Do you believe in true love? Or do you settle?

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I saw a post by a Facebook friend. He’s a Pisces.. about true love. He’s searching for it.. and he’d made a comment about a show. Anyway his sister posted saying there is no such thing. It made me think about it.

Do you settle for what’s available so you are not alone? Or do you wait for true love? Or when a relationship is just right.

What’s your sun, moon, venus & mars.

I’m in the relationship is just right camp .. and would like it to be true love.. it might be but that traditionally takes awhile to figure out. And what qualifies for true love anyway? I believe I had it, but it got messed up due to things that weren’t about me. So does true love get through your issues.. maybe not so much. But yet people define it certain ways as if it gets through anything.

I can be alone if it’s not right. Because I like my own company more than someone else’s sucky company. 🤷‍♀️

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The issue in the concept of “true love” is that it’s completely subjective. What you might deem as “true love” might actually be infatuation for one or both parties… The issue with “settling” is, everyone does it to a degree whether they like to admit it or not. That person you currently deem a “true love”? How do you know it’s not just your hopeless romantic heart settling for this particular person cause it’s finally tired of going through so many different prospects? That’s why love, dating, relationships are so complicated. No one can actually win with the idea of scoring this illusion of “true love”. I’m sure the people who ended up a statistic in the 50% divorce rate didn’t go into it with the intentions of becoming part of that statistic. I believe a more logical and measured approach vs emotional to love is the key for a successful long term relationship. An example is listing all the pros you expect a satisfying relationship to give you and end up with someone who can meet majority if not all the criteria. Guess my venus 😛
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I do believe in true love and I refuse to settle for the sake of having someone. I’m content with being alone.. after finding out that my sons dad cheated, it opened my eyes that that was not true love. It was a very comfortable and convenient union. Everything looked good on paper.. he was a great provider, we had a big beautiful house with an in ground pool.. he spoiled me with gifts. We could have grown old and died together if i was willing to settle. I know he never would have left me because I provided him with the same comfort. But all of that was so superficial at the end of the day.

It might be my natal Venus square Neptune that refuses to give up on the idea of true love. But I’ve experienced a love of convenience and it was not enough for me, personally. When I say true love, I mean someone that loves me and themselves enough to not sabotage the connection for the sake of getting a new piece of ass, or meeting some other temporary superficial need. Someone that can provide me with the same emotional care/ safety net, devotion and loving home that I can provide for them.

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Seems completely reasonable to me 🙂
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The issue in the concept of “true love” is that it’s completely subjective. What you might deem as “true love” might actually be infatuation for one or both parties… The issue with “settling” is, everyone does it to a degree whether they like to admit it or not. That person you currently deem a “true love”? How do you know it’s not just your hopeless romantic heart settling for this particular person cause it’s finally tired of going through so many different prospects? That’s why love, dating, relationships are so complicated. No one can actually win with the idea of scoring this illusion of “true love”. I’m sure the people who ended up a statistic in the 50% divorce rate didn’t go into it with the intentions of becoming part of that statistic. I believe a more logical and measured approach vs emotional to love is the key for a successful long term relationship. An example is listing all the pros you expect a satisfying relationship to give you and end up with who can meet majority if not all the criteria. Guess my venus 😛

You reminded me of when I was on a train and a girl was reading a piece with a list of names on and it was a pros and cons. One guy was called Mario and it said "does thing that make me think WTF" - must be when he takes all those mushrooms.
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Lol my list would definitely be more complex than that but at least she’s got a start on the best path to the least disappointment imo.
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I do believe in true love and I refuse to settle for the sake of having someone. I’m content with being alone.. after finding out that my sons dad cheated, it opened my eyes that that was not true love. It was a very comfortable and convenient union. Everything looked good on paper.. he was a great provider, we had a big beautiful house with an in ground pool.. he spoiled me with gifts. We could have grown old and died together if i was willing to settle. I know he never would have left me because I provided him with the same comfort. But all of that was so superficial at the end of the day.

It might be my natal Venus square Neptune that refuses to give up on the idea of true love. But I’ve experienced a love of convenience and it was not enough for me, personally. When I say true love, I mean someone that loves me and themselves enough to not sabotage the connection for the sake of getting a new piece of ass, or meeting some other temporary superficial need. Someone that can provide me with the same emotional care/ safety net, devotion and loving home that I can provide for them.

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Seems completely reasonable to me 🙂

I’m still confident that I will have it eventually 🤞🏼🙏🏼 I think the more that we decline the superficial connections that are NOT for us, the closer we get to what is.
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Hmmm interesting thought. I think that is true the last ten years for me. Well I still believe my ex was true love, but his alcoholism got in the way and not dealing with some things. If it hadn’t been for parents extreme enabling when we moved we’d still be married & he wouldn’t be sick 😢 No one ever cheated, and he has always still had my back. I certainly have learned a lot & am more healthier now in the aftermath of it all.
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I believe in true love

And no to settling

Would rather be forever

single if it wasn’t right...

Sun Scorp, Moon Taurus

Venus Scorp Mars Taurus

Fixed water dominant.

This is the first time in a while that I actually agree with you.

Haha you actually disagree with me that much? 😃

About sex on a first date and the courting process especially.
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I think quite a few would disagree with you on that? Do a thread and prove me wrong Al🤓
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The issue in the concept of “true love” is that it’s completely subjective. What you might deem as “true love” might actually be infatuation for one or both parties… The issue with “settling” is, everyone does it to a degree whether they like to admit it or not. That person you currently deem a “true love”? How do you know it’s not just your hopeless romantic heart settling for this particular person cause it’s finally tired of going through so many different prospects? That’s why love, dating, relationships are so complicated. No one can actually win with the idea of scoring this illusion of “true love”. I’m sure the people who ended up a statistic in the 50% divorce rate didn’t go into it with the intentions of becoming part of that statistic. I believe a more logical and measured approach vs emotional to love is the key for a successful long term relationship. An example is listing all the pros you expect a satisfying relationship to give you and end up with who can meet majority if not all the criteria. Guess my venus 😛

You reminded me of when I was on a train and a girl was reading a piece with a list of names on and it was a pros and cons. One guy was called Mario and it said "does thing that make me think WTF" - must be when he takes all those mushrooms.

Lol my list would definitely be more complex than that but at least she’s got a start on the best path to the least disappointment imo.

I thought it was bit weird to be honest. Why not just do stuff based on feeling rather than micromanaging it?
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I explained above how basically feelings are very subjective. There’s no guarantee it’s actually mutual. Society got to that 50% divorce rate based on doing things on feelings… so looking at it logically, clearly doing things based on feelings doesn’t guarantee success of a long term relationship. After grasping the facts on this, I decided to go about another way to guarantee the least disappointment I possibly could for myself. Idk it’s kind of hard to explain my thought process but I’ve seen others do it too (unintentionally) and it working out better for them. I also believe in manifestation and that requires thinking more straight with confidence of exactly what you want vs being consumed by feelings.
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The issue in the concept of “true love” is that it’s completely subjective. What you might deem as “true love” might actually be infatuation for one or both parties… The issue with “settling” is, everyone does it to a degree whether they like to admit it or not. That person you currently deem a “true love”? How do you know it’s not just your hopeless romantic heart settling for this particular person cause it’s finally tired of going through so many different prospects? That’s why love, dating, relationships are so complicated. No one can actually win with the idea of scoring this illusion of “true love”. I’m sure the people who ended up a statistic in the 50% divorce rate didn’t go into it with the intentions of becoming part of that statistic. I believe a more logical and measured approach vs emotional to love is the key for a successful long term relationship. An example is listing all the pros you expect a satisfying relationship to give you and end up with someone who can meet majority if not all the criteria. Guess my venus 😛


It takes time to know. Lol so logical.. that doesn’t work for me. I find out along the way. I’d still be married if it wasn’t for things I couldn’t see about the future .. 17 years before they happened. Not everyone is forthcoming about their issues.
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I believe in true love

And no to settling

Would rather be forever

single if it wasn’t right...

Sun Scorp, Moon Taurus

Venus Scorp Mars Taurus

Fixed water dominant.

This is the first time in a while that I actually agree with you.

Haha you actually disagree with me that much? 😃

About sex on a first date and the courting process especially.

I think quite a few would disagree with you on that? Do a thread and prove me wrong Al🤓

It's a deal. Last thread I start this week though.
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You took over my role as a thread starter 🙃
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I believe in true love

And no to settling

Would rather be forever

single if it wasn’t right...

Sun Scorp, Moon Taurus

Venus Scorp Mars Taurus

Fixed water dominant.

This is the first time in a while that I actually agree with you.

Haha you actually disagree with me that much? 😃

About sex on a first date and the courting process especially.

I think quite a few would disagree with you on that? Do a thread and prove me wrong Al🤓

It's a deal. Last thread I start this week though.
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The issue in the concept of “true love” is that it’s completely subjective. What you might deem as “true love” might actually be infatuation for one or both parties… The issue with “settling” is, everyone does it to a degree whether they like to admit it or not. That person you currently deem a “true love”? How do you know it’s not just your hopeless romantic heart settling for this particular person cause it’s finally tired of going through so many different prospects? That’s why love, dating, relationships are so complicated. No one can actually win with the idea of scoring this illusion of “true love”. I’m sure the people who ended up a statistic in the 50% divorce rate didn’t go into it with the intentions of becoming part of that statistic. I believe a more logical and measured approach vs emotional to love is the key for a successful long term relationship. An example is listing all the pros you expect a satisfying relationship to give you and end up with someone who can meet majority if not all the criteria. Guess my venus 😛

It takes time to know. Lol so logical.. that doesn’t work for me. I find out along the way. I’d still be married if it wasn’t for things I couldn’t see about the future .. 17 years before they happened. Not everyone is forthcoming about their issues.
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I know, there’s so many unknown variables regardless of how logical a person can attempt to be. I been trying to turn any *perceived* negatives into positives. Everything in life is an interpretation. I been working on seeing how much I can maneuver my destiny with manifestations. It’s kind of draining tho. I guess it just depends on how much you want something vs waiting for things to just happen around you.
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I believe in true love

And no to settling

Would rather be forever

single if it wasn’t right...

Sun Scorp, Moon Taurus

Venus Scorp Mars Taurus

Fixed water dominant.

This is the first time in a while that I actually agree with you.

Haha you actually disagree with me that much? 😃

About sex on a first date and the courting process especially.

I think quite a few would disagree with you on that? Do a thread and prove me wrong Al🤓

It's a deal. Last thread I start this week though.

You took over my role as a thread starter 🙃

Someone has to carry the torch in Leo season.
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This Leo season has been awful for me. I can’t wait for darker, colder days! 😅
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I believe in one and true love only.

But who knows, maybe some day I’ll settle too like most of people do eventually?

You think there is only one you’d fall in love with? Or that you’d be faithful & never leave?
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I just hope that love and passion lasts.

I have been in love with couple of guys before, but we didn’t end up together. So I gotta wonder - how true was the love and were they really meant for me?

I think the one I eventually end up with, might be THE ONE! It’s probably just wishful thinking though 😇
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I believe in one and true love only.

But who knows, maybe some day I’ll settle too like most of people do eventually?

You think there is only one you’d fall in love with? Or that you’d be faithful & never leave?

I just hope that love and passion lasts.

I have been in love with couple of guys before, but we didn’t end up together. So I gotta wonder - how true was the love and were they really meant for me?

I think the one I eventually end up with, might be THE ONE! It’s probably just wishful thinking though 😇

Didn't you dump him? He's a lot more forgiving than I am.
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Dump him? I don’t know what you’re talking about 😄
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No cause I have a Venus retrograde 😢

Aries sun

scorpio moon

Aries Venus

Mars - I prefer not to say lmao

Your chart is similar to Alex
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Yeah except he has the cool Mars lol
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I saw a post by a Facebook friend. He’s a Pisces.. about true love. He’s searching for it.. and he’d made a comment about a show. Anyway his sister posted saying there is no such thing. It made me think about it.

Do you settle for what’s available so you are not alone? Or do you wait for true love? Or when a relationship is just right.

What’s your sun, moon, venus & mars.

I’m in the relationship is just right camp .. and would like it to be true love.. it might be but that traditionally takes awhile to figure out. And what qualifies for true love anyway? I believe I had it, but it got messed up due to things that weren’t about me. So does true love get through your issues.. maybe not so much. But yet people define it certain ways as if it gets through anything.

I can be alone if it’s not right. Because I like my own company more than someone else’s sucky company. 🤷‍♀️

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Yes, I believe in true love. Sun in Aries, Moon in Capricorn, Venus in Taurus, Mars in Cancer.
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No cause I have a Venus retrograde 😢

Aries sun

scorpio moon

Aries Venus

Mars - I prefer not to say lmao

Your chart is similar to Alex

Yeah except he has the cool Mars lol

What’s your Mars, Jay?
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Mars in cancer lmao
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No cause I have a Venus retrograde 😢

Aries sun

scorpio moon

Aries Venus

Mars - I prefer not to say lmao

Your chart is similar to Alex

AFAIK my venus isn't retrograde I didn't think it could be if it is in the same sign as the sun.
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Yeah Venus retrograde can be in any sign my only other aries placement and it’s retrograde lol no wonder I have a problem with relationships
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I do believe and have met 2 in my life time. They both hit differently. Wouldn't be surprised if the first was a lesson to prepare for the current.

How do I know it's the real thing?

Despite what life throws at you both. Even if you both screw up. No matter who did what. Even if you need to walk away or take a break, for whatever reason. Single or not. Available or not.

It doesn't effect how you feel about that person .it passes all the tests of hardships in life. It just is. You love them for themselves. Thats how you know it's the real thing. Actually maybe kinda fucked meeting her. Bar has been raised a bit.

No I will not settle nor will I ever settle. Friends and other stuff to keep me busy.

Virgo, Taurus, Libra, Sag

Not that it matters with this.
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No cause I have a Venus retrograde 😢

Aries sun

scorpio moon

Aries Venus

Mars - I prefer not to say lmao

Your chart is similar to Alex

AFAIK my venus isn't retrograde I didn't think it could be if it is in the same sign as the sun.
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Yes

Just a thought, have you checked your transits on the dating thing? It may be interesting? Fifth and seventh houses
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there’s nothing lonelier than being in a half-assed relationship/dealing with someone’s bullshit and excuses about why they can’t love you correctly so yeah I’d rather be alone.

Love does exist but not everyone has the capacity to love someone properly.

so you don’t wanna be wasting years barking up the wrong tree (which I see many people doing). It’s important to make sure the person you’re dealing with has the capacity to love.

And if their heart is fully open to love
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We are souls in bodies only dreaming we are a man or a woman. We are all wrapped in ignorance and dreams. Dreams about true love? Your truest love is that someone who lifts you up into your true self. Is this possible?

You don't really know your 'soul self'. But God knows your soul self. That is, how you were created - your self beyond what you know yourself to be. And God has thrown you out into this world into a physical body - waiting to see when you might want to return to your true love (which is God).

A physical union with some other soul to help you begin to get there? In a sense - yes. It is said there is one whom God has made that will cause you to light up like a Christmas tree - that is, you will be lifted from your usual existence into to higher places (you will travel up your chakras -boom!). This will be your true love until you are ready to make the ultimate final union. This soul may be in this world or may find you in some future life when the situation is right - when you are ready to wake up to this higher love, God will send you out in close enough proximity to your 'twin' soul to cross paths.

However, most will spend many lives getting caught up in the illusions of love - doing no more than going around in circles wasting time. Progress will be slow. When you are ready and cross paths with that soul God has created to wake you from your sleep you will be floored - or better said you will be lifted to a truer/higher self. This union may be too intense to maintain. God wants you even more than your twin flame (whom created your twin flame?)

Sun, Moon, Mars, Venus = whatever, the stars no longer contain me.
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I believe in one and true love only.

But who knows, maybe some day I’ll settle too like most of people do eventually?

You think there is only one you’d fall in love with? Or that you’d be faithful & never leave?

I just hope that love and passion lasts.

I have been in love with couple of guys before, but we didn’t end up together. So I gotta wonder - how true was the love and were they really meant for me?

I think the one I eventually end up with, might be THE ONE! It’s probably just wishful thinking though 😇
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I don’t believe in “the one”. I do think it’s about partnership & compatibility & love and passion too. That’s why I say it’s about being right. If you have this then love & passion don’t die. But there are behaviors that can kill the love and passion. I personally have had two.
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I believe in true love, but I’m also fairly realistic.

I don’t buy into that fairytale romance where they instantly fall in love, are perfect for one and other, and completely bypass the foundation building of a loving mature relationship.

I crave the real true love that’s built over time with someone who has discovered your flaws and doesn’t hate you for them. The true love that happens when you grow ugly and old together yet still find beauty in each other because the connection is deep. The true love where you know the persons heart and you know that they love you as much as you love them.

That is a connection worth waiting for.

Cancer, Taurus, Leo, Taurus

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