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How much texting is normal in a healthy and loving relationship?
What's important here is the time you're spending together. Too many people focus on building relationships over the phone. Later on, if someone gets a promotion or becomes suddenly swamped with work, now you start displaying needy behavior and acting as if sending several messages a day is a loss of attraction.
Things always settle in a relationship and you're not going to constantly be in the Honey-Moon phase. Work on building some confidence.
If he is avoiding spending time with you then that is a loss of attraction, and you need to pullback.
In a romantic relationship, you all should be speaking at least once a day. But there will be days where you're just tied up and you can't exchange 40 messages.
Things always settle in a relationship and you're not going to constantly be in the Honey-Moon phase. Work on building some confidence.
If he is avoiding spending time with you then that is a loss of attraction, and you need to pullback.
In a romantic relationship, you all should be speaking at least once a day. But there will be days where you're just tied up and you can't exchange 40 messages.
There is nothing normal about texting! For me, it's mainly "I'm on my way" or a funny response to some banter. I write long emails though, but exclusively during the "get to know you" stage, because I like to keep a memento of how our relationship started, in case it lasts forever. For any other situation, there is video calling!
If your Scorpio is anything like me, aka an introvert, please don't be insecure. He probably went way out of his comfort zone to get to know you, has neglected his friends, family, himself and possibly his work during this process, and now just wants a bit a normality.
If for you normal means expressing 9000 thoughts a day to someone, I hope you have a large audience of friends and family, because it would be too much for one single person. He might be having 9000 thoughts a day too, but uses an internal dialog to sort them out, and may only be left with a couple of them that he finds worthy of sharing with you!
If your Scorpio is anything like me, aka an introvert, please don't be insecure. He probably went way out of his comfort zone to get to know you, has neglected his friends, family, himself and possibly his work during this process, and now just wants a bit a normality.
If for you normal means expressing 9000 thoughts a day to someone, I hope you have a large audience of friends and family, because it would be too much for one single person. He might be having 9000 thoughts a day too, but uses an internal dialog to sort them out, and may only be left with a couple of them that he finds worthy of sharing with you!
hmm ideally, i believe in the 24-72 hour interval but according to my now bf (scorpio moon), he used to think i was pretty cold for that.
but then we pretty much immediately moved in together and i mostly really get texts from him when i finally arrived wherever i'm going and when i'm on my way home. i actually prefer all these coz i feel like it's better if we're actually more physically around each other than constantly far away and just endlessly texting. and i find videochats awkward and clingy most times.
but whatever works for you.
but then we pretty much immediately moved in together and i mostly really get texts from him when i finally arrived wherever i'm going and when i'm on my way home. i actually prefer all these coz i feel like it's better if we're actually more physically around each other than constantly far away and just endlessly texting. and i find videochats awkward and clingy most times.
but whatever works for you.
Posted by allrounder
I'm in a romantic relationship with a Scorpio guy. And he used to text lots of huge chunks with me in the few early months of us getting to know each other. Maybe because he was trying to impress and chase me more so did what he could to keep me.
We've known each other since last April, but have been in a romantic relationship since September.
We still text everyday. But the texting amount has now minimised quite a lot. And being a Gemini rising and having ADHD, I am an incredibly chatty person who always has 9000 thoughts in her mind that I love to share with him and others. But my Scorpio nowadays has become more busy with both his studies and passion projects. And I believe him when he says he just doesn't have much energy and concentration for texting people lots. And don't get me wrong, I do let him have space and time for his alone time with his passions and so on.
But I just hope he hasn't lost attraction for me or anything. I guess the reduction in these last 2 months have made me feel a bit insecure about his feelings for me or if I've done anything that might have upset him. He says I haven't made his life harder or anything but I don't know. I hope he's not just saying that to appease me. I want to tackle issues head on.
I did read online that positively, it could be that my Scorp guy is just confident, comfortable and secure in the relationship now that he wants to get more chilled out and "lazy" with it and doesn't feel the need to chase or put on a show anymore. Which is a good thing. But I guess it's a bit of a shame because I really love talking to him as well.
Anyway, I was wondering what you guys would say are healthy and "normal" texting amounts in a romantic relationship, in your opinions?
The question would be how often do you see him?
Because I understand wanting to talk to and share with a partner. I'm guilty with being impatient of it too. Especially when the relationship is up in the air and the desire to get to know them is so strong.
After the relationship has settled beyond a certain point most do like things thought the day. Save the rest, and continue the conversation when you see them.
I actually enjoy chatty woman. It can be distracting when your busy and feel a bit guilty when I can't fully engage. I believe this sentiment is common. Ironically I get Ideas and thoughts a mile a minute some times too. I'm a bit of both so I get both sides.
You have a established relationship. Therefore you should gauge your relationship when you are actually together.
So how often do you see him? Is it enough for you? Can you hold off without exploding š¤£?
Posted by LuckyLibra7
What's important here is the time you're spending together. Too many people focus on building relationships over the phone. Later on, if someone gets a promotion or becomes suddenly swamped with work, now you start displaying needy behavior and acting as if sending several messages a day is a loss of attraction.
Things always settle in a relationship and you're not going to constantly be in the Honey-Moon phase. Work on building some confidence.
If he is avoiding spending time with you then that is a loss of attraction, and you need to pullback.
In a romantic relationship, you all should be speaking at least once a day. But there will be days where you're just tied up and you can't exchange 40 messages.
I suppose I never knew what coming out of the honeymoon phase would feel like and look like as he is my first ever serious relationship. So now I know lol
It's just I feel like even in person, something is different. He's still affectionate at times, fun and funny but he's become a bit lazier and chilled out. I feel like maybe he feels like we're hanging out too much at the moment and that's why he's pulled back. That I'm smothering him but he doesn't want to hurt my feelings by saying it. I've started to be the one initiating to hang out at places more or saying we should go somewhere together but he does agree and come every time I've said for us to hang out somewhere. I'm also the one who asks to sleepover at his and I realised he never asks me to sleepover at his (I don't let him sleepover at mine because I live with my mother still) and I've been the one sleeping over every week for 1-2 nights for the past 4 months. So I'm gonna calm down on the sleepovers so it doesn't feel too routine and boring anymore. But I initiate kissing him more and we don't tongue kiss passionately as much now but every time I try to tongue kiss him last week, he's been making it a peck, yet we still cuddle lovingly in bed for ages together.
I'm so confused. We still love making each other laugh though. Regardless, is this what settling down is supposed to feel like? I believe he's not a cheater and is loyal because he always preaches me being loyal.
Okay, so you're saying the healthy standard of texting is at least one quality message back and forth once a day? š
Posted by LostthoughtsPosted by allrounder
I'm in a romantic relationship with a Scorpio guy. And he used to text lots of huge chunks with me in the few early months of us getting to know each other. Maybe because he was trying to impress and chase me more so did what he could to keep me.
We've known each other since last April, but have been in a romantic relationship since September.
We still text everyday. But the texting amount has now minimised quite a lot. And being a Gemini rising and having ADHD, I am an incredibly chatty person who always has 9000 thoughts in her mind that I love to share with him and others. But my Scorpio nowadays has become more busy with both his studies and passion projects. And I believe him when he says he just doesn't have much energy and concentration for texting people lots. And don't get me wrong, I do let him have space and time for his alone time with his passions and so on.
But I just hope he hasn't lost attraction for me or anything. I guess the reduction in these last 2 months have made me feel a bit insecure about his feelings for me or if I've done anything that might have upset him. He says I haven't made his life harder or anything but I don't know. I hope he's not just saying that to appease me. I want to tackle issues head on.
I did read online that positively, it could be that my Scorp guy is just confident, comfortable and secure in the relationship now that he wants to get more chilled out and "lazy" with it and doesn't feel the need to chase or put on a show anymore. Which is a good thing. But I guess it's a bit of a shame because I really love talking to him as well.
Anyway, I was wondering what you guys would say are healthy and "normal" texting amounts in a romantic relationship, in your opinions?
The question would be how often do you see him?
Because I understand wanting to talk to and share with a partner. I'm guilty with being impatient of it too. Especially when the relationship is up in the air and the desire to get to know them is so strong.
After the relationship has settled beyond a certain point most do like things thought the day. Save the rest, and continue the conversation when you see them.
I actually enjoy chatty woman. It can be distracting when your busy and feel a bit guilty when I can't fully engage. I believe this sentiment is common. Ironically I get Ideas and thoughts a mile a minute some times too. I'm a bit of both so I get both sides.
You have a established relationship. Therefore you should gauge your relationship when you are actually together.
So how often do you see him? Is it enough for you? Can you hold off without exploding š¤£?
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Well read what I've said to LuckyLibra7 just above and see what you think of it. We see each other every week because I organise to sleepover at his and I've come over to his sometimes for the evening after I finish work because my current workplace is close by. However, I'm planning to leave that job soon so I'll be further away again, maybe that'll help him feel less smothered by me and force him to make more effort in initiating hanging out with me š
I don't know if he's just been really tired because of his stress from University work and money though. Is settling down in a relationship meant to feel this chilled out?
I do my best to show him how loyal I am. However, it's a struggle because I do have more guy friends than girl friends. But my friendliness is to everyone, and really should not be misread as flirting which is what I hope he's not misreading it as.
I'm glad you like chatty women, that makes me feel good about someone like myself āŗļøand actually my Scorp has said something similar where he finds it hard to concentrate talking about multiple topics at once like I do on text. He's single minded when it comes to how many topics we talk about at a time. Because of my ADHD, I switch from one topic to the next and get distracted talking in the middle of one sometimes and switch and then switch back eventually after stopping rambling š
He says he doesn't mind how much I talk but that it's hard to keep up and stay focused whilst listening to me talk. He says he's much more of a listener who thinks a lot in his head but doesn't say too much. But you should hear how much and ecstatically he talks when it comes to talking about his passions š anyway, I'm a huge talker and a million things go through my mind at a time but I'm the one practicing active listening more.
Anyway, what do you think?
Posted by Saturn_Returns
The OP, and others like her, need to realise that texting/calling too often can gradually become a chore.
Your partner doesn't exist to solely validate your existence nor provide constant attention 24/7.
It's more important the quality of the relationship in person than when the both of you are apart.
In between those moments together, just get on with your life and don't expect text marathons. Prompt replies, yes, but not a situation where resentment can mount due to the selfish demands and expectations of one party.
Thank you for the wake up call in your comment. Read what I've said above in my replies. Now what do you think could be happening? I think maybe I do need to step back and give him more chances to make effort and come to me more.
Posted by Undine
There is nothing normal about texting! For me, it's mainly "I'm on my way" or a funny response to some banter. I write long emails though, but exclusively during the "get to know you" stage, because I like to keep a memento of how our relationship started, in case it lasts forever. For any other situation, there is video calling!
If your Scorpio is anything like me, aka an introvert, please don't be insecure. He probably went way out of his comfort zone to get to know you, has neglected his friends, family, himself and possibly his work during this process, and now just wants a bit a normality.
If for you normal means expressing 9000 thoughts a day to someone, I hope you have a large audience of friends and family, because it would be too much for one single person. He might be having 9000 thoughts a day too, but uses an internal dialog to sort them out, and may only be left with a couple of them that he finds worthy of sharing with you!
Thank you for your really valuable comment especially as an introverted Scorpio yourself, because yes, you're right. My guy is more introverted, but is currently building his confidence in himself more and in his passions nowadays. Correct, he doesn't really like talking to lots of people lol but he's been trying to put himself out there more. Just to give you an idea of what he's like.
I wouldn't say I caused him to neglect anybody though. When we were getting to know each other and in the now, I still let him go hang out with his friends, family and other people. But it makes a lot of sense if now that we've known each other for almost a whole year, that he feels secure and comfortable enough to want some normality in this relationship.
Yeah the issue is I'm quite introverted too. And I only choose a few quality friends. So it's not a bad idea at all to share my thoughts with others more, but I'm only pretty close with one other guy friend so I do also share my thoughts with him, but I never share as many with him as I do with my boyfriend. Especially the random weird ones. I feel like the Scorp just gets me and accepts everything I say, ya know?
But yeah, even he's mentioned to me that he finds it hard to concentrate on topics with how much we switch between them in conversation, especially with my ADHD involved š people have called me "too much" in the past. But at least to him, he accepts me for that, but it's still hard for him.
Yeah, your last sentence sounds exactly like my Scorp guy. He is much more of a listener, but has so many thoughts in his head. I'm the opposite, but do have millions of things in my head too. Perhaps he does use internal dialogue to process and let them go. But I think of so many weird and funny things, I guess, I just wanted to share the laughter and weirdness with him. Even if he doesn't reply to it š it's just a shame to keep it to myself is what I think š
The thing is, text wasnt and isn't really meant to replace real life socialization. I know people who get back right away and some people who barely ever get back yet I still talk to them whether physically or through the phone. Maybe phone calls would be better in this case because when you send a text, it goes into this digital that can be ignored, put away, lost into the ethers or abandoned.
*digital abyss
Posted by RollergirlOrc
The thing is, text wasnt and isn't really meant to replace real life socialization. I know people who get back right away and some people who barely ever get back yet I still talk to them whether physically or through the phone. Maybe phone calls would be better in this case because when you send a text, it goes into this digital that can be ignored, put away, lost into the ethers or abandoned.
Tbh, yeah valid point. I'm starting to think words overwhelm him at the moment with his uni work stress, life and all. So I think voice messaging would be a better approach from now on š
So you've been dating for almost a year, got on very well, but something has changed recently, and it makes you feel anxious...? Since it's you who seem to be in charge of the relationship, why not stir it in the direction you want?
Wouldn't you like to move in with him, for example? If yes, bring your stuff and tell him that you had enough of packing overnight and weekend bags, and would like to stay for longer. Much longer, hehe! This is what I did once, and it worked.
Is he stressed and overworked? You are there to help him, right? No need for texting afterwards, you could talk face to face everyday...
Wouldn't you like to move in with him, for example? If yes, bring your stuff and tell him that you had enough of packing overnight and weekend bags, and would like to stay for longer. Much longer, hehe! This is what I did once, and it worked.
Is he stressed and overworked? You are there to help him, right? No need for texting afterwards, you could talk face to face everyday...
Posted by Undine
So you've been dating for almost a year, got on very well, but something has changed recently, and it makes you feel anxious...? Since it's you who seem to be in charge of the relationship, why not stir it in the direction you want?
Wouldn't you like to move in with him, for example? If yes, bring your stuff and tell him that you had enough of packing overnight and weekend bags, and would like to stay for longer. Much longer, hehe! This is what I did once, and it worked.
Is he stressed and overworked? You are there to help him, right? No need for texting afterwards, you could talk face to face everyday...
Yep, you said it, that's pretty much how I feel summarised. Well, it's we've known each other since last April, but dating since September, yeah. We've agreed to only move in together once he's graduated University in 2024. I think it's a pace we're both happy with.
I just don't want to force anything that he's not ready for.
Yes, I do think he could be a bit overwhelmed with his life at the moment. I'm doing my best to be there for him, but yeah, I guess that's why I feel like I'm giving more than he's giving to me at the moment. And it makes sense, simply because if he's overwhelmed and just trying to give to himself first, then it's hard to also focus on me, himself, his studies and finances all at once.
Posted by allrounderPosted by LuckyLibra7
What's important here is the time you're spending together. Too many people focus on building relationships over the phone. Later on, if someone gets a promotion or becomes suddenly swamped with work, now you start displaying needy behavior and acting as if sending several messages a day is a loss of attraction.
Things always settle in a relationship and you're not going to constantly be in the Honey-Moon phase. Work on building some confidence.
If he is avoiding spending time with you then that is a loss of attraction, and you need to pullback.
In a romantic relationship, you all should be speaking at least once a day. But there will be days where you're just tied up and you can't exchange 40 messages.
I suppose I never knew what coming out of the honeymoon phase would feel like and look like as he is my first ever serious relationship. So now I know lol
It's just I feel like even in person, something is different. He's still affectionate at times, fun and funny but he's become a bit lazier and chilled out. I feel like maybe he feels like we're hanging out too much at the moment and that's why he's pulled back. That I'm smothering him but he doesn't want to hurt my feelings by saying it. I've started to be the one initiating to hang out at places more or saying we should go somewhere together but he does agree and come every time I've said for us to hang out somewhere. I'm also the one who asks to sleepover at his and I realised he never asks me to sleepover at his (I don't let him sleepover at mine because I live with my mother still) and I've been the one sleeping over every week for 1-2 nights for the past 4 months. So I'm gonna calm down on the sleepovers so it doesn't feel too routine and boring anymore. But I initiate kissing him more and we don't tongue kiss passionately as much now but every time I try to tongue kiss him last week, he's been making it a peck, yet we still cuddle lovingly in bed for ages together.
I'm so confused. We still love making each other laugh though. Regardless, is this what settling down is supposed to feel like? I believe he's not a cheater and is loyal because he always preaches me being loyal.
Okay, so you're saying the healthy standard of texting is at least one quality message back and forth once a day?click to expand
Once a relationship settles, it's typically 60/40 ish. One person is ALWAYS going to initiate a little more because nothing in life can be 50/50.
Sleeping over 1-2 nights isn't bad. Are you hanging out more on top of that?
It sounds like you're doing a ton of initiating still after 4 months which isn't normal. He's definitely pulling back, but it could be because of complacency. This happens to men often when the relationship settles. They stop the courting process thinking they have the girl.
Just pullback a little and if he's into you, it will rebalance out where he initiates more.
Odd though he doesn't request you stay over.
Posted by LuckyLibra7Posted by allrounderPosted by LuckyLibra7I suppose I never knew what coming out of the honeymoon phase would feel like and look like as he is my first ever serious relationship. So now I know lol
What's important here is the time you're spending together. Too many people focus on building relationships over the phone. Later on, if someone gets a promotion or becomes suddenly swamped with work, now you start displaying needy behavior and acting as if sending several messages a day is a loss of attraction.
Things always settle in a relationship and you're not going to constantly be in the Honey-Moon phase. Work on building some confidence.
If he is avoiding spending time with you then that is a loss of attraction, and you need to pullback.
In a romantic relationship, you all should be speaking at least once a day. But there will be days where you're just tied up and you can't exchange 40 messages.
It's just I feel like even in person, something is different. He's still affectionate at times, fun and funny but he's become a bit lazier and chilled out. I feel like maybe he feels like we're hanging out too much at the moment and that's why he's pulled back. That I'm smothering him but he doesn't want to hurt my feelings by saying it. I've started to be the one initiating to hang out at places more or saying we should go somewhere together but he does agree and come every time I've said for us to hang out somewhere. I'm also the one who asks to sleepover at his and I realised he never asks me to sleepover at his (I don't let him sleepover at mine because I live with my mother still) and I've been the one sleeping over every week for 1-2 nights for the past 4 months. So I'm gonna calm down on the sleepovers so it doesn't feel too routine and boring anymore. But I initiate kissing him more and we don't tongue kiss passionately as much now but every time I try to tongue kiss him last week, he's been making it a peck, yet we still cuddle lovingly in bed for ages together.
I'm so confused. We still love making each other laugh though. Regardless, is this what settling down is supposed to feel like? I believe he's not a cheater and is loyal because he always preaches me being loyal.
Okay, so you're saying the healthy standard of texting is at least one quality message back and forth once a day?
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Once a relationship settles, it's typically 60/40 ish. One person is ALWAYS going to initiate a little more because nothing in life can be 50/50.
Sleeping over 1-2 nights isn't bad. Are you hanging out more on top of that?
It sounds like you're doing a ton of initiating still after 4 months which isn't normal. He's definitely pulling back, but it could be because of complacency. This happens to men often when the relationship settles. They stop the courting process thinking they have the girl.
Just pullback a little and if he's into you, it will rebalance out where he initiates more.
Odd though he doesn't request you stay over.click to expand
Here's his text response to me saying I felt some pullback from his side. Tell me what you think.
"I suppose so, Iāve not noticed or been aware of myself doing anything wrong, but yea I get tired a lot earlier now and my social battery gets drained quickly. And so I guess I unconsciously have pulled back a bit because I have a lot of other stressful stuff to do most of the time. I see baby, itās good that you are trying to be self aware and watching yourself, but remember youāre not upsetting anybody, or doing anything wrong."
Maybe I just need to occupy my time more. And text friends more to get that fill I need of texting my weird and funny thoughts and epiphanies throughout the day to instead, since he's so overwhelmed, tired and busy.
We do hang out more than the sleepover. But it's mainly me just going over to his place after work on 2 other evenings (not very romantically planned) since it happens to be quite close to my workplace. I think because the sleepovers became routine (every Wednesday and or Thursday) so he didn't feel the need to ask.
How do I get him to realise that he may have me, but that I'm not an easy catch he can now get lazy with?
Posted by MonaLisa26Posted by allrounderPosted by LuckyLibra7Here's his text response to me saying I felt some pullback from his side. Tell me what you think.Posted by allrounderPosted by LuckyLibra7
What's important here is the time you're spending together. Too many people focus on building relationships over the phone. Later on, if someone gets a promotion or becomes suddenly swamped with work, now you start displaying needy behavior and acting as if sending several messages a day is a loss of attraction.
Things always settle in a relationship and you're not going to constantly be in the Honey-Moon phase. Work on building some confidence.
If he is avoiding spending time with you then that is a loss of attraction, and you need to pullback.
In a romantic relationship, you all should be speaking at least once a day. But there will be days where you're just tied up and you can't exchange 40 messages.
I suppose I never knew what coming out of the honeymoon phase would feel like and look like as he is my first ever serious relationship. So now I know lol
It's just I feel like even in person, something is different. He's still affectionate at times, fun and funny but he's become a bit lazier and chilled out. I feel like maybe he feels like we're hanging out too much at the moment and that's why he's pulled back. That I'm smothering him but he doesn't want to hurt my feelings by saying it. I've started to be the one initiating to hang out at places more or saying we should go somewhere together but he does agree and come every time I've said for us to hang out somewhere. I'm also the one who asks to sleepover at his and I realised he never asks me to sleepover at his (I don't let him sleepover at mine because I live with my mother still) and I've been the one sleeping over every week for 1-2 nights for the past 4 months. So I'm gonna calm down on the sleepovers so it doesn't feel too routine and boring anymore. But I initiate kissing him more and we don't tongue kiss passionately as much now but every time I try to tongue kiss him last week, he's been making it a peck, yet we still cuddle lovingly in bed for ages together.
I'm so confused. We still love making each other laugh though. Regardless, is this what settling down is supposed to feel like? I believe he's not a cheater and is loyal because he always preaches me being loyal.
Okay, so you're saying the healthy standard of texting is at least one quality message back and forth once a day?
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Once a relationship settles, it's typically 60/40 ish. One person is ALWAYS going to initiate a little more because nothing in life can be 50/50.
Sleeping over 1-2 nights isn't bad. Are you hanging out more on top of that?
It sounds like you're doing a ton of initiating still after 4 months which isn't normal. He's definitely pulling back, but it could be because of complacency. This happens to men often when the relationship settles. They stop the courting process thinking they have the girl.
Just pullback a little and if he's into you, it will rebalance out where he initiates more.
Odd though he doesn't request you stay over.
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"I suppose so, Iāve not noticed or been aware of myself doing anything wrong, but yea I get tired a lot earlier now and my social battery gets drained quickly. And so I guess I unconsciously have pulled back a bit because I have a lot of other stressful stuff to do most of the time. I see baby, itās good that you are trying to be self aware and watching yourself, but remember youāre not upsetting anybody, or doing anything wrong."
Maybe I just need to occupy my time more. And text friends more to get that fill I need of texting my weird and funny thoughts and epiphanies throughout the day to instead, since he's so overwhelmed, tired and busy.
We do hang out more than the sleepover. But it's mainly me just going over to his place after work on 2 other evenings (not very romantically planned) since it happens to be quite close to my workplace. I think because the sleepovers became routine (every Wednesday and or Thursday) so he didn't feel the need to ask.
How do I get him to realise that he may have me, but that I'm not an easy catch he can now get lazy with?
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Get ready to shit might backfire but if it was me (just did recently) - Iāve said āI see that honeymoon is overā and next I knew he got me a stretch limo in NYC and while in it he whispered in my ear that āhoneymoon isnāt over babyā and I was fucking impressed!
Because after reading your depressing youngsters love stories I was likeā¦fuck them!
We rock! ššš
So if I was you I would push it to the limit.
HOWEVER seems like you kids have an issue of finding a partner so maybe I should let you suck it up and let him win. š¤·āāļøclick to expand
Damnnn giirrrll, get it lol whispering in the ear is sexy as hell. Such a turn on lol did he really book you a limo? That's cool.
What do you think about what my man said to me then? Do you think I should say something cheeky like "I see honeymoon phase is over" to knock sense into him? š
Posted by MonaLisa26Posted by allrounderPosted by LuckyLibra7Here's his text response to me saying I felt some pullback from his side. Tell me what you think.Posted by allrounderPosted by LuckyLibra7
What's important here is the time you're spending together. Too many people focus on building relationships over the phone. Later on, if someone gets a promotion or becomes suddenly swamped with work, now you start displaying needy behavior and acting as if sending several messages a day is a loss of attraction.
Things always settle in a relationship and you're not going to constantly be in the Honey-Moon phase. Work on building some confidence.
If he is avoiding spending time with you then that is a loss of attraction, and you need to pullback.
In a romantic relationship, you all should be speaking at least once a day. But there will be days where you're just tied up and you can't exchange 40 messages.
I suppose I never knew what coming out of the honeymoon phase would feel like and look like as he is my first ever serious relationship. So now I know lol
It's just I feel like even in person, something is different. He's still affectionate at times, fun and funny but he's become a bit lazier and chilled out. I feel like maybe he feels like we're hanging out too much at the moment and that's why he's pulled back. That I'm smothering him but he doesn't want to hurt my feelings by saying it. I've started to be the one initiating to hang out at places more or saying we should go somewhere together but he does agree and come every time I've said for us to hang out somewhere. I'm also the one who asks to sleepover at his and I realised he never asks me to sleepover at his (I don't let him sleepover at mine because I live with my mother still) and I've been the one sleeping over every week for 1-2 nights for the past 4 months. So I'm gonna calm down on the sleepovers so it doesn't feel too routine and boring anymore. But I initiate kissing him more and we don't tongue kiss passionately as much now but every time I try to tongue kiss him last week, he's been making it a peck, yet we still cuddle lovingly in bed for ages together.
I'm so confused. We still love making each other laugh though. Regardless, is this what settling down is supposed to feel like? I believe he's not a cheater and is loyal because he always preaches me being loyal.
Okay, so you're saying the healthy standard of texting is at least one quality message back and forth once a day?
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Once a relationship settles, it's typically 60/40 ish. One person is ALWAYS going to initiate a little more because nothing in life can be 50/50.
Sleeping over 1-2 nights isn't bad. Are you hanging out more on top of that?
It sounds like you're doing a ton of initiating still after 4 months which isn't normal. He's definitely pulling back, but it could be because of complacency. This happens to men often when the relationship settles. They stop the courting process thinking they have the girl.
Just pullback a little and if he's into you, it will rebalance out where he initiates more.
Odd though he doesn't request you stay over.
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"I suppose so, Iāve not noticed or been aware of myself doing anything wrong, but yea I get tired a lot earlier now and my social battery gets drained quickly. And so I guess I unconsciously have pulled back a bit because I have a lot of other stressful stuff to do most of the time. I see baby, itās good that you are trying to be self aware and watching yourself, but remember youāre not upsetting anybody, or doing anything wrong."
Maybe I just need to occupy my time more. And text friends more to get that fill I need of texting my weird and funny thoughts and epiphanies throughout the day to instead, since he's so overwhelmed, tired and busy.
We do hang out more than the sleepover. But it's mainly me just going over to his place after work on 2 other evenings (not very romantically planned) since it happens to be quite close to my workplace. I think because the sleepovers became routine (every Wednesday and or Thursday) so he didn't feel the need to ask.
How do I get him to realise that he may have me, but that I'm not an easy catch he can now get lazy with?
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Get ready to shit might backfire but if it was me (just did recently) - Iāve said āI see that honeymoon is overā and next I knew he got me a stretch limo in NYC and while in it he whispered in my ear that āhoneymoon isnāt over babyā and I was fucking impressed!
Because after reading your depressing youngsters love stories I was likeā¦fuck them!
We rock! ššš
So if I was you I would push it to the limit.
HOWEVER seems like you kids have an issue of finding a partner so maybe I should let you suck it up and let him win. š¤·āāļøclick to expand
Damnnn giirrrll, get it lol whispering in the ear is sexy as hell. Such a turn on lol did he really book you a limo? That's cool.
What do you think about what my man said to me then? Do you think I should say something cheeky like "I see honeymoon phase is over" to knock sense into him? š
Posted by allrounderPosted by LuckyLibra7Posted by allrounderOnce a relationship settles, it's typically 60/40 ish. One person is ALWAYS going to initiate a little more because nothing in life can be 50/50.Posted by LuckyLibra7
What's important here is the time you're spending together. Too many people focus on building relationships over the phone. Later on, if someone gets a promotion or becomes suddenly swamped with work, now you start displaying needy behavior and acting as if sending several messages a day is a loss of attraction.
Things always settle in a relationship and you're not going to constantly be in the Honey-Moon phase. Work on building some confidence.
If he is avoiding spending time with you then that is a loss of attraction, and you need to pullback.
In a romantic relationship, you all should be speaking at least once a day. But there will be days where you're just tied up and you can't exchange 40 messages.
I suppose I never knew what coming out of the honeymoon phase would feel like and look like as he is my first ever serious relationship. So now I know lol
It's just I feel like even in person, something is different. He's still affectionate at times, fun and funny but he's become a bit lazier and chilled out. I feel like maybe he feels like we're hanging out too much at the moment and that's why he's pulled back. That I'm smothering him but he doesn't want to hurt my feelings by saying it. I've started to be the one initiating to hang out at places more or saying we should go somewhere together but he does agree and come every time I've said for us to hang out somewhere. I'm also the one who asks to sleepover at his and I realised he never asks me to sleepover at his (I don't let him sleepover at mine because I live with my mother still) and I've been the one sleeping over every week for 1-2 nights for the past 4 months. So I'm gonna calm down on the sleepovers so it doesn't feel too routine and boring anymore. But I initiate kissing him more and we don't tongue kiss passionately as much now but every time I try to tongue kiss him last week, he's been making it a peck, yet we still cuddle lovingly in bed for ages together.
I'm so confused. We still love making each other laugh though. Regardless, is this what settling down is supposed to feel like? I believe he's not a cheater and is loyal because he always preaches me being loyal.
Okay, so you're saying the healthy standard of texting is at least one quality message back and forth once a day?
click to expand
Sleeping over 1-2 nights isn't bad. Are you hanging out more on top of that?
It sounds like you're doing a ton of initiating still after 4 months which isn't normal. He's definitely pulling back, but it could be because of complacency. This happens to men often when the relationship settles. They stop the courting process thinking they have the girl.
Just pullback a little and if he's into you, it will rebalance out where he initiates more.
Odd though he doesn't request you stay over.
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Here's his text response to me saying I felt some pullback from his side. Tell me what you think.
"I suppose so, Iāve not noticed or been aware of myself doing anything wrong, but yea I get tired a lot earlier now and my social battery gets drained quickly. And so I guess I unconsciously have pulled back a bit because I have a lot of other stressful stuff to do most of the time. I see baby, itās good that you are trying to be self aware and watching yourself, but remember youāre not upsetting anybody, or doing anything wrong."
Maybe I just need to occupy my time more. And text friends more to get that fill I need of texting my weird and funny thoughts and epiphanies throughout the day to instead, since he's so overwhelmed, tired and busy.
We do hang out more than the sleepover. But it's mainly me just going over to his place after work on 2 other evenings (not very romantically planned) since it happens to be quite close to my workplace. I think because the sleepovers became routine (every Wednesday and or Thursday) so he didn't feel the need to ask.
How do I get him to realise that he may have me, but that I'm not an easy catch he can now get lazy with?click to expand
Dude he not being lazy
Itās life
Instead consider what heās saying
Got stressful
Shit going on right now
Instead why not think about how to make things easier if heās so stressed rather why more more more
Posted by TruemaraPosted by allrounderPosted by LuckyLibra7Posted by allrounderOnce a relationship settles, it's typically 60/40 ish. One person is ALWAYS going to initiate a little more because nothing in life can be 50/50.Posted by LuckyLibra7
What's important here is the time you're spending together. Too many people focus on building relationships over the phone. Later on, if someone gets a promotion or becomes suddenly swamped with work, now you start displaying needy behavior and acting as if sending several messages a day is a loss of attraction.
Things always settle in a relationship and you're not going to constantly be in the Honey-Moon phase. Work on building some confidence.
If he is avoiding spending time with you then that is a loss of attraction, and you need to pullback.
In a romantic relationship, you all should be speaking at least once a day. But there will be days where you're just tied up and you can't exchange 40 messages.
I suppose I never knew what coming out of the honeymoon phase would feel like and look like as he is my first ever serious relationship. So now I know lol
It's just I feel like even in person, something is different. He's still affectionate at times, fun and funny but he's become a bit lazier and chilled out. I feel like maybe he feels like we're hanging out too much at the moment and that's why he's pulled back. That I'm smothering him but he doesn't want to hurt my feelings by saying it. I've started to be the one initiating to hang out at places more or saying we should go somewhere together but he does agree and come every time I've said for us to hang out somewhere. I'm also the one who asks to sleepover at his and I realised he never asks me to sleepover at his (I don't let him sleepover at mine because I live with my mother still) and I've been the one sleeping over every week for 1-2 nights for the past 4 months. So I'm gonna calm down on the sleepovers so it doesn't feel too routine and boring anymore. But I initiate kissing him more and we don't tongue kiss passionately as much now but every time I try to tongue kiss him last week, he's been making it a peck, yet we still cuddle lovingly in bed for ages together.
I'm so confused. We still love making each other laugh though. Regardless, is this what settling down is supposed to feel like? I believe he's not a cheater and is loyal because he always preaches me being loyal.
Okay, so you're saying the healthy standard of texting is at least one quality message back and forth once a day?
click to expand
Sleeping over 1-2 nights isn't bad. Are you hanging out more on top of that?
It sounds like you're doing a ton of initiating still after 4 months which isn't normal. He's definitely pulling back, but it could be because of complacency. This happens to men often when the relationship settles. They stop the courting process thinking they have the girl.
Just pullback a little and if he's into you, it will rebalance out where he initiates more.
Odd though he doesn't request you stay over.
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Here's his text response to me saying I felt some pullback from his side. Tell me what you think.
"I suppose so, Iāve not noticed or been aware of myself doing anything wrong, but yea I get tired a lot earlier now and my social battery gets drained quickly. And so I guess I unconsciously have pulled back a bit because I have a lot of other stressful stuff to do most of the time. I see baby, itās good that you are trying to be self aware and watching yourself, but remember youāre not upsetting anybody, or doing anything wrong."
Maybe I just need to occupy my time more. And text friends more to get that fill I need of texting my weird and funny thoughts and epiphanies throughout the day to instead, since he's so overwhelmed, tired and busy.
We do hang out more than the sleepover. But it's mainly me just going over to his place after work on 2 other evenings (not very romantically planned) since it happens to be quite close to my workplace. I think because the sleepovers became routine (every Wednesday and or Thursday) so he didn't feel the need to ask.
How do I get him to realise that he may have me, but that I'm not an easy catch he can now get lazy with?
Dude he not being lazy
Itās life
Instead consider what heās saying
Got stressful
Shit going on right now
Instead why not think about how to make things easier if heās so stressed rather why more more moreclick to expand
The text was actually nice n considerate n
Posted by TruemaraPosted by allrounderPosted by LuckyLibra7Here's his text response to me saying I felt some pullback from his side. Tell me what you think.Posted by allrounderPosted by LuckyLibra7
What's important here is the time you're spending together. Too many people focus on building relationships over the phone. Later on, if someone gets a promotion or becomes suddenly swamped with work, now you start displaying needy behavior and acting as if sending several messages a day is a loss of attraction.
Things always settle in a relationship and you're not going to constantly be in the Honey-Moon phase. Work on building some confidence.
If he is avoiding spending time with you then that is a loss of attraction, and you need to pullback.
In a romantic relationship, you all should be speaking at least once a day. But there will be days where you're just tied up and you can't exchange 40 messages.
I suppose I never knew what coming out of the honeymoon phase would feel like and look like as he is my first ever serious relationship. So now I know lol
It's just I feel like even in person, something is different. He's still affectionate at times, fun and funny but he's become a bit lazier and chilled out. I feel like maybe he feels like we're hanging out too much at the moment and that's why he's pulled back. That I'm smothering him but he doesn't want to hurt my feelings by saying it. I've started to be the one initiating to hang out at places more or saying we should go somewhere together but he does agree and come every time I've said for us to hang out somewhere. I'm also the one who asks to sleepover at his and I realised he never asks me to sleepover at his (I don't let him sleepover at mine because I live with my mother still) and I've been the one sleeping over every week for 1-2 nights for the past 4 months. So I'm gonna calm down on the sleepovers so it doesn't feel too routine and boring anymore. But I initiate kissing him more and we don't tongue kiss passionately as much now but every time I try to tongue kiss him last week, he's been making it a peck, yet we still cuddle lovingly in bed for ages together.
I'm so confused. We still love making each other laugh though. Regardless, is this what settling down is supposed to feel like? I believe he's not a cheater and is loyal because he always preaches me being loyal.
Okay, so you're saying the healthy standard of texting is at least one quality message back and forth once a day?
click to expand
Once a relationship settles, it's typically 60/40 ish. One person is ALWAYS going to initiate a little more because nothing in life can be 50/50.
Sleeping over 1-2 nights isn't bad. Are you hanging out more on top of that?
It sounds like you're doing a ton of initiating still after 4 months which isn't normal. He's definitely pulling back, but it could be because of complacency. This happens to men often when the relationship settles. They stop the courting process thinking they have the girl.
Just pullback a little and if he's into you, it will rebalance out where he initiates more.
Odd though he doesn't request you stay over.
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"I suppose so, Iāve not noticed or been aware of myself doing anything wrong, but yea I get tired a lot earlier now and my social battery gets drained quickly. And so I guess I unconsciously have pulled back a bit because I have a lot of other stressful stuff to do most of the time. I see baby, itās good that you are trying to be self aware and watching yourself, but remember youāre not upsetting anybody, or doing anything wrong."
Maybe I just need to occupy my time more. And text friends more to get that fill I need of texting my weird and funny thoughts and epiphanies throughout the day to instead, since he's so overwhelmed, tired and busy.
We do hang out more than the sleepover. But it's mainly me just going over to his place after work on 2 other evenings (not very romantically planned) since it happens to be quite close to my workplace. I think because the sleepovers became routine (every Wednesday and or Thursday) so he didn't feel the need to ask.
How do I get him to realise that he may have me, but that I'm not an easy catch he can now get lazy with?
click to expand
Dude he not being lazy
Itās life
Instead consider what heās saying
Got stressful
Shit going on right now
Instead why not think about how to make things easier if heās so stressed rather why more more moreclick to expand
Right, but he literally spent a hour to go down to the bar and have a drink with his friend tonight. Tbf, those two live closer in distance together than him and I do, but idk. It's like he's not initiating hanging out with me as much as I am with him anymore at the moment. And I understand if it's stress, but I feel neglected compared to how we were in the courtship phase. And I'm not sure how else how to overcome this, other than making myself more busier.
I rarely text my husband. Maybe once a week? Sometimes once a day but rarely more than a few times a day on the odd occasion we have to discuss something that isnāt done in person.
I donāt really text people tbh. People usually just call me because I take too long to text back and then they call just to get me to respond.
I think you should just communicate better with your person tbh, stuff like this doesnāt really matter to most people. Itās all about being natural to yourself but also respectful, because people cannot keep expectations at all times for social contact via phone. Itās just not fair to anyone tbh.
I donāt really text people tbh. People usually just call me because I take too long to text back and then they call just to get me to respond.
I think you should just communicate better with your person tbh, stuff like this doesnāt really matter to most people. Itās all about being natural to yourself but also respectful, because people cannot keep expectations at all times for social contact via phone. Itās just not fair to anyone tbh.
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@StubbornSagittarius
You donāt come out like a person in a rship. Are you happy being there for so long?
Whatās his sign? And NO I am not saying I am torturing Virgo! He is the happiest for decades prior to me. We having fun and sex and travels and food and wine and sexā¦yeah! A lot of sex.
I think this is what is bothering all of you! šššš¤
Why do you tell so much lies? Do you really think for one splitin minute we believe you have a lot of sex, spending the majority of your time here? And if this is true I would think a 50 something year old lady would keep this to herself.
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I rarely text my husband. Maybe once a week? Sometimes once a day but rarely more than a few times a day on the odd occasion we have to discuss something that isnāt done in person.
I donāt really text people tbh. People usually just call me because I take too long to text back and then they call just to get me to respond.
I think you should just communicate better with your person tbh, stuff like this doesnāt really matter to most people. Itās all about being natural to yourself but also respectful, because people cannot keep expectations at all times for social contact via phone. Itās just not fair to anyone tbh.
Sure, but it's easier for you because you actually live with your husband so it's easier to get your satisfaction of communication in person. I'm a Gemini Rising and Virgo Sun so I need a looot of communication :')
I suppose I could call but I kinda don't like it because I like to do stuff that I don't need people hearing me do. I've been putting in more voice notes but he's still taking his time to answer. So I don't know what to do anymore. I've pulled back a bit and I'm not sleeping over at his place this week but it doesn't seem to make him act like he misses me :/ I suppose I like a lot of attention š
Posted by GeminiJimPosted by allrounderPosted by RimzySure, but it's easier for you because you actually live with your husband so it's easier to get your satisfaction of communication in person. I'm a Gemini Rising and Virgo Sun so I need a looot of communication :')
I rarely text my husband. Maybe once a week? Sometimes once a day but rarely more than a few times a day on the odd occasion we have to discuss something that isnāt done in person.
I donāt really text people tbh. People usually just call me because I take too long to text back and then they call just to get me to respond.
I think you should just communicate better with your person tbh, stuff like this doesnāt really matter to most people. Itās all about being natural to yourself but also respectful, because people cannot keep expectations at all times for social contact via phone. Itās just not fair to anyone tbh.
I suppose I could call but I kinda don't like it because I like to do stuff that I don't need people hearing me do. I've been putting in more voice notes but he's still taking his time to answer. So I don't know what to do anymore. I've pulled back a bit and I'm not sleeping over at his place this week but it doesn't seem to make him act like he misses me :/ I suppose I like a lot of attention š
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Well the reason you pace things in a relationship is partly to find out if you are compatible before jumping too far ahead like marriage and sharing a home
Perhaps you are finding out you are not so compatible as you thought?
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Makes sense about pacing things. We're waiting until he graduates Uni in 2024 to move in together. I'm not just going to give up on us so quickly, I feel this time period before graduation is a time where we can really work on ourselves but find out how we flow together as time goes on, I suppose.
I believe him when he says the stress is making him too tired for certain things like socialising. But yeah, I suppose I should just take out my need for communication with others on my few friends I have. So I can balance communication amounts with my bf more.
We definitely feel like we're both soulmates overall. We're very similar in our opinions, what we like and don't like, pet peeves, interests and both spiritual and our humour and personality flows together very well. But the few differences we do have are very drastic. Like our diet and communication needs, for example. Very different.
And every time I think about finding someone else who may or may not be better, I don't want to. It doesn't feel right. I feel magnetically drawn to him. He just feels like my person, and he feels the same about me being his right person, it's just that I guess there's stuff to work on between us. Like any other couple.
I'm a Sag and don't like texting or phone calls. I text or call the Scorpio about 1 time a day, and usually it's just to make plans or see what's happening for the day.
Most days he ignores the text and just calls me instead.
I've had to learn to stop sending funny memes and just do that here or with friends. He doesn't like them the way I do. He probably doesn't even read them.
Something must be in the transits with Scorpios because we are at a standstill right now too and I'm trying to figure out if we will slit up or try to move forward.
He is very uncompromising and I am very stubborn. It's not a good match up for compatibility. He has an issue with telling me what I want to hear and not following through and I have an issue with trying to make him follow through since he's said it lol
Either tell me the truth and let me deal with it or lie to me and I will make you keep your word. š„“
But I'm giving him tons of space these days and being very passive. Basically just checking in so he can't say I've disappeared, but being avoidant too. He knows what I'm doing though. He's not dumb.
Most days he ignores the text and just calls me instead.
I've had to learn to stop sending funny memes and just do that here or with friends. He doesn't like them the way I do. He probably doesn't even read them.
Something must be in the transits with Scorpios because we are at a standstill right now too and I'm trying to figure out if we will slit up or try to move forward.
He is very uncompromising and I am very stubborn. It's not a good match up for compatibility. He has an issue with telling me what I want to hear and not following through and I have an issue with trying to make him follow through since he's said it lol
Either tell me the truth and let me deal with it or lie to me and I will make you keep your word. š„“
But I'm giving him tons of space these days and being very passive. Basically just checking in so he can't say I've disappeared, but being avoidant too. He knows what I'm doing though. He's not dumb.
Posted by allrounderPosted by Rimzy
I rarely text my husband. Maybe once a week? Sometimes once a day but rarely more than a few times a day on the odd occasion we have to discuss something that isnāt done in person.
I donāt really text people tbh. People usually just call me because I take too long to text back and then they call just to get me to respond.
I think you should just communicate better with your person tbh, stuff like this doesnāt really matter to most people. Itās all about being natural to yourself but also respectful, because people cannot keep expectations at all times for social contact via phone. Itās just not fair to anyone tbh.
Sure, but it's easier for you because you actually live with your husband so it's easier to get your satisfaction of communication in person. I'm a Gemini Rising and Virgo Sun so I need a looot of communication :')
I suppose I could call but I kinda don't like it because I like to do stuff that I don't need people hearing me do. I've been putting in more voice notes but he's still taking his time to answer. So I don't know what to do anymore. I've pulled back a bit and I'm not sleeping over at his place this week but it doesn't seem to make him act like he misses me :/ I suppose I like a lot of attention šclick to expand
We separated a few years back and got a divorce. We lived entirely separate lives and were both single. When we started communicating again I was still the same level of communicator I am now. I rarely want to text or talk to him unless itās about something like plans, details of upcoming stuff or just to see what his plans are for the weekend. In general as a Virgo he contacts me more but I donāt actually respond to all messages. He needs way more communication than I do.
My son is a Virgo sun and Gemini Moon and Rising, lol and he needs insane amounts of attention. My Pisces moon is tapped out daily.
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How did you find the New Moon eclipse on the 25th October?
I was hit really hard by it and was wondering what the hell was going on? š„“
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Moon Leo 9Ā°24'
Mercury Cancer 0Ā°03'
Venus Leo 29Ā°19'
Mars Gemini 4Ā°45'
Jupiter Scorpio 4Ā°52'
Saturn Pisces 12Ā°09' R
Uranus Capricorn 24Ā°37' R
Neptune Capricorn 22Ā°05' R
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Iām just curious, according to astrologers itās either Capricorn or Scorpio but I want to hear š from everyone
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Mines are:
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I suggest the earth signs, especially Taurus and Virgo. Scorpio and Libra as close second.
(Either sun and moon)
I am referring to a Scorpio thread by @MyStarsShine because I had a fun morning bugging Aries with questions about treesomes and orgiesā¦
It used to be ābabe, what songs I love from 90th? We do 90th music todayā and he would tell me.
Today it was ābabe,
We've known each other since last April, but have been in a romantic relationship since September.
We still text everyday. But the texting amount has now minimised quite a lot. And being a Gemini rising and having ADHD, I am an incredibly chatty person who always has 9000 thoughts in her mind that I love to share with him and others. But my Scorpio nowadays has become more busy with both his studies and passion projects. And I believe him when he says he just doesn't have much energy and concentration for texting people lots. And don't get me wrong, I do let him have space and time for his alone time with his passions and so on.
But I just hope he hasn't lost attraction for me or anything. I guess the reduction in these last 2 months have made me feel a bit insecure about his feelings for me or if I've done anything that might have upset him. He says I haven't made his life harder or anything but I don't know. I hope he's not just saying that to appease me. I want to tackle issues head on.
I did read online that positively, it could be that my Scorp guy is just confident, comfortable and secure in the relationship now that he wants to get more chilled out and "lazy" with it and doesn't feel the need to chase or put on a show anymore. Which is a good thing. But I guess it's a bit of a shame because I really love talking to him as well.
Anyway, I was wondering what you guys would say are healthy and "normal" texting amounts in a romantic relationship, in your opinions?