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Posted by BlackMamba
There's three children? Is he the eldest?
Mom, sis, brother (I am assuming elder).
A 5 bedroom, 3 bath house. 1.76 acres.
No father in the picture (he left).
Posted by BlackMamba
The other sibling? Does he/she help?
Was in school, education was being paid for out of (more or less) rent being paid by OP and the brother.
I'm guessing if the mother works, she's not pulling in much.
From the OP:
we lived together - with his mother and sister. I just wanted it to be the two of us
Brother, sister, mom, and OP.
Posted by Ands2016
apex males provide for their parents and put their siblings to school. women are just there to help the apex.Virgo is apex male! What else can you tell us about these ppl?
they will only truly think about dating/ marriage after they have fulfilled all their duties of being the apex male because it doesn't detract from being the .001% of the 1% .
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o.O
In this case, they will never end.
He's married to his momma.
Posted by GreyWiz
she was taking advantage of his good heart and dumped him probably trying to find a richer man. she cares nothing about him. I just hope has enough sense to share it with someone who loves and cares for him.where is a evil gemini when you need one?
Shut up. You weiner.
your vag is sore or something wittle ram girl? aww
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Ever since you've come back it's a whole lot of pussy whining.
Leo dudes are so ridiculous when butthurt. Flat out whiny, pouty toddlers. Evolve already.
Posted by GreyWiz
He makes 500K though! I can't even call him a mommas boy or beta male or anything. I just can't. He is winning financially. He would put most so called independent dxp guys to shame.wtf does he not get out of there and enjoy his life? I just can't process this shit story. can i see his chart please? does he have mars and moon in cancer or something? Is his mom's cooking that great?
fuck.
He's making $ 500k after-the-fact, not while the Sag was staying there.
He was pulling in $ 100k while the scenario was happening, in a location where a 550 sq ft apartment costs $ 1,100.
A house in such a location is also going to be expensive, and if the father, who left, was the sole breadwinner, mortgage payments need to be made or there is foreclosure.
No positive confirmation that there was actually a "relationship", except via terms used by the OP.
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Dude, it's a ridiculous comfort level thing. He could easily move out without any issues and still afford to help mom out (keep in mind, OP said the house has been paid off, so mom doesn't have a mortgage to worry about anymore). So not only do we have a momma's boy thing going, but a spoiled asshole thing going. He's comfortable. Mommy still is around to do his laundry and he doesn't have to worry about real world expenses.
I know someone like this. He makes 6 figures and has been for at least 6 years now. Always spoke of saving up for a house once he got this 6 figure job.
Here we are, 6 years later and he's still in a roommate situation, only paying 500 a month. Why? Because he's comfortable in the fact he has so much play money for expensive hobbies. Moving out like an adult with adult expenses means all his play money goes out the door. Meanwhile, he's accrued 4 motorcycles, all the equipment that goes with track racing, a new truck, a big TV, pricey electronics, etc.
Dude has zero intent. Nevermind when his roommate was contemplating moving out of the house and just putting it up for rent, he was trying to talk her out of it because he didn't want to have to actually do house hunting. God forbid he lose out on his sweet deal.
These are classic cases of man children who refuse to grow up and just want to stay put because they're comfortable and getting all their needs met. They're lost causes because guys who refuse to grow up are not relationship material. The OP is realizing this the hard way.
Dude, it's a ridiculous comfort level thing. He could easily move out without any issues and still afford to help mom out (keep in mind, OP said the house has been paid off, so mom doesn't have a mortgage to worry about anymore). So not only do we have a momma's boy thing going, but a spoiled asshole thing going. He's comfortable. Mommy still is around to do his laundry and he doesn't have to worry about real world expenses.
I know someone like this. He makes 6 figures and has been for at least 6 years now. Always spoke of saving up for a house once he got this 6 figure job.
Here we are, 6 years later and he's still in a roommate situation, only paying 500 a month. Why? Because he's comfortable in the fact he has so much play money for expensive hobbies. Moving out like an adult with adult expenses means all his play money goes out the door. Meanwhile, he's accrued 4 motorcycles, all the equipment that goes with track racing, a new truck, a big TV, pricey electronics, etc.
Dude has zero intent. Nevermind when his roommate was contemplating moving out of the house and just putting it up for rent, he was trying to talk her out of it because he didn't want to have to actually do house hunting. God forbid he lose out on his sweet deal.
These are classic cases of man children who refuse to grow up and just want to stay put because they're comfortable and getting all their needs met. They're lost causes because guys who refuse to grow up are not relationship material. The OP is realizing this the hard way.
Its all in the timing....
If he and myself had moved out and got our own place, he wouldnt have the $ 40K to buy in to be an owner when they asked.
He stayed because their father left his mom and she needed help paying the mortgage.
Once the house was paid off his mom was paying for his sister to go to college- the same time I was going.
So he dated to help pay bills so his mom could pay for his sister to go to school so she wouldn't have to work like I did and be stressed out.click to expandI'm not going to jump on the momma's boy or man-child thing just yet.
Only the last hour of the day is Cancer Moon at 0 degree. And that is coupled with Gemini Rising.
Posted by Ands2016
apex males provide for their parents and put their siblings to school. women are just there to help the apex.I'm just imagining the romcom scene where she finally finds love with a down-to-earth guy and her ex's mother turns up out of nowhere to crash their lunch
mother of Mr Wrong: "I'll level with you. My son is that guy. He is that apex male. (slams fist on the table) are you really going to sit here and tell me that this.... this Matt the manlet here... is more your cup of tea—? ridiculous" (storms out)
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I met once such a family.
His sister took side to become the good cop.
His parents were the bad cops.
I canceled any meeting with the guy cause I knew already about the stories of his two previous marriages and divorces. Always the girl was wrong with them.
Yeah, they were/are a strong family altogether.
No, thanks!
After reading the whole scoop, your Leo reminds me of my kids dad. My Venus is sag while his is Virgo. I always thought the worst of our situation; courtesy of my Virgo moon. He has asag woman now yet claim their doing great barely argue or have problems. So chances are you may just have to reach out to him
Posted by mysteriousTaurus
She works in marketing... she's set... that's a great career.. for all your retards now, she could be making more money than him hahahahokay. this is the stupidest response i have seen. taurus you have failed.
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No my friend, are you stupid?
Posted by GreyWiz
libralula please give this guy a call.😆
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lol
it's serious. 😄
OP, place his Phone number here. or PM members for the number.
Posted by Ands2016
apex males provide for their parents and put their siblings to school. women are just there to help the apex.I'm just imagining the romcom scene where she finally finds love with a down-to-earth guy and her ex's mother turns up out of nowhere to crash their lunch
mother of Mr Wrong: "I'll level with you. My son is that guy. He is that apex male. (slams fist on the table) are you really going to sit here and tell me that this.... this Matt the manlet here... is more your cup of tea—? ridiculous" (storms out)
if only matthew mconaughey's career would slump and he had to do rom coms again i think he could play a 33 year old leo!
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😆 😆
i've noticed that Ryan Gosling and Ryan Reynolds (Scorpio/libra cusper) has moved OUT of romcoms too, and into more thriller and actiony films.
it's a graduated step.
they're all libra dominants (Venusian for love) so the RomCom stuff wasn't too far off for them 😆 heehee.
Posted by Ands2016
apex males provide for their parents and put their siblings to school. women are just there to help the apex.I'm just imagining the romcom scene where she finally finds love with a down-to-earth guy and her ex's mother turns up out of nowhere to crash their lunch
mother of Mr Wrong: "I'll level with you. My son is that guy. He is that apex male. (slams fist on the table) are you really going to sit here and tell me that this.... this Matt the manlet here... is more your cup of tea—? ridiculous" (storms out)
if only matthew mconaughey's career would slump and he had to do rom coms again i think he could play a 33 year old leo!
😆 😆
i've noticed that Ryan Gosling and Ryan Reynolds (Scorpio/libra cusper) has moved OUT of romcoms too, and into more thriller and actiony films.
it's a graduated step.
if i were an actor i'd pick hugh grant's career over those 2. hugh barely lifts a finger, doesn't have to bulk up for shit to be a superhero, the most action he's seen is when he climed a gate or wall in notting hill and he gets paid millions!
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what about pierce brosnan—
😛
his name came up during dinner time.
Posted by CancerOnTheCusp
I'm not going to jump on the momma's boy or man-child thing just yet.
I am. You can talk "timing" and family obligations all you want, but the fact that his mom still has so much say in his life as well as saying such fucked shit to the OP says a lot about the situation. There's a difference between helping out mom and still acting like a teen boy that can't have an adult life because of her.
I grew up in a situation of having to support a parent who was suddenly left a single parent with two kids. It's one thing to make sure you're doing well for yourself and to look out for family in the process. This guy has more than enough income to ensure that, yet he still parks his ass at home, wants to go out and party, and will neglect his "girlfriend" in the process.
Not only is he not ready to settle down, but he is also quite comfortable with his situation and doesn't seem to be in a rush to move out and be an adult. The mortgage is paid off, so I'm not understanding his concerns about her wellbeing in that aspect. She obviously can afford enough if she's footing the bill for her kids' school. Kid going to school = college tuition. It's safe to say that if mom is footing the bill, chances are that daughter didn't qualify for any grants, which leans toward their finances not being THAT dire.
Overall, everything going on on his side is just strange as fuck and doesn't make a whole hell of a lot of sense. The OP can partially blame herself for tolerating so much to begin with because it was red flag city when she elaborated. It seems as if she was living in a haze of "happiness" and wasn't paying all that much attention to the details. The guy sounds like a self absorbed douche, tbh.
Both sides are guilty in varying aspects as well. Reality caught up to everyone and the end result was parting ways.
Posted by aquapiscescusp
it's bad enough he still lived at homebut you went to live there too?
WHYYY
this. 100%
i know that in some cultures, the couple lives with the parents until the parents get old and the couple ends up taking care of them.
so maybe that may the case too in your case, that it's pure culture.
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That's not the impression I got... But you might be right.
Men who still live at home past 30
Red flag ladies
Posted by aquapiscescusp
Men who still live at home past 30Red flag ladies
my sister's husband and my husband 100% if they hadn't met us. lol 😆
the only one is the virgo who isn't a 4th houser or cancer dominant. 😄 😄 Sooo funny!!
they'd definitely live with their momma's till the end of time!! omg. even if they have good jobs, ect.
and their momma's are the types of momma that wouldn't mind one bit!!! they;d love that.
although the virgo's momma is a good momma, (she has tons of pets at home and takes care of children/day care for work all the time)
Posted by CancerOnTheCusp
I'm not going to jump on the momma's boy or man-child thing just yet.... the fact that his mom still has so much say in his life as well as saying such fucked shit to the OP says a lot about the situation. ....
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I agree totally.
If Mom is only OP's friend, she should have kept it to herself.
By saying this thing to OP, she is trying to get a reaction. Hence she is involved. And why exactly?
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He's making $ 500k after-the-fact, not while the Sag was staying there.
He was pulling in $ 100k while the scenario was happening, in a location where a 550 sq ft apartment costs $ 1,100.
A house in such a location is also going to be expensive, and if the father, who left, was the sole breadwinner, mortgage payments need to be made or there is foreclosure.
No positive confirmation that there was actually a "relationship", except via terms used by the OP.
Never read the headlines in the newspaper, the devil is in the details.