Gemini woman and Leo Man

Hello All,

I am a gemini woman. I have a child with a leo man. In the beginning when I was pregnant the situation was very rocky needless to say he was not around. He finally came around to spend time with his child and he's been in her life ever since. We have even rekindled the flame between us to the point that he has introuduced me to almost all of his family (close and far). Everything has been going really great except for lately, he seems a little distant. for the past 2 months he's told me his other childs mother wants him back. he says he just wants to be friends with her and I'm not sure if i believe him or not. For the past month we only talk when I take him to work and occasionally on the phone normally on his days off we would get together atleast on one of his days off as of lately im lucky is he answers the phone. So i had a little too much to drink this past weekend and told him wanted to see him he said he would call me back he never did. i told him if he didnt call i was going too. Well i ended up calling him and he rushed me to voicemail i called a few more times sent a few nasty text messages and went to bed. he was supposed to get our child the next day i call he didnt answer i sent a text letting him know i was on my way. i get there he's not home. he calls at the time of my appt. to say he just got in. i pretty much told him dont worry about it its cool. I didnt contact him at all the rest of the day. he calls me in the morning, the first time i didnt answer the second time i didnt it was real brief and i just hung up without saying bye. my question is what is really going on? I'm not contacting him at all. There is more to this situation/relationship its just too much to write if you have any questions please ask.

How many baby mama's does he have, not including you?

@LadyNeptune He has 6 and its the one before me that apparently wants him back

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@LadyNeptune He has 6 and its the one before me that apparently wants him back

@DivaCanLeo A peak into your future?

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@LadyNeptune He has 6 and its the one before me that apparently wants him back

6 kids too? Or more than that?

@LadyNeptune 8 kids

Posted by geminiwoman
@LadyNeptune He has 6 and its the one before me that apparently wants him back

Wait! What? He has 6 kids total or kids with 6 different women?

Does he have a very very good job? How does he support all these kids? Was he married to any of these women? How old is this man?

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For the past month we only talk when I take him to work

Your his ride to work so he can buy diapers for his little army of bratz. He's using you.

All you should want from him is those child support payments. Does he help out financially with your kid?

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@LadyNeptune He has 6 and its the one before me that apparently wants him back

@DivaCanLeo A peak into your future?

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Don't even go there

He has 6 bm's 8 kids 5 of them are grown he does have a job and if I need anything he does provide

I forgot I'm bm #7

@deedee86 he is 44

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@LadyNeptune He has 6 and its the one before me that apparently wants him back

@DivaCanLeo A peak into your future?

lets hope not, don't put bad things into my life dude

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I was joking...mostly.

Op your Leo man doesn't live in Seattle right? JFC imagine...

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@deedee86 he is 44

The only advice that I can give you is to run.

Run fast and run far!

He inpregnated 7 women! He is fertile, I will give him that but, my god, has this man ever heard of a condom?

This situation is just to crazy to even put into words.... currently I am not talking to him unless it has to do with our child.

I don't know what's worst he having so many baby mama's and their drama or you staying and pleading for his fucking attention.

You have to be joking.

I'd be ashamed to have a mother like you.

Get a grip woman and have some respect for yourself.

What kind of example are you giving your kids?

Please walk away before things get worst.

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This situation is just to crazy to even put into words.... currently I am not talking to him unless it has to do with our child.

Why did you say you've 'rekindled the flame' then...?

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We have even rekindled the flame between us

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1. I only have one kid not kids. @questionoflustquestionoftrust

2. @LadyNeptune. We have been seeing each other again for a year now that what I meant by rekindling the flame, but at the current moment I am not talking to him.

I know that a lot of you would love to think i have "no respect" for myself but you couldn't be more wrong. I have a history with this man. He turned his life around in more ways than one but yes he does have flaws. I'm just tired of his wishy washy ways that seemed to come into play for the past month.

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1. I only have one kid not kids. @questionoflustquestionoftrust

2. @LadyNeptune. We have been seeing each other again for a year now that what I meant by rekindling the flame, but at the current moment I am not talking to him.

I know that a lot of you would love to think i have "no respect" for myself but you couldn't be more wrong. I have a history with this man. He turned his life around in more ways than one but yes he does have flaws. I'm just tired of his wishy washy ways that seemed to come into play for the past month.

Seeing each other as in seeing each other romantically? Why did you stop talking to him?

yes romantically.....lately he's become distant.... so I made myself disappear.... but when communicate for our child. @LadyNeptune

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yes romantically.....lately he's become distant.... so I made myself disappear.... but when communicate for our child. @LadyNeptune

Distant how? He stopped returning your texts/calls? Stopped taking you out on dates? Stopped giving you the D?

@LadyNeptune yes all of the above and spending time talking....

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@LadyNeptune yes all of the above and spending time talking....

Has he ever married or had a long term relationship with any of his children's mothers?

Without knowing the entire situation it seems like he has deep seeded commitment issues.

@Deedee86 No he's never been married and he's had longterm relationships with 2 and 1 broke his heart in his early years and the other was mean and nasty but thats the one that wants him back.

How did he end up getting so many different women pregnant? Does he fall in love easily and then flake out? Is he a player that has lots of one night stands? Are any of the kids around the same age? That will tell you if he was ever a cheater.

It's hard to get a grasp on what is going through his head.

they are in the span from 23 years of age to 2. and two of them are the same age 18

@Deedee86 they are in the span from 23 years of age to 2. and two of them are the same age 18 but mostt are about 3 years apart.

You either have to accept his ways, or leave him. You said he's changed... Well that's all fine and dandy, but he can only change when he wants to.

My Leo ex had several baby momma's too, tried to make me one and I ran for the hills. Realize that it's 2016, you DON'T have to stay with this man romantically. There are many single parents out there looking for true love. The guys won't waste your time. They'll pursue you and treat you with at least some respect...

But that will only happen if you demand it. Not with words, but with actions. Tell him that if he can't give you a reason for you to stay up under him, then you're not going to. I'm not saying you should keep him from his child, but you need to protect him/her from a wishy-washy Dad who may or may not be present. I had one and it wasn't a fun time- still isn't.

Yikes 7 baby mothers and 8 kids? That's not a man of sound mind and judgment. Horrible example he set for this kids. There is no way he can adequately provide emotional and finanacial stability for all Those kids. So i have to ask why you would put your child into something like that?

And you want to continue being tangled up in his mess. His behavior says he's just not that into the situation, with you or his child. Imo. What are you going to about that?

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1. I only have one kid not kids. @questionoflustquestionoftrust

2. @LadyNeptune. We have been seeing each other again for a year now that what I meant by rekindling the flame, but at the current moment I am not talking to him.

I know that a lot of you would love to think i have "no respect" for myself but you couldn't be more wrong. I have a history with this man. He turned his life around in more ways than one but yes he does have flaws. I'm just tired of his wishy washy ways that seemed to come into play for the past month.

You don't have respect for yourself or your child. If you did you wouldn't be pleading and begging for his attention. Is he a good father to your daughter? That should be your only focus.

My friend had a kid by a baby making Leo, she won't reveal the amount of children he has but I know it's a lot.

Never been married either.

It's sad.

@bkbella86 I'm not begging and pleading for his attention I noticed a shift in his behavior within the past month he always calls first I don't unless it has to do with our child

@bkbella86 I'm not doing shit I'm being still handling my business... I just don't have time for his bs

I wouldn't take the fact that he introduced you to his family as much of a sign. As the mother of one of his children I couldn't imagine him not introducing you.

I despise my ex husband but he still shows up at school events and other family members are there. Last year, I went on a Thanksgiving cruise with one of my son's. The other didn't want to come so they went to dinner at my family's house. Yes, my ex had dinner with my family without me. It didn't mean that I was secretly in love with him. It meant that I wanted my son to have a nice holiday. That's what coparenting is all about.

*and before anyone bashes me about going on vacation without one of my kids, he is a teenager. I begged him to go with me but he didn't want to miss 6 days of school and practice*

@deedee86 no bashing here you and your ex husband do what works for you son...I dig it!

@lovinglioness1115 Thank you!

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@deedee86 no bashing here you and your ex husband do what works for you son...I dig it!

I'm not bashing you either. I actually understand how complex relationships can be. Sometimes hearing it from an outsider helps.

I get all sorts of (sometimes harsh) advice on here. I find it easier than asking friends or family. There is no bias or emotion involved. Just facts.

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@deedee86 no bashing here you and your ex husband do what works for you son...I dig it!

I'm not bashing you either. I actually understand how complex relationships can be. Sometimes hearing it from an outsider helps.

I get all sorts of (sometimes harsh) advice on here. I find it easier than asking friends or family. There is no bias or emotion involved. Just facts.

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@Deedee86

Exactly!!! Some people act like they never had themselves in a messed up situation before in their lives... like the audacity that you say you're having a issue at the moment its like (you should know better central) as if they're not going through the same shit LOL!