This keeps happening so I will ask... about women

Okay this situation happens with women many times, and I'm curious. Here it goes....

I'll be randomly having a conversation with a lady. This lady has been different ages, races, and income levels.

Then at sometime in the conversation, she mentions she has a boyfriend. Wtf lol

I don't know why she did that. Today it happened and I am like "why?"

I'm taking a guess that either means I'm ugly, or they think I'm interested in them. Which I am not. She is Asian, fat, and frumpy, but a nice person. We were talking about careers, and there was no flirting on either side and she just mentions it.

This has happened to me multiple times. What does this mean?

Posted by fastphoenix
Okay this situation happens with women many times, and I'm curious. Here it goes....

I'll be randomly having a conversation with a lady. This lady has been different ages, races, and income levels.

Then at sometime in the conversation, she mentions she has a boyfriend. Wtf lol

I don't know why she did that. Today it happened and I am like "why?"

I'm taking a guess that either means I'm ugly, or they think I'm interested in them. Which I am not. She is Asian, fat, and frumpy, but a nice person. We were talking about careers, and there was no flirting on either side and she just mentions it.

This has happened to me multiple times. What does this mean?

Probably because so many women (men too, i.guess) have read bullshit online articles about how "if [insert opposite gender here] talks to you, it's because they want to fuck you". So they feel the need to diffuse the perceived sexual tension right out of the gate.

Or maybe all the women you've spoken with have insanely jealous significant others, or are insanely jealous significant others themselves, so they - again - feel the need to diffuse at the onset as opposed to having ano awkward situation conversation later on.

Either way, it's a result of propelling themselves into an uncertain future neither they not you have yet earned.

At times it's so random. And it's girls I'm not attracted to, and we are just having a random conversation that common strangers have. And they mention they have a boyfriend or husband. Does this chick think I want her? I just keep on with the convo from then on like what she said was not weird. But I think it is.

Sexual tension? From talking about careers, school, action movies, food? With no flirting in between?

Okay I guess that's what it is.

Most/ALL these women I would not date, or anything. Nothing wrong with them. Just my personal preferences or vibes.

Thanks DXPers! Problem solved.

It's a quick and upfront way to clear the air so she can feel like she's not leading you on and you can relax and know that you aren't coming off as though you are hitting on her. Sure, it's tactless and corny, but it's affective. Even natural, harmless flirtation will be rendered just that - harmless. Everyone wins, in my opinion, so long as they don't take themselves too seriously. I'm not sure why that would be uncomfortable or offensive if she or he says it in a casual and polite way. In my opinion, this is only necessary if interaction is frequent. If it seems as though you will never meet again, then perhaps it's not important that the man or woman is aware of the other's relationship status.

Someone asked about my natal chart?

I'm s double Scorpio

Sun and ASC in Scorpio (conjunct with orb of 3)
Moon in Sagittarius
Venus in Scorpio
Venus in first house (aka good looks LoL)

My chart is heavy in Scorpion and Sagg 70% water, fire, then air

The reason why I mentioned to ask is because it's happened so many times. And it happened with THIS girl today. She's early 20s. And she is not my type. I was just talking to her because she seemed like a happy, fun person to chit chat with. I like to talk, my Sagg Moon ya know. These girls are taking it the wrong way. It was in front of everyone. I mean it's a public conversion about whatever and they throw it out there that they have a BF when I'm not flirting, and the conversation is about mundane things. What is the cure for this female behavior? Women around here seem to assume I'm interested in them a lot. Maybe my Sagg Moon is making it seem like I'm flirting when I'm not? IDK

Posted by fastphoenix
The reason why I mentioned to ask is because it's happened so many times. And it happened with THIS girl today. She's early 20s. And she is not my type. I was just talking to her because she seemed like a happy, fun person to chit chat with. I like to talk, my Sagg Moon ya know. These girls are taking it the wrong way. It was in front of everyone. I mean it's a public conversion about whatever and they throw it out there that they have a BF when I'm not flirting, and the conversation is about mundane things. What is the cure for this female behavior? Women around here seem to assume I'm interested in them a lot. Maybe my Sagg Moon is making it seem like I'm flirting when I'm not? IDK

It has nothing to do with you and everything to do with the fact she is a women. We tend to bring up our SO way more often than men do.

It's one of those men are from mars, women are from venus things...

Hmm maybe cuz girls are just used to random guys trying to hook up all the time whether they actually like them or not... Ya know, numbers game so girls use a defense mechanism because they " know where the convo is going" basically, a few guys ruined it for everyone else :/

And yes, I agree with the other posters I'm sure you have a strong animal magnetism about you that just makes some girls uncomfortable 😉 lol

Could be your moon or probably just the scorp thing. You're likely unaware of your magentism a lot of times because like you said your mind is somewhere else completely on that note.
Mine plays out a lil opposite.. Where I'm unaware that someone is trying to flirt with me. Then when it becomes more obvious I'm like ugh they ruined it now I don't want anymore convo.. Because I'm not interested in that :/

Posted by fastphoenix
The reason why I mentioned to ask is because it's happened so many times. And it happened with THIS girl today. She's early 20s. And she is not my type. I was just talking to her because she seemed like a happy, fun person to chit chat with. I like to talk, my Sagg Moon ya know. These girls are taking it the wrong way. It was in front of everyone. I mean it's a public conversion about whatever and they throw it out there that they have a BF when I'm not flirting, and the conversation is about mundane things. What is the cure for this female behavior? Women around here seem to assume I'm interested in them a lot. Maybe my Sagg Moon is making it seem like I'm flirting when I'm not? IDK

I think you're placing too much signicance on a simple comment. Just think of it as a part of "chit chat." Them not being your type has nothing to do with it, really.

@Ryoko

Yep my Pluto is in Scorpio. With all that Scorpio, and I'm not the least vengeful. When I hear the anti-Scorpio propaganda, "hate the scorpions" crap I just tune out. It does not apply to me at all.

Well it was good to get an answer to this. It's been happening for years now but more so in this year than ever. Must be some transit going on or something.

I'm, for example, rubbish at knowing when someone is flirting with me and when they are just being nice. For that reason it might be easier to just mention it early on so as to avoid any awkward situations that could happen? I dunno, that's just an assumption.

Do people usually find you flirtatious/ have you been described as a flirtatious person?

I'm not flirtatious at all. I think it's just them. Apparently striking up a mundane conversation with some people is considered flirty these days.

Posted by LadyNeptune

Posted by fastphoenix
The reason why I mentioned to ask is because it's happened so many times. And it happened with THIS girl today. She's early 20s. And she is not my type. I was just talking to her because she seemed like a happy, fun person to chit chat with. I like to talk, my Sagg Moon ya know. These girls are taking it the wrong way. It was in front of everyone. I mean it's a public conversion about whatever and they throw it out there that they have a BF when I'm not flirting, and the conversation is about mundane things. What is the cure for this female behavior? Women around here seem to assume I'm interested in them a lot. Maybe my Sagg Moon is making it seem like I'm flirting when I'm not? IDK

It has nothing to do with you and everything to do with the fact she is a women. We tend to bring up our SO way more often than men do.

It's one of those men are from mars, women are from venus things...

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This. He's reading into this too much.

It's your Scorpio stare ..down stare thru!! Y'all eye contact is a lethal weapon! She confused a basic stare down for you undressing her with your eyes!! Lol when she was probably just an interesting creature to you. You scorpios are like curious cats sometimes.. Y'all love interesting creatures! Haha

And wow!!! To all that Scorpio in your chart!!! You can probably ignore someone forever! Your silent treatment (that scorpios are famous for) is probably lethal!!!

Posted by undefined
Its a safety thing. She could just be saying it because you are quite obviously the opposite gender. Maybe its a guilt thing as well. Maybe her boyfriend would like her to mention it to males she talks to 🙂

Yes 🙂

Posted by LadyNeptune

Posted by fastphoenix
The reason why I mentioned to ask is because it's happened so many times. And it happened with THIS girl today. She's early 20s. And she is not my type. I was just talking to her because she seemed like a happy, fun person to chit chat with. I like to talk, my Sagg Moon ya know. These girls are taking it the wrong way. It was in front of everyone. I mean it's a public conversion about whatever and they throw it out there that they have a BF when I'm not flirting, and the conversation is about mundane things. What is the cure for this female behavior? Women around here seem to assume I'm interested in them a lot. Maybe my Sagg Moon is making it seem like I'm flirting when I'm not? IDK

It has nothing to do with you and everything to do with the fact she is a women. We tend to bring up our SO way more often than men do.

It's one of those men are from mars, women are from venus things...

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This...

I haven't read all the responses here but I always mention my partner EVEN IF I FIND YOU ATTRACTIVE. It has NOTHING to do with you so I wouldn't worry about, keep being you, if you wanna talk to someone do.. if you don't, don't. But don't take things personally, people talk out of their asses anyways.

Posted by fastphoenix
At times it's so random. And it's girls I'm not attracted to, and we are just having a random conversation that common strangers have. And they mention they have a boyfriend or husband. Does this chick think I want her? I just keep on with the convo from then on like what she said was not weird. But I think it is.

Sexual tension? From talking about careers, school, action movies, food? With no flirting in between?

Okay I guess that's what it is.

Most/ALL these women I would not date, or anything. Nothing wrong with them. Just my personal preferences or vibes.

Thanks DXPers! Problem solved.

lol!!

they feel SAFE to you, to talk to them.

a woman you feel intensely attracted to, you might just stalk her. haha. j/k...

well not really 😛

Posted by fastphoenix
The reason why I mentioned to ask is because it's happened so many times. And it happened with THIS girl today. She's early 20s. And she is not my type. I was just talking to her because she seemed like a happy, fun person to chit chat with. I like to talk, my Sagg Moon ya know. These girls are taking it the wrong way. It was in front of everyone. I mean it's a public conversion about whatever and they throw it out there that they have a BF when I'm not flirting, and the conversation is about mundane things. What is the cure for this female behavior? Women around here seem to assume I'm interested in them a lot. Maybe my Sagg Moon is making it seem like I'm flirting when I'm not? IDK

OR...

they probably think...."Who does this guy think he is? that I can't be with a man? or have someone! HUMPF. I'll show him."

all types of variables. lol

OR...

you give off creepy vibes, and they are thinking, "What's this cray dude coming up to me? does he want to do me?"

men have come up to me, but they are usually saying, "Ohh you are looking good today, darling, MMM MMM" or muttering, "hellloooooooo" with eyes popping.

those I ignore and feel gross.

edit - i'd tell my husband and he's like, Huh.

I get a bag of chips and want to get fat. lol

Posted by fastphoenix
I'm not flirtatious at all. I think it's just them. Apparently striking up a mundane conversation with some people is considered flirty these days.

that is where it's wrong - we should be able to have convo without having to worry about anything else - how are we going to meet good people if we don't talk to people ...

my Libra friend is like that - he comes across so friendly that all the women gravitate toward him and of course he likes the attention but has no intention - as it should be ...

Posted by fastphoenix
Okay this situation happens with women many times, and I'm curious. Here it goes....

I'll be randomly having a conversation with a lady. This lady has been different ages, races, and income levels.

Then at sometime in the conversation, she mentions she has a boyfriend. Wtf lol

I don't know why she did that. Today it happened and I am like "why?"

I'm taking a guess that either means I'm ugly, or they think I'm interested in them. Which I am not. She is Asian, fat, and frumpy, but a nice person. We were talking about careers, and there was no flirting on either side and she just mentions it.

This has happened to me multiple times. What does this mean?

She's letting you know right up front that she's with someone so there is no chance of misinterpretation of her friendliness.