@Rainbow87
8 Years
I like a guy but he follows provocative girls on Instagram and Tik Tok. Is this a red flag?
Interpreting Social Media Behavior in Relationships
Following provocative girls on social media does not necessarily indicate red flags but can cause insecurities. It is common for individuals to follow such content for entertainment or professional reasons. Open communication about boundaries and feelings can help clarify expectations and ease concerns in relationships.
Why are there always hoes on Instagram when I just want to look at shoes
He probably also watches porn and has *gasp* favorite porn actresses he enjoys.
I don't see it as a problem personally but different strokes for different folks. Now if he is dm-ing and exchanging numbers and full on conversating with the intention to meet up in person... yeah thats a problem. Otherwise I wouldn't begrudge someone their eye candy as long as they don't begrudge me mine.
That said there is nothing wrong with YOU not wanting to date someone who follows thirst traps on sm. If it bothers you, it bothers you. This could simple be an incompatibility issue. Whatever you do don't go into things thinking your gonna change him and his behavior.
Not a red flag
Just make sure you look like those girls.
That’s his type
date him and stop finding excuses to not take risk, nobody is perfect plus having a dxp account is 10x worse to watch porn
No girl ever enjoys finding out I DXP 🤣
“Who are those weird people you talk to on chat ands?!”
Is it just me but I get mad when I see old models on IG? Like wtf you had your time already 10 years ago. Why are you in my feed?! Why?! Goiter!
Is it just me but I get mad when I see old models on IG? Like wtf you had your time already 10 years ago. Why are you in my feed?! Why?! Goiter!
Do you mean actual models? Or just older women who are posting their pics?
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Actual models but local to me so now they’re just older women 🤣
Hi
I’m sure this topic is common, but I really want to know if this is a red flag. I know I’ll get different answers from men and women.
I really like this guy but I have an issue. He’s all over social media. He has a Facebook, Instagram, Tik Tok, Linkedin. I think Twitter too. I’m so much different in that aspect. I only have a Facebook which I rarely use but it’s only to communicate with my long distance family and friends. I used to be into social media but I think, as you age, you become more mature and you care less about being popular.
The reason why my crush is all over social media is because he works in marketing and he’s a social media manager or something like that. He doesn’t work for a company but he’s self employed and has his own marketing business. So he uses all those social media accounts to attract clients, make connections, make his business grow, etc.
I recently saw his following list and discovered that he follows a few attractive/provocative girls. These girls are in bikinis or showing a lot of skin dancing or just seeking validation. It makes me jealous and insecure because I don’t post any sexy photos of myself. I just post normal photos, which sometimes he likes or sometimes he’ll ignore. Also, these girls are young, like in their 20s and I’m a lot older. I’m in my early 30s.
I totally understand that men are visual creatures but one thing is to look at a hot woman walking by and another thing is to follow a woman to constantly see her posts and get aroused by them. I don’t know if I’m exaggerating or is this is a “normal” thing now a days that I need to accept. I bet you since he uses social media for his job, he’s bombarded every day with pictures and videos of these girls. I wish he used social media strictly for work but it seems he uses it for entertainment too.
Can you tell me your opinions on this? Should it bother me?
If he spends all his free time stalk thier profiles then ya.
If he is always talking to a bunch of random chicks ya.
Does he find you attractive and can you turn him on YOUR OWN WAY?
20s chicks have a appeal by natures grace. They are just eye candy.
A real woman though...
If you want to flip his switch that way, you need to be able to feel that way yourself.
It's all about energy. How you feel, present and Carry yourself.
Forgot to add I find a bit of jealousy a turn on. I can't be the only one
When guys say this, there is a reaction within me that makes me much more cautious.
Like… what does this mean? Does this mean that this person will always put me in a state of jealousy just to be turned on?!?! I’m not sure I would appreciate that… because, it just gets ugly when I know I’m being “played”.
No, just I have no issues with it unless it's every day. Notice a bit of jealousy, not a lot. I wouldn't force it on someone and I rarely expect women to be jealous TBH.
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I think you mean possessiveness, not jealousy.
Is it just me but I get mad when I see old models on IG? Like wtf you had your time already 10 years ago. Why are you in my feed?! Why?! Goiter!
It’s okay, Velveteen Rabbit. 🥲
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Okay Chandler
Forgot to add I find a bit of jealousy a turn on. I can't be the only one
Your not. It's primal. Yes it's a turn on but a very unpleasant when you can't act on it.
I put it in the same category as make-up sex.
For some people, they use it to gauge your interest. I hate feeling jealousy and pushed like that. I will purposely ignore it when it's done to me. May even return the favor.
Forgot to add I find a bit of jealousy a turn on. I can't be the only one
Same here, only if the other person isn’t doing things purposely to make you jealous. That’s juvenile and lead to the death of your relationship.
Right now, I think you are overreacting and getting emotional before getting to the bottom of what’s actually going on.
You said he was in marketing and self-employed. In what line of business? Maybe these women might be potential customers or a target audience for him… so he NEEDS to have that link with them in order to nourish his network and move on up the ladder.
exactly what i was thinking. if he's one of those social media managers who help people's social media pages grow, they could just be his clients.
this topic actually made me chuckle a bit 'cause when i was just starting to date my s/o, i remember going through the list of people i follow on my social media and unfollowing pages i thought would make me look bad in his eyes lol 😂😂 ( i was following a few thirst traps...just a few...lol)
i'm paranoid like that so lol
if you're just starting to date someone and you wanna make a good impression on them, it might not be bad to unfollow certain pages before you give your crush your ig or something lol 😂😂 just sayin'
Forgot to add I find a bit of jealousy a turn on. I can't be the only one
When guys say this, there is a reaction within me that makes me much more cautious.
Like… what does this mean? Does this mean that this person will always put me in a state of jealousy just to be turned on?!?! I’m not sure I would appreciate that… because, it just gets ugly when I know I’m being “played”.
No, just I have no issues with it unless it's every day. Notice a bit of jealousy, not a lot. I wouldn't force it on someone and I rarely expect women to be jealous TBH.
I think you mean possessiveness, not jealousy.
Jealousy to me is not feeling good enough “oh wow, he is turned on by her but not by me / or more than me?!?! 🥺😞😠😡
Possessiveness is more like “YO…. That man is MINE, get your PAWS OFF HIM” 🤨😤
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I look at jealousy as a negative, as it means suspicion or apprehension and resentment aka you don't trust me. Possessiveness I can get down with cause I'm about that monogamous life style . So knowing that my partner also wants me only for himself feels good. Within reason of course. I am not a possession, you don't own me.
I get what Alex is saying tho, I think. Cause its nice to get outside admiration and validation for yourself and your partner. Look all you want ladies, he's coming home with me!
The problem is that now I feel like I have to compete with these girls for him to notice me. He already noticed me because we’re friends and he has liked my pictures but sometimes he acts like he’s not into me because he can go days without talking to me. I’m not 100% sure if he’ll ask me out. And now that I saw him following sexy girls it makes me feel worst. I can’t compete with these sexy younger women. I’m beautiful and I’m aware of it but I just don’t get naked. Even if I could, I will feel embarrassed if my family saw me like that. Since I’m not a big social media person, maybe he even sees me as a nerdy and an outcast person and he might not like it. Maybe he prefers the popular and hot girls who put themselves out there.
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Hi
I’m sure this topic is common, but I really want to know if this is a red flag. I know I’ll get different answers from men and women.
I really like this guy but I have an issue. He’s all over social media. He has a Facebook, Instagram, Tik Tok, Linkedin. I think Twitter too. I’m so much different in that aspect. I only have a Facebook which I rarely use but it’s only to communicate with my long distance family and friends. I used to be into social media but I think, as you age, you become more mature and you care less about being popular.
The reason why my crush is all over social media is because he works in marketing and he’s a social media manager or something like that. He doesn’t work for a company but he’s self employed and has his own marketing business. So he uses all those social media accounts to attract clients, make connections, make his business grow, etc.
I recently saw his following list and discovered that he follows a few attractive/provocative girls. These girls are in bikinis or showing a lot of skin dancing or just seeking validation. It makes me jealous and insecure because I don’t post any sexy photos of myself. I just post normal photos, which sometimes he likes or sometimes he’ll ignore. Also, these girls are young, like in their 20s and I’m a lot older. I’m in my early 30s.
I totally understand that men are visual creatures but one thing is to look at a hot woman walking by and another thing is to follow a woman to constantly see her posts and get aroused by them. I don’t know if I’m exaggerating or is this is a “normal” thing now a days that I need to accept. I bet you since he uses social media for his job, he’s bombarded every day with pictures and videos of these girls. I wish he used social media strictly for work but it seems he uses it for entertainment too.
Can you tell me your opinions on this? Should it bother me?