I caught my cancer man lying...what now?

I met a cancer man a few months ago & started spending alot of time w him & talking everyday almost all day. He met my family & son, i was going to meet his fam. He treated me as if we were in a relationship & was great w my son including him on some of our evenings together. Long story short a few days ago, I found out he is still on a dating site, hes flirting w other girls & i caught him in a few lies. I told him to leave as soon as i found out. He couldnt even look at me, only asked why 1 time & left without a word. Sent a short txt saying "i apologize for whatever you are hurt by. I dont know what I want & dont want to hurt anybody." I havent talked to him since. Do I just wait to see if he contacts me or should i reach out to him to try & talk? I REALLY started to have deep feelings for him & we shared things we hadnt told anybody else. Idk what to do or how to handle this situation! Any advice would be great

Well, as no one has offered anything so far, here is what I think.

Does he know why you gave him the boot?

He says he doesn't know what he wants yet he is on dating sites engaging with people for various reasons. Unfortunately, a lot of people join dating sites without giving it much thought. They often don't think about why they have joined and what they want to actually achieve from it.

I think at this juncture it would be important to evaluate what it is/was you are/was looking for? Not just from this guy but in general. Were you on the site (assumed you met via dating site) looking for people to date with a view of having a long term relationship? Were you looking for casual hook ups? Were you going with the flow and 'seeing what happens'?

It is important to first know what you were initially looking for and to assess how clear you were in expressing this to your suitors.

It seems to me that things may not have been entirely clear from either of you in the beginning thus leading to confusion at this present point.

I think, quite simply, that this is not a match and that you are both looking for differing things. You are looking for something more solid and he doesn't have a clue what he's looking for.

It is not personal. It's just not a match.

If you want something more solid from him then I suggest you communicate this to him, if you haven't done so already. He can take a short period of time to think about whether he wants something more solid with you. If he does then I suggest setting your boundaries with him including no dating sites. If he doesn't then they leaves you free to find someone who can and who wants to offer you something solid.

Don't waste your time on someone who doesn't want you enough.