
I am confused. Please help 😕


Posted by CaramelizedCoffeeHow was/is it like for you?
its just obsession, believe me i know

Posted by ImpulsvHow so?? Please elaborate.
Doesn't change a thing

Posted by xXxQueenliciaXxXUh oh. I am a scorpio =.=
If you're a Scorpio, it's obsession.

Posted by Infinite8I think I am more obssessed in this case, even though I do care about the needs of the other person.
When it's an obsession, I have a fixed goal and can't get it out of my mind/being.
When I have true feelings, I care for the wellbeing & needs of the other person as much as I care for mine. It's not as selfish. It feels healthier too.

Posted by Infinite8What did you end up doing to rise above the situation? 😕
I've only need fully obsessed once in my life (as a young teenager), with my first boyfriend (Pisces) and I got obsessed as soon as I realized our relationship was under threat.
The experience was so awful that the experience itself made me turned off to ever want to behave that way again.

Posted by VageenkaI do like the person, and you are right about me not being in love with the person yet.
Well I think if you're obsessed then clearly you have feelings for them. You're probably not in love but you definitely like the person


Posted by whatisthisallabout
but it is not right/unhealthy if I am not in love with the person but just want to own this person, right?

Posted by xXxQueenliciaXxXI am Gemini and it is true feeling obsession with Scorpio! Ha?
If you're a Scorpio, it's obsession.

Posted by CaramelizedCoffeeDamn, how do you cope though? lolPosted by whatisthisallaboutexactly like thatPosted by CaramelizedCoffeeHow was/is it like for you?
its just obsession, believe me i know
I am so confused. I want this guy to be mine, but I am not sure if I just like the idea of making him mine....click to expand

Posted by VageenkaHahaha, have you done that before? Do you remain obssessed with the person once you've got him?Posted by whatisthisallaboutPosted by VageenkaI do like the person, and you are right about me not being in love with the person yet.
Well I think if you're obsessed then clearly you have feelings for them. You're probably not in love but you definitely like the person
I feel this is so unhealthy though because I really want to make this person mine 😆
Get em ??
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Posted by VageenkaHahahah Have you done that? Do you still feel obssessed with the perosn once he's yours?Posted by whatisthisallaboutPosted by VageenkaI do like the person, and you are right about me not being in love with the person yet.
Well I think if you're obsessed then clearly you have feelings for them. You're probably not in love but you definitely like the person
I feel this is so unhealthy though because I really want to make this person mine 😆
Get em ??
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Posted by Infinite8This is very true. I know the person wants to take things slow but I just feel very obssessed with the idea of making him mine...Posted by whatisthisallaboutIf you are obsessed, you truly care more about your needs much much more than those of the other. Obsession is being out of control, the energy controls YOU. You are not in control of it. Like an addict. Therefore, others become secondary.Posted by Infinite8I think I am more obssessed in this case, even though I do care about the needs of the other person.
When it's an obsession, I have a fixed goal and can't get it out of my mind/being.
When I have true feelings, I care for the wellbeing & needs of the other person as much as I care for mine. It's not as selfish. It feels healthier too.
Do you have any tips for reducing obsession?
What helped me was to clearly go through an obsession and remember the results. I didn't like what resulted of my obsession... and I wanted different outcome out of what my behavior created. Therefore, I changed my behavior... and the best way to do that is to put yourself in the other persons place.
I didn't treat him the way I wished to be treated. I like to be treated with respect, I like to be heard, I like feeling like the person TRUSTS me, I don't like to be questioned as if I were in an interrogation room.
I became the person that I would like for myself. And as soon as I did that, my magnet became a million times more powerful.
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Posted by P-Angelhaha ok. I can see that.Posted by whatisthisallabout
but it is not right/unhealthy if I am not in love with the person but just want to own this person, right?
As soon as you said the above, it became obvious that you're just looking for attention.
A rational, mature and respectful woman wouldn't dance around and play with the possibility that she's wrong but looking to be validated for it anyway.
Playing ignorant isn't cute.
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Posted by whatisthisallaboutAre you trolling?Posted by Infinite8What did you end up doing to rise above the situation? 😕
I've only need fully obsessed once in my life (as a young teenager), with my first boyfriend (Pisces) and I got obsessed as soon as I realized our relationship was under threat.
The experience was so awful that the experience itself made me turned off to ever want to behave that way again.
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Posted by d0s3rwe don't have venus conjuct neptune, but we have neptune conjunct mars and neptune conjuct neptune
venus conjunct neptune synastry too


Posted by VageenkaIsn't it depends on smell or size or something else I forgot you mentioned?
Well I think if you're obsessed then clearly you have feelings for them. You're probably not in love but you definitely like the person

Posted by whatisthisallaboutThat's super!Posted by d0s3rwe don't have venus conjuct neptune, but we have neptune conjunct mars and neptune conjuct neptune
venus conjunct neptune synastry too
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Posted by d0s3rI am LOL I just feel so crazy about him (=can't stop thinking about him and wanting him to be mine) but I know I don't know him enough to be in love with him... and I feel our interactions can be cute and friendly, but they remain at the superficial level. I dont really know him. =.=Posted by whatisthisallabouti hope this isn't about the pisces/cap venus?
but it is not right/unhealthy if I am not in love with the person but just want to own this person, right?
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Posted by SeraphlightHow do you cope with that? I feel I am nuts!!
I am always obsessed with people I have feelings for :-/ Oooops!

Posted by VageenkaWOW. You were obssessed for another 4 years afterwards!!??Posted by whatisthisallaboutPosted by VageenkaHahaha, have you done that before? Do you remain obssessed with the person once you've got him?Posted by whatisthisallaboutPosted by VageenkaI do like the person, and you are right about me not being in love with the person yet.
Well I think if you're obsessed then clearly you have feelings for them. You're probably not in love but you definitely like the person
I feel this is so unhealthy though because I really want to make this person mine 😆
Get em ??
Yes I have. And I was obsessed for 4 years after we broke up ?
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Posted by SeraphlightThat's very cute and not intimidating. I think you are way healthier than I am lolPosted by whatisthisallaboutWhen I am obsessed I can't stop thinking about them. I don't want to possess them or anything. I am just excited to see them etc.Posted by VageenkaHahaha, have you done that before? Do you remain obssessed with the person once you've got him?Posted by whatisthisallaboutPosted by VageenkaI do like the person, and you are right about me not being in love with the person yet.
Well I think if you're obsessed then clearly you have feelings for them. You're probably not in love but you definitely like the person
I feel this is so unhealthy though because I really want to make this person mine 😆
Get em ??
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Posted by SeraphlightYes, it is becoming like an addiction! I do see that this obsession is taking up most of my mental space 😭
I think when it outweighs your treatment of other people. Like an addiction...it makes you think of other people and their needs less even your own needs less to facilitate this other persons place in your life or mind.

Posted by GemitatiI wish lolPosted by whatisthisallaboutAre you trolling?Posted by Infinite8What did you end up doing to rise above the situation? 😕
I've only need fully obsessed once in my life (as a young teenager), with my first boyfriend (Pisces) and I got obsessed as soon as I realized our relationship was under threat.
The experience was so awful that the experience itself made me turned off to ever want to behave that way again.
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Posted by TeenaThat's true. That's why I am worried that I just want the person but not really.
I think the very fact that you're questioning it kinda tells you may not.

Posted by d0s3rI told him I wanted to get to know him better and I want to be someone he'd want to talk to at the end of the day... but he didn't really say yes or no.... well, he did say no to the idea of me staying with him in summer so I decided to let him be...Posted by whatisthisallaboutyou didn't answer the other questionPosted by d0s3rwe don't have venus conjuct neptune, but we have neptune conjunct mars and neptune conjuct neptune
venus conjunct neptune synastry too
all that talk of cap venus needing to know your intentions
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Posted by d0s3rI just don't like things to be in between. It drives me nuts.Posted by whatisthisallaboutGOD dxp is a waste of my damn timePosted by d0s3rI am LOL I just feel so crazy about him (=can't stop thinking about him and wanting him to be mine) but I know I don't know him enough to be in love with him... and I feel our interactions can be cute and friendly, but they remain at the superficial level. I dont really know him. =.=Posted by whatisthisallabouti hope this isn't about the pisces/cap venus?
but it is not right/unhealthy if I am not in love with the person but just want to own this person, right?
you don't deserve the man's love
fuck scorpios
go get a pet if you wanna own
love isn't a test of power
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Posted by whatisthisallaboutSo if you aren't - pm me! I am old wise witch! I know all about obsession and Scorpios!!!Posted by GemitatiI wish lolPosted by whatisthisallaboutAre you trolling?Posted by Infinite8What did you end up doing to rise above the situation? 😕
I've only need fully obsessed once in my life (as a young teenager), with my first boyfriend (Pisces) and I got obsessed as soon as I realized our relationship was under threat.
The experience was so awful that the experience itself made me turned off to ever want to behave that way again.
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Posted by CaramelizedCoffeeThanks, I guess I at least have this realization.Posted by whatisthisallaboutBy knowing I'm playing myselfPosted by CaramelizedCoffeeDamn, how do you cope though? lolPosted by whatisthisallaboutexactly like thatPosted by CaramelizedCoffeeHow was/is it like for you?
its just obsession, believe me i know
I am so confused. I want this guy to be mine, but I am not sure if I just like the idea of making him mine....click to expand

Posted by SeraphlightThat's why I didn't tell him that and I know it's probably bad idea.
If you like the idea of making someone yours over true love ....that's not love . And it's going to hurt you and the other person.

Posted by VageenkaIt's good that at least you got something out of it 🙂Posted by whatisthisallaboutPosted by VageenkaWOW. You were obssessed for another 4 years afterwards!!??Posted by whatisthisallaboutPosted by VageenkaHahaha, have you done that before? Do you remain obssessed with the person once you've got him?Posted by whatisthisallaboutPosted by VageenkaI do like the person, and you are right about me not being in love with the person yet.
Well I think if you're obsessed then clearly you have feelings for them. You're probably not in love but you definitely like the person
I feel this is so unhealthy though because I really want to make this person mine 😆
Get em ??
Yes I have. And I was obsessed for 4 years after we broke up ?
Was it worth it though?
Now I am scared what'd happen even if I successfully made him mine but then it didn't work out after a while.... It'd suck really bad if I remain obssessed for years afterwards!!!!
Well to be fair I am a very obsessive/addictive person. I obsessed about things as a child for years, obsessed about other stuff later on in life, I am very obsessive lol.
And no, he was not worth it. But the lesson totally was x
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Posted by TierRomis it obsession?
When you're dating them....and just happen to be fapping on your own and you predominantly think of only them.
Loyal faps

Posted by GemitatiYou've got a cure for that? 😕Posted by whatisthisallaboutSo if you aren't - pm me! I am old wise witch! I know all about obsession and Scorpios!!!Posted by GemitatiI wish lolPosted by whatisthisallaboutAre you trolling?Posted by Infinite8What did you end up doing to rise above the situation? 😕
I've only need fully obsessed once in my life (as a young teenager), with my first boyfriend (Pisces) and I got obsessed as soon as I realized our relationship was under threat.
The experience was so awful that the experience itself made me turned off to ever want to behave that way again.
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Posted by VageenkaIs D member of our disfuncrional society?Posted by GemitatiPosted by VageenkaIsn't it depends on smell or size or something else I forgot you mentioned?
Well I think if you're obsessed then clearly you have feelings for them. You're probably not in love but you definitely like the person
The D wasn't even good... ? And his libido was waaaay lower than mine
But it was hairy so yeah ?
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Posted by whatisthisallaboutThere is a cure!Posted by GemitatiYou've got a cure for that? 😕Posted by whatisthisallaboutSo if you aren't - pm me! I am old wise witch! I know all about obsession and Scorpios!!!Posted by GemitatiI wish lolPosted by whatisthisallaboutAre you trolling?Posted by Infinite8What did you end up doing to rise above the situation? 😕
I've only need fully obsessed once in my life (as a young teenager), with my first boyfriend (Pisces) and I got obsessed as soon as I realized our relationship was under threat.
The experience was so awful that the experience itself made me turned off to ever want to behave that way again.
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Posted by GemitatiI don't drink though =.=Posted by whatisthisallaboutThere is a cure!Posted by GemitatiYou've got a cure for that? 😕Posted by whatisthisallaboutSo if you aren't - pm me! I am old wise witch! I know all about obsession and Scorpios!!!Posted by GemitatiI wish lolPosted by whatisthisallaboutAre you trolling?Posted by Infinite8What did you end up doing to rise above the situation? 😕
I've only need fully obsessed once in my life (as a young teenager), with my first boyfriend (Pisces) and I got obsessed as soon as I realized our relationship was under threat.
The experience was so awful that the experience itself made me turned off to ever want to behave that way again.
Vodka straight up shot after shot!
Hangover...
2 days no worry about obsession.
Do you have a job?
If your job on the way- quit it!
Alcoholism is curing all obsessions...well...except for alcohol
But it's cheaper than drugs!
Agree?
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Posted by whatisthisallaboutYou don't have to 'think' ...Posted by GemitatiI don't drink though =.=Posted by whatisthisallaboutThere is a cure!Posted by GemitatiYou've got a cure for that? 😕Posted by whatisthisallaboutSo if you aren't - pm me! I am old wise witch! I know all about obsession and Scorpios!!!Posted by GemitatiI wish lolPosted by whatisthisallaboutAre you trolling?Posted by Infinite8What did you end up doing to rise above the situation? 😕
I've only need fully obsessed once in my life (as a young teenager), with my first boyfriend (Pisces) and I got obsessed as soon as I realized our relationship was under threat.
The experience was so awful that the experience itself made me turned off to ever want to behave that way again.
Vodka straight up shot after shot!
Hangover...
2 days no worry about obsession.
Do you have a job?
If your job on the way- quit it!
Alcoholism is curing all obsessions...well...except for alcohol
But it's cheaper than drugs!
Agree?
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Posted by VageenkaLet's him...what?Posted by GemitatiPosted by VageenkaIs D member of our disfuncrional society?Posted by GemitatiPosted by VageenkaIsn't it depends on smell or size or something else I forgot you mentioned?
Well I think if you're obsessed then clearly you have feelings for them. You're probably not in love but you definitely like the person
The D wasn't even good... ? And his libido was waaaay lower than mine
But it was hairy so yeah ?
Yes he's my drug addicted distant cousin x
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Posted by venusSag30What you described is totally my life.
Hell I'm a capricorn and I struggle with the exact same issues at times, although the ones I fall for I am usually obsessed with as well I just try to control it/ If I dont be the obssessed one I usually attract guys who exhibit those qualities theirselves . I love hard and I have pluto in scorpio pacement in my natal chart, so I know along with my mars being in aries I am a total mess cause my moon in virgo causes me to over analyzeanything and everything.
Posted by whatisthisallaboutI say this all the time must be my Pluto in the 8th house for Scorpio... Mars 9th of Scorpio... Saturn too...Posted by CaramelizedCoffeeHow was/is it like for you?
its just obsession, believe me i know
I am so confused. I want this guy to be mine, but I am not sure if I just like the idea of making him mine....click to expand
Posted by whatisthisallaboutThis would be a red flag to me... may mean the biological clock is ticking or maybe just because you are ready for something does not mean they are... the idea of a relationship may tempt someone to also play you. Exposed your cards to fast... there is no reason you should not be able to get to know each other better.Posted by d0s3rI just don't like things to be in between. It drives me nuts.Posted by whatisthisallaboutGOD dxp is a waste of my damn timePosted by d0s3rI am LOL I just feel so crazy about him (=can't stop thinking about him and wanting him to be mine) but I know I don't know him enough to be in love with him... and I feel our interactions can be cute and friendly, but they remain at the superficial level. I dont really know him. =.=Posted by whatisthisallabouti hope this isn't about the pisces/cap venus?
but it is not right/unhealthy if I am not in love with the person but just want to own this person, right?
you don't deserve the man's love
fuck scorpios
go get a pet if you wanna own
love isn't a test of power
there's bdsm for that
I told him I want to get to know him better but I don't get a clear answer.click to expand

Posted by piscesmoon2I met him last March actually so it's been about a year now.Posted by whatisthisallaboutThis would be a red flag to me... may mean the biological clock is ticking or maybe just because you are ready for something does not mean they are... the idea of a relationship may tempt someone to also play you. Exposed your cards to fast... there is no reason you should not be able to get to know each other better.Posted by d0s3rI just don't like things to be in between. It drives me nuts.Posted by whatisthisallaboutGOD dxp is a waste of my damn timePosted by d0s3rI am LOL I just feel so crazy about him (=can't stop thinking about him and wanting him to be mine) but I know I don't know him enough to be in love with him... and I feel our interactions can be cute and friendly, but they remain at the superficial level. I dont really know him. =.=Posted by whatisthisallabouti hope this isn't about the pisces/cap venus?
but it is not right/unhealthy if I am not in love with the person but just want to own this person, right?
you don't deserve the man's love
fuck scorpios
go get a pet if you wanna own
love isn't a test of power
there's bdsm for that
I told him I want to get to know him better but I don't get a clear answer.
Piscesmoon
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Posted by piscesmoon2I think maybe the idealistic image thing is true.Posted by whatisthisallaboutI say this all the time must be my Pluto in the 8th house for Scorpio... Mars 9th of Scorpio... Saturn too...Posted by CaramelizedCoffeeHow was/is it like for you?
its just obsession, believe me i know
I am so confused. I want this guy to be mine, but I am not sure if I just like the idea of making him mine....
I think these days everyone only falls for an idealistic image of a person they really don't know... if he was smarter maybe he is and you don't know it... what if he did not just fall over. These days everyone wants the status or so on... then normally the manipulation starts for each to in poses there ideas or dislikes about the other person to get them to change. If people would actually have conversations with out judgment or expectation a lot of broke hearts would be saved. It is often the fear of rejection that controls people. Fear and so on...
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Posted by whatisthisallaboutYou don't have a right to own anybody.
but it is not right/unhealthy if I am not in love with the person but just want to own this person, right?

Posted by whatisthisallaboutPretty sure if there are several posts made and by alts about a person it is a sign of true feelings.
I am confused. Please help 😕

Posted by Ellygant
Brrrrrr. That seems very cold to read. Do you realize that? Is it hard to see because of how obsessed you feel?
That's how I break my obsession. Find ways in which the person isn't an object of worship but just like everyone else. It sounds weird, but you need to humanize them, go looking for their bad qualities. One of the few times Scorpio overanalysis comes in handy. Once they become just as normal as everyone else they won't occupy so much of your mind.
Obsession is often when you love the idea or the way they make you feel more than the person.

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