@puhleeze
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do men like being pursued?
Do Men Prefer to Be Pursued or Chased
Many men appreciate honesty and confidence in pursuing relationships but often prefer a challenge that sparks their interest. While some feel flattered by direct approaches, others may be more attracted to partners who play hard to get. Preferences vary, and individual personalities influence whether men like being pursued or seeking the chase.
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Posted by Librasetting
That's fine but the answers is no.. because there's this thing called flirting to let a man know you're interested
yes, lets say the reason she wants to express her feelings is because there have been hints or flirting from both sides but he is not making a move. or he seems to like her but she is unsure because he is not saying anything. should she make the first move in this case? or should she just drop hints and let him do the asking? because she is not 100% sure he will. but she is also not sure if he is just the shy type that needs pursuing.
If he's a Virgo, yes. Not necessarily pursue, but be there and make the first move.
My Gem used to haunt my old workplace and would always strike up a conversation/flirt his ass off with me. I was always receptive cause dude was fine as fuck. But...nothing...came...of...it...
A few years later I was back at my old workplace redoing the landscape. He would stop by and offer to lend a hand/pick up a shovel and we fell back into our chatty flirtaceaous thing. I was leaving for the day and on a whim invited him out for drinks with me and a few friends. We ended up going off on our own. Maybe it was the liquid courage but he stepped up and kissed me at the end of the night.
I made the first move and it worked out for me *shrug
He told me much later, after I asked him if he was ever gonna balls up and make his move, that he thought I was way out of his league/wouldn't go for it.
So if I hadn't harnessed my fire parts and asked him out for that initial 'date' maybe we would've still been stuck in an eternal dance around each other.
Posted by puhleeze
some men here say why not, if he is not making a move, go ahead and let him know you are interested in him, but does that really work? the guys seem flattered and appreciate her courage and honesty but seem to want someone challenging. is that true. how many guys here would get serious with someone who approached them. or would they go after the one who is not giving it to them easy.
I would and have on several occasions. A taurus guy I know, tall with model-looks, was pursued and (captured?) eventually married the pisces who pursued him.
A virgo I know was pursued and married a female virgo who did the same.
That's all I know off the top of my head.
Once the relationship gets started, it doesnt really matter much on who made the first move. It's not an issue.
Posted by Librasetting
That's fine but the answers is no.. because there's this thing called flirting to let a man know you're interestedyes, lets say the reason she wants to express her feelings is because there have been hints or flirting from both sides but he is not making a move. or he seems to like her but she is unsure because he is not saying anything. should she make the first move in this case? or should she just drop hints and let him do the asking? because she is not 100% sure he will. but she is also not sure if he is just the shy type that needs pursuing.
In my opinion if you're both flirting and he hasn't made a move I'm going to have to say he's scared to...I just know me and I'll always will say no if a female directly asks me out.
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okay so if you are scared to ask, but also will always say no if a female asks, then how do things take off for you?
Posted by irreconcilabledifferences
i don't speak to people i don't like so if you want to pursue me i'm an easy progression with maybe 2 mos of vanishing but we'll get there as long as you show loyalty and a constant pining to be with me
so basically accept the disappearing without questioning but also always be there waiting? but even then who make the first slow move? or you are saying it is okay if she makes the move, just that she may not get an answer for years?
Posted by tiziani
Just show me what you want and, when I give it to you, tell me I'm doing it right. I'll do more of it from there on in.
i did read somewhere that the way to a libra man's heart is flattery, praise, compliments. is that correct?
Posted by Librasetting
That's fine but the answers is no.. because there's this thing called flirting to let a man know you're interestedyes, lets say the reason she wants to express her feelings is because there have been hints or flirting from both sides but he is not making a move. or he seems to like her but she is unsure because he is not saying anything. should she make the first move in this case? or should she just drop hints and let him do the asking? because she is not 100% sure he will. but she is also not sure if he is just the shy type that needs pursuing.
In my opinion if you're both flirting and he hasn't made a move I'm going to have to say he's scared to...I just know me and I'll always will say no if a female directly asks me out.
okay so if you are scared to ask, but also will always say no if a female asks, then how do things take off for you?
I think you got confused....if a female is flirting with me I'm going to ask her out but if she directly ask me to go out I will say no.
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ok good. then if he is not asking even after flirting on his and her side, then maybe he is just not interested and it is best that the female does not ask him out?
Or is it that men like being pursued by women they find attractive? For those they don't find attractive...not so much...
Posted by tiziani
Just show me what you want and, when I give it to you, tell me I'm doing it right. I'll do more of it from there on in.i did read somewhere that the way to a libra man's heart is flattery, praise, compliments. is that correct?
It's catering to male ego imo.
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men can be very confusing.
Posted by jeane
Or is it that men like being pursued by women they find attractive? For those they don't find attractive...not so much...
in that case it is not that frustrating if the interest is one sided and you give it a try. the frustration is when both seem interested but no one makes a move, or the female waits for the male to make the move because she doesn't want him to lose interest because she made the move.
The way I see it, if I am pursued then that person is more attracted to me and have less to lose
If I pursue then I am more attracted to that person and more is at stake
Posted by jeane
Or is it that men like being pursued by women they find attractive? For those they don't find attractive...not so much...in that case it is not that frustrating if the interest is one sided and you give it a try. the frustration is when both seem interested but no one makes a move, or the female waits for the male to make the move because she doesn't want him to lose interest because she made the move.
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I find it difficult to imagine a man rejecting a woman he finds attractive solely because she made the first move.
Posted by The_eleventh_sign_11
The way I see it, if I am pursued then that person is more attracted to me and have less to loseIf I pursue then I am more attracted to that person and more is at stake
nicely put. that is the reason why people hesitate to make the first move i guess. sad part is both may be equally interested but not make a move due to the high stakes reason.
Posted by jeane
Or is it that men like being pursued by women they find attractive? For those they don't find attractive...not so much...in that case it is not that frustrating if the interest is one sided and you give it a try. the frustration is when both seem interested but no one makes a move, or the female waits for the male to make the move because she doesn't want him to lose interest because she made the move.
I find it difficult to imagine a man rejecting a woman he finds attractive solely because she made the first move.
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maybe because men like challenge and the chase? at least that is what women are made to believe. and also you see it that just when you start to return someone's interest, they start losing interest or start pulling back.
Scorpio mum with Scorpio stepdad. She pursued him. It was a joke at their wedding how he had to ask his bro "whats her name again" after like their 3rd date PFFFFT! HAHA! They couldn't live or even imagine life without each other now. I want what they have 🙂
Posted by jeane
Or is it that men like being pursued by women they find attractive? For those they don't find attractive...not so much...in that case it is not that frustrating if the interest is one sided and you give it a try. the frustration is when both seem interested but no one makes a move, or the female waits for the male to make the move because she doesn't want him to lose interest because she made the move.
I find it difficult to imagine a man rejecting a woman he finds attractive solely because she made the first move.
maybe because men like challenge and the chase? at least that is what women are made to believe. and also you see it that just when you start to return someone's interest, they start losing interest or start pulling back.
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Yes. You have a point.
Though, I don't think playing hard to get ever works does it? Game playing in general is more a turn off than a brassy broad any day of the week I would imagine.
Posted by irreconcilabledifferences
Posted by jeane
Or is it that men like being pursued by women they find attractive? For those they don't find attractive...not so much...some women have all the power
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Hmm, I think thats the core of it isn't it? Power, perceived power and the male ego.
From what I've seen, the more options a man has, the less likely he is to be attracted to a woman who makes the first move.
When you have a ton of women pining after you, it's natural to be more appreciative of those you have to work for, as flattery isn't something unfamiliar. There are exceptions, but they're rare.
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some men here say why not, if he is not making a move, go ahead and let him know you are interested in him, but does that really work? the guys seem flattered and appreciate her courage and honesty but seem to want someone challenging. is that true. how many guys here would get serious with someone who approached them. or would they go after the one who is not giving it to them easy.