Can a Cancer and Scorpio only be platonic friends?

Hi. Merry Christmas to everyone!!!

I needed to post this topic because I’m really conflicted. I’m dating someone right now that I see as a potential partner and I like stability and I take relationships seriously. Being a Cancer, I consider myself faithful and this guy has a lot of good qualities that I’ve always considered important.

I’ve also known a Scorpio man for years. We’re friends and have that special bond that Cancers/Scorpios have. I used to have a HUGE crush on him in the past. To be honest, I am a little bit sexually attracted to him too. So it’s not just mental but physical.

Since now I’m dating this new guy, I don’t know how to act with my Scorpio friend. He messages me here and there just to check up on me and I have no clue on how to treat him. On one hand, I want to be the sweet and affectionate Cancer girl that I am. This is the REAL me, but on the other hand I feel guilty. I feel like I’m betraying the guy I’m seeing because I’m being “affectionate” to a friend I had feelings for.

So I’ve been aloof and acting careless with the Scorpio because I’m scared of having a crush on him again like the old days and being unfaithful even just mentally.

Today I didn’t sent him a Merry Christmas message after he messaged me twice last time. Do I feel bad? ABSOLUTELY 😟 He of course, didn’t message me either and it’s sad we’re treating each other like this.

But I’m just lost here. I wouldn’t like it if he thinks I hate him. He’s such a great guy and I don’t want to ever lose him as a friend.

Do you think I can only be platonic friends with him? If so, how— Can I be myself and sweet without cheating?

I have even contemplated telling him the truth so at least he will understand things better but even this makes me feel guilty. I shouldn’t be confessing to a guy that I used to like him while going out with another.

Please help this confused Cancer out! Thanks

Posted by Rainbow87
Hi. Merry Christmas to everyone!!!

I needed to post this topic because I’m really conflicted. I’m dating someone right now that I see as a potential partner and I like stability and I take relationships seriously. Being a Cancer, I consider myself faithful and this guy has a lot of good qualities that I’ve always considered important.



I’ve also known a Scorpio man for years. We’re friends and have that special bond that Cancers/Scorpios have. I used to have a HUGE crush on him in the past. To be honest, I am a little bit sexually attracted to him too. So it’s not just mental but physical.

Since now I’m dating this new guy, I don’t know how to act with my Scorpio friend. He messages me here and there just to check up on me and I have no clue on how to treat him. On one hand, I want to be the sweet and affectionate Cancer girl that I am. This is the REAL me, but on the other hand I feel guilty. I feel like I’m betraying the guy I’m seeing because I’m being “affectionate” to a friend I had feelings for.



So I’ve been aloof and acting careless with the Scorpio because I’m scared of having a crush on him again like the old days and being unfaithful even just mentally.

Today I didn’t sent him a Merry Christmas message after he messaged me twice last time. Do I feel bad? ABSOLUTELY 😟 He of course, didn’t message me either and it’s sad we’re treating each other like this.

But I’m just lost here. I wouldn’t like it if he thinks I hate him. He’s such a great guy and I don’t want to ever lose him as a friend.

Do you think I can only be platonic friends with him? If so, how— Can I be myself and sweet without cheating?

I have even contemplated telling him the truth so at least he will understand things better but even this makes me feel guilty. I shouldn’t be confessing to a guy that I used to like him while going out with another.

Please help this confused Cancer out! Thanks

You should tell him the truth about you don’t know how to act because u want to

Respect the new relationship. And apologize for the behavior. He should be ok with that if it’s only friendship

You don’t even have to go into the I may have feelings for u

Are you exclusive with the guy your dating?

The guy I’m dating is not officially with me but we’re headed towards that direction. The problem is that it’s hard to maintain a friendship with someone I had a crush on. It’s like putting my new relationship at risk.

At the same time, I feel bad because the Scorpio is a great friend and very loyal. It’s like I have to give up his friendship and I’m struggling on how to act. I don’t know if he might have feelings for me but he reaches out sometimes even knowing I’m seeing someone. I just don’t want to give him false hopes. Should I just tell him that I prefer to put some distance because I liked him in the past? Maybe he suspects I liked him but he doesn’t know for sure, as I haven’t told him. But I would feel bad if he gets hurt. I don’t like hurting those I love 😞

Posted by Rainbow87
The guy I’m dating is not officially with me but we’re headed towards that direction. The problem is that it’s hard to maintain a friendship with someone I had a crush on. It’s like putting my new relationship at risk.

At the same time, I feel bad because the Scorpio is a great friend and very loyal. It’s like I have to give up his friendship and I’m struggling on how to act. I don’t know if he might have feelings for me but he reaches out sometimes even knowing I’m seeing someone. I just don’t want to give him false hopes. Should I just tell him that I prefer to put some distance because I liked him in the past? Maybe he suspects I liked him but he doesn’t know for sure, as I haven’t told him. But I would feel bad if he gets hurt. I don’t like hurting those I love 😞

This is asking for trouble. Why would you tell him that you liked him? It's like saying I like you but not enough cause I met someone better. Just remain friends and maintain your boundaries. Don't complicate, manipulate or give false hope

You didn't want the Scorp when you were single, but think you'll want him when you have a boyfriend?

I did want him before having a boyfriend but he wasn’t showing a lot of interest at that time. We drifted apart. I decided to rekindle our friendship and now he’s different and even told me he felt bad when we lost contact

Cancer: The sign of eternal dissatisfaction.

Posted by Rainbow87
I did want him before having a boyfriend but he wasn’t showing a lot of interest at that time. We drifted apart. I decided to rekindle our friendship and now he’s different and even told me he felt bad when we lost contact

Yes I feel you.. same thing happening with my Gemini friend.. and then they wonder why you're not in a relationship with them.. sometimes the timing is off

Posted by Rainbow87
Hi. Merry Christmas to everyone!!!

I needed to post this topic because I’m really conflicted. I’m dating someone right now that I see as a potential partner and I like stability and I take relationships seriously. Being a Cancer, I consider myself faithful and this guy has a lot of good qualities that I’ve always considered important.



I’ve also known a Scorpio man for years. We’re friends and have that special bond that Cancers/Scorpios have. I used to have a HUGE crush on him in the past. To be honest, I am a little bit sexually attracted to him too. So it’s not just mental but physical.

Since now I’m dating this new guy, I don’t know how to act with my Scorpio friend. He messages me here and there just to check up on me and I have no clue on how to treat him. On one hand, I want to be the sweet and affectionate Cancer girl that I am. This is the REAL me, but on the other hand I feel guilty. I feel like I’m betraying the guy I’m seeing because I’m being “affectionate” to a friend I had feelings for.



So I’ve been aloof and acting careless with the Scorpio because I’m scared of having a crush on him again like the old days and being unfaithful even just mentally.

Today I didn’t sent him a Merry Christmas message after he messaged me twice last time. Do I feel bad? ABSOLUTELY 😟 He of course, didn’t message me either and it’s sad we’re treating each other like this.

But I’m just lost here. I wouldn’t like it if he thinks I hate him. He’s such a great guy and I don’t want to ever lose him as a friend.

Do you think I can only be platonic friends with him? If so, how— Can I be myself and sweet without cheating?

I have even contemplated telling him the truth so at least he will understand things better but even this makes me feel guilty. I shouldn’t be confessing to a guy that I used to like him while going out with another.

Please help this confused Cancer out! Thanks

Ok I'm confused, why would it matter if your affectionate with him? Your friends....right?

Why would you feel guilty or your cheating?

Unless... your actually interested in him.

Was he a place holder for you?

Lmao you need to take time to yourself by yourself and in your own energy and figure out your real feelings.

Because there should be no reason you can't continue your plutonic relationship with Scorpio unless it wasn't plutonic in the first place😏

The best plutonic test is Scorpio meeting and hanging out with bf. That will sort shit out real quick for everyone lol

I think your doing a lot when your only just dating someone. It’s not exclusive, it’s not a relationship. And for all you know the guy your seeing has other romantic avenues he’s pursuing. And yet your ready to dispose of a solid friend for a ‘maybe’ relationship.

Kinda shitty that your guilt from past indiscretions is causing you to ghost a so called friend. He’s not the one who should be punished because of your unresolved issues.

I think you need to be honest with yourself and honest with your friend. Tell him your struggling with boundaries since your physically and emotionally attracted to him in a decidedly non platonic way. Let him know why the friendship has changed for you. He deserves your honesty at the very least.

Give him the, it’s not you it’s me speech.