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Posted by tizianiWhatever the reasoning I've heard that 100 times before and it's not a gem and it's not 'just' been shared!
What was their reasoning behind it?

Posted by tizianiThey both say that a man will do anything for you, if he loves you that little bit more. If he knows you love him more, than he will take you for granted. He needs to have that taste of detachment from you to appreciate you.
What was their reasoning behind it?


Posted by LadyNeptuneOne more time please ?
I agree in the context of matching his enthusiasm and letting him set the emotional pace.

Posted by TaurusinTexasMan: I love youPosted by tizianiThey both say that a man will do anything for you, if he loves you that little bit more. If he knows you love him more, than he will take you for granted. He needs to have that taste of detachment from you to appreciate you.
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Posted by starwarsNobody seeing anyone! Let go you being dumped!
I don't believe in following certian rules when it comes to loving someone.
you know how some people say to not make the first move?
not show the guy that you like him?
not talk about your relationship to your friends?
I dont fuk with that, you should feel happy and free to say and do whatever you want whenever you feel like doing it. if you dont have that type of security and freedom then the relationship is shit because that means its based on ego and mind games.
people should focus more on the positive feelings and fulfillment they feel from being in a relationship rather than focusing on how to keep their partner, because its a waste of time and it'd ruin the relationship in the long run.
if your partner ended up seeing someone else, then you aren't meant to be and life goes on.

Posted by GemitatiSuck my dick firstPosted by LadyNeptuneOne more time please ?
I agree in the context of matching his enthusiasm and letting him set the emotional pace.click to expand



Posted by LadyNeptune— Do you have one?Posted by GemitatiSuck my dick firstPosted by LadyNeptuneOne more time please ?
I agree in the context of matching his enthusiasm and letting him set the emotional pace.click to expand


Posted by TaurusinTexasI need to take you for granted if I am ever going to accomplish something more in life than just our relationship. Do you want a productive man or a dog?Posted by tizianiThey both say that a man will do anything for you, if he loves you that little bit more. If he knows you love him more, than he will take you for granted. He needs to have that taste of detachment from you to appreciate you.
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Posted by SimsimiPosted by MyStarsShineMy mom still says this , I'm pretty sure thats why their relationships back then lasted a lot more than.
My wise mother used to say this
I see proof and truth in this
She says it should be more like 60/40
(About a woman actions will always overshadow a man' even if she's giving him that 40% )
Men these days are quick to take women for granted.click to expand

Posted by SimsimiThis is me. I am extremely expressive in terms of gestures and I can understand someone may think overtime I either love them more, or that I'm a fraud. Gestures don't measure love or feelings though, they only measure the amount of time and energy you spend on a person for whatever reason. Let's keep in mind that the need to show love can be just as selfish as anything else.
I agree, he should show his love more though.
Not necessarily love you more

Posted by SimsimiSo he should act? Showing without feeling? What's your experience with men in love of any?
I agree, he should show his love more though.
Not necessarily love you more
Posted by LadyNeptunePosted by GemitatiSuck my dick firstPosted by LadyNeptuneOne more time please ?
I agree in the context of matching his enthusiasm and letting him set the emotional pace.click to expand

Posted by Simsimi40% —Posted by GemitatiDepends on the partners love language tbh, learn what the partner wants and then do it. The difference is when they really do love you more they'd learn it and do more often without you having to tell them. Same goes for the lady involved.Posted by SimsimiSo he should act? Showing without feeling? What's your experience with men in love of any?
I agree, he should show his love more though.
Not necessarily love you more
Subconsciously, i always show 40% but i feel it comes off as 100% while doing it. I fall short though like i overdo things and then he's relaxing, i take a few steps back. Its not a lot but an ex of mine once complained about it "..why aren't you heads over heels in love like women are.." Its just that i have found that men relax when you can do most things for them especially in relationships and financially.click to expand

Posted by SimsimiPosted by GemitatiIts not dumb, its called mirroring his actions. No man will ever give you 100 in the beginning. Until you've both settled into the relationship, where you'd be dumb would be to start initiating the dates and expressing your love like the man you want to be, by then you might as well date yourself since you're man enough.Posted by Simsimi40% —Posted by GemitatiDepends on the partners love language tbh, learn what the partner wants and then do it. The difference is when they really do love you more they'd learn it and do more often without you having to tell them. Same goes for the lady involved.Posted by SimsimiSo he should act? Showing without feeling? What's your experience with men in love of any?
I agree, he should show his love more though.
Not necessarily love you more
Subconsciously, i always show 40% but i feel it comes off as 100% while doing it. I fall short though like i overdo things and then he's relaxing, i take a few steps back. Its not a lot but an ex of mine once complained about it "..why aren't you heads over heels in love like women are.." Its just that i have found that men relax when you can do most things for them especially in relationships and financially.
Do you know how stupid it sounds—
40% of love to his 60% —
The dumbest ever thing I've heard even for DXP!!!!!!!!!!
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Posted by SimsimiThat's kind of shallow imo. But sure, shallow ppl will think it means more than it does. Judge ppl by their actions, not their words or gestures.Posted by enfant_terribleI highly doubt you'd bother with gestures or effort with someone you don't even care about lol, for some people the gestures are a deep sign of love and care.Posted by SimsimiThis is me. I am extremely expressive in terms of gestures and I can understand someone may think overtime I either love them more, or that I'm a fraud. Gestures don't measure love or feelings though, they only measure the amount of time and energy you spend on a person for whatever reason. Let's keep in mind that the need to show love can be just as selfish as anything else.
I agree, he should show his love more though.
Not necessarily love you more
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Posted by Wineaux15I find her Hillarious at times as well.Posted by LadyNeptunePosted by GemitatiSuck my dick firstPosted by LadyNeptuneOne more time please ?
I agree in the context of matching his enthusiasm and letting him set the emotional pace.
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Posted by SimsimiNo .Posted by enfant_terribleGestures aren't a form of actions? Wow the entire time i thought i was educated.Posted by SimsimiThat's kind of shallow imo. But sure, shallow ppl will think it means more than it does. Judge ppl by their actions, not their words or gestures.Posted by enfant_terribleI highly doubt you'd bother with gestures or effort with someone you don't even care about lol, for some people the gestures are a deep sign of love and care.Posted by SimsimiThis is me. I am extremely expressive in terms of gestures and I can understand someone may think overtime I either love them more, or that I'm a fraud. Gestures don't measure love or feelings though, they only measure the amount of time and energy you spend on a person for whatever reason. Let's keep in mind that the need to show love can be just as selfish as anything else.
I agree, he should show his love more though.
Not necessarily love you more
I'm just saying it can be an ego thing. Like if I get a high - or a sense of accomplishment - by making her feel special through empty, romantic gestures and feed off her reaction. And once that becomes worn out, you stop with the gestures and that's when you have to ask yourself - who was it for, me or her?
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Posted by EllygantYes but if your nature is to be a giver...you'd betray yourself.
Though I'll admit, as someone who has 100% of the time always given more to my partners than I've received and was taken for granted each time, I've wanted to fall back on this advice countless times.

Posted by EllygantStory of my life. My current gf is soooo grateful for.. well, all things Enfant. Yes I am generous, I am considerare and thoughtful and she's on about how none of her other boyfriends were like this. I won't lie if I say I get a high out of it, but at the same time it comes effortlessly to me so a lot of the time I don't really think in those terms. And I do tell her not to measure other ppl's feelings (incl. my own) by gestures but by intent and actions.Posted by enfant_terribleCancer moon giving. Our normal is what most people reserve for their most special.Posted by SimsimiThat's kind of shallow imo. But sure, shallow ppl will think it means more than it does. Judge ppl by their actions, not their words or gestures.Posted by enfant_terribleI highly doubt you'd bother with gestures or effort with someone you don't even care about lol, for some people the gestures are a deep sign of love and care.Posted by SimsimiThis is me. I am extremely expressive in terms of gestures and I can understand someone may think overtime I either love them more, or that I'm a fraud. Gestures don't measure love or feelings though, they only measure the amount of time and energy you spend on a person for whatever reason. Let's keep in mind that the need to show love can be just as selfish as anything else.
I agree, he should show his love more though.
Not necessarily love you more
I'm just saying it can be an ego thing. Like if I get a high - or a sense of accomplishment - by making her feel special through empty, romantic gestures and feed off her reaction. And once that becomes worn out, you stop with the gestures and that's when you have to ask yourself - who was it for, me or her?
'Why are you so nice to me?!'
I sit back thinking *what kind of unkind rude people have you been around?*
We can definitely get stuck on the loop of giving just because it's easy and satisfying though. I always feel a difference in when I give out of my nature and when I give out of a real love. Most of the time the other person can never tell the difference though.
Probably why a lot of people thought I was in love with them then were weirded out when I moved on without informing them. Lol.click to expand

Posted by Simsimi
Oh goshhhh! this just fucks up all the rules lmao i thought if he does things for you he loves you buhahahahahah

Posted by tizianiPosted by enfant_terrible
Story of my life. My current gf is soooo grateful for.. well, all things Enfant.
That's an awesome feeling.
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Posted by EllygantinsightfulPosted by enfant_terribleCancer moon giving. Our normal is what most people reserve for their most special.Posted by SimsimiThat's kind of shallow imo. But sure, shallow ppl will think it means more than it does. Judge ppl by their actions, not their words or gestures.Posted by enfant_terribleI highly doubt you'd bother with gestures or effort with someone you don't even care about lol, for some people the gestures are a deep sign of love and care.Posted by SimsimiThis is me. I am extremely expressive in terms of gestures and I can understand someone may think overtime I either love them more, or that I'm a fraud. Gestures don't measure love or feelings though, they only measure the amount of time and energy you spend on a person for whatever reason. Let's keep in mind that the need to show love can be just as selfish as anything else.
I agree, he should show his love more though.
Not necessarily love you more
I'm just saying it can be an ego thing. Like if I get a high - or a sense of accomplishment - by making her feel special through empty, romantic gestures and feed off her reaction. And once that becomes worn out, you stop with the gestures and that's when you have to ask yourself - who was it for, me or her?
'Why are you so nice to me?!'
I sit back thinking *what kind of unkind rude people have you been around?*
We can definitely get stuck on the loop of giving just because it's easy and satisfying though. I always feel a difference in when I give out of my nature and when I give out of a real love. Most of the time the other person can never tell the difference though.
Probably why a lot of people thought I was in love with them then were weirded out when I moved on without informing them. Lol.click to expand

Posted by starwars
I don't believe in following certian rules when it comes to loving someone.
you know how some people say to not make the first move?
not show the guy that you like him?
not talk about your relationship to your friends?
I dont fuk with that, you should feel happy and free to say and do whatever you want whenever you feel like doing it. if you dont have that type of security and freedom then the relationship is shit because that means its based on ego and mind games.
people should focus more on the positive feelings and fulfillment they feel from being in a relationship rather than focusing on how to keep their partner, because its a waste of time and it'd ruin the relationship in the long run.
if your partner ended up seeing someone else, then you aren't meant to be and life goes on.

Posted by TaurusinTexasthose women dont love those men that's why.
This little gem has been shared recently by two different women, both older, one in her 60's and the other in her 50's. Neither of them know each other, this was two separate occassions and this wasn't said to me but to other ladies in relationships, I just happen to be there.
So, Im wondering, what are your thoughts?
Also, if it matters, one is a Virgo with a Scorpio moon and the other is an Aquarius, not sure her moon.

Posted by AliensusedourbogrollThis is a great question. If I can get one of them to say it again. I'll throw that out there!
What about same sex relationships? How does that work?

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So, Im wondering, what are your thoughts?
Also, if it matters, one is a Virgo with a Scorpio moon and the other is an Aquarius, not sure her moon.