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Pisces Man Ghosted
Posted by kiirsttnae
First of all, thank you to all who responded to my last post. I feel embarrased to post again but writing this out is therapudic and any advice is appreciated as always. Although there's probably not much to say other than MOVE ON!
I ended up officially going out with the pisces man from my last post and we hit it off. The chemistry was unreal - pisces men are remarkable at making a lady feel special. As it was time to leave, he looked me in the eyes and said that he enjoyed our time and that we would love to do it again. He mentioned it again before I got into my car and then again over a text. He said that we should do something this weekend but he would let me know.
Fast forward and I have not heard from him. I just casually texted him to see how he was doing and... no response. I know I am rushing and being too hopeful but I wasn't needy or overbearing.
Why is he ghosting!? I'm confused. I wish he would just be honest and tell me he can't do this or that he's not feeling it or busy ... SOMETHING. Anyone have experience with this?
you need to be patient. pisces feel their way. he will come forward and pull back all the time. you my get a bit fed up with that going quiet and then bursting back in around you but that's what they do. do not I repeat not chase him. just wait. even if it's 3 weeks!!
Posted by scorp66Thank you @scorp66 for the advice. I definitely don’t want to chase but he was the one who came on strong, so now I am left feeling silly for getting involved. I am taking your advice and just waiting, thanks again
you need to be patient. pisces feel their way. he will come forward and pull back all the time. you my get a bit fed up with that going quiet and then bursting back in around you but that's what they do. do not I repeat not chase him. just wait. even if it's 3 weeks!!
Posted by AquarelleThank you @aquarelle, this was helpful. The whole reason I am feeling somewhat hurt over this is because I did push the whole chase/chaser thing aside and asked him out and that’s how the whole ghosting thing came about for this post. It’s just been radio silence. He seemed too kind to just ignore me?! That’s why I feel a little bruised, especially since he seemed interested. I do appreciate your response though!
So he mentioned 3 times that he enjoyed the time you spent together and that he would love to do that again? Seems pretty clear to me. He is shouting but you don't hear it.
I think he has made it pretty clear what he wants, so now it's your turn to show him you want this just as much as him. Sometimes Pisces men just need some reassurance that you are just as much into them as they are into you. What better way to do this than to organize a night out for the two of you?
Just let go of the whole chasing / being chased thing and look into your heart. If you think he's worth it, and you want to spend time with him, organize a get together for the two of you and take it from there.
I hope that he is just pulling back to evaluate. We met by chance so who knows if he is seeing other women. I hate this, I feel embarrassed for opening up after he was aggressive in his actions that lead me to believe he liked me, hence why this is confusing and painful
Posted by Jayc3onThanks @jayc3on, have you ignored someone you liked during those disappearing times?
@kiirsttnae disappearing is something to expect from some of us depending how we feel.
Posted by kiirsttnaeFirst mistake was texting him after the date.
First of all, thank you to all who responded to my last post. I feel embarrased to post again but writing this out is therapudic and any advice is appreciated as always. Although there's probably not much to say other than MOVE ON!
I ended up officially going out with the pisces man from my last post and we hit it off. The chemistry was unreal - pisces men are remarkable at making a lady feel special. As it was time to leave, he looked me in the eyes and said that he enjoyed our time and that we would love to do it again. He mentioned it again before I got into my car and then again over a text. He said that we should do something this weekend but he would let me know.
Fast forward and I have not heard from him. I just casually texted him to see how he was doing and... no response. I know I am rushing and being too hopeful but I wasn't needy or overbearing.
Why is he ghosting!? I'm confused. I wish he would just be honest and tell me he can't do this or that he's not feeling it or busy ... SOMETHING. Anyone have experience with this?
Also never have all your eggs on one basket. Get more dates and date more people in the means time.
Posted by FafaAh, thanks @fafa I won’t be too clingy. I hope he does come back!
He may be dealing with others, he might like you also but ur not his world. He has things to do and will get back to you when time permits. Don't be too clingy
Usually when someone ignores you they aren’t that interested YET. Just chill sis. Let him come to you.
@fafa I’m a Gemini but I have a Pisces moon
Posted by lesenfantterriblesThis made me laugh because I see your point! I feel like I may have wrote it out in the wrong way - it was through a longer period of time but maybe it was a sign.Posted by kiirsttnae
he looked me in the eyes and said that he enjoyed our time and that we would love to do it again. He mentioned it again before I got into my car and then again over a text.
does no one else find this weird? like, why is he being overly reassuring? for some reason, i think this is weird.
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Posted by kiirsttnaedon't feel embarrassed to post on this board, that's kinda what it's here for. especially if it's being therapeutic or helping ease whatever is on your mind in some type of way...90% of the members you'll interact with here have good intentions anyway when it comes to responding to questions and giving advice...at least on the pisces board anyway...
First of all, thank you to all who responded to my last post. I feel embarrased to post again but writing this out is therapudic and any advice is appreciated as always
every pisces believes in true self-expression, they'd be lying if they said they didn't...
so, say what you gotta say lol 🙂
--Jack
Posted by yellow01gtThank you, that is very sweet. Everyone has been amazing, I appreciate all the advice.Posted by kiirsttnaedon't feel embarrassed to post on this board, that's kinda what it's here for. especially if it's being therapeutic or helping ease whatever is on your mind in some type of way...90% of the members you'll interact with here have good intentions anyway when it comes to responding to questions and giving advice...at least on the pisces board anyway...
First of all, thank you to all who responded to my last post. I feel embarrased to post again but writing this out is therapudic and any advice is appreciated as always
every pisces believes in true self-expression, they'd be lying if they said they didn't...
so, say what you gotta say lol 🙂
--Jackclick to expand
I have thought about all this now for a few days and I have a couple of take-aways, just in case anyone ever finds this topic in the future. It's my hope that this helps someone. This is not a rant against Pisces, by the way, but my thoughts towards someone ghosting you.
I understand from all the replies that a Pisces may disappear from time to time and that's fine, but there was a level of hope that he would (or will) come back. Now, with a clearer mind, I feel that despite the disappearing act, I should have been more deserving of respect.
Firstly, this guy looked me in the eyes and lied to me about wanting to see me again. Even repeating that he wanted to see me again. He should have said, "this was fun, let's be friends, stay in touch" or "I had fun, I am just feeling that I don't see a future" - there are many other ways to respectfully reject someone. Maybe he did want to see me again and something came up but again, a text or call would be nice. Completely ignoring me after I initiated contact is an indicator of immaturity and instability but also makes me feel incredibly embarrassed that I tried!
Which brings me to the point that I felt stupid for believing that we may see each other again. He lead me to believe this, I didn't lead me to believe this. This whole situation is not my fault, even though it feels that way. I am not crazy, HE initiated the plan, I was just following up.
If this ever happens to someone, it's not your fault. Don't feel embarrassed like I did.
I understand from all the replies that a Pisces may disappear from time to time and that's fine, but there was a level of hope that he would (or will) come back. Now, with a clearer mind, I feel that despite the disappearing act, I should have been more deserving of respect.
Firstly, this guy looked me in the eyes and lied to me about wanting to see me again. Even repeating that he wanted to see me again. He should have said, "this was fun, let's be friends, stay in touch" or "I had fun, I am just feeling that I don't see a future" - there are many other ways to respectfully reject someone. Maybe he did want to see me again and something came up but again, a text or call would be nice. Completely ignoring me after I initiated contact is an indicator of immaturity and instability but also makes me feel incredibly embarrassed that I tried!
Which brings me to the point that I felt stupid for believing that we may see each other again. He lead me to believe this, I didn't lead me to believe this. This whole situation is not my fault, even though it feels that way. I am not crazy, HE initiated the plan, I was just following up.
If this ever happens to someone, it's not your fault. Don't feel embarrassed like I did.
Posted by scorp66Uh, NO, we are NOT Taureans (they FEEL, they THINK about it, they OPEN psychology books, they READ said book, then they CONTEMPLATE on "Is she the one?", "I've got too much on my plate", "Will he/she hurt me?" "Can my poor heart take it if I TRUST again?" "I LOVE my freedom too much for this" etc, etc; yeah, I'm being sarcastic here). OP will NOT hear from him again. Sorry. Why? "We swim away".
you need to be patient. pisces feel their way. he will come forward and pull back all the time. you my get a bit fed up with that going quiet and then bursting back in around you but that's what they do. do not I repeat not chase him. just wait. even if it's 3 weeks!!
Explanation: Pisceans want you to hear what YOU want to hear, "We gotta do this again!" (smiles, touching, looking at you in the eyes, etc), but deep DOWN we're telling ourselves, "Be a gentleman (in my sense it will be a "lady"), smile, let him/her know you're having fun, then we will DISS you" (swim away). Sorry 😢
🤗 cyber hugs!
Love,
Eva
Posted by kiirsttnaePosted by Jayc3onThanks @jayc3on, have you ignored someone you liked during those disappearing times?
@kiirsttnae disappearing is something to expect from some of us depending how we feel.click to expand
a pisces will disappear / ignore you especially if we like you
in the beginning
we are pretty consistent / reliable if you prove yourself to be a sure thing down the road
then we can be clingy af
but not fire sign relationship clingy
or scorpio clingy
pisces clingy which involves some space
Posted by EvatheDivaThat makes sense, that they want to be nice about it. Being lied to hurts so much worse though than just being rejected. I appreciate your insight!Posted by scorp66Uh, NO, we are NOT Taureans (they FEEL, they THINK about it, they OPEN psychology books, they READ said book, then they CONTEMPLATE on "Is she the one?", "I've got too much on my plate", "Will he/she hurt me?" "Can my poor heart take it if I TRUST again?" "I LOVE my freedom too much for this" etc, etc; yeah, I'm being sarcastic here). OP will NOT hear from him again. Sorry. Why? "We swim away".
you need to be patient. pisces feel their way. he will come forward and pull back all the time. you my get a bit fed up with that going quiet and then bursting back in around you but that's what they do. do not I repeat not chase him. just wait. even if it's 3 weeks!!
Explanation: Pisceans want you to hear what YOU want to hear, "We gotta do this again!" (smiles, touching, looking at you in the eyes, etc), but deep DOWN we're telling ourselves, "Be a gentleman (in my sense it will be a "lady"), smile, let him/her know you're having fun, then we will DISS you" (swim away). Sorry 😢
🤗 cyber hugs!
Love,
Evaclick to expand
I love what you said about him setting the plan and you were just following up.
I friggjn live that.
Cause he did set the plan and intentions.
The lack of follow through is irritating.
I friggjn live that.
Cause he did set the plan and intentions.
The lack of follow through is irritating.
Posted by kiirsttnaePosted by EvatheDivaThat makes sense, that they want to be nice about it. Being lied to hurts so much worse though than just being rejected. I appreciate your insight!Posted by scorp66Uh, NO, we are NOT Taureans (they FEEL, they THINK about it, they OPEN psychology books, they READ said book, then they CONTEMPLATE on "Is she the one?", "I've got too much on my plate", "Will he/she hurt me?" "Can my poor heart take it if I TRUST again?" "I LOVE my freedom too much for this" etc, etc; yeah, I'm being sarcastic here). OP will NOT hear from him again. Sorry. Why? "We swim away".
you need to be patient. pisces feel their way. he will come forward and pull back all the time. you my get a bit fed up with that going quiet and then bursting back in around you but that's what they do. do not I repeat not chase him. just wait. even if it's 3 weeks!!
Explanation: Pisceans want you to hear what YOU want to hear, "We gotta do this again!" (smiles, touching, looking at you in the eyes, etc), but deep DOWN we're telling ourselves, "Be a gentleman (in my sense it will be a "lady"), smile, let him/her know you're having fun, then we will DISS you" (swim away). Sorry 😢
🤗 cyber hugs!
Love,
Evaclick to expand
🤗 cyber hugs!
Love,
Eva
Posted by scorp66Posted by kiirsttnae
First of all, thank you to all who responded to my last post. I feel embarrased to post again but writing this out is therapudic and any advice is appreciated as always. Although there's probably not much to say other than MOVE ON!
I ended up officially going out with the pisces man from my last post and we hit it off. The chemistry was unreal - pisces men are remarkable at making a lady feel special. As it was time to leave, he looked me in the eyes and said that he enjoyed our time and that we would love to do it again. He mentioned it again before I got into my car and then again over a text. He said that we should do something this weekend but he would let me know.
Fast forward and I have not heard from him. I just casually texted him to see how he was doing and... no response. I know I am rushing and being too hopeful but I wasn't needy or overbearing.
Why is he ghosting!? I'm confused. I wish he would just be honest and tell me he can't do this or that he's not feeling it or busy ... SOMETHING. Anyone have experience with this?
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They always say they will 'let you know'..'get back to you'..
But they dont say when, and this is what is so aggravating. This is what makes it difficult to walk away from a pisces pulling that bullsh!t because you need closure. Look, if you dont want me I am an adult and can handle it, just say youre not feeling this and Ill leave and never bother you again.
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