How to get out of lust

I'm in a situation that the guy told me he's lusting. I just don't want nothing to do with it. My gut feeling told me along time ago to let it go because the discomfort of not knowing what the situation is. I think I accepted to know what it is but I was blind and vulnerable to get sucked into. I feel worthless and I should know my worth. Well it's hard to let go of it not knowing the right steps or process of things to do it the easy way without it getting out of hand. I know lust is the deadliest sin. I'm now trying to avoid the guy he been riding past my house and I just thought hard why I let myself do it. It's like he has two split personalities. He got his cake and ate it too. I just need someone's help I'm crying and hurt so badly for allowing myself to deal with this for too long.

You don't owe him anything. Shake your lion mane back out and act like he doesn't exist. If you can't now I'm sure it's coming soon 🙂

I kick him to the curb after he told me is a sex addict and out for lust now he rides past my house like 5 times a day. I blocked him off every social media. I just don't know what to do I tried to exit with a silence I just don't want things get out of hand. I been thru enough in my life. I'm tired of negative energy and drama.

Posted by Tharealher
I kick him to the curb after he told me is a sex addict and out for lust now he rides past my house like 5 times a day. I blocked him off every social media. I just don't know what to do I tried to exit with a silence I just don't want things get out of hand. I been thru enough in my life. I'm tired of negative energy and drama.

Tell him he's under surveillance everytime he drives by your house and your whole house is under surveillance.. and you're pursuing legal action with a lawyer on speed dial. That you will not deal with stalking...

Posted by Tharealher
I kick him to the curb after he told me is a sex addict and out for lust now he rides past my house like 5 times a day. I blocked him off every social media. I just don't know what to do I tried to exit with a silence I just don't want things get out of hand. I been thru enough in my life. I'm tired of negative energy and drama.

Just ignore him...chalk it up to a lesson learned in life. For every bad guy you come across you are one step closer to the right guy 😉

That's the only thing I can do. Maybe he thinks it's a game maybe so but I never had someone told me they were in lust over me ? It's weird.

Hmm I don't know what it is. I ignored his messages it's like he might be hurt or sad over it. Hmm who knows

Posted by Plagued
He must be kind of a wack job if he's driving past your house as often as he is..

This.

Be careful. He sounds like he is, or very soon will be doing a lot more than just driving past your house.

Document everything from now on. When he drives by, or any contact he initiates. Write the time and date down on paper. Keep all texts and voicemails he sends.

I am not saying this to make you paranoid, if anything, it will help you feel less paranoid for if you ever need this information to show the police so they take action. Just be sure to document as much as you can, so you have a lot of backstory if he starts doing shit that is actually worth reporting.

I am saying "worth reporting" because if you call the cops just saying someone is driving by your house a lot, with very little history of abusive behaviour, you are going to be in for a shock when they laugh at you or treat you like you're just paranoid for no reason, which is sadly more often than not.

I believe lust is a human nature... We are outcome of lust ( & sexual process); its within us by birth very deep (more or less may differ person to person)..
Ya it may be good to move away from such person (with too much lust)..
Bt I have also seen many cases where deep relationship has started from lust & physical attraction.. So taking guy not made for you may be ok,But taking lust as sin may nt be.. 😉
U know guy better than any of us. We are just pretending here depending on ur words. You know what you want & what you should do.. Do that, whatever makes u feel good..
Be happy , you deserve it (& everybody do 😉 )
🙂

First off all... don't beat yourself up. Take this as a learning experience.

It sounds like you don't want nothing to do with him, and you did the right then by leaving him alone. Keep up with it. He lusts after you and he lost being able with you, so it sounds like he is circling his wagons (literally) to see what you're up to...if you're with someone else.

If you're done, you're done. Tell him that point blank, tell him what you will and will not allow. Be concrete and not flimsy because this will give mix signals and may confuse him. If he is a sex addict, chances are he really likes the chase, it is apart of the thrill and he will think the game is on if you get wishy washy. Be firm.

Do this in a public place (if in person) or over communication and keep it for records. Don't go back and forth on what you want and feel bad about it. I will say that you probably should document everything like others said and look into getting a restraining order, if he continues.

You're a leo, hunty. Look at yourself in the mirror and take back yourself. You're worth it, he isn't.

You obviously want to continue ... after all you made this thread so that you could get others to continue talking about it.

Of course, ignorance is bliss .... because you are what you think about. If you don't think about it, then it's importance will fade.


But, the truth here is that you don't want it to fade ... because it is what you are thinking about.


People come in to tell you what you already stated, and they guess they think they are saving a ho .. who knows why people don't actually read, and comprehend. to their credit, though, you did make this thread to get people to keep talking about it.


If you truly meant what you said .. then you would have nipped this in the bud, and dismissed it from you.

Of course, as this thread exists ... you are doing the opposite of dismissing it from you, rather you are encouraging more to come to you.



so, the logical assumption becomes .. you actually like it, and you want him to keep thinking of you as a piece of ass to him. I guess that makes you feel special

Posted by libraqueen
How is this a bad thing? Now you have to power to do whatever you want with him.

How do you not see a stalker, riding pass your house 5 times a day as a bad thing!? Forget about opportunity and power, ger safety should be her main concern.

Thanks for your concerns I'm glad I got advice from ignorant people that likes to make up their own stories on what it is or was. I got it figured it out. I don't ask for advice in the type rather figured out on my own but I just wanted to vent but I think us Leo's always have haters. Sorry I talk direct and you can't handle the way I say things. I don't have to explain my whole situation on what it is and this thread is like a week ago old. Please have a nice day and get a life.

Posted by Tharealher
That's the only thing I can do. Maybe he thinks it's a game maybe so but I never had someone told me they were in lust over me ? It's weird.

I tend to think most guys are 'in lust' at first until they get to know the girl... Then it can go 2 ways depending on if the guy is open to more but I think he was not. Chalk it up to you dodged a major bullet!

Posted by P-Angel


You obviously want to continue ... after all you made this thread so that you could get others to continue talking about it.

Of course, ignorance is bliss .... because you are what you think about. If you don't think about it, then it's importance will fade.


But, the truth here is that you don't want it to fade ... because it is what you are thinking about.


People come in to tell you what you already stated, and they guess they think they are saving a ho .. who knows why people don't actually read, and comprehend. to their credit, though, you did make this thread to get people to keep talking about it.


If you truly meant what you said .. then you would have nipped this in the bud, and dismissed it from you.

Of course, as this thread exists ... you are doing the opposite of dismissing it from you, rather you are encouraging more to come to you.



so, the logical assumption becomes .. you actually like it, and you want him to keep thinking of you as a piece of ass to him. I guess that makes you feel special

Lol

Posted by Arielle83
Is this that libra again?

Or someone else?

If it is s Libra she might have to get the cops involved or move. I had a Libra stalker...they are good at stalking. They are sick individuals. Mine used to just pop up when he felt like it. Even let the air out my tire when I didn't answer the door.

I told him over and over I moved on even dating someone else, he didn't care. I thought after I moved that was it. No years later he found me on Facebook I ignored him. Then I saw him in a grocery store twice....he tried to give me his number like I wanted it. I told him I was married at the time. He still followed me around the store. Saw him again at another store he stayed in the parking lot forever waiting for me to come out. I waited until he left before I came out. I hate Libra men, they don't like being cut off.

No they don't I told him multiple times to leave me tf alone. I blocked him so he comes by my house on purpose. I think he's pissed off but eventually he'll ft over it. I got libra female friends that are stalkers as well. I'll admit I use to ride pass someone's house but to keep doing it no.

Posted by libraqueen
How is this a bad thing? Now you have to power to do whatever you want with him.

How is that ? Him lusting over me really ?

Posted by Dastard

Posted by P-Angel


You obviously want to continue ... after all you made this thread so that you could get others to continue talking about it.

Of course, ignorance is bliss .... because you are what you think about. If you don't think about it, then it's importance will fade.


But, the truth here is that you don't want it to fade ... because it is what you are thinking about.


People come in to tell you what you already stated, and they guess they think they are saving a ho .. who knows why people don't actually read, and comprehend. to their credit, though, you did make this thread to get people to keep talking about it.


If you truly meant what you said .. then you would have nipped this in the bud, and dismissed it from you.

Of course, as this thread exists ... you are doing the opposite of dismissing it from you, rather you are encouraging more to come to you.



so, the logical assumption becomes .. you actually like it, and you want him to keep thinking of you as a piece of ass to him. I guess that makes you feel special

Of course she made this thread to get attention. This woman is full of it.

it's easy to tell that her intent was also to overdramatize her life just from her word choice . All for the sake of self-embellishment.

She wants us to think of her life as interesting and exciting, like a soap opera. But above all, she really, REALLY wants let us know that she is an object of "lust" and desire, a forbidden fruit that ignites uncontrollable passions. The cause of a "deadly sin."

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Ctfu no I'm not that deseperate for attention I get that everyday. No I don't go look for lust I know what I want but I'm not desepersate for looking anything. You a Leo like me you should know how these goes less you don't get enough attention. I swear Leo's get the must hate for no reason. All I asked for advice on a little something but I swear I haven't had one generous person in this site say anything nice. Damn you must be miserable with your life. I'm a 23 still learning the ropes on how relationships work. Y'all are judging a book by its cover which pride you are taking at is a * deadly sin *

It is really important for you to move on get out of the relationship if your partner does not respect you and love you. Take help of sibling or some friend you can trust.

Posted by Dastard

Thanks you too. ?

Posted by Dastard

Posted by P-Angel


You obviously want to continue ... after all you made this thread so that you could get others to continue talking about it.

Of course, ignorance is bliss .... because you are what you think about. If you don't think about it, then it's importance will fade.


But, the truth here is that you don't want it to fade ... because it is what you are thinking about.


People come in to tell you what you already stated, and they guess they think they are saving a ho .. who knows why people don't actually read, and comprehend. to their credit, though, you did make this thread to get people to keep talking about it.


If you truly meant what you said .. then you would have nipped this in the bud, and dismissed it from you.

Of course, as this thread exists ... you are doing the opposite of dismissing it from you, rather you are encouraging more to come to you.



so, the logical assumption becomes .. you actually like it, and you want him to keep thinking of you as a piece of ass to him. I guess that makes you feel special

Of course she made this thread to get attention. This woman is full of it.

it's easy to tell that her intent was also to overdramatize her life just from her word choice . All for the sake of self-embellishment.

She wants us to think of her life as interesting and exciting, like a soap opera. But above all, she really, REALLY wants let us know that she is an object of "lust" and desire, a forbidden fruit that ignites uncontrollable passions. The cause of a "deadly sin."

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Let's not forget the 7-8 threads she's made this month alone about the dude, or the few references she continues to make (after this thread, no less) of him being her "partner" yet she goes on in other threads about how she has no feelings for him and was using him as much as he was using her. All you gotta do is skim through her history and you can see what's really going on.

But this chick isn't very bright either. It's in her writing, her responses, her behavior, and nevermind that she doesn't seem to realize that people can read and remember her previous garbage on here. She really thinks she's fooling people when she starts making up new stories about the same guy, replacing individuals and the like. She's fixed and an attention whore. She won't learn for awhile, if ever.