Posted by tizianiViS can suddenly wake up, remove the rose tinted, and move on. This is easier when the other person is out of the picture/no contact. It doesn't mean we don't care or feel. It just means we don't want it anymore. Usually something drastic has to happen to get it to register in our thick brains!Posted by busyeyes88I don't see how that makes someone fake. I've seen a lot of people work this way genuinely. They want something so much with one person until one day they just don't want it anymore. After that, freedom.
No disrespect OP, but you have spent the last two years fawning over that sag and you have already "replaced " him with another guy already within a couple of months—
How fake.are you??click to expand
Posted by DMVYup!
I wouldnt date a pregnant woman. Why? Theres plenty of batshit crazy women out there who arent pregnant.
Why involve myself in baby mama drama?
Why would you knowingly walk into a big pile of shit?
Posted by YellowSubmarineThe point is that the OP has been 'chasing' this guy for a considerably long time. OP is Taurus Sun/Gem Venus. The guy in question is Sag Sun with Scorp Venus. The title of the post is a little misleading in a way.
@busyeyes88
oh yeah, that's what I wanted.. nice and predictable
who the fuck are you to tell her what to do with her life?? It's her baby, it's her men, it's her life.. it's her mess, not yours. Keep your fucking projected bullshit to yourself, and maybe consider actually answering people's questions.
Posted by tizianiThanks! Merry Christmas!!!!Posted by NoreallynowGood to see you around, Merry Christmas.
I never chased anyone. I let the do the chasing.. Maybe it's my cancer moon. I don't like to push myself one anyone. Ill analyze the situation and talk to others about it, but I won't chase behind you. I guess it's pride.
After a breakup, I'm usually open minded to the fact that they will eventually pop back up again. If I still have feelings for that person or if the still have my heart, I'll still wait until they come back. When they've been gone for a long period time. I eventually move on and forget that they exist. At that point there's no looking back. When I love someone one, it's all about that person. I have tunnel vision when it comes to that individual. Nothing else matters, but when I'm done... I'm done.click to expand
Posted by busyeyes88I do this, or have done it a few times.Posted by tizianiBut surely it's better to stay single?! Why "latch on" to some other fool and then bring them into an already messy mix!!! Smh!Posted by busyeyes88I don't see how that makes someone fake. I've seen a lot of people work this way genuinely. They want something so much with one person until one day they just don't want it anymore. After that, freedom.
No disrespect OP, but you have spent the last two years fawning over that sag and you have already "replaced " him with another guy already within a couple of months—
How fake.are you??click to expand
Posted by YellowSubmarineCheers for that.
@AgentP911
I only enjoy arguing with Busyeyes, she is the chosen one.. but alright, I got another half hour or so.
It's very convenient to end your post with that statement, all the while accusing the OP of some heinous act.
There is no "ideal" situation to consider here because the situation is what it is; if you're so concerned, call child services and let the professionals deal with it. Oh wait, you can't because you don't actually know her, do you? I know I don't, but I'm not the one jumping to baseless conclusions.
Do people stop to consider how uniquely difficult this situation is before throwing their judgmental two cents into it? Seriously, there's a child involved.. all the more reason for her to do what it takes to maintain whatever level of happiness and support she deems fit for herself and her child. None of you are that child's mother, she is, bottom fucking line.
Posted by DMV
^^^ exactly. That is the definition of selfish
Now this new guy may have a thing for pregnant sex
Posted by AgentP911@ AgentPPosted by YellowSubmarineCheers for that.
@AgentP911
I only enjoy arguing with Busyeyes, she is the chosen one.. but alright, I got another half hour or so.
It's very convenient to end your post with that statement, all the while accusing the OP of some heinous act.
There is no "ideal" situation to consider here because the situation is what it is; if you're so concerned, call child services and let the professionals deal with it. Oh wait, you can't because you don't actually know her, do you? I know I don't, but I'm not the one jumping to baseless conclusions.
Do people stop to consider how uniquely difficult this situation is before throwing their judgmental two cents into it? Seriously, there's a child involved.. all the more reason for her to do what it takes to maintain whatever level of happiness and support she deems fit for herself and her child. None of you are that child's mother, she is, bottom fucking line.
Frankly, I think you're waffling. It's a lot of hot air with the usual 'judgemental' accusations and the 'stating the obvious' making an appearance. You're arguing for the sake of arguing.
I didn't accuse the OP of a heinous act. I gave my view on her situation which is based on her current AND previous posts. It doesn't matter whether I'm right or wrong. That's irrelevant.
Have you read OP's current and previous posts? All of them?
You whinge about me not knowing the OP and jumping to 'baseless conclusions'. OP's posts of her story are as fact based as it can possibly get on here. This is not a court of law so I'm drawing my fact based conclusions on the only fact based information which is available.
Yes, I do consider the uniquely different situation OP finds herself in. I'm afraid I cannot speak for other people here. I'm able to consider this due to the numerous fact based posts by OP. I draw your attention to the above reasoning.
Perhaps if OP had considered her uniquely different situation there would not be a child caught up in this mess. That's the bottom fucking line.click to expand
Posted by YellowSubmarineThank you YellowSubmarine.. I don't see what she posts.. I hid her messages a long time ago... I don't want to waste my energy on her.. She says stubborn are stubborn but look at her poking at my posts all the time.. its kind of funny lol...
@busyeyes88
oh yeah, that's what I wanted.. nice and predictable
who the fuck are you to tell her what to do with her life?? It's her baby, it's her men, it's her life.. it's her mess, not yours. Keep your fucking projected bullshit to yourself, and maybe consider actually answering people's questions.
Posted by VIS_lover
When I was dating i did have a tendency to be persistent. Once I was completely over the person I genuinely couldn't feel any type of attraction to them. I saw them strictly as friends. But yea I was a chaser
Posted by ImpulsvI was doing what was best at the time....
I'm a VIS in I find it a betrayal to claim u love me n move on that easily specially carrying my child.
Is he chasing now
" no not really"
There is ur answer.
Posted by saweetz1988Yeah... He's that truly great guy... Who had someone else on the side...Posted by ImpulsvI was doing what was best at the time....
I'm a VIS in I find it a betrayal to claim u love me n move on that easily specially carrying my child.
Is he chasing now
" no not really"
There is ur answer.
ps: he had someone else on the side too...
and no i have never truly moved on ...more of a self protection...click to expand
Posted by saweetz1988Yes it sums it up nicely. You are, indeed, delusional!
OOPS my posts got cut off
@ AgentP..
the point is, i will be perfectly fine as a single mother.. yes it would be nice to have him involved but that wasn't my INTENTION to fall pregnant with him
I want the gift to be born out of love and intense experience which it did...
What we created was magic and not just shagging. I was in a relationship with a guy for two years but i did not fall pregnant with him even though i wanted us to move forward a little. We had sex like normal people do..so it didn't make me wanna have a baby with him..
Its different. You won't understand until u are me which will never happen... the point is this baby will not be brought up in a mess in any way.
i am a very strong independent person and i do not need a guy who isn't ready 100 percents to be involved with the baby. I want him when he's ready 100 percents..
I have a friend who fell pregnant with her ex as well, she cuds't handle the fact that her left wanted her to get an abortion and broke up with her..etc.. she had to MOVE away and delete all her social media coz she struggled to cope...
I am completely different.... working hard almost everyday and fighting through doing the best for my child. I am a lot stronger than you think i am.. and just because i fell pregnant with someone i truly truly love..does't mean i want to TRAP him..
also , i did want a LATINO blood for my child as I do latino dancing.and he is latino..
that sums it up right?
lets move on to the original question of this post instead of my life story... lol
Posted by Noreallynowi did think of that too, the leo mars. It's not gonna stop. Fixed purpose.Posted by saweetz1988
@Lisa wow what a story lol. I truly think the cancer placement played a big part in that. I know cancers have a tendency to drop eveything for the one they love where cap moon wil struggle with his own emotion.! Great story though...
It's not the cancer placement. I have the same placements and I will never follow or force a man to be with me. I have Mars in cap, though. This person has Mars in Leo. Mars is suppose to be the planet of actions, isn't it? So, it could be the Mars. I know cancer Suns that wouldn't drop everything to be with someone.click to expand
Posted by Impulsvi feel this way too. i'm a bit of a stalker though. in the early stages. i don't want to get involved until i have a firm grasp on the facts. when i am truly all in (and this can take a looong time) there is no hesitation as to my feelings. it is all consuming, obsessive, sacrificial. i also see it as destructive, like a necessary death.
Nope I don't use my charm I use my heart when I chase n I'm all in. aLL IN.
There is never second guessing regarding this from the other. They will know how I feel through my actions.
Posted by saweetz1988wut?
also , i did want a LATINO blood for my child as I do latino dancing.and he is latino..
Posted by jeaneI swear she's taking the fucking piss with that line. Tell me she's not delusional...Posted by saweetz1988wut?
also , i did want a LATINO blood for my child as I do latino dancing.and he is latino..click to expand
Posted by AgentP911
And OP, for the record, I don't need to be you to understand the deep feeling of wanting a child with someone you love which is made out of love. I've had that twice. The only difference was the practicalities. I didn't want to be a single mother or take the chance. You said you're an independent woman who doesn't need a guy who isn't 100% - then you shouldn't be making babies with guys who aren't 100% . That independence you think you have. Well say goodbye to it. All of it. You wanted a Latino baby because you like dancing. I nearly died laughing at that. I do hope he comes round though. Sometimes it might take a while but fingers crossed.
Posted by jeanePosted by Impulsvi feel this way too. i'm a bit of a stalker though. in the early stages. i don't want to get involved until i have a firm grasp on the facts. when i am truly all in (and this can take a looong time) there is no hesitation as to my feelings. it is all consuming, obsessive, sacrificial. i also see it as destructive, like a necessary death.
Nope I don't use my charm I use my heart when I chase n I'm all in. aLL IN.
There is never second guessing regarding this from the other. They will know how I feel through my actions.click to expand
Posted by saweetz1988for me, to truly surrender to it took years.Posted by jeanePosted by Impulsvi feel this way too. i'm a bit of a stalker though. in the early stages. i don't want to get involved until i have a firm grasp on the facts. when i am truly all in (and this can take a looong time) there is no hesitation as to my feelings. it is all consuming, obsessive, sacrificial. i also see it as destructive, like a necessary death.
Nope I don't use my charm I use my heart when I chase n I'm all in. aLL IN.
There is never second guessing regarding this from the other. They will know how I feel through my actions.
How long is a long time?click to expand
Posted by jeanePosted by saweetz1988for me, to truly surrender to it took years.Posted by jeanePosted by Impulsvi feel this way too. i'm a bit of a stalker though. in the early stages. i don't want to get involved until i have a firm grasp on the facts. when i am truly all in (and this can take a looong time) there is no hesitation as to my feelings. it is all consuming, obsessive, sacrificial. i also see it as destructive, like a necessary death.
Nope I don't use my charm I use my heart when I chase n I'm all in. aLL IN.
There is never second guessing regarding this from the other. They will know how I feel through my actions.
How long is a long time?click to expand
Posted by saweetz1988they showed consistency in being open and honest and never swerving from the person i believed them to be. to give them all my trust (which is the hardest thing for me) and place my well being and future in their hands took two years.Posted by jeanePosted by saweetz1988for me, to truly surrender to it took years.Posted by jeanePosted by Impulsvi feel this way too. i'm a bit of a stalker though. in the early stages. i don't want to get involved until i have a firm grasp on the facts. when i am truly all in (and this can take a looong time) there is no hesitation as to my feelings. it is all consuming, obsessive, sacrificial. i also see it as destructive, like a necessary death.
Nope I don't use my charm I use my heart when I chase n I'm all in. aLL IN.
There is never second guessing regarding this from the other. They will know how I feel through my actions.
How long is a long time?
Did they sho consistency...? .. how many years ? lol....click to expand
Posted by jeane
like others said, i don't show my feelings either. there is all this stuff going on in the background that i will probably never show him.
Posted by jeaneWow that's pretty sad, don't you think he deserves it?
like others said, i don't show my feelings either. there is all this stuff going on in the background that i will probably never show him.
Posted by Cancer LadyPosted by jeaneWow that's pretty sad, don't you think he deserves it?
like others said, i don't show my feelings either. there is all this stuff going on in the background that i will probably never show him.click to expand
Posted by YellowSubmarinePosted by AgentP911Again, this is just waffle. Flash a crowd and then claim I didn't show my tits - would be an amusing line, if it actually meant something but it doesn't. It's just words. My post wasn't driven by defence of myself. It also wasn't a bullshit accusation. There's lots to back up why I drew my conclusion. You're just too stupid to see it. Sure, I come up with unique stories every day. Whatever. As for the bottom line being hypercriPosted by YellowSubmarineWith you? I'm arguing bc you're the one who quoted me.. trust me, I wouldn't bother otherwise.
@AgentP911
Cheers for that.
Frankly, I think you're waffling. It's a lot of hot air with the usual 'judgemental' accusations and the 'stating the obvious' making an appearance. You're arguing for the sake of arguing.
I didn't accuse the OP of a heinous act. I gave my view on her situation which is based on her current AND previous posts. It doesn't matter whether I'm right or wrong. That's irrelevant.
Have you read OP's current and previous posts? All of them?
You whinge about me not knowing the OP and jumping to 'baseless conclusions'. OP's posts of her story are as fact based as it can possibly get on here. This is not a court of law so I'm drawing my fact based conclusions on the only fact based information which is available.
Yes, I do consider the uniquely different situation OP finds herself in. I'm afraid I cannot speak for other people here. I'm able to consider this due to the numerous fact based posts by OP. I draw your attention to the above reasoning.
Perhaps if OP had considered her uniquely different situation there would not be a child caught up in this mess. That's the bottom fucking line.
I said “do people stop to consider…before throwing their judgmental two cents...?”, not “you”. I already know you considered how unique the situation was since you have a knack for coming up with unique stories.
You wrote what you wrote and it's there for everyone to see. You can’t flash a crowd, and then claim you didn’t really show anyone your tits. Don't play coy, we all know it's not your strong suit.
Your post was driven by defense of yourself, rather than to actually stay on topic bc you threw out a bullshit accusation with nothing to back it up.. that's where your mind went, which is unfortunate for you.
Yes I've seen her posts. That's relationship drama, which I normally stay out of, but now there's a child, which you totally lost sight of..I mean, you even made the bottom line a hypothetical ffs lolclick to expand
Posted by saweetz1988I love curry but I'm not going to have a baby with an Indian dude because I like the food!Posted by AgentP911
And OP, for the record, I don't need to be you to understand the deep feeling of wanting a child with someone you love which is made out of love. I've had that twice. The only difference was the practicalities. I didn't want to be a single mother or take the chance. You said you're an independent woman who doesn't need a guy who isn't 100% - then you shouldn't be making babies with guys who aren't 100% . That independence you think you have. Well say goodbye to it. All of it. You wanted a Latino baby because you like dancing. I nearly died laughing at that. I do hope he comes round though. Sometimes it might take a while but fingers crossed.
I don't care what your opinions are anymore. Bringing back the past instead of offering useful advise for the future.. not just the dancing. I love the culture and everything about it. My explanation to you is irrelevant since you seem to love criticising other people's behaviour.. I'm not on DXPnET for that... And you are no one to judge me at all. You are judging my ability as a mother just because the guy isn't around. That's irrelevant.. I don't know what your problem is but your opinion no longer matter to me.z continue judging .. It doesn't affect me one bit.click to expand
Posted by saweetz1988he knows how i feel but i guess he doesn't know the depths of my feeling, even i struggle with acknowledging that. plus i think if he knew he might think i'm unhinged and it is private. the obsession is real. i also don't think this kind of consuming love is particularly healthy. i try to keep a lid on it a lot.Posted by jeane
like others said, i don't show my feelings either. there is all this stuff going on in the background that i will probably never show him.
What stops you from being vulnerable and show your true feelings...? did they struggle when you didn't show your feelings? What did they do or what made you 100 percent sure to make you come out of your shell...click to expand
Posted by saweetz1988maybe it is cruel and sad, i don't know. it's sort of like asking a taurus to verbally express themselves. there's a block. there is a block with me too. i just cannot do it.Posted by Cancer LadyPosted by jeaneWow that's pretty sad, don't you think he deserves it?
like others said, i don't show my feelings either. there is all this stuff going on in the background that i will probably never show him.
I know it sounds so cruel..click to expand
Posted by jeanePosted by saweetz1988maybe it is cruel and sad, i don't know. it's sort of like asking a taurus to verbally express themselves. there's a block. there is a block with me too. i just cannot do it.Posted by Cancer LadyPosted by jeaneWow that's pretty sad, don't you think he deserves it?
like others said, i don't show my feelings either. there is all this stuff going on in the background that i will probably never show him.
I know it sounds so cruel..
even when we first got together he thought i was cold and inexpressive. i was. i still am to a degree. i can't help it. it's all an internal turmoil.click to expand
Posted by saweetz1988no. we had been very good friends for about a year before we got together but once the relationship progressed beyond friendship, i think we were committed within a month.Posted by jeanePosted by saweetz1988maybe it is cruel and sad, i don't know. it's sort of like asking a taurus to verbally express themselves. there's a block. there is a block with me too. i just cannot do it.Posted by Cancer LadyPosted by jeaneWow that's pretty sad, don't you think he deserves it?
like others said, i don't show my feelings either. there is all this stuff going on in the background that i will probably never show him.
I know it sounds so cruel..
even when we first got together he thought i was cold and inexpressive. i was. i still am to a degree. i can't help it. it's all an internal turmoil.
Did it take you two years to commit to a relationship with him ?click to expand
Posted by jeane
is any of this helping you saweetz?
Posted by YellowSubmarineWow... You managed to write four paragraphs about one point... I didn't realise you're more full of hot air than I gave you credit for. Congratulations!Posted by AgentP911Ok, I said hypothetical, not hypercritical.. Again, very defensive of self. But if you're not even gonna pay attn, what's the point? At least busyeyes can read the post properly, and owns her bs. With you, it's just circles and clucking for attn in general. And you don't even understand analogies.. Aw.
Again, this is just waffle. Flash a crowd and then claim I didn't show my tits - would be an amusing line, if it actually meant something but it doesn't. It's just words. My post wasn't driven by defence of myself. It also wasn't a bullshit accusation. There's lots to back up why I drew my conclusion. You're just too stupid to see it. Sure, I come up with unique stories every day. Whatever. As for the bottom line being hypercritical. How so? It's common sense. Use protection and don't get pregnant. I don't see an issue with that.
Of course they're just words - what are we gonna meet at sundown to duel this out?? Lol.. You know how this works, so again, don't be coy.
Calling me stupid, really? That's your best argument? When you can't even read the post right? Ok!
My point is clear, valid, and has been made - if you have a rational one to make, by all means... Please do walk us through your fact-based conclusion.click to expand
Posted by YellowSubmarineMy points are:Posted by AgentP911If I could love that post, I would. I'd frame it. Laziness is the new deflection.. OK!Posted by YellowSubmarineWow... You managed to write four paragraphs about one point... I didn't realise you're more full of hot air than I gave you credit for. Congratulations!Posted by AgentP911Ok, I said hypothetical, not hypercritical.. Again, very defensive of self. But if you're not even gonna pay attn, what's the point? At least busyeyes can read the post properly, and owns her bs. With you, it's just circles and clucking for attn in general. And you don't even understand analogies.. Aw.
Again, this is just waffle. Flash a crowd and then claim I didn't show my tits - would be an amusing line, if it actually meant something but it doesn't. It's just words. My post wasn't driven by defence of myself. It also wasn't a bullshit accusation. There's lots to back up why I drew my conclusion. You're just too stupid to see it. Sure, I come up with unique stories every day. Whatever. As for the bottom line being hypercritical. How so? It's common sense. Use protection and don't get pregnant. I don't see an issue with that.
Of course they're just words - what are we gonna meet at sundown to duel this out?? Lol.. You know how this works, so again, don't be coy.
Calling me stupid, really? That's your best argument? When you can't even read the post right? Ok!
My point is clear, valid, and has been made - if you have a rational one to make, by all means... Please do walk us through your fact-based conclusion.
You want me to walk you through my conclusion which I drew from OP's posts regarding her story? Fuck me, don't be such a lazy cunt and go and read them yourself. I've already said my points which answer this. They're the same points you're shitting over.
You took the time to type out the summary and your lovely personal stance. Yet your point remains to be made because you can't make it. Perfect. The actual "lazy cunt" here is fairly obvious.click to expand
Posted by YellowSubmarineMy conclusion is my conclusion.
@AgentP11
Yes, you already summarized all that before. Look the point is you can't prove any real base for your conclusion so this conversation is moot. You threw out a ridiculous accusation that you can't prove, and now you wanna keep going in circles.. I made my bottom line and point in response to your story - go back and read it, it's factual. Yours is not.
Posted by saweetz1988So you "do hope things will change when the baby is born" meaning this new guy is just a placeholder until you can get back together with the baby dady?Posted by DMV
No offense but damn this is a clusterfuck.
Youre in a relationship while pregnant by another guy who youre really in love with?
This is alot to deal with especially while pregnant.
Why not just be by yourself?
Whats up with this new guy? Odd
I guess things got carried away. After a huge fight and a month of pain .. This guy I'm with was chasing me for a while and I see a ( potential) in us working out great as a couple and plus he wanted to be part of the baby's life.... He keeps me from being mentally sad about the real father of the child... I'm not a depressed or sad person and I'm well happy... but I thought it was the best thing to do..... I do hope things will change when the baby is born but my hope isn't high... Unless he's off drugs .. Nothing will change... it's just sad ....click to expand
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