Divorce slowly or quickly

Just want to run my outlook on divorce and get some opinions.

Let’s say family member is sick. And no one knows when death will take them but it’s pretty much been predetermined that cure isn’t found yet. So...everyone dealing with it. Then they die. It’s painfull for everyone.

But sometimes one dies suddenly and pain hit unexpectedly and horror is blowing family members so hard that some can’t take it and their lives get destroyed...

I see it the same with divorces.

When they don’t suspect anything and you saying we need to talk - I am leaving you...it’s a cruel shocker that can kill a person!

Another way is to take it as an long illness and start with ‘I am going away for a day’...

‘I need some space. I am depressed and I don’t want to talk about it’

‘I am not happy and don’t ask...I don’t know why’

‘Let’s try to separate and see if we mess each other and can fixnit’

...any person with half brain would start wondering, right?

Then slowly pulling away using all possible excuses but respecting their feelings...

Then maybe when day will come saying ‘I can’t do this anymore, I need to get out’ will be half as painful as if you cut un-suspected spouse off...

It’ll hurt. But ‘shock’ factor will be not as sharp and horrible like just to serve them divorce papers out of blue.

Am I wrong?

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Posted by Gemitati
Just want to run my outlook on divorce and get some opinions.

Let’s say family member is sick. And no one knows when death will take them but it’s pretty much been predetermined that cure isn’t found yet. So...everyone dealing with it. Then they die. It’s painfull for everyone.

But sometimes one dies suddenly and pain hit unexpectedly and horror is blowing family members so hard that some can’t take it and their lives get destroyed...

I see it the same with divorces.

When they don’t suspect anything and you saying we need to talk - I am leaving you...it’s a cruel shocker that can kill a person!

Another way is to take it as an long illness and start with ‘I am going away for a day’...

‘I need some space. I am depressed and I don’t want to talk about it’

‘I am not happy and don’t ask...I don’t know why’

‘Let’s try to separate and see if we mess each other and can fixnit’

...any person with half brain would start wondering, right?

Then slowly pulling away using all possible excuses but respecting their feelings...

Then maybe when day will come saying ‘I can’t do this anymore, I need to get out’ will be half as painful as if you cut un-suspected spouse off...

It’ll hurt. But ‘shock’ factor will be not as sharp and horrible like just to serve them divorce papers out of blue.

Am I wrong?

I tried to work on mine for 3 years before I left. I say tried because he refused to. I told him all along what was going on with me and tried to work it out. In the end, I left and he was still shocked. He just never thought I was serious. He never thought I would leave. I think the honorable thing is to work on the marriage together & make the decision together.

But in the end you stay until it’s harder to stay than it is to leave. I think if you know the marriage is over & you have no desire to stay, then you just do it. It doesn’t matter how hard or soft the blow is. You still have to go through the aftermath. Might as well do it sooner, so the healing can start.

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Got to think about it. I think he will never believe me unless I leave! But I am for slow...

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And now I feel like I was in "ill" relationship and am textbook example of what you described here how to end it that way...like you described every move I did. BUT it didn't end like that, he kept trying and completely changed. And I started to feel even worse. I didn't cheat on him, I never will, but my feelings are gone...I don't think it's reasonable to stay in a relationship where you don't have feelings for the person anymore. I do care about him, I don't want to hurt him but I can't love him anymore...so this way didn't quite work out for the best in the end. He didn't give up, he decided to fight for it instead and I started liking the attention again. And it brought more confusion into things. Can't leave and can't stay in either. So think about it as well, it doesn't always go as planned. It would if they didn't care either and wouldn't bother to change anything, but what if they do? What will you do then?

He can’t change for me. He is long gone for me as a man! I would be devastated to see him hurt like if it was my brother who gotten hurt by a bitch woman but there will be no second thought!

I am just sure he will be better off to get to process it graduately...

He doesn’t admit to his faults. His mom and aunt raised him as a god given gift to the world. He can’t be wrong.

So I’ve stopped trying to have him understand that ‘some of it your fault’ sometimes ago. He is so good of defending his actions no matter how stupid those explanations - he is truly believing in it!

So I have some work to do. And thanks for heads up!

Posted by Arielle83
Just tell him u love him and want an open relationship. He can fuck other ppl too.

Then u can do what u want and don't have to divorce.

He can’t fuck other people! He isn’t into fucking! He is into cozy living with good food, drinks and TV!

I said it before he had signed up to a dating sites. I was looking. He wasn’t. I said have you seen that busty beauty?

He said no. Can you find it for me?

I was like...lmao...thinking I have to find someone for you to fuck? While you having dinner and shows? No honey. I am not going to...

I actually went looking just to see what’s going to happen and she was gone. But he never asked...so I was like...fuck it!

I am not doing it...if he wants to - he has to but he doesn’t. Man is totally an impotent!

Even in his mind...

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And now I feel like I was in "ill" relationship and am textbook example of what you described here how to end it that way...like you described every move I did. BUT it didn't end like that, he kept trying and completely changed. And I started to feel even worse. I didn't cheat on him, I never will, but my feelings are gone...I don't think it's reasonable to stay in a relationship where you don't have feelings for the person anymore. I do care about him, I don't want to hurt him but I can't love him anymore...so this way didn't quite work out for the best in the end. He didn't give up, he decided to fight for it instead and I started liking the attention again. And it brought more confusion into things. Can't leave and can't stay in either. So think about it as well, it doesn't always go as planned. It would if they didn't care either and wouldn't bother to change anything, but what if they do? What will you do then?

He can’t change for me. He is long gone for me as a man! I would be devastated to see him hurt like if it was my brother who gotten hurt by a bitch woman but there will be no second thought!

I am just sure he will be better off to get to process it graduately...

He doesn’t admit to his faults. His mom and aunt raised him as a god given gift to the world. He can’t be wrong.

So I’ve stopped trying to have him understand that ‘some of it your fault’ sometimes ago. He is so good of defending his actions no matter how stupid those explanations - he is truly believing in it!

So I have some work to do. And thanks for heads up!

he sounds like a brother to my dad lol he's raised same way, his mother's precious, her boys were god given to the earth and no way they could ever be wrong. And that's how they learned to live and act in life...well good luck with it anyway, I truly hope it ends well for everyone.

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Thanks. Will see I guess...

Rip the damn bandaid off quick.

Posted by Cancervirgo15degrees
Wtf let me guess. You have fallen desperately in love with cancer after 2 weeks and are leaving your husband to be with him. You love him because he is good in bed and rich and you can quit your job changing old peoples diapers. Amirite—

No! I fall for a Scorpio 8! years ago.

When my sex life with my husband was dead long time ago.

Scorpio woke me up but this story is too long and it’s been written to death here.

Scorpio screwd once and I set myself free from him.

Cancer appeared just recently. And I am not quitting changing diapers. I am just enjoying my new self without being hurt and crazy. Just enjoying myself! Because Cancer is free and real and helloova good fuck! Ok? Keep on hating! I am too happy to care. But if you happy to shit on me - go ahead! 🖕

Lmao...

Posted by nikkistar
Rip the damn bandaid off quick.

As soon as I am ready! Ripping it off now doesn’t make sense. If I won’t find a man who I will be with - why stir the pot?

My husband after all a father of my child and we are living separate friendly lives.

I don’t want to hurt him and take him out of his blissful unawareness for nothing.

We might get old together and be like that 75% of sexless couples whom death do part...

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Just tell him u love him and want an open relationship. He can fuck other ppl too.

Then u can do what u want and don't have to divorce.

He can’t fuck other people! He isn’t into fucking! He is into cozy living with good food, drinks and TV!

I said it before he had signed up to a dating sites. I was looking. He wasn’t. I said have you seen that busty beauty?

He said no. Can you find it for me?

I was like...lmao...thinking I have to find someone for you to fuck? While you having dinner and shows? No honey. I am not going to...

I actually went looking just to see what’s going to happen and she was gone. But he never asked...so I was like...fuck it!

I am not doing it...if he wants to - he has to but he doesn’t. Man is totally an impotent!

Even in his mind...

He's asexual. Tell him u aren't and are free to live.

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Oh dear! Years ago I told him I will fuck somebody if he wouldn’t shape up and do something!

His doc prescribed him Cialis. He took it a few times being hanged over from last night drinking. Nothing happened.

So he stoped.

So I moved out of the bedroom and went onto my merry way!

I had done everything I could. Now I am free but I don’t tell him I am going on a date. I make up some reasons. So he wouldn’t get hurt. And he is right now watching his shows. Drinking. TV is blasting! And he is laughing and clapping his hands...how can I ruin this happiness? Lmao...

Posted by Arielle83
Just tell him u love him and want an open relationship. He can fuck other ppl too.

Then u can do what u want and don't have to divorce.

You're not actually in the relationship with him anymore, you've checked out so why make it even more hurtful and dishonest by being a total hoebag when you're supposedly trying to do the right thing?

Iz liek I dun get it, who hurt you?

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Just tell him u love him and want an open relationship. He can fuck other ppl too.

Then u can do what u want and don't have to divorce.

He can’t fuck other people! He isn’t into fucking! He is into cozy living with good food, drinks and TV!

I said it before he had signed up to a dating sites. I was looking. He wasn’t. I said have you seen that busty beauty?

He said no. Can you find it for me?

I was like...lmao...thinking I have to find someone for you to fuck? While you having dinner and shows? No honey. I am not going to...

I actually went looking just to see what’s going to happen and she was gone. But he never asked...so I was like...fuck it!

I am not doing it...if he wants to - he has to but he doesn’t. Man is totally an impotent!

Even in his mind...

He's asexual. Tell him u aren't and are free to live.

Oh dear! Years ago I told him I will fuck somebody if he wouldn’t shape up and do something!

His doc prescribed him Cialis. He took it a few times being hanged over from last night drinking. Nothing happened.

So he stoped.

So I moved out of the bedroom and went onto my merry way!

I had done everything I could. Now I am free but I don’t tell him I am going on a date. I make up some reasons. So he wouldn’t get hurt. And he is right now watching his shows. Drinking. TV is blasting! And he is laughing and clapping his hands...how can I ruin this happiness? Lmao...

Capricorn are boring af.

I moved to aus for one. Then he got lazy and stopped fuckinh so I left him

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Oh! So you get it? Why were you fucking my brain for so long then— Lmao😂😂😂

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Posted by Arielle83
Just tell him u love him and want an open relationship. He can fuck other ppl too.

Then u can do what u want and don't have to divorce.

You're not actually in the relationship with him anymore, you've checked out so why make it even more hurtful and dishonest by being a total hoebag when you're supposedly trying to do the right thing?

Iz liek I dun get it, who hurt you?

Who u taking to?

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Himself I supposed...lol

Posted by Gemitati
Oh dear! Years ago I told him I will fuck somebody if he wouldn’t shape up and do something!

His doc prescribed him Cialis. He took it a few times being hanged over from last night drinking. Nothing happened.

So he stoped.

So I moved out of the bedroom and went onto my merry way!

I had done everything I could. Now I am free but I don’t tell him I am going on a date. I make up some reasons. So he wouldn’t get hurt. And he is right now watching his shows. Drinking. TV is blasting! And he is laughing and clapping his hands...how can I ruin this happiness? Lmao...

Where is that 'Best post of the day' -thread? This is srsly the funniest shit I've read in a while. I picture him as a seal, sitting in front of the TV happily clapping his little hands lol.



How do you ruin this happiness?! How do you?!

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Posted by Arielle83
Just tell him u love him and want an open relationship. He can fuck other ppl too.

Then u can do what u want and don't have to divorce.

You're not actually in the relationship with him anymore, you've checked out so why make it even more hurtful and dishonest by being a total hoebag when you're supposedly trying to do the right thing?

Iz liek I dun get it, who hurt you?

Who u taking to?

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The person who'd consider this the easy way out

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Posted by Gemitati
Oh dear! Years ago I told him I will fuck somebody if he wouldn’t shape up and do something!

His doc prescribed him Cialis. He took it a few times being hanged over from last night drinking. Nothing happened.

So he stoped.

So I moved out of the bedroom and went onto my merry way!

I had done everything I could. Now I am free but I don’t tell him I am going on a date. I make up some reasons. So he wouldn’t get hurt. And he is right now watching his shows. Drinking. TV is blasting! And he is laughing and clapping his hands...how can I ruin this happiness? Lmao...

Where is that 'Best post of the day' -thread? This is srsly the funniest shit I've read in a while. I picture him as a seal, sitting in front of the TV happily clapping his little hands lol.



How do you ruin this happiness?! How do you?!

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By saying...we need to talk...I am fucking somebody...don’t you think it’ll ruin at least some of his mood?

And yes...I was looking for Best post thread today as well...when she farted while her husband was on a speaker with a client...

PIN the frigging post, mods!!! Lmao

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Posted by Arielle83
Just tell him u love him and want an open relationship. He can fuck other ppl too.

Then u can do what u want and don't have to divorce.

You're not actually in the relationship with him anymore, you've checked out so why make it even more hurtful and dishonest by being a total hoebag when you're supposedly trying to do the right thing?

Iz liek I dun get it, who hurt you?

Who u taking to?

The person who'd consider this the easy way out

You shouldn't expect one person to meet all your needs.

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That’s why I have...variety...😂💦👋🙈

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Posted by Arielle83
Just tell him u love him and want an open relationship. He can fuck other ppl too.

Then u can do what u want and don't have to divorce.

You're not actually in the relationship with him anymore, you've checked out so why make it even more hurtful and dishonest by being a total hoebag when you're supposedly trying to do the right thing?

Iz liek I dun get it, who hurt you?

Who u taking to?

The person who'd consider this the easy way out

You shouldn't expect one person to meet all your needs.

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Fair enough but I wouldn't say lying and manipulating the person you supposedly love is the best way to get anyone's needs met.

Posted by Gemitati
By saying...we need to talk...I am fucking somebody...don’t you think it’ll ruin at least some of his mood?

And yes...I was looking for Best post thread today as well...when she farted while her husband was on a speaker with a client...

PIN the frigging post, mods!!! Lmao

I think it's safe to say he has no illusions of being or ever becoming your sex god, one can only hope he has a sound enough ego to realize at this point that there's nothing he can give you in that department, I mean especially since he has no interest in sex so what can he possibly have invested if he's got nothing to lose?

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By saying...we need to talk...I am fucking somebody...don’t you think it’ll ruin at least some of his mood?

And yes...I was looking for Best post thread today as well...when she farted while her husband was on a speaker with a client...

PIN the frigging post, mods!!! Lmao

I think it's safe to say he has no illusions of being or ever becoming your sex god, one can only hope he has a sound enough ego to realize at this point that there's nothing he can give you in that department, I mean especially since he has no interest in sex so what can he possibly have invested if he's got nothing to lose?

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What do you mean? He has ALL to lose!

Me who gives him comfy cozy existence!

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Posted by Arielle83
Just tell him u love him and want an open relationship. He can fuck other ppl too.

Then u can do what u want and don't have to divorce.

You're not actually in the relationship with him anymore, you've checked out so why make it even more hurtful and dishonest by being a total hoebag when you're supposedly trying to do the right thing?

Iz liek I dun get it, who hurt you?

Who u taking to?

The person who'd consider this the easy way out

You shouldn't expect one person to meet all your needs.

Fair enough but I wouldn't say lying and manipulating the person you supposedly love is the best way to get anyone's needs met.

Telling someone u want an open relationship is pretty honest.

One partner, withholding sex and the sexual freedom of the other, isn't right either

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Yes but it doesn't sound to me like the OP has much love or interest in the guy, unless watching him watch TV is paying off. From what I gathered she just wants to let him down easy.

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By saying...we need to talk...I am fucking somebody...don’t you think it’ll ruin at least some of his mood?

And yes...I was looking for Best post thread today as well...when she farted while her husband was on a speaker with a client...

PIN the frigging post, mods!!! Lmao

I think it's safe to say he has no illusions of being or ever becoming your sex god, one can only hope he has a sound enough ego to realize at this point that there's nothing he can give you in that department, I mean especially since he has no interest in sex so what can he possibly have invested if he's got nothing to lose?

What do you mean? He has ALL to lose!

Me who gives him comfy cozy existence!

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He can't laugh manically and clap his hands watching tv without you there? What exactly is it you do for him except fill the role of a housecat?

lol @ american clap their hands while watching tv.

If you were a good wife you'd find that woman for him to fuck

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By saying...we need to talk...I am fucking somebody...don’t you think it’ll ruin at least some of his mood?

And yes...I was looking for Best post thread today as well...when she farted while her husband was on a speaker with a client...

PIN the frigging post, mods!!! Lmao

I think it's safe to say he has no illusions of being or ever becoming your sex god, one can only hope he has a sound enough ego to realize at this point that there's nothing he can give you in that department, I mean especially since he has no interest in sex so what can he possibly have invested if he's got nothing to lose?

What do you mean? He has ALL to lose!

Me who gives him comfy cozy existence!

He can't laugh manically and clap his hands watching tv without you there? What exactly is it you do for him except fill the role of a housecat?

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He does it without me!

And he is happy cat!

I am not sure where you going with that...

Posted by hydorah
lol @ american clap their hands while watching tv.

If you were a good wife you'd find that woman for him to fuck

Lol

HE CANT FUCK!!!

And I am not a good wife!

And he isn’t American!

I am more yoir wifenrhan his...lmao

Dork! Lol

Posted by CaramelizedCoffee
Idk i think a part of you loves him or you wouldn't ask so many questions

I personally would have just left or told him i rant to stay married but I'm going to have sex with other men depending on how I'm feeling.

He told me if I was smart I would sleep around without him knowing!

That must be love! Lmao!

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Idk i think a part of you loves him or you wouldn't ask so many questions

I personally would have just left or told him i rant to stay married but I'm going to have sex with other men depending on how I'm feeling.

He told me if I was smart I would sleep around without him knowing!

That must be love! Lmao!

Isn't that what you're doing.

So it seems you're both happy

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Hmmmm...let me process that thought...

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Idk i think a part of you loves him or you wouldn't ask so many questions

I personally would have just left or told him i rant to stay married but I'm going to have sex with other men depending on how I'm feeling.

He told me if I was smart I would sleep around without him knowing!

That must be love! Lmao!

Isn't that what you're doing.

So it seems you're both happy

Hmmmm...let me process that thought...

You're asking yourself is there more but you want the security of that more

Good luck with that

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Thanks. Lol

Posted by Toti
I thought of my divorce two year before I asked for it. I wanted to be sure I was fair and that I was asking for it for the right reasons. When I get divorced, I couldn't recover from it for several months even I initiated it. It is a difficult thing to go through, no matter how you receive the papers or decision.but, it is much more difficult to stay married to a wrong person and lose your peace of mind for good.

Exactly. No one just think divorce and saying let’s divorce on a same day right?

Are you with someone now?

I’ve never been married so i can’t give you advice on marriage but

Do what makes you happy. Think about it. Go on a trip by yourself or do something alone. Don’t rush into any decision. To me it sounds like you’re alone, in a marriage and outside of the marriage. Only divorce if you’re ok with being single and in a way you already are so what’s holding you back?

Posted by MoonshineLeo
I’ve never been married so i can’t give you advice on marriage but

Do what makes you happy. Think about it. Go on a trip by yourself or do something alone. Don’t rush into any decision. To me it sounds like you’re alone, in a marriage and outside of the marriage. Only divorce if you’re ok with being single and in a way you already are so what’s holding you back?

I am living my routine. I am working 10 hours per day with people. It’s pretty draining but satisfying.

I am home for a short time of the day.

So I am never alone but I must love somebody or it’s not living for me

Divorce would be pointless because we would have to pay a lawyer, sell the house and to me this house is my child’s inheritance. I can’t picture living it. It’s more than just a house. It’s life!

So far me and husband are having peaceful co-existence and why divorce?

Like I said if I don’t find someone to be with - we will grow older together and I will take care of him and it will be it.

It’s not like being around him is unbearable. He irritates heck out of me so I’ve done everything to not to be together much. It’s ok now. So future will show.

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Posted by MoonshineLeo
I’ve never been married so i can’t give you advice on marriage but

Do what makes you happy. Think about it. Go on a trip by yourself or do something alone. Don’t rush into any decision. To me it sounds like you’re alone, in a marriage and outside of the marriage. Only divorce if you’re ok with being single and in a way you already are so what’s holding you back?

I am living my routine. I am working 10 hours per day with people. It’s pretty draining but satisfying.

I am home for a short time of the day.

So I am never alone but I must love somebody or it’s not living for me

Divorce would be pointless because we would have to pay a lawyer, sell the house and to me this house is my child’s inheritance. I can’t picture living it. It’s more than just a house. It’s life!

So far me and husband are having peaceful co-existence and why divorce?

Like I said if I don’t find someone to be with - we will grow older together and I will take care of him and it will be it.

It’s not like being around him is unbearable. He irritates heck out of me so I’ve done everything to not to be together much. It’s ok now. So future will show.

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You say it’s ok but it’s not ok. What you are doing and how you are living your life is not ok. I’m only 24 so what the heck do i know about marriage? I know nothing but i hope i never have to live a life that i want to escape from. Mentally and emotionally.

You child can still have the house. I’m sure if you divorce someone will stay in it. Or you can divorce sell the house buy another house cheaper and pay it off and boom it’s yours and it can easily become inheritance for your child.

If you aren’t happy don’t make excuses on why you can’t leave. Life is too short. My dad is in an unhappy marriage and i wish he would divorce. It will make holidays and special occasions easier and more fun. The energy you keep around affects people more than you think.

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I’ve never been married so i can’t give you advice on marriage but

Do what makes you happy. Think about it. Go on a trip by yourself or do something alone. Don’t rush into any decision. To me it sounds like you’re alone, in a marriage and outside of the marriage. Only divorce if you’re ok with being single and in a way you already are so what’s holding you back?

I am living my routine. I am working 10 hours per day with people. It’s pretty draining but satisfying.

I am home for a short time of the day.

So I am never alone but I must love somebody or it’s not living for me

Divorce would be pointless because we would have to pay a lawyer, sell the house and to me this house is my child’s inheritance. I can’t picture living it. It’s more than just a house. It’s life!

So far me and husband are having peaceful co-existence and why divorce?

Like I said if I don’t find someone to be with - we will grow older together and I will take care of him and it will be it.

It’s not like being around him is unbearable. He irritates heck out of me so I’ve done everything to not to be together much. It’s ok now. So future will show.

You say it’s ok but it’s not ok. What you are doing and how you are living your life is not ok. I’m only 24 so what the heck do i know about marriage? I know nothing but i hope i never have to live a life that i want to escape from. Mentally and emotionally.

You child can still have the house. I’m sure if you divorce someone will stay in it. Or you can divorce sell the house buy another house cheaper and pay it off and boom it’s yours and it can easily become inheritance for your child.

If you aren’t happy don’t make excuses on why you can’t leave. Life is too short. My dad is in an unhappy marriage and i wish he would divorce. It will make holidays and special occasions easier and more fun. The energy you keep around affects people more than you think.

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I appreciate your insight but I will go with a flow and see what’s going to happen.

I gave myself 2 years top to resolve this.

I am not going into nowhere. It’s not like my life is a horror! If we were fighting and hating each other - different story.

We are housemates. Nothing wrong with that! It’s happenning all over.

And I am too weak now for life changing decisions. I am getting back to be alive.

🙏🏻

And thanks God for this opportunity!

What’s wrong with your dads marriage?

Just curious.

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Posted by nikkistar
Rip the damn bandaid off quick.

As soon as I am ready! Ripping it off now doesn’t make sense. If I won’t find a man who I will be with - why stir the pot?

My husband after all a father of my child and we are living separate friendly lives.

I don’t want to hurt him and take him out of his blissful unawareness for nothing.

We might get old together and be like that 75% of sexless couples whom death do part... click to expand

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Because you can’t stand on your own two feet without a man? How sad.

After 10 years of marriage you are eligible to draw 50% of his social security. You’ve passed that mark. 0 benefits to waiting.

Gemitati, no offense, but with your history, do you really think it's gonna be a cut out of the blue? Ie. that it will come as such a surprise? Hubby never suspected anything so far?