decision and live with it. Sometimes things work. other times, not so much. You only find out if you try.

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Cold turkey (reducing contact) and time. That's what helps me. Not that I'm good at commiting to that myself.

Making a list with the negative traits of someone might be eye opening too.

I agree... but I don't really want to put blame on her to make my self feel better. I only see point on blaming someone when there is legitimate reason backed up by facts. Otherwise I'm playing martyr and that's not fair. I did recognize the negative fact that she's fickle and that I should want to be with someone who isn't sure about me. BUT I don't want to close my self off to what I feel is an important human connection because of my ego. She good outways the bad. And she's never been any less than fair... though sometimes dishonest by I understand where she's coming from on that specific note. Not that I'm justifying. But I am justifying what I believe may be an important friendship at the least. I also know I can't truly be a good friend if I don't let go of my romantic feelings. That's why I try to only contact her scarcely when necessary. Like the project she's helping me with. I really am trying not to have a hidden agenda so I'm distant. But not.

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This is gonna sound really wierd but the people that usually keep me are the ones who make me work for it a little bit and at the same time are a little broken inside. My advice?

Date other people and keep doing it. She may come around. It's hard to get your mind off fish but in order to do that, you need to rid yourself of reminders. Find something that is strictly YOU. something you never let anyone touch, or know about. I have that, so that's what helps me.

hmmm.... i get what you are saying... but i have no time on my hands im very busy... and date other people... and barely message her unless its about our project. she already knows she's not aloud to kiss me if we are platonic... and honestly i don't think she cares. im not trying to hold on to false hope. ya know?

Well, I know how you feel there. Dating to me is horrible so I'm single AF and I am keeping other people away until I find the right person. less goodbyes, more hellos. I was in a relationship with a scorp that was very much like this ('friends' now, it's a little awkward) with the back and forth thing. Some days we were totally into eachother other times one of us was like "i need space". a lot of that I feel like has to come from understanding o that person actually is. Emotionally, it seems you two are on point. mentally, the contrary.

If you don't want to hold onto false hope then cut her out, tell her straight up that you don't like it when she says "im just not feeling it anymore", but she keeps bouncing back. There's going to be off days, but usually "boredom" comes from too much effort, or a LACK of effort on the other hand. does that make sense? I recently let go of a scorp woman I was pretty enamored with, but she had told me she moved on and just wanted to be friends and she was fighting for the friendship. Bad break, sometimes still really hurts but she still wants to meet me again when I move near her. My point is, maybe you should try to keep this as a "civil" friendship. Meaning you are able to converse with each other, but you don't go deep into feelings. Try that out and see how it works? If you two were important to each other, then you both have to work on at least that.

Either way, I know scorps are good at disappearing, as I've experienced it myself (so are we but to do that takes a calamity or epiphany) so If I were you, I would just disappear. for 4 weeks, don't even talk to her about the project. see what she says. then talk, take charge, make a decision and live with it. Sometimes things work. other times, not so much. You only find out if you try.

Thank you. I appreciate how detailed your advice is... And Ill definitely meditate on it..The 4 week thing is an excellent idea... thing about this project is it does have a deadline. So I have to be proactive about shooting the music video. Because my music is the most important thing to me. And I cannot risk the artistic progress for anything... So its rough because if I don't keep her posted on the project Ill risk the entire production. So I guess I need to film asap. And than maybe after disappear? What do you think? Everything is pretty casual rn.. I asked her a few days ago if she wanted to come see the warehouse where we are filming with me and our director, and another cast member. she messaged me back that she definitely does. And wants to know when we plan on going. I just havnt opened the message yet or responded because I need to make a plan and coordinate before I give her an answer. But the sooner everyone on the small production team is on board and we film. Ill have no reason to update her anymore..

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Cold turkey (reducing contact) and time. That's what helps me. Not that I'm good at commiting to that myself.

Making a list with the negative traits of someone might be eye opening too.

I agree... but I don't really want to put blame on her to make my self feel better. I only see point on blaming someone when there is legitimate reason backed up by facts. Otherwise I'm playing martyr and that's not fair. I did recognize the negative fact that she's fickle and that I should want to be with someone who isn't sure about me. BUT I don't want to close my self off to what I feel is an important human connection because of my ego. She good outways the bad. And she's never been any less than fair... though sometimes dishonest by I understand where she's coming from on that specific note. Not that I'm justifying. But I am justifying what I believe may be an important friendship at the least. I also know I can't truly be a good friend if I don't let go of my romantic feelings. That's why I try to only contact her scarcely when necessary. Like the project she's helping me with. I really am trying not to have a hidden agenda so I'm distant. But not.

You don't have to put any blame on her. We all have our quirks. Some of them are compatible some aren't. So one thing that may help is to look where you aren't. That doesn't mean that she's a bad person or that you're trying to blame her, it's more trying to see things objectively rather than emotionally. For example: I want a bunch of children/cats someday, she doesn't. She likes to talk about xyz, I don't. She wants to achieve xyz in life, I want to do abc.

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This is gonna sound really wierd but the people that usually keep me are the ones who make me work for it a little bit and at the same time are a little broken inside. My advice?

Date other people and keep doing it. She may come around. It's hard to get your mind off fish but in order to do that, you need to rid yourself of reminders. Find something that is strictly YOU. something you never let anyone touch, or know about. I have that, so that's what helps me.

hmmm.... i get what you are saying... but i have no time on my hands im very busy... and date other people... and barely message her unless its about our project. she already knows she's not aloud to kiss me if we are platonic... and honestly i don't think she cares. im not trying to hold on to false hope. ya know?

Well, I know how you feel there. Dating to me is horrible so I'm single AF and I am keeping other people away until I find the right person. less goodbyes, more hellos. I was in a relationship with a scorp that was very much like this ('friends' now, it's a little awkward) with the back and forth thing. Some days we were totally into eachother other times one of us was like "i need space". a lot of that I feel like has to come from understanding o that person actually is. Emotionally, it seems you two are on point. mentally, the contrary.

If you don't want to hold onto false hope then cut her out, tell her straight up that you don't like it when she says "im just not feeling it anymore", but she keeps bouncing back. There's going to be off days, but usually "boredom" comes from too much effort, or a LACK of effort on the other hand. does that make sense? I recently let go of a scorp woman I was pretty enamored with, but she had told me she moved on and just wanted to be friends and she was fighting for the friendship. Bad break, sometimes still really hurts but she still wants to meet me again when I move near her. My point is, maybe you should try to keep this as a "civil" friendship. Meaning you are able to converse with each other, but you don't go deep into feelings. Try that out and see how it works? If you two were important to each other, then you both have to work on at least that.

Either way, I know scorps are good at disappearing, as I've experienced it myself (so are we but to do that takes a calamity or epiphany) so If I were you, I would just disappear. for 4 weeks, don't even talk to her about the project. see what she says. then talk, take charge, make a decision and live with it. Sometimes things work. other times, not so much. You only find out if you try.

Thank you. I appreciate how detailed your advice is... And Ill definitely meditate on it..The 4 week thing is an excellent idea... thing about this project is it does have a deadline. So I have to be proactive about shooting the music video. Because my music is the most important thing to me. And I cannot risk the artistic progress for anything... So its rough because if I don't keep her posted on the project Ill risk the entire production. So I guess I need to film asap. And than maybe after disappear? What do you think? Everything is pretty casual rn.. I asked her a few days ago if she wanted to come see the warehouse where we are filming with me and our director, and another cast member. she messaged me back that she definitely does. And wants to know when we plan on going. I just havnt opened the message yet or responded because I need to make a plan and coordinate before I give her an answer. But the sooner everyone on the small production team is on board and we film. Ill have no reason to update her anymore..

So I want to ask, the reason you dont want to talk to her is because she is hot and cold, right?

if you MUST film and she is a necessity, disappear AFTER filming. From my experience, this dynamic is about control. who has it, who wants it, and who gets it; try not to play any games. be straight up, and say to her something like

"look, i need you right now. I know we have some history which may be causing one or both of us to react towards the other negatively, but I'm asking you to help me out with this and respect boundaries. I'm not sure what you want from ME, but I need you for this right now. After that, lets just take some time to ourselves to think. deal?"

You're in control of yourself and offered her a spot of equality to work with you. But you've also set your baseline. any deviation from that, you can deal with it after. If she tries to make moves, tell her AFTER the recording once you guys have figured it's what you both want, you've given it time, and are ready for that.

BLUF (bottom line, up front) do not play power games. The scorps I have known in the past have done that (not saying you will!! it's just from experience I don't mean to label you!), pisces play off of that energy. then it turns into a game of "you hurt me more". At least, it CAN be like that. it only happened once to me until i realized it and shut it down 😉

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I'm guessing she's very attractive, right?

I think you'll be all right.

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I'm guessing she's very attractive, right?

I think you'll be all right.

Yes. Very. But that is FAR from the reason. I see beauty every day. And I don't mean to seem cocky. But I can get beautiful girls. Beauty is the first thing that fades for me. I adore who she is...Shes beautiful inside like no other. She's imaginative. Extremely intelligent. Artistic. SOOO fucking caring. Sarcastic as fuck. When Im around her I always have a smile that makes my jaw hurt. One time her and I hung out at her place for 8 hours. Just making out and talking. She brought up "wow i can't stop smiling my jaw hurts". I was all "same".

what never fades for me is how she looks at me, when she feels for me. Her expressions are beautiful. Yes she is beautiful. But she is more than that. I feel like a better person for even just knowing her. But she doesn't know I feel this way.. I don't think It will be received well...

I'll be honest, at first I thought you were probably going to try and smokescreen me with the "it's more than just that she's my hot muse, it's the personality" talk...

But...

Having read through all the details you remember about her, it's clear to see it's the real deal and you've got it bad for this woman.

You know it's one-sided though and the more you share of your story, the more it actually seems like she's been pretty straight with you. I don't see much flip flopping there. Maybe some carelessness on her part, but she hasn't mixed words about not being interested in a relationship.

Sometimes strong chemistry is just like that and I'm sorry that I don't have an answer for you. My work is creative and I've had the love of my life as a muse, so I know what it's like. Maybe just get it all out of your system on video until you've done that chapter of your life to death. That way it never becomes a curse for having met one another, because you created something between you both that didn't exist and wouldn't exist if you hadn't both met. I don't know if I'm making much sense. I don't blame you if I'm not.

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The connection / pull between Cancer and Pisces can be intense. If you want to keep it platonic, try to avoid the eye contact. 😉

For me.... the eye contact is going to be necessary in certain scenes.... and it's intense... hopefully I'll survive.

were sunglasses at all other times.

also still waiting on her birthdate

march 4th 1996

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Posted by LuckyLibra979
And people think scorpios have the strongest sting sssshhhhhiiiittt

Just leave her alone b. You just torturing yourself. I don't think she is ready for a relationship period but she enjoys the emotional experience of intimacy. Just fuck her, cuddle and stop showing her so much of yourself.

Posted by LuckyLibra979
And people think scorpios have the strongest sting sssshhhhhiiiittt

Just leave her alone b. You just torturing yourself. I don't think she is ready for a relationship period but she enjoys the emotional experience of intimacy. Just fuck her, cuddle and stop showing her so much of yourself.

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And people think scorpios have the strongest sting sssshhhhhiiiittt

Just leave her alone b. You just torturing yourself. I don't think she is ready for a relationship period but she enjoys the emotional experience of intimacy. Just fuck her, cuddle and stop showing her so much of yourself.

I am leaving her alone. That's the point..I don't think you interpreted what I said correctly. She doesn't know any of this.

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Posted by tiziani
I'm guessing she's very attractive, right?

I think you'll be all right.

Yes. Very. But that is FAR from the reason. I see beauty every day. And I don't mean to seem cocky. But I can get beautiful girls. Beauty is the first thing that fades for me. I adore who she is...Shes beautiful inside like no other. She's imaginative. Extremely intelligent. Artistic. SOOO fucking caring. Sarcastic as fuck. When Im around her I always have a smile that makes my jaw hurt. One time her and I hung out at her place for 8 hours. Just making out and talking. She brought up "wow i can't stop smiling my jaw hurts". I was all "same".

what never fades for me is how she looks at me, when she feels for me. Her expressions are beautiful. Yes she is beautiful. But she is more than that. I feel like a better person for even just knowing her. But she doesn't know I feel this way.. I don't think It will be received well...

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Soooo im a pisces and I'm not fickle at all. I either like you or i don't... So sounds like shes toying with you..the "chemistry" you feel?its just you feeling it. She doesn't feel it. You need to understand that. She doesn't feel sparks... She doesn't want you like that. I'm sorry to be brutal.