Earth signs and friend zoning

I feel like Earth signs friend zone more than other elements just from my observation. What do you guys think? Also Earth signs what are some reasons you might friend zone someone?

Just saying your married or have a gf is two and enough, when I ask that question. It better be the truth too.

Felon

Hare core drug user or alcoholic like my mom.

Have 4 kids by different woman. But if they are all grown and no drama I'll be there.

There was an initial interest there for romance. Possibly physical attraction, intellectual compatibility, humor, charisma, or etc.

However, for some reason I didn't see longevity or long term stability. It does not mean they're awful people, I just do not see the point in investing so much time and putting effort into an empty possibility.

So maintaining a friendship is a way to show them that I still appreciate them as individuals, will continue to support them as a friend, but romance, no, completely out of the question.

Posted by TaurusBull1977
There was an initial interest there for romance. Possibly physical attraction, intellectual compatibility, humor, charisma, or etc.

However, for some reason I didn't see longevity or long term stability. It does not mean they're awful people, I just do not see the point in investing so much time and putting effort into an empty possibility.

So maintaining a friendship is a way to show them that I still appreciate them as individuals, will continue to support them as a friend, but romance, no, completely out of the question.

*Sigh* by stability you mean emotional or career wise?

They are realistic, cautious, observant... They mostly have head on their shoulders.. The earth types observe their person of interest a lot and keeps reviewing their decision so as to make it serious.. That is why. And once they've made up their mind, goodluck changing it.

Also, they can compartmentalise.. Like literally. They are good at it.

Ill friendzone real quick. I have earth in my chart

If I feel like someone's coming on too strong without having given enough time for us to get to know each other and let things naturally evolve, I'll friendzone. I like to take things slow and I won't jump into anything until I get to know the person really well and can see things actually working out long-term.

Posted by Foreverloveme
We're choosy (picky) lovers. We're down to earth, most are humble, reliable, & laid back... People like that kind of company to hang with. We also think long term as far as thinking ahead & in advance more than most signs who simply live in the now or emotions. You're probably right in your observation.

Reasons: same as what everyone has mentioned. We like you as a person, just don't see long term relationship potential (choosy lovers 😉) or other incompatibilities.

My personal reasons

-Being caught in lies

-Drama from previous relationships

-Too many kids (3/4 is my limit as I typically date older guys)

-No kids because I don't want to have anymore, don't want to adopt, don't want to deprive a man from experiencing having his own child if he wants children, & questionable whether he can help me raise mine as he would his own without having that experience.

-Major jail time due to my children

-Unstable (this could be emotional, financial, career wise)

-No drug addicts, alcoholics, gambling addicts, porn addicts...nothing that is uncontrollable or excessive

-Poor relationship with his mom (been there done that)

-sexual incompatibility

-too stubborn (uncompromising)

-No manners, rude, bad attitude, short temper

Etc, etc, etc

Yeah know what I like you too.

Posted by TaurusBull1977
There was an initial interest there for romance. Possibly physical attraction, intellectual compatibility, humor, charisma, or etc.

However, for some reason I didn't see longevity or long term stability. It does not mean they're awful people, I just do not see the point in investing so much time and putting effort into an empty possibility.

So maintaining a friendship is a way to show them that I still appreciate them as individuals, will continue to support them as a friend, but romance, no, completely out of the question.

What she said. I couldn't have said it better. I now noticed how I friend zoned a lot of guys in my 20's. They were flirts, flings, etc but couldn't hold up to the standards so they were easily friend zoned for me.

Posted by idlehands
If I feel like someone's coming on too strong without having given enough time for us to get to know each other and let things naturally evolve, I'll friendzone. I like to take things slow and I won't jump into anything until I get to know the person really well and can see things actually working out long-term.

How long does that taken you?

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Posted by idlehands
If I feel like someone's coming on too strong without having given enough time for us to get to know each other and let things naturally evolve, I'll friendzone. I like to take things slow and I won't jump into anything until I get to know the person really well and can see things actually working out long-term.

How long does that taken you?

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It usually takes a few months of consistent communication for me to build a pretty strong attraction to someone.

I have a lot of earth and water in my chart, Although I am a Libra. I love friend zoning but the difference between ME and an actual Earth sign, is that if I friend zone you, that is where you stay. You don't come out of that zone. EVER.

Now, some Tauruses I know will friend zone someone as a way to get to know them and take things slow.

This guy I like has Venus and Mars in Taurus. I have Virgo in Venus, Scorpio in Mars. I'm ready to make moves but he wants to take things EXTRA slow.

Earth signs are surface people in my experience dealing with them. They're pretty straightforward and have very strict list of things they will and will not tolerate. They're also pretty stubborn.

I'm just speaking in terms of their Sun but yeah, stability and security is their number one first and if they don't see as someone they can grow with, they move along.

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Posted by idlehands
If I feel like someone's coming on too strong without having given enough time for us to get to know each other and let things naturally evolve, I'll friendzone. I like to take things slow and I won't jump into anything until I get to know the person really well and can see things actually working out long-term.

How long does that taken you?

It usually takes a few months of consistent communication for me to build a pretty strong attraction to someone.

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That's seems good. Like it's supposed to pop off like that right away to a few months. Then get to seeing and courting and actually making sure of the sex is right with someone to? Right? How important if everything is great then sex is mediocre?

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Posted by idlehands
If I feel like someone's coming on too strong without having given enough time for us to get to know each other and let things naturally evolve, I'll friendzone. I like to take things slow and I won't jump into anything until I get to know the person really well and can see things actually working out long-term.

How long does that taken you?

It usually takes a few months of consistent communication for me to build a pretty strong attraction to someone.

That's seems good. Like it's supposed to pop off like that right away to a few months. Then get to seeing and courting and actually making sure of the sex is right with someone to? Right? How important if everything is great then sex is mediocre?

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Sex isn't too important for me personally in a relationship. It usually takes a lot for me to fall in love with someone, so mediocre sex wouldn't be too big of an issue--as long as we communicate that with each other and make sure we're putting in the effort to make it good for the both of us if one of us isn't satisfied.

I want to be my lovers best friend above all... So take it as a compliment 😉

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Posted by TaurusBull1977
There was an initial interest there for romance. Possibly physical attraction, intellectual compatibility, humor, charisma, or etc.

However, for some reason I didn't see longevity or long term stability. It does not mean they're awful people, I just do not see the point in investing so much time and putting effort into an empty possibility.

So maintaining a friendship is a way to show them that I still appreciate them as individuals, will continue to support them as a friend, but romance, no, completely out of the question.

*Sigh* by stability you mean emotional or career wise?

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Stability as in structure and core values.

What do you represent?

What do you stand for?

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Also, they can compartmentalise.. Like literally. They are good at it.

Very accurate!

Posted by ladylibra21
I feel like Earth signs friend zone more than other elements just from my observation. What do you guys think? Also Earth signs what are some reasons you might friend zone someone?

I agree.

Earth signs are realistic. If we see signs that you're not what we want or if we see this isn't going anywhere, or we dont feel the chemistry, we stop entertaining the thought of a relationship . We might still like you and think you're good people and enjoy time with you and we see you're friendship worthy, we would like to continue the friendship, but not the romance.

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Posted by idlehands
If I feel like someone's coming on too strong without having given enough time for us to get to know each other and let things naturally evolve, I'll friendzone. I like to take things slow and I won't jump into anything until I get to know the person really well and can see things actually working out long-term.

How long does that taken you?

It usually takes a few months of consistent communication for me to build a pretty strong attraction to someone.

That's seems good. Like it's supposed to pop off like that right away to a few months. Then get to seeing and courting and actually making sure of the sex is right with someone to? Right? How important if everything is great then sex is mediocre?

I can usually tell within a month as far as a general idea. Then 3 months is another checkpoint. Followed by 6-9 months. If I've given a person this much time, I'm vested.

I can't do mediocre sex.

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Yeah seems fair. I'm picky when it comes to sexual compatibility that is why people must ask is sex important in a relationship, ask a few more question in that time frame to see if the could compromise in things I will question people about. So it maybe fairly quickly release or we both ask questions to see if we are compatible or not when it comes to asking sexual compatibility questions it's highly important long term.

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Posted by idlehands
If I feel like someone's coming on too strong without having given enough time for us to get to know each other and let things naturally evolve, I'll friendzone. I like to take things slow and I won't jump into anything until I get to know the person really well and can see things actually working out long-term.

How long does that taken you?

It usually takes a few months of consistent communication for me to build a pretty strong attraction to someone.

That's seems good. Like it's supposed to pop off like that right away to a few months. Then get to seeing and courting and actually making sure of the sex is right with someone to? Right? How important if everything is great then sex is mediocre?

Sex isn't too important for me personally in a relationship. It usually takes a lot for me to fall in love with someone, so mediocre sex wouldn't be too big of an issue--as long as we communicate that with each other and make sure we're putting in the effort to make it good for the both of us if one of us isn't satisfied.

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Yeah earth signs don't fall easily..I communicate alot if I am interested. Takes time with all that. Especially if you are serious in finding long term. What happens if you are attracted to someone right off the bat? How do you express yeah I just want to date one and see where it goes mutually?

Posted by Foreverloveme
We're choosy (picky) lovers. We're down to earth, most are humble, reliable, & laid back... People like that kind of company to hang with. We also think long term as far as thinking ahead & in advance more than most signs who simply live in the now or emotions. You're probably right in your observation.

Reasons: same as what everyone has mentioned. We like you as a person, just don't see long term relationship potential (choosy lovers 😉) or other incompatibilities.

My personal reasons

-Being caught in lies

-Drama from previous relationships

-Too many kids (3/4 is my limit as I typically date older guys)

-No kids because I don't want to have anymore, don't want to adopt, don't want to deprive a man from experiencing having his own child if he wants children, & questionable whether he can help me raise mine as he would his own without having that experience.

-Major jail time due to my children

-Unstable (this could be emotional, financial, career wise)

-No drug addicts, alcoholics, gambling addicts, porn addicts...nothing that is uncontrollable or excessive

-Poor relationship with his mom (been there done that)

-sexual incompatibility

-too stubborn (uncompromising)

-No manners, rude, bad attitude, short temper

Etc, etc, etc

Everything you stated has nothing to do with sun signs, and just has to do with common sense. I mean I don't care who you are, these are things that should put off anyone sun sign be damned. Hell I wouldn't even want to be friends with a person exhibiting these characteristics.

Btw TC I wanted to say that is an excellent avatar pic. You are a gorgeous woman.

I always did like my coffee dark. 🙂

I am usually baffled at the stereotypical "boring, mundane, unoriginal' context that is used to refer to Earth Signs, but I am equally as confused when the other signs (Water, Fire & Air) are posting threads about why we are hard to pin down.

Well,

You have satisfied your own curiosity.

We marry, only those who can respect certain conventional traits that the rest of the world find tedious.

And no, it's not always applicable to finances. try a strong sense of Family-Ties, Ethics, Moral Principles, Duty and Responsibility.

Unless you're on Board...

Then...

Stay in the "Friend-Zone."

Posted by TaurusBull1977
I am usually baffled at the stereotypical "boring, mundane, unoriginal' context that is used to refer to Earth Signs, but I am equally as confused when the other signs (Water, Fire & Air) are posting threads about why we are hard to pin down.

Well,

You have satisfied your own curiosity.

We marry, only those who can respect certain conventional traits that the rest of the world find tedious.

And no, it's not always applicable to finances. try a strong sense of Family-Ties, Ethics, Moral Principles, Duty and Responsibility.

Unless you're on Board...

Then...

Stay in the "Friend-Zone."

I think in my issue it is that we work together and something else is holding him back he is very self conscious from certain things as well. Idk I guess I will love him from a close far lol

@Ladylibra,

I hope I didn't come off too harsh or offensive.

My apologies.

Posted by TaurusBull1977
@Ladylibra,

I hope I didn't come off too harsh or offensive.

My apologies.

Girl naw I didn't take it that way besides truth is always valued.thanks love ?

Posted by TaurusBull1977
There was an initial interest there for romance. Possibly physical attraction, intellectual compatibility, humor, charisma, or etc.

However, for some reason I didn't see longevity or long term stability. It does not mean they're awful people, I just do not see the point in investing so much time and putting effort into an empty possibility.

So maintaining a friendship is a way to show them that I still appreciate them as individuals, will continue to support them as a friend, but romance, no, completely out of the question.

I was going to reply, but your response says enough. I totally agree.

@LadyLibra,

Initiate, but don't take over. Although some Caps are shy, they still prefer to lead.

Put on the Libra charm, make him laugh (don't let the seriousness fool you, they love a woman with a sense of humor).

Show him your feminine side, bring him a dessert OR you can just initiate a conversation.

Actively listen to him...and quietly observe him. His mannerisms, demeanor, this will give you a much more broad idea of the man you're dealing with.

Share your opinions, but do not monopolize the conversation.

A woman with a brain is always attractive.

A woman who monopolizes a conversation shows arrogance.

As for conversation,

Ask about his family. There is a high probability he has close ties to them.

His views on just about any subject.

This will break the ice, and get him out of his shell a bit.

Some Caps can be rather shy and withdrawn.

My Libra sister is "crushing' on a Cap man too 😉

Good Luck !

Posted by TaurusBull1977
@LadyLibra,

Initiate, but don't take over. Although some Caps are shy, they still prefer to lead.

Put on the Libra charm, make him laugh (don't let the seriousness fool you, they love a woman with a sense of humor).

Show him your feminine side, bring him a dessert OR you can just initiate a conversation.

Actively listen to him...and quietly observe him. His mannerisms, demeanor, this will give you a much more broad idea of the man you're dealing with.

Share your opinions, but do not monopolize the conversation.

A woman with a brain is always attractive.

A woman who monopolizes a conversation shows arrogance.

As for conversation,

Ask about his family. There is a high probability he has close ties to them.

His views on just about any subject.

This will break the ice, and get him out of his shell a bit.

Some Caps can be rather shy and withdrawn.

My Libra sister is "crushing' on a Cap man too 😉

Good Luck !

Oh this man is very nuh comfortable around me he is opening up more and more each week we talk about his family his goals how he is feeling stress or back pain from his injury we laugh tons we are actually mostly laughing and joking the connection is crazy other co workers have asked me about it but he won't ask me out or to even just hang out after work. I have asked him to hang out 3 times well in a round about way the last attempt was last wed after we had talked about yoga he left for the day and I texted him and said hey if you really want to try it I used to teach some yoga we could go to the park and roll some mats out then when he didn't repond on 30 minute I got insecure and said nevermind that sounds super boring lol and he responded back another 20 mins later with "Sorry just got home. It actually sounds really good my body is so tense and stressed that it would help but I'm lazy and won't do it" and i asked so would you wanna do it today and Then he said I guess I will have to try it one of these days and I responded with so meaning you won't lol then the next day he mentioned it as I was leaving In passing he is either really shy and afraid to get involved because we work together or just thinks I would be a good new friend to have, but everytime I try to convince myself I don't care about him it fails lol

Maybe its my Aquarius mercury, I can click with almost anyone conversationally.....even if its the first time we meet...I realise over time that it leads ppl on. Although to me thats just being friendly.

Chemistry is very impt for me throughout all my previous experience, if I m attracted immediately I will find out more then decide if I want to take it further. It never works the other way for me or my other Earth exs.

Ok, I'm dying to ask this question and this is specifically for Virgo females.

If you friend zone a guy, do you get jealous if he gets attention from other women?

It's a chemistry thing and what I vision with that person. It's all about my vision, which may or may not be correct.

In my current lack of a situation things played out similar to how I visioned it too, unfortunately. If I see a potential heartache or flakiness that can lead to a potential heartache, then I usually will not take the risk.

Funny thing though, I don't see many earth signs in healthy relationships. It's almost like when we do take the risk it's still wrong, which is SCARY.

Posted by beautifulsoul74
Ok, I'm dying to ask this question and this is specifically for Virgo females.

If you friend zone a guy, do you get jealous if he gets attention from other women?

Lol i have a Virgo friend who does this!

I friend zone almost every guy I come across.. i don't know why.....

Sometimes Im just not attracted to them as much as they are to me and sometimes its just character flaws that I can't look past...

Posted by Foreverloveme
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True. Let me clarify.

1. Scorpio guy down to earth great conversation someone I could chill with as a friend. Was arrested at 16 did lots of time like 22 years. Doesn't necessarily make him a bad person. I just know I can't commit to him.

2. Taurus guy about 38. 1 daughter, sells cars. He's never been married. Parents never married but were together like 40 years or something. I wouldn't commit to him because a) he doesn't value marriage b) he sells cars which means he persuades people for a living I don't like the room for dishonesty & manipulation. Still a nice guy to have as a friend.

3. Pisces again nice guy. Gambled uncontrollably so we eventually severed ties.

I don't really have friends. The couple people I consider friends still have issues so I just keep to myself.

Again, I can't knock any of your reasons.

Example 1: did serious hard time. That guy is now playing catch up with the rest of the world. Chances are he will not amount to anything, and who knows what personality, and mental disorders he carries from his experience. He might turn out great, but it is the risk/reward system. Taking a chance on a person in that predicament the odds are highly stacked against you. This is coming to you from a guy who served time himself. Tho I did nowhere near that time. The system tho is very incompetent, and inefficient. Most ppl that do serious time never recover.

#2 I agree that our parents are a big influence on how we approach relationships in life. Sometimes they serve as role models to aspire to. Other times they serve as examples of what NOT to do. I think that you can get a feel for what the person is capable of the better you get to know them. As far as what he does for a living, I mean unless the guy is a Hitman, or drug dealer, or kidnapping into slavery, I don't think I would focus too much on what they do. An honest day's work, is an honest day's work. I focus more on if the person loves what they do, and if they are passionate about what they do, and how accomplished they are at what they do.

#3 Guy had a vice. I would quickly run away from anyone with one. Less you want to grab a shovel and help them dig their hole for them.

Finally, perfection doesn't exist. You will go through life very alone if you shut down everybody because they have "issues". We all have issues. Some ppl are just broken, and those are the ones you need to keep at distance.

Posted by beautifulsoul74
Ok, I'm dying to ask this question and this is specifically for Virgo females.

If you friend zone a guy, do you get jealous if he gets attention from other women?

Heh, I once was involved with an Aquarius that did this. Tho she just had issues. I don't think sun sign was relevant here. We were talking for a bit, and then she pulled the I just feeling friends speech. She had serious trust, and commitment issues, and I just put distance between us.

I know a Guy who has a history of psychological problems (depression, unable to work) but is fine know in every aspect of his life, 20 years later. He has a taurus woman who is like you guys. Would you dump him

if he would tell you about his past? Tell or not tell? Mental problems are perceived as a stigma in todays

society.

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Posted by beautifulsoul74
Ok, I'm dying to ask this question and this is specifically for Virgo females.

If you friend zone a guy, do you get jealous if he gets attention from other women?

Lol i have a Virgo friend who does this!

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It's confusing to say the least smh

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Posted by TaurusBull1977
There was an initial interest there for romance. Possibly physical attraction, intellectual compatibility, humor, charisma, or etc.

However, for some reason I didn't see longevity or long term stability. It does not mean they're awful people, I just do not see the point in investing so much time and putting effort into an empty possibility.

So maintaining a friendship is a way to show them that I still appreciate them as individuals, will continue to support them as a friend, but romance, no, completely out of the question.

This.

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+1

Posted by SensitiveBlues

Posted by TaurusBull1977
I am usually baffled at the stereotypical "boring, mundane, unoriginal' context that is used to refer to Earth Signs, but I am equally as confused when the other signs (Water, Fire & Air) are posting threads about why we are hard to pin down.

Well,

You have satisfied your own curiosity.

We marry, only those who can respect certain conventional traits that the rest of the world find tedious.

And no, it's not always applicable to finances. try a strong sense of Family-Ties, Ethics, Moral Principles, Duty and Responsibility.

Unless you're on Board...

Then...

Stay in the "Friend-Zone."

This post is full of sheet! As if Earth Signs hold the mantle on ethics and moral principles.



please....

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We DO!

I agree -__-;.

Not sure why, someone analyze Virgos! lol

Posted by SensitiveBlues
ive never been friend zoned by an Earth sign, more likely i friend zone them,



i guess its my Crab motherly nature, they gravitate towards me

LOL.

Proof this statement is a lie.

Kings look for Queens.

Not for mothers.

Earth represents "Strength."