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picking people who are good for our mental health
How to Choose Partners That Support Your Mental Health
Selecting people who promote emotional stability and understanding can improve mental health. Look for individuals who bring positivity, consistency, and supportiveness into your life, and aim to be that person for others. Healthy relationships foster well-being and reduce stress, making them essential for emotional balance.
Good advice. Stay sane.
What about boredom
like how to deal with boredom....?
-stay curious, keep your sense of wonder alive, give yourself something to look forward to by planning activities ahead of time, find out what is causing the boredom in your life and eliminate it if possible (sometimes we might feel bored 'cause of mental/emotional exhaustion too...like not feeling inspired enough about life...?)
-understand that life will sometimes be boring regardless of anything we do...lol but it won't always stay that way. 🙂
What about boredom
like how to deal with boredom....?
-stay curious, keep your sense of wonder alive, give yourself something to look forward to by planning activities ahead of time, find out what is causing the boredom in your life and eliminate it if possible (sometimes we might feel bored 'cause of mental/emotional exhaustion too...like not feeling inspired enough about life...?)
-understand that life will sometimes be boring regardless of anything we do...lol but it won't always stay that way. 🙂
No i am saying
What If the person is solid n caring but bore you
Just a thought
I'm pretending to have options btw
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ooh i see..
well ideally you wanna find someone who is solid yet exciting/stimulating at the same time...lol also in what way are they boring? are they boring 'cause they're "too safe" , "too set in their ways" and you're the type of person who likes a bit of unpredictability and thrill? or are they just boring in conversation? (as in they're not mentally/emotionally stimulating..?)
you could try having a talk with them to see if they're open to becoming less set in their ways lol ( people who are labeled "boring" are usually just set in their ways and not curious enough....they may or may not change but you can still talk to them...or just find someone who excite you...lol)
More then anyone I'm not good for my own mental health. I've been trying to get a refund for years now, but it turns out I'm stuck with myself. Till death do I part.
More then anyone I'm not good for my own mental health. I've been trying to get a refund for years now, but it turns out I'm stuck with myself. Till death do I part.
be kind with yourself. you’re probably doing the best you can and that is enough...🙂
Hermit life for me
I like my own company
Having seen all the hassle and heartbreak people bring to each other, I choose to opt out...
Hermit life for me
I like my own company
Having seen all the hassle and heartbreak people bring to each other, I choose to opt out...
Is it all doom and gloom though? Surely, there are as many happy love stories as unhappy ones. Random draw of luck maybe, alas, worth the risk.
Or, better:
"Don't fall for people who are not good for your mental health"
Because I'm looking for a decent guy, not an antidepressant in human form, lol
It’s all about the vibes. Good vibes stay and bad vibes stay away. 💖✨💖✨💖✨💖✨💖
You know that gut instinct? It never lies 🙂
Hermit life for me
I like my own company
Having seen all the hassle and heartbreak people bring to each other, I choose to opt out...
Is it all doom and gloom though? Surely, there are as many happy love stories as unhappy ones. Random draw of luck maybe, alas, worth the risk.
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Not at all! Yes worth the risk ...
I love other people’s love stories but don’t feel the need for it myself
Done it ... don’t regret anything ❤️
Hermit life for me
I like my own company
Having seen all the hassle and heartbreak people bring to each other, I choose to opt out...
Is it all doom and gloom though? Surely, there are as many happy love stories as unhappy ones. Random draw of luck maybe, alas, worth the risk.
Not at all! Yes worth the risk ...
I love other people’s love stories but don’t feel the need for it myself
Done it ... don’t regret anything ❤️
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What if someone swept you off your feet some day? A hot Irish singer? 😉
Hermit life for me
I like my own company
Having seen all the hassle and heartbreak people bring to each other, I choose to opt out...
Is it all doom and gloom though? Surely, there are as many happy love stories as unhappy ones. Random draw of luck maybe, alas, worth the risk.
Not at all! Yes worth the risk ...
I love other people’s love stories but don’t feel the need for it myself
Done it ... don’t regret anything ❤️
What if someone swept you off your feet some day? A hot Irish singer? 😉
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Haha
I’m open to any eventuality...I’m just not needy for it ... I’ve lived with three men and know what’s involved lol
I’ve found peace which is really lovely 😊
Hermit life for me
I like my own company
Having seen all the hassle and heartbreak people bring to each other, I choose to opt out...
Is it all doom and gloom though? Surely, there are as many happy love stories as unhappy ones. Random draw of luck maybe, alas, worth the risk.
Not at all! Yes worth the risk ...
I love other people’s love stories but don’t feel the need for it myself
Done it ... don’t regret anything ❤️
What if someone swept you off your feet some day? A hot Irish singer? 😉
Haha
I’m open to any eventuality...I’m just not needy for it ... I’ve lived with three men and know what’s involved lol
I’ve found peace which is really lovely 😊
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Whatever makes you feel good 👍
I think if he is a peaceful and clean guy, it can be okay to live together. But still not as easy as living alone 💜
Passion is good but that’s not 24/7 either, lol. It’s not like in porn movies 🤣
Hermit life for me
I like my own company
Having seen all the hassle and heartbreak people bring to each other, I choose to opt out...
Is it all doom and gloom though? Surely, there are as many happy love stories as unhappy ones. Random draw of luck maybe, alas, worth the risk.
Not at all! Yes worth the risk ...
I love other people’s love stories but don’t feel the need for it myself
Done it ... don’t regret anything ❤️
What if someone swept you off your feet some day? A hot Irish singer? 😉
Haha
I’m open to any eventuality...I’m just not needy for it ... I’ve lived with three men and know what’s involved lol
I’ve found peace which is really lovely 😊
Whatever makes you feel good 👍
I think if he is a peaceful and clean guy, it can be okay to live together. But still not as easy as living alone 💜
Passion is good but that’s not 24/7 either, lol. It’s not like in porn movies 🤣
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Lol
Did you ever live with a man, Gem?
Hermit life for me
I like my own company
Having seen all the hassle and heartbreak people bring to each other, I choose to opt out...
Is it all doom and gloom though? Surely, there are as many happy love stories as unhappy ones. Random draw of luck maybe, alas, worth the risk.
Not at all! Yes worth the risk ...
I love other people’s love stories but don’t feel the need for it myself
Done it ... don’t regret anything ❤️
What if someone swept you off your feet some day? A hot Irish singer? 😉
Haha
I’m open to any eventuality...I’m just not needy for it ... I’ve lived with three men and know what’s involved lol
I’ve found peace which is really lovely 😊
Whatever makes you feel good 👍
I think if he is a peaceful and clean guy, it can be okay to live together. But still not as easy as living alone 💜
Passion is good but that’s not 24/7 either, lol. It’s not like in porn movies 🤣
Lol
Did you ever live with a man, Gem?
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No.
Hermit life for me
I like my own company
Having seen all the hassle and heartbreak people bring to each other, I choose to opt out...
Is it all doom and gloom though? Surely, there are as many happy love stories as unhappy ones. Random draw of luck maybe, alas, worth the risk.
Not at all! Yes worth the risk ...
I love other people’s love stories but don’t feel the need for it myself
Done it ... don’t regret anything ❤️
What if someone swept you off your feet some day? A hot Irish singer? 😉
Haha
I’m open to any eventuality...I’m just not needy for it ... I’ve lived with three men and know what’s involved lol
I’ve found peace which is really lovely 😊
Whatever makes you feel good 👍
I think if he is a peaceful and clean guy, it can be okay to live together. But still not as easy as living alone 💜
Passion is good but that’s not 24/7 either, lol. It’s not like in porn movies 🤣
Lol
Did you ever live with a man, Gem?
No.
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You’re still young so there’s time .....
Even so, separate 🏡 🏡
Lol
I am unwilling to be with someone who is bad for my mental health anymore. I like the sign 🙂
If I would’ve been okay with it, I would’ve stayed married.
I am unwilling to be with someone who is bad for my mental health anymore. I like the sign 🙂
If I would’ve been okay with it, I would’ve stayed married.
Sign? Aries?
I am unwilling to be with someone who is bad for my mental health anymore. I like the sign 🙂
If I would’ve been okay with it, I would’ve stayed married.
Sign? Aries?
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Yes. It isn’t about the sign. It’s about him being an alcoholic and wanting to be enabled.. and it had turned me into codependent and making sure he was okay, and that it didn’t matter if I was okay & if my kids were okay. It was far worse once we were in a position of his parents enabling him ( when we moved to Oregon). Anyway once you do the work, you’re not putting yourself back in an unhealthy position.
I am unwilling to be with someone who is bad for my mental health anymore. I like the sign 🙂
If I would’ve been okay with it, I would’ve stayed married.
Sign? Aries?
Yes. It isn’t about the sign. It’s about him being an alcoholic and wanting to be enabled.. and it had turned me into codependent and making sure he was okay, and that it didn’t matter if I was okay & if my kids were okay. It was far worse once we were in a position of his parents enabling him ( when we moved to Oregon). Anyway once you do the work, you’re not putting yourself back in an unhealthy position.
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Yes ma’am
That's what I do.
I hang out with good/kind people.
Quality over quantity, always.
Nice guys 😊
very reasonable.
but i feel like people are too busy trying to find the 'right' people. but do they ask: "what am i even offering?" i've had a great weekend with someone. acted, spoke and looked the way i should. i played along even tho lately i've felt like i have nothing substantial to give anyone. plus i imagine being with me is kinda like sitting on a park bench, eating nonfat yogurt at night.
hell i bought my own bench a few days ago so i can sit and eat nonfat yogurt at the comfort of my own living room.
i got nothing to bring to the table. and i'm at peace with that 🤷♀️🤷♀️ #peakmentalhealth
Working on this. Finding the right kind of stimulation.
Part of my future dream is gathering a group of people for BBQ game night light traveling and a yearly vacation as a group. Hmm think " How I met your Mother" and "Friends" but set in California were we have access to most life style s and environments.
Good for your mental health but bad for your pussy juice secration
Both can be fun!
Both can be fun!
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Both can be fun!
😂🥴
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I'd be loyal and sign up for either choice. 😆 I don't mind the toxicity. But it just won't be a long relationship. 1-2 years tops before I get bored.
Both can be fun!
😂🥴
I'd be loyal and sign up for either choice. 😆 I don't mind the toxicity. But it just won't be a long relationship. 1-2 years tops before I get bored.
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😂
What about boredom
If you bore you - it’s not good for your mental health. You eventually will snap! Or cheat. Or quietly pack and run. But by that time you’ll be ticked off so you won’t recover quickly.
You might start drinking or getting involved with somebody who are fun and bad for you though good for your mental health. 🤔🤕😂
Both can be fun!
😂🥴
I'd be loyal and sign up for either choice. 😆 I don't mind the toxicity. But it just won't be a long relationship. 1-2 years tops before I get bored.
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Truth! Toxic won’t be long term or else you’re hurting yourself. It gets old after awhile aka “the Cap” or any other guy I dated since I got divorced 🤷♀️
The danger to this, without self-awareness, is toxic positivity. Some people may equate that post with the need for others to appease them all the time.
I saw this topic earlier and I had a hard time providing a straightforward answer. Some people have to endure living with depression and this may be taxing for other people depending on one's own sympathy level/situation/resiliency/
involvement.
As people get older, there will be add-ons that may weigh differently for everyone. It takes more than self-awareness, part of it requires perspective.
I think it's best to find people who see their own shortcomings and are actively working on themselves.
Personally, I need somebody who understands that everyone has their own crux to carry. I need somebody who's compassionate and acknowledges that possibility even with people deemed most evil by society. Somebody who understands that healing and destruction aren't isolated events, especially if we consider nurture to be the most influential on development.
Anyways, I didn't really answer the question and I forgot it already.
Self-awareness is a key part. You are right without it. The idea of healthy long term couples, from the ones I’ve known is that they grow together, and learn how to work through things. When that doesn’t happen in a healthy way, it becomes toxic. Some people actually do that getting married young & most of us had to learn it along the way after separated from the toxic situation. In my lifetime of experience anyway.
Both can be fun!
😂🥴
I'd be loyal and sign up for either choice. 😆 I don't mind the toxicity. But it just won't be a long relationship. 1-2 years tops before I get bored.
Truth! Toxic won’t be long term or else you’re hurting yourself. It gets old after awhile aka “the Cap” or any other guy I dated since I got divorced 🤷♀️
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I've also learned that I have to pretend that I'm worried about being vulnerable, cause men don't want to risk it by themselves.
Me saying "I'm not worried cause I'm wreckless" isn't a good idea! 😆
I might be about to break your heart too! Chin up buttercup! Let's go have some fun!
Both can be fun!
😂🥴
I'd be loyal and sign up for either choice. 😆 I don't mind the toxicity. But it just won't be a long relationship. 1-2 years tops before I get bored.
Truth! Toxic won’t be long term or else you’re hurting yourself. It gets old after awhile aka “the Cap” or any other guy I dated since I got divorced 🤷♀️
I've also learned that I have to pretend that I'm worried about being vulnerable, cause men don't want to risk it by themselves.
Me saying "I'm not worried cause I'm wreckless" isn't a good idea! 😆
I might be about to break your heart too! Chin up buttercup! Let's go have some fun!
https://pics.me.me/alonefeels-when-you-gotta-end-things-with-your-favorite-toxic-60633964.png
Lol Miss Cancer moon. I don’t talk about being vulnerable, I just openly talk about things that show I’m vulnerable & then weird they open up too… some guys get a little weirded out that they are telling me things 😂🙃🤷♀️
I do not talk about mushy feelings though haha that takes awhile.. i more show them. But then they want me to be verbal because they can’t understand showing apparently lol I’m a little over it right now.. so being a hermit and doing things for me.
Is there a such thing as people bringing good mental health to others? I have my reasons for being a loner. I pick my own self for good mental health.
Now that I think about it, I'd rather pick people who can understand the various levels of crazy there is within a complex personality. Which is no one sane. Picking people that have similar values, energy levels, tolerance for your idiosyncrasies. All of that matters.
I am unwilling to be with someone who is bad for my mental health anymore. I like the sign 🙂
If I would’ve been okay with it, I would’ve stayed married.
Sign? Aries?
Yes. It isn’t about the sign. It’s about him being an alcoholic and wanting to be enabled.. and it had turned me into codependent and making sure he was okay, and that it didn’t matter if I was okay & if my kids were okay. It was far worse once we were in a position of his parents enabling him ( when we moved to Oregon). Anyway once you do the work, you’re not putting yourself back in an unhealthy position.
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100% with you on that.
i'm all for helping people overcome issues but enabling can be dangerous and ultimately will do more harm than good for the other person. i like these two quotes about what it truly means to help "heal" someone:
very reasonable.
but i feel like people are too busy trying to find the 'right' people. but do they ask: "what am i even offering?" i've had a great weekend with someone. acted, spoke and looked the way i should. i played along even tho lately i've felt like i have nothing substantial to give anyone. plus i imagine being with me is kinda like sitting on a park bench, eating nonfat yogurt at night.
hell i bought my own bench a few days ago so i can sit and eat nonfat yogurt at the comfort of my own living room.
i got nothing to bring to the table. and i'm at peace with that 🤷♀️🤷♀️ #peakmentalhealth
i don't believe that you have nothing substantial to give to anyone...😢
you probably have many endearing traits that you don't even give yourself enough credit for.
try writing out a list of what you like about yourself, or qualities people have complimented you on in the past.
very reasonable.
but i feel like people are too busy trying to find the 'right' people. but do they ask: "what am i even offering?" i've had a great weekend with someone. acted, spoke and looked the way i should. i played along even tho lately i've felt like i have nothing substantial to give anyone. plus i imagine being with me is kinda like sitting on a park bench, eating nonfat yogurt at night.
hell i bought my own bench a few days ago so i can sit and eat nonfat yogurt at the comfort of my own living room.
i got nothing to bring to the table. and i'm at peace with that 🤷♀️🤷♀️ #peakmentalhealth
i don't believe that you have nothing substantial to give to anyone...😢
you probably have many endearing traits that you don't even give yourself enough credit for.
try writing out a list of what you like about yourself, or qualities people have complimented you on in the past.
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Well… she has her own bench and nonfat yogurt. I’m sold.
Both can be fun!
i'm all for some healthy passion and excitement! lol 😊🔥
The danger to this, without self-awareness, is toxic positivity. Some people may equate that post with the need for others to appease them all the time.
I saw this topic earlier and I had a hard time providing a straightforward answer. Some people have to endure living with depression and this may be taxing for other people depending on one's own sympathy level/situation/resiliency/
involvement.
As people get older, there will be add-ons that may weigh differently for everyone. It takes more than self-awareness, part of it requires perspective.
I think it's best to find people who see their own shortcomings and are actively working on themselves.
Personally, I need somebody who understands that everyone has their own crux to carry. I need somebody who's compassionate and acknowledges that possibility even with people deemed most evil by society. Somebody who understands that healing and destruction aren't isolated events, especially if we consider nurture to be the most influential on development.
Anyways, I didn't really answer the question and I forgot it already.
i completely agree that self-awareness and compassion are the number one important traits required to have a healthy relationship with anyone. since everyone is made up of multiple complex layers, struggling with something, healing from things they don't speak about, just doing their best with what they know in each and every moment...🙏 it's important to be patient with everyone.
Is there a such thing as people bringing good mental health to others? I have my reasons for being a loner. I pick my own self for good mental health.
not bringing good mental health (lol) but bringing clarity, ease, compassion, understanding...that kinda stuff 🙂
Is there a such thing as people bringing good mental health to others? I have my reasons for being a loner. I pick my own self for good mental health.
not bringing good mental health (lol) but bringing clarity, ease, compassion, understanding...that kinda stuff 🙂
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Oh aight thanks for the clarification. I sincerely hope that you don't mind I chip in this beautiful Taurus lady that I know. By far she's the only one that can bring all those things you've listed and then some. Most of all I pick people who respects my boundaries and she does just that. I pick those that respects my privacy cus I value that with a passion. Some people are fakes about all of those things you listed. They talk a good game and say or maybe even promise to bring those good mental things but show me the complete opposite. This Taurus lady is not only pretty physically but she's real as fuck and I think that outshine her beauty. She can make a darn good friend and the moment we met we clicked instantly. This is why Taurus is my all time favorite sign. Her boyfriend is extremely lucky to have her as a girlfriend I swear. And since she's a fellow introverter, she understands me almost to the point of more than everybody in the world, and respects me too. And you can't beat that. She's the only one that I can think of that brings clarity, ease, compassion and understanding.
Is there a such thing as people bringing good mental health to others? I have my reasons for being a loner. I pick my own self for good mental health.
not bringing good mental health (lol) but bringing clarity, ease, compassion, understanding...that kinda stuff 🙂
Oh aight thanks for the clarification. I sincerely hope that you don't mind I chip in this beautiful Taurus lady that I know. By far she's the only one that can bring all those things you've listed and then some. Most of all I pick people who respects my boundaries and she does just that. I pick those that respects my privacy cus I value that with a passion. Some people are fakes about all of those things you listed. They talk a good game and say or maybe even promise to bring those good mental things but show me the complete opposite. This Taurus lady is not only pretty physically but she's real as fuck and I think that outshine her beauty. She can make a darn good friend and the moment we met we clicked instantly. This is why Taurus is my all time favorite sign. Her boyfriend is extremely lucky to have her as a girlfriend I swear. And since she's a fellow introverter, she understands me almost to the point of more than everybody in the world, and respects me too. And you can't beat that. She's the only one that I can think of that brings clarity, ease, compassion and understanding.
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she sounds really cool. it's not everyday we come across people who understand us in a way that's magical.
i honestly hope you find another woman just like her. 🙂
just keep on being your authentic self like you are now and you'll attract people who are on the same vibe as you.
I am unwilling to be with someone who is bad for my mental health anymore. I like the sign 🙂
If I would’ve been okay with it, I would’ve stayed married.
Sign? Aries?
Yes. It isn’t about the sign. It’s about him being an alcoholic and wanting to be enabled.. and it had turned me into codependent and making sure he was okay, and that it didn’t matter if I was okay & if my kids were okay. It was far worse once we were in a position of his parents enabling him ( when we moved to Oregon). Anyway once you do the work, you’re not putting yourself back in an unhealthy position.
100% with you on that.
i'm all for helping people overcome issues but enabling can be dangerous and ultimately will do more harm than good for the other person. i like these two quotes about what it truly means to help "heal" someone:
https://i.ibb.co/vZcjqvv/a3ade5adae515b626bd356d6269e7120.jpg
Yes I agree. I found out the hard way, and so did he. 😢
Thanks for posting this
It goes beyond someone just being cute, a good reminder for me that we often choose to love people who are bad for our mental and emotional health
True. And that's why I got a good head on my shoulders. I observe first without rushing.
Is there a such thing as people bringing good mental health to others? I have my reasons for being a loner. I pick my own self for good mental health.
not bringing good mental health (lol) but bringing clarity, ease, compassion, understanding...that kinda stuff 🙂
Oh aight thanks for the clarification. I sincerely hope that you don't mind I chip in this beautiful Taurus lady that I know. By far she's the only one that can bring all those things you've listed and then some. Most of all I pick people who respects my boundaries and she does just that. I pick those that respects my privacy cus I value that with a passion. Some people are fakes about all of those things you listed. They talk a good game and say or maybe even promise to bring those good mental things but show me the complete opposite. This Taurus lady is not only pretty physically but she's real as fuck and I think that outshine her beauty. She can make a darn good friend and the moment we met we clicked instantly. This is why Taurus is my all time favorite sign. Her boyfriend is extremely lucky to have her as a girlfriend I swear. And since she's a fellow introverter, she understands me almost to the point of more than everybody in the world, and respects me too. And you can't beat that. She's the only one that I can think of that brings clarity, ease, compassion and understanding.
she sounds really cool. it's not everyday we come across people who understand us in a way that's magical.
i honestly hope you find another woman just like her. 🙂
just keep on being your authentic self like you are now and you'll attract people who are on the same vibe as you.
https://i.ibb.co/z8XQWHj/Copy-of-slow-down-with-Certified-High-Performance-Coaching.png
I just hate it when people lump all tauruses up the same way. It pisses me off. So the Texas school shooter was a taurus. It doesn't mean all tauruses are killers. Everybody here lump all signs in the same category. It also irks me when they say (and I'm puttin my hands on my hips repeating this phrase in a gay like voice) *no Gemini man for me because their not loyal*. Yayayaya whatever.
And no it certainly not everyday we come across people who understands us in a way that's magical. People like her only comes once in a lifetime.
very reasonable.
but i feel like people are too busy trying to find the 'right' people. but do they ask: "what am i even offering?" i've had a great weekend with someone. acted, spoke and looked the way i should. i played along even tho lately i've felt like i have nothing substantial to give anyone. plus i imagine being with me is kinda like sitting on a park bench, eating nonfat yogurt at night.
hell i bought my own bench a few days ago so i can sit and eat nonfat yogurt at the comfort of my own living room.
i got nothing to bring to the table. and i'm at peace with that 🤷♀️🤷♀️ #peakmentalhealth
Having some variety of self-awareness is definitely preferable to operating ones life in ignorance.What exactly do you feel is necessary to offer that you're not offering?
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anything beyond sitting on a park bench while eating convenience store nonfat yogurt at night and having a rabbit for a child instead of an actual human infant.
Thanks for posting this
It goes beyond someone just being cute, a good reminder for me that we often choose to love people who are bad for our mental and emotional health
there's nothing wrong with learning and growing with someone but when you notice that your mental health is severely deteriorating from being with someone, that's when we need to take a step back and re-evaluate, i think. :/
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randomly saw this on pinterest this morning and thought it was a simple yet important question to reflect on when getting into relationships...
picking someone who is good for our mental health and emotional well-being...and also being the kind of person who brings mental/emotional stability to others rather than bringing the opposite....(confusion, instability, toxicity etc)