Why do men in relationships look at porn?

Why do men in relationships look at porn?

Why shouldn't they?

Cuz porn has been so normalized and easy to access on the internet, in this era, it's a habit they don't want to break, or have a hard time with, and a lot of them don't see it as betrayal like some people do.

Because its fun.

Think of it this way. I like pizza. I love it to death. But sometimes, I want a taco. No matter how much I love pizza, I will always need to have something different every once in a while. Same thing with women.



So instead of sleeping with other women, he just watches porn. He is very considerate. You should be happy.

A lot of the shit I have seen I would kick the guy out of bed for trying. It's for viewing pleasure, the porn stars aren't actually enjoying it.

Because it's an easy way to get off

No nagging

Lol

To learn new tricks in order to keep the sex hot n spicy! Men do it for you!!!!!

Posted by RamOfPeace
Why shouldn't they?

But why do they? In your own words...

I'm not saying it's wrong or right just what reasons do they do it lol

I understand the women who don't like it though. Put yourself in their shoes. Imagine you had a gf and she was obsessing about male models/porn stars/c ocks the way us guys do about chicks and their assets. Don't pretend you'd be 'totally fine with it'. Us guys have a luxury in that most women don't really function like that, so very few men have that reference point like women do. Come to think of it, it takes some genuine confidence not to take it personally

Do they do it because they are unhappy?

why NOT?

do you know that men produce spermatozoids 24/7 during all their life, and yes, they need to release the old sperm once in a while or it gets to their head

because current human unconsciousness is crap.

People dont know how to use their sexuality and the power of sexuality.

If the person you are with does that, perverting on the net, or even on every day world, get away from them. And if you are that person whos perverting on a regular basis and doesnt understand the true power of sex THRU LOVE, get away from that person and introspect your self to a much better, life understanding, person!

It hasn't been a problem in my relationships -- it doesn't bother me if they do. It only would if the person was into something disturbed (child pornography, for example), they were obsessed with it, they based their ideas about sexuality solely on it, and/or they greatly preferred it to interacting with me.

Posted by xXxQueenliciaXxX
Ah, the great debate. Whenever this topic is brought up everyone starts arguing about whether it's right or wrong.



It's neither right nor wrong. It all depends on the people in the relationship. If you're someone who's fine with your significant other watching porn, then it's not wrong. Why? Because they have your blessing. There's no sneaking around involved.



Same goes for the the opposite situation. If you're someone who views watching pornography as cheating or immoral and your partner is well aware of this and still chooses to stay, then it's wrong if they ever do it. Why? Because they already knew how you felt about it and they're betraying your trust.





But there's no "right" or "wrong" when it comes to porn. It all depends on the individuals involved. So arguing every time this topic comes up is fucking pointless.

Agreed.

But why lol

Posted by Stensco21
But why lol

Not sure what the tone of this topic was, but just to answer the general question, guys look at porn because we are (mostly) visual creatures. That's not to say that women aren't, but our sex drive and attraction is very much hardwired into "what we can see".

The first answer is that men's brains and sex drives are objective/result based (this is paralleled by how a man's orgasm works vs. a woman's). Our idea of sex, though more enlightened nowadays, is still based in our primitive urge to "mate as much as possible". There's more to male attraction than that of course, but pornography has made it easier for men to access the means to quell this urge visually.

Second, for a man with a healthy sex drive it can be used as a simple "release". A man's drive may not always sync with his partner's. Looking at porn has less to do with emotional need/desire and more to do with physical release.

Third with internet advancement, men's (and women's) brains have grown more accustomed to pornographic imagery/themes. As a result as pornography becomes more accessible and advanced (with the rise of quantity, variety, high speed, and high definition media), men have become more accustomed to looking it.

Problem is, the human brain has trouble visually differentiating between a real partner and an HD movie. A man may KNOW that porn isn't real, but his sexual drive (his lizard brain) does not. As a man's brain develops from childhood to adulthood (i.e. puberty), he makes long lasting mental/sexual connections. So if a boy grows up watching more high-def/intense porn he eventually becomes more attached to it sexually.

This is where the idea of porn addiction comes from, though it's used in a broader sense a lot of times. Just because a man looks at porn doesn't make him a porn addict. In porn addiction scenarios, men have a harder time attaching to a real partner. Their libidos simply don't respond as expected. Porn is a fantasy, a sexual idealization. So when a man's brain is attached to an "ideal" and not a real person, it can lead to him becoming more likely to view pornography to maintain an erection, reach climax, etc.

The caveat is, this is less of a problem for people who did not grow up with high-speed internet and HD movies. For men who entered their sexual experience with a real partner (possibly only seeing low def or photographic porn during puberty), their brains are more hardwired for the real thing. As a result this is a phenomenon that has only really emerged in the last two decades. As a society we are only just now seeing the full term affects of porn on the human brain.

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Posted by RamOfPeace
Why shouldn't they?

But why do they? In your own words...

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If I were to state that I can fulfill all of my man's desires and fantasies until the end of his life, I'd be lying. Same goes for him.

Posted by GuardianAnu
Cuz porn has been so normalized and easy to access on the internet, in this era, it's a habit they don't want to break, or have a hard time with, and a lot of them don't see it as betrayal like some people do.

Porn is not normalized. Porn is normal. So are ancient roman orgies and Alexander's hetaeras/homosexuality.

Posted by GuardianAnu
A lot of the shit I have seen I would kick the guy out of bed for trying. It's for viewing pleasure, the porn stars aren't actually enjoying it.

*closes a tumblr porn video page* were you saying something?

I don't see anything wrong with it , as long as my man isn't paying more attention to that , then we're good

Posted by Stensco21
I'm not saying it's wrong or right just what reasons do they do it lol

Why do women buy shoes when they already have like 42 pairs at home?

Posted by lady_chatterley
In 2 of my longest relationships, neither of us watched porn.

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Maybe you didn't. ^^

I am sorry to spoil you but 99,98776% of all men watch porn even those who are in relationships. I just don't know yet at which age they stop though..

Cause its awesome...and you get bored of anyone after 3 years....

Why do we talk about food while we're eating?

I love topics like this. I could never date a man that didn't watch porn! In fact, I enjoy watching it with him. I watch porn daily. I try to understand people that are bothered by this...baffles me!

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Posted by Stensco21
I'm not saying it's wrong or right just what reasons do they do it lol

Why do women buy shoes when they already have like 42 pairs at home?

Posted by lady_chatterley
In 2 of my longest relationships, neither of us watched porn.

Maybe you didn't. ^^

I am sorry to spoil you but 99,98776% of all men watch porn even those who are in relationships. I just don't know yet at which age they stop though..

I think that statement is funny. You're not spoiling anything for me. I know for sure that neither of us were watching porn. All of my relationships had different dynamics. All of them had been open with me because I am the open minded type. [I've had guys tell me their preferences (a guy I dated was interested in tranny porn), whether they had an addiction, their history with porn.] Plus, there was transparency in the relationship with everything including computer usage etc. And, one of the guys, I dated for 7 years had only 1 other partner before me. He would rather be intimate with someone than do it alone. He lost his virginity in his mid-20s, so he was pretty happy to finally be with a real person and felt the real thing was far better. He didn't like being alone.

For me, over time, porn just proved that it did not mesh well. I have explored my spirituality side and i am a firm believer that it is wrong.

Does this mean that I think others should have the same view? No.

Does this mean that I treat others poorly, because they watch porn and I think it's wrong? No.

It's none of my business and I don't care what others think. I care more about people's actions, how they treat others, not what they believe in.

There are men and women who choose to not watch porn and there are those who choose to watch it. I think the number you stated is far too large of a number. Most people explore porn at some point in their lives and I'd say the number you listed is more accurate for that.

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I knew I wasn't spoiling you for real but I think it's funny when women say their bf don't or didn't watch porn because they will never know for sure. A woman will never know whether I watch porn or not unless I tell her because I don't download or collect any porn or pics on my computer and I have also removed my search history.

Watching porn is not something that men brag about infront of their gf anyway and it can be quite shameful to admit it for many men also.

Why are you allowed to come online and post stupid, troll shit like this?

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Posted by Stensco21
I'm not saying it's wrong or right just what reasons do they do it lol

Why do women buy shoes when they already have like 42 pairs at home?

Posted by lady_chatterley
In 2 of my longest relationships, neither of us watched porn.

Maybe you didn't. ^^

I am sorry to spoil you but 99,98776% of all men watch porn even those who are in relationships. I just don't know yet at which age they stop though..

I think that statement is funny. You're not spoiling anything for me. I know for sure that neither of us were watching porn. All of my relationships had different dynamics. All of them had been open with me because I am the open minded type. [I've had guys tell me their preferences (a guy I dated was interested in tranny porn), whether they had an addiction, their history with porn.] Plus, there was transparency in the relationship with everything including computer usage etc. And, one of the guys, I dated for 7 years had only 1 other partner before me. He would rather be intimate with someone than do it alone. He lost his virginity in his mid-20s, so he was pretty happy to finally be with a real person and felt the real thing was far better. He didn't like being alone.

For me, over time, porn just proved that it did not mesh well. I have explored my spirituality side and i am a firm believer that it is wrong.

Does this mean that I think others should have the same view? No.

Does this mean that I treat others poorly, because they watch porn and I think it's wrong? No.

It's none of my business and I don't care what others think. I care more about people's actions, how they treat others, not what they believe in.

There are men and women who choose to not watch porn and there are those who choose to watch it. I think the number you stated is far too large of a number. Most people explore porn at some point in their lives and I'd say the number you listed is more accurate for that.

I knew I wasn't spoiling you for real but I think it's funny when women say their bf don't or didn't watch porn because they will never know for sure. A woman will never know whether I watch porn or not unless I tell her because I don't download or collect any porn or pics on my computer and I have also removed my search history.

Watching porn is not something that men brag about infront of their gf anyway and it can be quite shameful to admit it for many men also.

The same goes for real cheating. Or lying. You'll never know, if your girl is cheating on you. Cheating for real is harder to trace.

Btw there are such thing as computer programs that can track everything. And, everything leaves a digital print. You may think you haven't downloaded pics or videos, and that you removed your history, but it is all still there.

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Cheating can also be easier to trace. I don't feel guilty when watching porn so you might find out because of me not caring at all or you never will (regardless of any computer programs because I don't think most people will invest time in tracking their partner's activities on the internet) because I won't show any guilt. But cheating comes along with feeling guilty sooner or later except If I were a cold hearted bastard. But then I never liked you anyway. 😉

cuz it is less work to jerk off than fucking

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Posted by Noni05


I rather my man look at porn than actually go sleep with another woman ..

It shouldn't bother you if your secure about what you have at home well HELL why not just watch it together... ,

I used to be this "cool" girlfriend that would watch porn with my boyfriend and thought nothing was wrong with it until it occurred to me that he's not fantasizing about ME while he watches the porn but is actually sitting next to me fantasizing about fucking the random vagina in the flick.

Our actions usually begin with our thoughts. If a man in a relationship is watching porn it's because there is a desire for more, for something new. He's thinking about fucking someone else and usually we eventually do something after thinking about it if we think about it long enough.

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You are crazy. porn is just visual stimulation. If he's fantasizing someone he knows in real life, then sure, he can cheat. but watching porn makes him cheat? that's just crazy.

Because of our hormones.

I think it's a prelude to cheating too.

Or they are bored

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Posted by Stensco21
But why lol

Not sure what the tone of this topic was, but just to answer the general question, guys look at porn because we are (mostly) visual creatures. That's not to say that women aren't, but our sex drive and attraction is very much hardwired into "what we can see".

The first answer is that men's brains and sex drives are objective/result based (this is paralleled by how a man's orgasm works vs. a woman's). Our idea of sex, though more enlightened nowadays, is still based in our primitive urge to "mate as much as possible". There's more to male attraction than that of course, but pornography has made it easier for men to access the means to quell this urge visually.

Second, for a man with a healthy sex drive it can be used as a simple "release". A man's drive may not always sync with his partner's. Looking at porn has less to do with emotional need/desire and more to do with physical release.

Third with internet advancement, men's (and women's) brains have grown more accustomed to pornographic imagery/themes. As a result as pornography becomes more accessible and advanced (with the rise of quantity, variety, high speed, and high definition media), men have become more accustomed to looking it.

Problem is, the human brain has trouble visually differentiating between a real partner and an HD movie. A man may KNOW that porn isn't real, but his sexual drive (his lizard brain) does not. As a man's brain develops from childhood to adulthood (i.e. puberty), he makes long lasting mental/sexual connections. So if a boy grows up watching more high-def/intense porn he eventually becomes more attached to it sexually.

This is where the idea of porn addiction comes from, though it's used in a broader sense a lot of times. Just because a man looks at porn doesn't make him a porn addict. In porn addiction scenarios, men have a harder time attaching to a real partner. Their libidos simply don't respond as expected. Porn is a fantasy, a sexual idealization. So when a man's brain is attached to an "ideal" and not a real person, it can lead to him becoming more likely to view pornography to maintain an erection, reach climax, etc.

The caveat is, this is less of a problem for people who did not grow up with high-speed internet and HD movies. For men who entered their sexual experience with a real partner (possibly only seeing low def or photographic porn during puberty), their brains are more hardwired for the real thing. As a result this is a phenomenon that has only really emerged in the last two decades. As a society we are only just now seeing the full term affects of porn on the human brain.

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Interesting. Thank you.

Porn is fine. Appropriate porn of course. (Pedophilia & Snuff films are off the table)

I enjoy it myself sometimes. However, if you find that your guy has to rely on porn... Well then, there's a problem, isn't there...