Is my boyfriend a narcissist?

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loonylibra
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He's very superficial in the way that he seems too perfect, always happy even his family is in on it. They're too nice. He's super clingy and when I asked for some space he became passive aggressive and had sort of a tantrum. At times I feel drained from talking to him. I don't know if this is all in my head because I've dealt with a narcissist before and with him it's a little different. It hasn't gotten as bad as it could be so sometimes I wonder if it's happening at all. Please give me feedback if you have information. It's all really hard to wrap my head around. Thank you.
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omg.. no fucking wonder... you bitches equate abuse with being happy and nonabuse as being unhappy. interesting story.
Are you familiar with sarcasm.

Your not very perceptive are you.
you sounded dead serious. I can't tell based off of the deadness in this thread. I'm sorry.
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Your forgiven.

I think op just doesn't believe she's worthy of someone who sees value in her. Which is why she's throwing out narcissistic labels. He cares about me and is happy all the time? Something MUST be wrong with him!
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He's very superficial in the way that he seems too perfect, always happy even his family is in on it. They're too nice. He's super clingy and when I asked for some space he became passive aggressive and had sort of a tantrum. At times I feel drained from talking to him. I don't know if this is all in my head because I've dealt with a narcissist before and with him it's a little different. It hasn't gotten as bad as it could be so sometimes I wonder if it's happening at all. Please give me feedback if you have information. It's all really hard to wrap my head around. Thank you.
More information definitely needed but the fact that he reacts in a passive aggressive manner at your request for some space is enough cause for concern.
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I'm only replying to you because you seem like the only that understands narcissistic behavior. None of this has anything to do with zodiac signs. And there's not much information I can give you because the relationship is still young. He doesn't tell me anything deeply. It's on the surface as in he never talks about his emotions or his past hurt. He wants to come across as happy and that nothing is ever wrong but that's so fake to me. It's a facade that he's hiding behind and I know it. That's narcissistic behavior if you guys would look it up instead of just saying I'm stupid and jumping to conclusions.

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loonylibra
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Your bf, what's his sign? My wild guess would be one of the fire signs, yes?

What made you think he's a narcissist? That he seems to be always happy? What's wrong with that?

I dont see anything wrong based on what you wrote, tbh.
A narcissist is someone that hides behind a facade. It seems fake to me is all. Obviously you guys dont truly know what narcissism is
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He's very superficial in the way that he seems too perfect, always happy even his family is in on it. They're too nice. He's super clingy and when I asked for some space he became passive aggressive and had sort of a tantrum. At times I feel drained from talking to him. I don't know if this is all in my head because I've dealt with a narcissist before and with him it's a little different. It hasn't gotten as bad as it could be so sometimes I wonder if it's happening at all. Please give me feedback if you have information. It's all really hard to wrap my head around. Thank you.
I'm assuming that people have gaslighted you before?
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Yes
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Narcissism would be like if he was being into himself and was selfish. Someone after his own needs. And yeah a superficial air about him.

If he treats you well then why do you think he's a narcissist?
It seems fake. Like he's trying to lure me in and get me under his spell. I know it sounds like paranoia but it's a gut feeling I guess

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Well if you feel like he might be putting on a fake air with you that can't be good. The last thing someone should be in a relationship is fake. ๐Ÿ˜ข