@strawberriii
4 Years
Thoughts on relationships with big age gap
8 years isn't a large age gap.
In a committed relationship it can be tricky
As lovers ... it can be great 😍🔥
I find it odd when in a couple one of them is old enough or young enough to be the same age as their parent/child. 🥴
You are kind of still a baby at 21. If you were 31 and he's 39 it would be super normalized. Not saying it can't work. Anything can work if both people want it enough.
Just take things slow. Don't rush to get married and start a family. At 21 you are still figuring out your own identity and what you want out of life. It important you have a sense of freedom and get to have some party years and stand on your own two feet independently.
I was the 27/28 yr old dating a 22/23yr old. We are still together but we moved at like a glacier pace. He wanted to move the relationship along quicker than I. But I'm glad we took the long route because he got to experience the same things I did in my early 20s. I never wanted to take that away from him and we are stronger because of it.
"Age is but a number" - Jimmy Savile.
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I think man in his 20’s or higher with teens would be a no go. Both in twenties could work. 30’s man with early 20’s woman most likely incompatible. Everything after 30’s should work out or has a chance.
I like someone who is 8 years older than me and I'm 21 so I thinks age gaps are okay as long as both people are adults, What do you guys think?
Been there. Done that. I've dated men 15 years older than I am. It works on face value but I think there are some things you have to consider. The power struggle is real when a man is way older. It will mean mostly his rules over yours. You rely on him for a lot of things whether it be financial, mental and even emotional because he will probably have a more stable job, probably more matured mentally and emotionally. Another thing to consider is how you want to be loved and how he will express love to you. You might want a bit more excitement due to less experience than him and he might want something more basic because he's done the exciting bits in the past and knows that it doesn't work that way.
Lots to think about. My husband is older than me by 5 years and even if he is the youngest I've ever been with, I can sometimes still sense the struggle when it comes to certain things due to our age gap. It can work but you have to consider so many factors and make sure you're actually ready for it.
I find it odd when in a couple one of them is old enough or young enough to be the same age as their parent/child. 🥴
Kill me now. Ouch. I've been hit hard by your comment Hahhaha hahahah. Been in that situation 😂
Ahh, the days when I was in my early 20s and a guy 3 years older supposedly could easily manipulate me (according to a friend who would date immature boys our same age). Guess how much older her newlywed husband ended up being? Like 12 years older lol. The irony of life.
I find it odd when in a couple one of them is old enough or young enough to be the same age as their parent/child. 🥴
Kill me now. Ouch. I've been hit hard by your comment Hahhaha hahahah. Been in that situation 😂
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I know that what I look for in a partner changed after the age of 25. Early twenties is troubling for some, but you know yourself better I suppose
"Age is but a number" - Jimmy Savile.
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You should try someone like 5 to 10 years younger. You never know. 🤣🤣
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Saville was a predator and a pedo. He had sex with kids, hence the 🤮🤢.
I’ve had rships with a few younger men.
Is your hubbie younger?
"Age is but a number" - Jimmy Savile.
🤮🤢
You should try someone like 5 to 10 years younger. You never know. 🤣🤣
Saville was a predator and a pedo. He had sex with kids, hence the 🤮🤢.
I’ve had rships with a few younger men.
Is your hubbie younger?
He was also a gerontophile.
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To his mother? 🤮
"Age is but a number" - Jimmy Savile.
🤮🤢
You should try someone like 5 to 10 years younger. You never know. 🤣🤣
Saville was a predator and a pedo. He had sex with kids, hence the 🤮🤢.
I’ve had rships with a few younger men.
Is your hubbie younger?
He was also a gerontophile.
To his mother? 🤮
It was reported his oldest victim was 75.
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He was such a shithead
His mother really did a number on him👎🏻
"Age is but a number" - Jimmy Savile.
🤮🤢
You should try someone like 5 to 10 years younger. You never know. 🤣🤣
Saville was a predator and a pedo. He had sex with kids, hence the 🤮🤢.
I’ve had rships with a few younger men.
Is your hubbie younger?
He was also a gerontophile.
To his mother? 🤮
It was reported his oldest victim was 75.
He was such a shithead
His mother really did a number on him👎🏻
I can't make excuses for him, even if his past was weird he's still a nonce.
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Evil
"Age is but a number" - Jimmy Savile.
🤮🤢
You should try someone like 5 to 10 years younger. You never know. 🤣🤣
Saville was a predator and a pedo. He had sex with kids, hence the 🤮🤢.
I’ve had rships with a few younger men.
Is your hubbie younger?
He was also a gerontophile.
To his mother? 🤮
It was reported his oldest victim was 75.
He was such a shithead
His mother really did a number on him👎🏻
I can't make excuses for him, even if his past was weird he's still a nonce.
Evil
It may sound wrong, but I think the people who protected him and rode his coattails are just as bad. I saw Esther Rantzen being interviewed about and she was like basically "who gives a shit?" He definitely gave her a leg up, but not a leg over. Beyond evil, he was a Hollywood super villain.
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I agree, they are as guilty, the royal family are on that list too
Esther Rantzen, an advocate for Childline? What a disgusting human being
"Age is but a number" - Jimmy Savile.
🤮🤢
You should try someone like 5 to 10 years younger. You never know. 🤣🤣
Saville was a predator and a pedo. He had sex with kids, hence the 🤮🤢.
I’ve had rships with a few younger men.
Is your hubbie younger?
I wasn't referring to Saville...God...I just googled him! That's disgusting!
Yeah mine's younger but has a mindset of an old man... I swear! He's not that young..definitely not in his 20s.
All of my exes were older...much much older but none has the capabilities of thinking like a real man. Childish asf and the ex Aqua was still trying to argue with me despite me ignoring him from day one of our divorce. He was like 5 years older. The ex Libra who couldn't make up his mind about our son. Yikes!
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Yes he was the devil
A younger man suits your energy .... you’d need one to keep up🤣
Does ex Libra daddy still see his son? How many kids do you have?
"Age is but a number" - Jimmy Savile.
🤮🤢
You should try someone like 5 to 10 years younger. You never know. 🤣🤣
Saville was a predator and a pedo. He had sex with kids, hence the 🤮🤢.
I’ve had rships with a few younger men.
Is your hubbie younger?
I wasn't referring to Saville...God...I just googled him! That's disgusting!
Yeah mine's younger but has a mindset of an old man... I swear! He's not that young..definitely not in his 20s.
All of my exes were older...much much older but none has the capabilities of thinking like a real man. Childish asf and the ex Aqua was still trying to argue with me despite me ignoring him from day one of our divorce. He was like 5 years older. The ex Libra who couldn't make up his mind about our son. Yikes!
Yes he was the devil
A younger man suits your energy .... you’d need one to keep up🤣
Does ex Libra daddy still see his son? How many kids do you have?
Haha! Yeah my energy can be crazy. I can't really sit still without doing nothing hence why I did live selling just to kill time during COVID when we can't freaking travel.
Nope..when Libra was 50/50 about his decisions, I told him ok np, you can go f yourself. I raised my Aqua son alone, along with my 2 other kids with ex Aqua.
Last I heard, he was still alone..the Libra I mean.
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So both Leeb and Aqua were absent fathers? Why was that? Are they just very weak?
"Age is but a number" - Jimmy Savile.
🤮🤢
You should try someone like 5 to 10 years younger. You never know. 🤣🤣
Saville was a predator and a pedo. He had sex with kids, hence the 🤮🤢.
I’ve had rships with a few younger men.
Is your hubbie younger?
I wasn't referring to Saville...God...I just googled him! That's disgusting!
Yeah mine's younger but has a mindset of an old man... I swear! He's not that young..definitely not in his 20s.
All of my exes were older...much much older but none has the capabilities of thinking like a real man. Childish asf and the ex Aqua was still trying to argue with me despite me ignoring him from day one of our divorce. He was like 5 years older. The ex Libra who couldn't make up his mind about our son. Yikes!
Yes he was the devil
A younger man suits your energy .... you’d need one to keep up🤣
Does ex Libra daddy still see his son? How many kids do you have?
Haha! Yeah my energy can be crazy. I can't really sit still without doing nothing hence why I did live selling just to kill time during COVID when we can't freaking travel.
Nope..when Libra was 50/50 about his decisions, I told him ok np, you can go f yourself. I raised my Aqua son alone, along with my 2 other kids with ex Aqua.
Last I heard, he was still alone..the Libra I mean.
So both Leeb and Aqua were absent fathers? Why was that? Are they just very weak?
Only Leeb. Ex Aqua was there but not great with parenting skills. When we were together, I was the one who took care of all three. Imagine me going to the market with them when they were all toddlers and 1&2 years apart. Gosh!
Current Aqua is way better with everything!
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You deserve a medal ma’am
Flakey Leeb, I always found Aquas to be more dependable
As I will be 41 this year,
Men in their 20s have no place in my life. They need to be out making bad decisions. Learning and growing.
Even the status that they carry is too low compared to what I have.
Im a Venus in Capricorn and have Saturn sq Venus, so on paper it shows that I may love a younger guy but look they can’t even afford the types of dinners I have.
Even 30 year old men are trailing behind me.
When I was in my 20s and 30s, I found older men to be disgusting perverts.
Very shallow - love don’t pay no bills. CREAM
Very tight restrictions
Very overly critical
This ain’t child’s play over here
Imma real ass bitch with some real ass bills
Dying single and alone 🤣😂
Is that supposed to be a threat or some sort of promise, runner up in the contest of life.
Poor me, oh no
Nooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo
Save me Tom Cruise
No, dying single and alone
Help me pumpkin spice latte!!!
The thought of dying alone and single…
You know what you’re right!
I better get my shit together and just settle for the dude with 5 baby mamas, two felonies, and $ 20 bucks to his name. Sure, he doesn’t have a 401k but hey, his rap career is going to take off any day now.
Yes, yes. He’s a real winner.
I sure can pick ‘em.
Making mama proud.
Venus Square Saturn In Women
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Their insecurities make it very difficult for them to have meaningful romantic relationships. They are filled with doubt about their romantic interests and aren’t able to trust that anyone truly likes them.
Despite the crippling anxiety over social validation, women influenced by Venus square Saturn are kind and generous. They are intelligent, but not always aware of their own talent.
If you are influenced by this aspect, increasing your self-esteem should be your highest priority. You are highly talented and worthy of love and affection.
The reason you can’t form any meaningful relationships is because you have an extremely low opinion of yourself. If you realize your own capabilities, you will be much more confident in the presence of others.
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You definitely have a lot of challenges in life, but dealing with them will help you emerge as a strong and resilient woman.
What does it mean if someone has Venus opposite Saturn but both venus and saturn are in retrograde?
I smash girls in their early to mid 20s np and I'm 36. The rest of yall regulars will struggle.
Proof
I don't need to prove anything to you average bloke.
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I like someone who is 8 years older than me and I'm 21 so I thinks age gaps are okay as long as both people are adults, What do you guys think?