What kind of dater are you? ⚠️ Judgment Free Zone ⚠️

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I always wonder how other people see dating. It's interesting to me! I feel like this is mostly because I had 0 insight on the subject growing up LOL

But I was fortunate to have that cliche long lasting first, which taught me a lot about myself and what relationships require, so I can't complain too much.

And since this is DXP, we’ll of course require major placements!

Mine - Scorpio ☀️, Gemini 🌑 | Venus 🦂, Mars 🦁. I have a packed ***7th house.

So, onward! - trigger warning lmfao

I figure there are typically 3 kinds (feel free to add on 🤓)

1. The Hopeless Naive Romantic - The manic for love. Unrequited? Not a problem for this psycho. There's nothing to lose if all your eggs are in one basket, am i right? This dater usually has a few prospects but would rather complicate their life by latching onto one relentlessly. Will contemplate if their first/last name meshes with the other's first/last name upon marriage, anywhere from 30 minutes to an hour into their 1st date. Hey, sometimes you gotta be proactive.

*Will end up eating their feelings and loathing the entire opposite sex, for approximately 120 days before moving on to their next disappointment.* Probably masochists. Never convinced love doesnt exist though. One day you’ll be appreciated.

(Fear not, I operated on this level for basically the entirety of my dating life 💀. It gets better)

2. Thotiana - Bust down 😛 (im sorry lmfao)

This is the person who never understood the saying "You can't have your cake and eat it too!" After-all, who the hell buys dessert with no intention on gorging yourself? They have many prospects, and explore them all. "Guilt? But I don't owe you anything!" The anti-committal with no time for nuisances such as decision making. The world is their oyster and boy do they love seafood. They ususally have a favorite, and end up choosing this favorite in the long run, only after they've heftily bored themselves with deadends, figured out wtf they want, or talked themselves out of the fear of disappointment. Whichever comes first, whenever it does. As for now, these are go with the flow type of folk. Lots of lovin' to give and in no kind of rush to stop rationing. Total opposite of our manic romantic. This is the care free lover.

Nothing wrong with a Thotiana ladies and gents. I speak from current experience lmaooo, find that float to your boat 💦 🏊‍♀️ 🚣‍♀️

3. The Jeepers Creeper - don’t worry, this is just as cringey as it sounds. You go in for the kill with a 100% success rate. If we actually did live in a world filled with shape shifting reptilians, you’d run the embassy. You're so successful in sealing the deal because you've stalked your pr- I mean... observed your prospect for a considerable amount of time, and know exactly what makes them tick. You know their ins and outs, you know what kinds of food they like, their baby sister’s middle name, you relive their edgy opinions via 2009 Facebook posts each time before bed, and in fact- you're able to react with seemingly geniuine shock to all of their embarrassing childhood stories, as if you haven’t spent the last month shadow projecting yourself into their past. You’ve molded yourself into the ideal candidate with admirable efficiency! You deserve an oscar, my dear friend. 🏆 Too bad you or your prospect will eventually catch on to the real deal and grow increasingly tired/freaked out of their current commitment. Then alas, back to the drawing board. You’re the chameleon of the dating world who probably finds themselves in cuck type situations. Good thing it’s 2019 and stalker + fet culture are beginning to normalize. Someone will be woo’d by your vigor. 🤷🏽‍♀️

So what’s your dating style like? I already outed myself as a 1💀 but I did recently decide to try being open to serial dating and that’s gone on well so far! I felt like I needed a live demo to calm the...fervor of my 4 Scorpio placements before I hit 25. 😂😂😂 I have encountered and have many #2 type friends. If you’re a #3, don’t be shy. Internet anonymity is almost foolproof..you would know. 😭
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IDK. Like I'm romantic in my own way but at the same time I'm a realist. I dated multiple people and always assumed the dudes I was seeing were doing the same. Can't assume your the only one until exclusivity is agreed upon and even then your assuming said person is a man of their word.

After 3rd date if I'm not feeling the spark I would cut them off, no time to waste.

I also had a rule that I would only sleep with one person at a time. If I'm moving onto and under someone else I'm cutting off the last person. Kept things simplified for me.

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1. The Hopeless Naive Romantic - The manic for love. Unrequited? Not a problem for this psycho.


So much for 'judgement free zone' lol


SKSKSKSK. 💀💀💀 it’s cool, we’re all friends here 😂😂

My humor can be dry at times 💀 forgive me y’all.


it's cool

My dry humour gets me in trouble often enough

Just last week someone shouted at me "you know after years of knowing you I STILL can't tell when you're joking or not!"
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Honestly I’ve been told this too! but I see it as, there’s no point in being overly sensitive.. so why not see the humor in things or the brighter side every chance you get? Im guessing the result is taking everything as a joke and frequently giving unsolicited advice 💀💀💀
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IDK. Like I'm romantic in my own way but at the same time I'm a realist. I dated multiple people and always assumed the dudes I was seeing were doing the same. Can't assume your the only one until exclusivity is agreed upon and even then your assuming said person is a man of their word.

After 3rd date if I'm not feeling the spark I would cut them off, no time to waste.

I also had a rule that I would only sleep with one person at a time. If I'm moving onto and under someone else I'm cutting off the last person. Kept things simplified for me.



I like this!! We’re gonna add #4, courtesy of Lady Neptune. The Brute Strategist 😂😂

Makes a lot of sense. Enjoying yourself while remaining cautious and practical, but didn’t come to play.

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But I definitely agree! Dating taught me just how big of a role expectations can play in everything from start to finish. Clear, concise communication is always key
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I don’t like how you worded them lol and I can’t figure out where i sit in this 😆

Maybe a piece of 1 and 2

I don’t know about latching and stalking though because that’s too much for me and I’m not a man hoor for number 2



Hmm ok ok lol that’s a good little mix-up there 😆

I def feel like you can be a serial dater without involving sex each time though. I was just playing up the common association 😂

No shaming dreamy, judgment free zone! o:
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Yes I also feel like it’s never 100% of either 😂😂


haha, exactly.

What's in your 7th house?

My 7th house has both Scorpio and Sag in it. My Scorpio sun and Sag Mercury and Neptune are in the 7th house. That, with my Gem moon, may in part explain my relationship history so far, lol
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Woooo girl it’s PACKED 😂

I just realized my typo 😭😭

Ive got libra and Scorpio all in there lol

Sun’s in the 7th. Scorp Jupiter in the 7th along with my Venus, libra merc trailing in, aaaaand my scorp Pluto. I’m clear on where my issue lies 💀

But I do think experience does change your perception and I see that while relationships are pretty important to me, functional ones are paramount, compromise takes you far. Also they run much deeper than simply romantic connections, so a lot of my growth has come from improving my own with myself, enhancing platonic ones, and building relationships with desires hobbies etc and that all just makes things much lighter across the board lol hard to explain
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Yes I also feel like it’s never 100% of either 😂😂


haha, exactly.

What's in your 7th house?

My 7th house has both Scorpio and Sag in it. My Scorpio sun and Sag Mercury and Neptune are in the 7th house. That, with my Gem moon, may in part explain my relationship history so far, lol


Woooo girl it’s PACKED 😂

I just realized my typo 😭😭

Ive got libra and Scorpio all in there lol

Sun’s in the 7th. Scorp Jupiter in the 7th along with my Venus, libra merc trailing in, aaaaand my scorp Pluto. I’m clear on where my issue lies 💀

But I do think experience does change your perception and I see that while relationships are pretty important to me, functional ones are paramount, compromise takes you far. Also they run much deeper than simply romantic connections, so a lot of my growth has come from improving my own with myself, enhancing platonic ones, and building relationships with desires hobbies etc and that all just makes things much lighter across the board lol hard to explain
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I can relate to what you wrote! Definitely!

Our charts have some similarities -- Scorpio sun in the 7th house, Mercury in the 7th (just in different signs), Gemini moon, and Scorpio Venus but my Venus and a lot of other things in my chart are in the 6th house. So, you are Aries rising if your 7th starts with Libra, I see. I'm Taurus rising.

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Definitely gicing me edgy thotiana vibes

I’d say a 2 with a little more reserve and common sense.


What ?


Lol

I think you’re a classy ho 🗣🗣🗣

(As an American millennial I feel inclined to tell you this isn’t necessarily a bad thing)


I'm not a "ho". :/

But I'm classy, indeed.
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😆😆😆

I like you peachy.

The feeling may not be mutual, but I like you 😌👌🏽
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I don’t like how you worded them lol and I can’t figure out where i sit in this 😆

Maybe a piece of 1 and 2

I don’t know about latching and stalking though because that’s too much for me and I’m not a man hoor for number 2



Hmm ok ok lol that’s a good little mix-up there 😆

I def feel like you can be a serial dater without involving sex each time though. I was just playing up the common association 😂

No shaming dreamy, judgment free zone! o:


That’s actually pretty good. Idk how the hell you were able to figure that out but yea I agree. I’m not really a fan of dating though. I find it so awkward. I love meeting people, but it’s hard for me to develop feelings. It takes a while and I don’t like one night stands either. I believe in building a foundation before coitus 😛
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I get that! Like always being concerned about dating etiquette. I feel like there’s definitely a superficial fog over modern day dating. I’m pretty sure our seniors dealt with their own drama but something tells me they had it easier than us 😂

I like that belief 👌🏽 😂
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Yes I also feel like it’s never 100% of either 😂😂


haha, exactly.

What's in your 7th house?

My 7th house has both Scorpio and Sag in it. My Scorpio sun and Sag Mercury and Neptune are in the 7th house. That, with my Gem moon, may in part explain my relationship history so far, lol


Woooo girl it’s PACKED 😂

I just realized my typo 😭😭

Ive got libra and Scorpio all in there lol

Sun’s in the 7th. Scorp Jupiter in the 7th along with my Venus, libra merc trailing in, aaaaand my scorp Pluto. I’m clear on where my issue lies 💀

But I do think experience does change your perception and I see that while relationships are pretty important to me, functional ones are paramount, compromise takes you far. Also they run much deeper than simply romantic connections, so a lot of my growth has come from improving my own with myself, enhancing platonic ones, and building relationships with desires hobbies etc and that all just makes things much lighter across the board lol hard to explain


I can relate to what you wrote! Definitely!

Our charts have some similarities -- Scorpio sun in the 7th house, Mercury in the 7th (just in different signs), Gemini moon, and Scorpio Venus but my Venus and a lot of other things in my chart are in the 6th house. So, you are Aries rising if your 7th starts with Libra, I see. I'm Taurus rising.

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Ok that’s crazy we share a nice chunk of placements lol

And yes! Aries ascendant. How do you feel about your asc?

Definitely interesting though. If Dxp ever had a forum wide meet up you’d be on my list 😆😆

Aw😭 well I don’t think we’re supposed to be so fortunate in that area, but I still have hope

(Such a #1😂😂😂😂)
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Yes I also feel like it’s never 100% of either 😂😂


haha, exactly.

What's in your 7th house?

My 7th house has both Scorpio and Sag in it. My Scorpio sun and Sag Mercury and Neptune are in the 7th house. That, with my Gem moon, may in part explain my relationship history so far, lol


Woooo girl it’s PACKED 😂

I just realized my typo 😭😭

Ive got libra and Scorpio all in there lol

Sun’s in the 7th. Scorp Jupiter in the 7th along with my Venus, libra merc trailing in, aaaaand my scorp Pluto. I’m clear on where my issue lies 💀

But I do think experience does change your perception and I see that while relationships are pretty important to me, functional ones are paramount, compromise takes you far. Also they run much deeper than simply romantic connections, so a lot of my growth has come from improving my own with myself, enhancing platonic ones, and building relationships with desires hobbies etc and that all just makes things much lighter across the board lol hard to explain


I can relate to what you wrote! Definitely!

Our charts have some similarities -- Scorpio sun in the 7th house, Mercury in the 7th (just in different signs), Gemini moon, and Scorpio Venus but my Venus and a lot of other things in my chart are in the 6th house. So, you are Aries rising if your 7th starts with Libra, I see. I'm Taurus rising.




Ok that’s crazy we share a nice chunk of placements lol

And yes! Aries ascendant. How do you feel about your asc?

Definitely interesting though. If Dxp ever had a forum wide meet up you’d be on my list 😆😆

Aw😭 well I don’t think we’re supposed to be so fortunate in that area, but I still have hope

(Such a #1😂😂😂😂)
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Yes, definitely, I rarely have met anyone with such a similar chart.

I like my ascendant, I think it helps to keep me calmer and more grounded than I might otherwise be, but it's conjunct Saturn so that can feel a bit limiting at times. What do you think of your ascendant!

Yes, definitely it would be really interesting to meet if that was possible!

haha, yes, my chart isn't supposed to be fortunate when it comes to romantic relationships overall, so I've been okay considering, but I have yet to experience the kind of relationship I most want.
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I don't date around, I pick one person at a time, I feel connection with and enjoy sailing, wherever ocean winds take us. In about month or 2 I get attached and that's when disaster starts. So I guess that's it. I never invest in a person I feel nothing for


I can relate to this. 🤧 I've only had just two long term encounters. Another that lingers and two other short lived situations haha

ALL disastrous after attachment. I swear they plan this shit lol
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I feel like I’ve been them all. Maybe not as extreme as the descriptions tho. I like to maintain flexibility. And while I can talk or flirt with a lot of people at once, if it hits the stage where we hang out in person I can really only ever concentrate on one person at a time.

Currently I don’t really have a style . I often feel like trying to meet someone. But it passes quickly and I go back to focusing on money, work and expanding individual talents. Retrospectively, I think a lot of dating for me has been me avoiding my own life in favor of helping someone else cultivate theirs. As a result, I might like to try being friends or just dating very very very slowly.

I say that but knowing me, after one chemistry flirtation I could change my mind right back to diving in hard to a relationship. 😆 ultimately I’ll play it by ear I suppose next time I meet someone new.


Yes! 😂 I feel like I personally do idly flirt or at least chat with a few guys at once. But there is literally no intent behind it because one always sticks out from the bunch and they earn my total focus and attention.

I definitely stick around longer than i should when things go wrong lol

Also yes! I get you on the taking things slowly. I feel like this is SO hard for men, but to me the suspense in everything is like half the fun!

When it all moves too fast for me I panic because i feel like it isnt authentic and then im stuck with this shallow type bond. I'd much rather be very good friends first.

The thotiana life style teaches me to take a chill pill 😂
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Yes I also feel like it’s never 100% of either 😂😂


haha, exactly.

What's in your 7th house?

My 7th house has both Scorpio and Sag in it. My Scorpio sun and Sag Mercury and Neptune are in the 7th house. That, with my Gem moon, may in part explain my relationship history so far, lol


Woooo girl it’s PACKED 😂

I just realized my typo 😭😭

Ive got libra and Scorpio all in there lol

Sun’s in the 7th. Scorp Jupiter in the 7th along with my Venus, libra merc trailing in, aaaaand my scorp Pluto. I’m clear on where my issue lies 💀

But I do think experience does change your perception and I see that while relationships are pretty important to me, functional ones are paramount, compromise takes you far. Also they run much deeper than simply romantic connections, so a lot of my growth has come from improving my own with myself, enhancing platonic ones, and building relationships with desires hobbies etc and that all just makes things much lighter across the board lol hard to explain


I can relate to what you wrote! Definitely!

Our charts have some similarities -- Scorpio sun in the 7th house, Mercury in the 7th (just in different signs), Gemini moon, and Scorpio Venus but my Venus and a lot of other things in my chart are in the 6th house. So, you are Aries rising if your 7th starts with Libra, I see. I'm Taurus rising.




Ok that’s crazy we share a nice chunk of placements lol

And yes! Aries ascendant. How do you feel about your asc?

Definitely interesting though. If Dxp ever had a forum wide meet up you’d be on my list 😆😆

Aw😭 well I don’t think we’re supposed to be so fortunate in that area, but I still have hope

(Such a #1😂😂😂😂)


Yes, definitely, I rarely have met anyone with such a similar chart.

I like my ascendant, I think it helps to keep me calmer and more grounded than I might otherwise be, but it's conjunct Saturn so that can feel a bit limiting at times. What do you think of your ascendant!

Yes, definitely it would be really interesting to meet if that was possible!

haha, yes, my chart isn't supposed to be fortunate when it comes to romantic relationships overall, so I've been okay considering, but I have yet to experience the kind of relationship I most want.
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I actually met a dude who was our sun, moon, and taurus ascendant! Very goofy guy, we're still good friends. I'm not sure of his other placements.

I feel my ascendant protects my more vulnerable side. Keeps me youthful. I do like to get a rise out of people but I never want to cause actual discord with others haha. Sometimes i do feel mildly conflicted regarding who i am and how i am if that makes sense haha but overall, it's pretty decent across the board 🙂
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Yes I also feel like it’s never 100% of either 😂😂


haha, exactly.

What's in your 7th house?

My 7th house has both Scorpio and Sag in it. My Scorpio sun and Sag Mercury and Neptune are in the 7th house. That, with my Gem moon, may in part explain my relationship history so far, lol


Woooo girl it’s PACKED 😂

I just realized my typo 😭😭

Ive got libra and Scorpio all in there lol

Sun’s in the 7th. Scorp Jupiter in the 7th along with my Venus, libra merc trailing in, aaaaand my scorp Pluto. I’m clear on where my issue lies 💀

But I do think experience does change your perception and I see that while relationships are pretty important to me, functional ones are paramount, compromise takes you far. Also they run much deeper than simply romantic connections, so a lot of my growth has come from improving my own with myself, enhancing platonic ones, and building relationships with desires hobbies etc and that all just makes things much lighter across the board lol hard to explain


I can relate to what you wrote! Definitely!

Our charts have some similarities -- Scorpio sun in the 7th house, Mercury in the 7th (just in different signs), Gemini moon, and Scorpio Venus but my Venus and a lot of other things in my chart are in the 6th house. So, you are Aries rising if your 7th starts with Libra, I see. I'm Taurus rising.




Ok that’s crazy we share a nice chunk of placements lol

And yes! Aries ascendant. How do you feel about your asc?

Definitely interesting though. If Dxp ever had a forum wide meet up you’d be on my list 😆😆

Aw😭 well I don’t think we’re supposed to be so fortunate in that area, but I still have hope

(Such a #1😂😂😂😂)


Yes, definitely, I rarely have met anyone with such a similar chart.

I like my ascendant, I think it helps to keep me calmer and more grounded than I might otherwise be, but it's conjunct Saturn so that can feel a bit limiting at times. What do you think of your ascendant!

Yes, definitely it would be really interesting to meet if that was possible!

haha, yes, my chart isn't supposed to be fortunate when it comes to romantic relationships overall, so I've been okay considering, but I have yet to experience the kind of relationship I most want.


I actually met a dude who was our sun, moon, and taurus ascendant! Very goofy guy, we're still good friends. I'm not sure of his other placements.

I feel my ascendant protects my more vulnerable side. Keeps me youthful. I do like to get a rise out of people but I never want to cause actual discord with others haha. Sometimes i do feel mildly conflicted regarding who i am and how i am if that makes sense haha but overall, it's pretty decent across the board 🙂
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Wow, I've never known anyone with the same sun moon and rising as me, like your friend. I can't find many celebrities with it either. I hope one day to meet someone who has the same birthday as I do, and ideally similar birth time, but that is asking too much I'm sure, lol. I have met people born on the same day as me (not many, granted), but not the same year.

That makes sense with what Aries rising does for you. So, that means that many, or possibly all, of your house cusps are the signs that rule those houses. I've often wondered if that helps people be more balanced or not.
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1. The Hopeless Naive Romantic - The manic for love. Unrequited? Not a problem for this psycho.


So much for 'judgement free zone' lol


SKSKSKSK. 💀💀💀 it’s cool, we’re all friends here 😂😂

My humor can be dry at times 💀 forgive me y’all.


it's cool

My dry humour gets me in trouble often enough

Just last week someone shouted at me "you know after years of knowing you I STILL can't tell when you're joking or not!"
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I could say the same.

Saying that most people think I am serious when I am just kidding so it may be dxpnet
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I’m a mix of 2 and 3. I bullshit and come on super strong then get freaked out if someone likes it and backs off a little to see if I even like them 😏

Most times I end up not liking them, when I actually do like them I just get creepier and creepier 😜

If they don’t get scared, then they are the right one for me!

I keep plenty in rotation until I settle on who I actually want.