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You say you wish he would have said this or wish he would have said that. Did you specifically ask him these things? Did you do YOUR best to communicate to him what you wanted from him or what you were worried or unhappy about? Or were you waiting for him to say something? Waiting for him to notice you were unhappy? I don't think I could believe you if you said that you did your very best to communicate with him.
I'd also suggest for you to look over your relationship with his family. If you are that close to them, what happens when he finds someone else? It could turn out awkward, painful, and who knows what else. Do you truly feel like you've broken up and he'll never be apart of your life again? Are you ready to accept that he may or is moved past you and what you two had? Healing takes time, no doubt, but if you don't take the necessary steps to do so, it's going to cause you more pain and for a longer period of time.
I hope none of that came off too rude. You're feeling down right now and I hope you can move forward. I think you have some important things you need to work out, however.
I'd also suggest for you to look over your relationship with his family. If you are that close to them, what happens when he finds someone else? It could turn out awkward, painful, and who knows what else. Do you truly feel like you've broken up and he'll never be apart of your life again? Are you ready to accept that he may or is moved past you and what you two had? Healing takes time, no doubt, but if you don't take the necessary steps to do so, it's going to cause you more pain and for a longer period of time.
I hope none of that came off too rude. You're feeling down right now and I hope you can move forward. I think you have some important things you need to work out, however.
Posted by HeartOnMySleeveSagzero privacy
She was miserable because she couldn't walk around naked, fuck anywhere in the house and scream loudly while doing so. She stated she had her own place, it's an adjustment to go from ruling your own castle to having to be under the rules of another. 2 queens can't rule one.
I kean, I like random late-night sex in the dining room. I'd be miserable too.
I mean isn't it clear to you that you wanted a house more than you wanted to be with him?
To the OP...you f*cked up when you broke up with him for not getting a joint bank account. Point blank. Lol...how can you feel entitled to access to someone else's money...how ?
You had your own place.
If you wanted alone time with him you could have had it there. But you move in with him and multiple people thinking this would bring you closer...makes no sense.
You set yourself up for failure with your attitude of entitlement.
You had your own place.
If you wanted alone time with him you could have had it there. But you move in with him and multiple people thinking this would bring you closer...makes no sense.
You set yourself up for failure with your attitude of entitlement.
Posted by seaclovers
I dated this guy (Leo, 33) Im a Sagittarius, 28; for 4 years, lived together; Broke up last December (1 year ago) towards the end I wasn't entirely happy in our relationship, because I never felt or knew if we were on the same page,or if we had a future together. I never saw him mad, sad, upset etc. he was always in a good mood, but he also was terrible at expressing his feelings. I never knew where we stood. But we were best friends and everything was pretty amazing 90% of the time. I just wanted our own place to live our lives together.
I was upset because he still lived with his mother, but made over $ 100K a year. I wanted our own place so badly, we lived together - with his mother and sister. I just wanted it to be the two of us. Long story short, One of the last things we talked about - mind you, we never fought - was about saving to buy a house. We chit chatted about mortgages and stuff, but when i asked to start a joint savings account to save for the down payment, He said "I'm not ready for that", and that how we broke up. I was done.
Yesterday I went to lunch with his mother- who I am still pretty close to and we were just catching up when she mentioned he was offered an opportunity to be an owner of the company he worked for, but it also entailed $ 40K to buy-in. It is a lucrative company, and he's worked really hard to become a partner.
So naturally I was really excited and happy for him until his mom told me she asked him where he got the money because even she didnt know he had that much saved up. He said it was supposed to have been for me and him for a house...............
I was confused when she told me this because he never told me a single thing about it while we were together. I never expected him to tell me about the money, all I wanted was reassurance that ""we were Ok, and there was a future for us".
Why would someone save money for a house to be with someone, and then keep it from them, and watch them be miserable the last year or so of their relationship?
I feel a million times more shitty about our breakup because i thought he didn't care, or didn't care about us, and now i feel like he LET ME be miserable and never tried to do anything about it. He let it unfold because he didnt care anymore or I have no idea why.
Why couldnt he have told me? If he just would have said "we are ok, lets work through this", I wouldn't have been half as miserable as I was.
I was trying to be optimistic about the whole situation. Like: its best that it worked out this way because He didnt know the owners were going to ask him to be a partner so soon. He was told 3 years. They asked before 1 year. If he and myself had moved out and got our own place, he wouldnt have the $ 40K to buy in to be an owner when they asked. So part of me kept trying
Posted by BlackMamba
500k ... You're an idiot! That's good security. Hopefully he finds a crab!
Nothing wrong with a little financial security
Is that how you define gold digger, call it security now days.
@greywiz
I am utterly appalled you would say such obscene things to me. Did you even read past my initial posts when I extrapolated on the issues?
I am utterly appalled you would say such obscene things to me. Did you even read past my initial posts when I extrapolated on the issues?
Posted by GreyWizPosted by seacloverssorry but i can't accept you belittling him like that. It just pissed me off. You should have tried to work it out better. He would not have stayed with her forever. She maybe manipulating him but he would have left eventually.
@greywiz
I am utterly appalled you would say such obscene things to me. Did you even read past my initial posts when I extrapolated on the issues?
The only thing he will remember is you mocking him while he was doing what he was doing. It makes me angry,click to expand
Mmmm, I think the Leo was.doing some of the manipulating here. I.don't think he intended to stay with her and never wamted to talk about any real issues that bothered her and covering it up with a happy face all the time. When she tried to open up, he put up his emotional wall and just.expected her.to go with his flow. Doesn't work that way, he played a role in it too.
Posted by Impulsv+1
He's was a mamas boy
Now he is rich mamas boy.. Nothing will change u wil be last over his mother n family. The fact u spoke ur needs n he dismissed them u did the right thing u deserve better . No money in the world is worth being with a dismissive man.
When a dude says "I don't know what to say" when you're upset or pointing out something that they're doing that's unhappy, it's the most dickhead comment one can say. In one statement, they're dismissing your feelings as well as basically saying "I cannot formulate any sort of response that will make this better."
Her update basically described something that wasn't going to work and she knew that a long time ago. She was desperately trying to keep it going but this thing was DOA a few years ago. It was just a matter of time. You cannot have a healthy, functioning relationship when the other isn't willing to compromise or try. He did the typical, "I'll do it for a little bit and slide back into my ways so she won't notice and I don't have to really change."
Guys who half ass efforts like that aren't worth keeping around. It'll just continue to be a cycle like that. You can thank his mom for that, btw. She taught him it's okay to do that.
Posted by GreyWizShut up. You weiner.
she was taking advantage of his good heart and dumped him probably trying to find a richer man. she cares nothing about him. I just hope has enough sense to share it with someone who loves and cares for him.
where is a evil gemini when you need one?
You either deal with a broke man or a busy man. Being supportive of one's lifestyle and goals shouldn't go by the way side once you've achieved your means to an end. What if you actually wanted to pursue a PhD rather than a four year degree? Wouldn't you have stayed? It sounds like you already knew he was trying to become a partner in what sounds like a lucrative business arrangement. That's NO small feat and certainly usually consumes one's life for a lonnnnnnng time. You probably were relieved to get your degree and albeit was grateful for the arrangement when you needed it to do just that. I honestly don't think you're a gold digger, but I do think that you attempted to change the rules of engagement when your own personal goal was met. I get it, but at the same time...own it. You didn't NEED the arrangement anymore and so you WANTED something else. Many couples who are building stability at the same time live like roomies for a while until their goals are met. His was a bit bigger than yours and has taken longer. You went from the team of us to the team of me. You lost focus of the long term goal, because you felt like you didn't have a secure spot on the team. Sometimes you have to sit on the bench and let others do what they have to in order to put points on the scoreboard. You still had a team jersey didn't you? Sometimes...that's all that matters. Especially in a high stakes situation like that with maximum rewards. You turned in your jersey too early Babe. Face it.
Zodiac : Tropical
Sun Leo 21°44'
Moon Gemini 23°32'
Mercury Virgo 10°43'
Venus Leo 0°31'
Mars Scorpio 6°41'
Jupiter Scorpio 3°41'
Saturn Libra 18°05'
Uranus Sagittarius 0°35'
Neptune Sagittarius 24°25' R
Pluto Libra 24°36'
Lilith Capricorn 6°06'
Asc node Cancer 12°44'
Sun Leo 21°44'
Moon Gemini 23°32'
Mercury Virgo 10°43'
Venus Leo 0°31'
Mars Scorpio 6°41'
Jupiter Scorpio 3°41'
Saturn Libra 18°05'
Uranus Sagittarius 0°35'
Neptune Sagittarius 24°25' R
Pluto Libra 24°36'
Lilith Capricorn 6°06'
Asc node Cancer 12°44'
sn cap, moon gemini, lilith cap
maybe he is not that emotional after all?
maybe he is not that emotional after all?
Both of you have Scorpio Mars.
Pretty sure there was a lot of resentment and passive aggressiveness on both sides.
Pretty sure there was a lot of resentment and passive aggressiveness on both sides.
Posted by seacloversWhy are you so convinced those money would have been spent on getting a house for you both?
that I have knowledge that I was utterly wrong
Maybe he never wanted that to begin with.
Posted by seacloversIt's unclear to me why you have such a false belief that he owes you the attention of a boyfriend. According to you, the vibe was just friends. Sounds to me like you're not all there.
Basically the flow of our relationship was that we were best friends.
Posted by seacloversYour differing schedules was the REAL reason why you two didn't see each other ... it had nothing to do with where you lived. You have plucked a reason out of the air to make claim that it is as fault, such as: our own place .... when in reality, it's wasn't living arrangements, it was work schedules.
What started to bother me about our relationship is I WANTED TIME with him.
.... us working opposite schedules and barely seeing each other.
Posted by seacloversAccording to you, the flow of the relationship was just friendship all along .... so that means you actually were a roommate. Perhaps, he tapped it once in a while, so then the real title of the relationship would be fwb
I started to feel like a roommate than his girlfriend.
Posted by seacloversAgain, you attempt to convey that it's the living arrangements which is the problem .... when the reality is still the same = work schedules.
On his days off he'd hang out with his friends, which is fine because I worked, but on my days off-which were during the week, I was lucky if I had a good 2-3 hours at best with him because he was working.
Posted by seacloversAnd here it is again ... even if you had your own place with him, he'd still be sleeping in a separate room because he can't handle staying up all night with you.
.... we slept in separate rooms as well because he's so schedule oriented we couldn't sleep in the same room with me staying up all night doing homework.
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You sound very deluded. You wanted to put pressure on a friend, and he wouldn't have it, and stood his ground on not accepting the pressure you put on him. I would image that the REAL reason for you to be complaining about him not buying a house with you is because you are in a fwb situation and wanted to manipulate it into an actual boy/girl friend relationship. And since you couldn't get him to take you more seriously, you thought that if he had a house with you, then he'd be obligated to you.
The more you say, the more the picture becomes clear ..... you just wanted to manipulate him.
Posted by Ands2016lol
what?! this story is getting crazy. i just wanted to make apex male jokes.
it's not alpha male anymore?😆
he doesn't sound alpha anyway. lmao 😆
secretive momma's boy is what he sounds.
his Scorpio mars makes him secretive of his motives.
also he's got Jupiter Scorpio, perhaps conjunct. And, he's watching how she is, and patience is a virtue. And she has no patience compared to him.
his gemini moon.*shrug* I have no idea!!!
i'm not familiar with Gemini placements in personal planets.
so other ladies who are with geminis/gemini dominants can help out.
secretive momma's boy is what he sounds.
his Scorpio mars makes him secretive of his motives.
also he's got Jupiter Scorpio, perhaps conjunct. And, he's watching how she is, and patience is a virtue. And she has no patience compared to him.
his gemini moon.*shrug* I have no idea!!!
i'm not familiar with Gemini placements in personal planets.
so other ladies who are with geminis/gemini dominants can help out.
Posted by Ands2016how about momma's boy 2016?Posted by lisabethur8yeah alpha male is so 2013 now! 😄Posted by Ands2016lol
what?! this story is getting crazy. i just wanted to make apex male jokes.
it's not alpha male anymore?😆click to expand
that's the new alpha/beta mash up. 😆
Posted by Ands2016lmao
i know what it is though. it's his age. he just entered his clooney years. #boom
heehee! this one!! 😆
well, it's better he is not super alpha, then that'd be too many testosterones and those types of guys cheat alot (not all but they are way too aggressive) sooooo.....OP is Lucky she got a momma's boy.
however he is too much momma's boy. She hasn't been able to have him cut the strings and leave the house no matter how much money he's got. lol
Posted by Arielle83😱
Wait, his mom charged you $ 600 a month while he paid nothing and this was to cover his sister's education?
Yeah, MOMS is in on it, too.
Depending on his time of birth, I believe he could be a cancer moon. That would actually make more sense.
Posted by seaclovers
I dated this guy (Leo, 33) Im a Sagittarius, 28; for 4 years, lived together; Broke up last December (1 year ago) towards the end I wasn't entirely happy in our relationship, because I never felt or knew if we were on the same page,or if we had a future together. I never saw him mad, sad, upset etc. he was always in a good mood, but he also was terrible at expressing his feelings. I never knew where we stood. But we were best friends and everything was pretty amazing 90% of the time. I just wanted our own place to live our lives together.
I was upset because he still lived with his mother, but made over $ 100K a year. I wanted our own place so badly, we lived together - with his mother and sister. I just wanted it to be the two of us. Long story short, One of the last things we talked about - mind you, we never fought - was about saving to buy a house. We chit chatted about mortgages and stuff, but when i asked to start a joint savings account to save for the down payment, He said "I'm not ready for that", and that how we broke up. I was done.
Yesterday I went to lunch with his mother- who I am still pretty close to and we were just catching up when she mentioned he was offered an opportunity to be an owner of the company he worked for, but it also entailed $ 40K to buy-in. It is a lucrative company, and he's worked really hard to become a partner.
So naturally I was really excited and happy for him until his mom told me she asked him where he got the money because even she didnt know he had that much saved up. He said it was supposed to have been for me and him for a house...............
I was confused when she told me this because he never told me a single thing about it while we were together. I never expected him to tell me about the money, all I wanted was reassurance that ""we were Ok, and there was a future for us".
Why would someone save money for a house to be with someone, and then keep it from them, and watch them be miserable the last year or so of their relationship?
I feel a million times more shitty about our breakup because i thought he didn't care, or didn't care about us, and now i feel like he LET ME be miserable and never tried to do anything about it. He let it unfold because he didnt care anymore or I have no idea why.
Why couldnt he have told me? If he just would have said "we are ok, lets work through this", I wouldn't have been half as miserable as I was.
I was trying to be optimistic about the whole situation. Like: its best that it worked out this way because He didnt know the owners were going to ask him to be a partner so soon. He was told 3 years. They asked before 1 year. If he and myself had moved out and got our own place, he wouldnt have the $ 40K to buy in to be an owner when they asked. So part of me kept trying
Posted by Arielle83Posted by MontgomeryNaw what?Posted by Arielle83😱
Wait, his mom charged you $ 600 a month while he paid nothing and this was to cover his sister's education?
Yeah, MOMS is in on it, too.
You jokin?click to expand
What.
We aren't talking about the OP, anymore?
Posted by ashley1734People writing things, mean things because this is projection of what THEY are like.
Man you guys are harsh. Nowhere in that post did I take away that the OP is a gold digger or sore over the fact that she doesn't have a meal ticket/rich partner.
If you aren't gold digger - you won't think about others like that.
It only tells me that THEY are like what they accusing OP to be.
However I don't get why is she speaking of it after so long.
ee if I can rearrange some things and piece this together. A few things jumped out, either because something didn't quite seem to fit or seemed to go in a different direction than what was implied initially....
I dated this guy (Leo, 33) Im a Sagittarius, 28; for 4 years, lived together; Broke up last December (1 year ago) towards the end I wasn't entirely happy in our relationship, because I never felt or knew if we were on the same page,or if we had a future together. I never saw him mad, sad, upset etc. he was always in a good mood, but he also was terrible at expressing his feelings. I never knew where we stood. But we were best friends and everything was pretty amazing 90% of the timeBoth of us didn't want the size house his mom has- she raised three kids and with her and her husband, they needed that big of a house.Basically the flow of our relationship was that we were best friends. I'm not kidding when I said we never fought.When I lived there- and I did because like I said before, I was in college and I worked full-time and paid for school out of pocket, but with that I didn't make enough to pay $ 5000+ a semester and be able to afford $ 1000+ for my own place every month. So I paid rent to his mom, $ 600 a month while I was in school and it helped tremendously so I wasn't drowning.So my question here is:click to expand
what do you mean that you two were "living together"? Definition is important, because living in the same house is NOT the same as what is implied in the terms "living together" (as in as a co-habitating couple).
And what was the nature of your relationship to this fellow prior to you moving into his mother's house? Were you two "a couple", or just "best friends"?
What he was making is beside the point at this time.
He was living with his mom, paying her rent so that she could pay off a mortgage because the father had left. Sounds like an offer was extended to you to save some money-- $ 600/month versus $ 1000+/month allowed you to put away the difference while you were working full time and going to school. (as you have pointed out)
So he was also helping to pay bills so that his sister could get sent to college. That's an arrangement with his mom and sister. If he was ok with doing that, its his money and his arrangement with his family.
In addition, he was socking money away--unless you two had previous discussions, mutually agreed to about the future state, what he was planning to do with his money was quite frankly none of your business.
The missing point here is you are using terms like "living together", "relationship", but I don't see anything here beyond a good friend offering to help out (in addition to assisting his mother with bills and indirectly putting his sister through college). I do see pressure from you to move things beyond that state, but it sure seems like he wasn't interested at moving things beyond being a "good friend".
Posted by seacloversDon't EVER have lunch with that woman again.
And the join account was strictly for the down payment on the house. We went going to share finances in any other way.
They do not like you.
Enterprising mthrfkrs is what they are.
And liars.
Posted by Arielle83lolPosted by MontgomeryNo I'm appalled that the mother would use her son's gf for financial gain in order to fund her daughter.Posted by Arielle83Posted by MontgomeryNaw what?Posted by Arielle83😱
Wait, his mom charged you $ 600 a month while he paid nothing and this was to cover his sister's education?
Yeah, MOMS is in on it, too.
You jokin?
What.
We aren't talking about the OP, anymore?
If that's the truth, stay the fuck away from that fuckh.ead mother!!click to expand
I was agreeing with you.
I guess it didn't come off that way.
I have no clue why people are mortified that the mother changed a renter rent.
What the mother does with the rent money is her business.
I guess you must think in terms of free rides .. says a lot about you.
* charged
... charged a renter rent
Especially when the alternative is much more expensive. Maybe I'm seeing a different picture here. *shrug*
Posted by Arielle83HERE is the answer.Posted by MontgomeryNaw what?Posted by Arielle83😱
Wait, his mom charged you $ 600 a month while he paid nothing and this was to cover his sister's education?
Yeah, MOMS is in on it, too.
You jokin?click to expand
I would never live with a man who would let me pay his mother rent.
He was supposed to pay his mother OPs rent. Because he is having
a love of his life next to him and he shouldn't have to let her pay.
I think ALL the parties in this story are money-challenged.
Cheapskate boyfriend like that...no thank you.
You're assuming a relationship was there. I'm not, because aside from the terms used, I don't see any confirmation from the Leo's side that he considered himself in a relationship with the OP.
And I don't see the "free ride" part. If the son agrees, its not really a free ride since he could have chosen to live elsewhere.
And I don't see the "free ride" part. If the son agrees, its not really a free ride since he could have chosen to live elsewhere.
Posted by BlackMambaMom took half of his money🙂Posted by seaclovers100k a year and only saved 40k living at home?
And the only reason why I posted the $ 500K thing is because even though he saved up $ 40K, making $ 100K+ a year is because now, he has no excuse to still love at home.
He can literally afford any kind of house he wants.
Both of us didn't want the size house his mom has- she raised three kids and with her and her husband, they needed that big of a house.
We didn't even want a yard.
I'm upset because if I would have stuck it out and never said anything about our future, maybe the chips would have fallen in the same spots and he would have been offered to be an owner still.
But now making 5 times the amount he was when we were together, he can afford any house he wants and the excuses for still loving at home would be null At that point.
He should have saved way more!
He could have bought a 200k house cash at the very least doing minimum 50k savings a yearclick to expand
Posted by ImpulsvBoth of your posts-- exactly.
N possible happiness. Unless she knew her sons intention was never to cement with op.
When taken piecemeal--
No there's NOTHING wrong with charging her rent
(hell of a lot, considering how much her son made, but w.e.).
No, nothing wrong with him not being ready to commit to a
house with her.
What IS wrong is the fact that he strung her along most
passively, so he and his family could continue to benefit
from her, while she had been led to believe that it was
actually Going Somewhere.
Then, the icing on this hellcake... mom makes sure she knows
that her son has been given this amazing opportunity, and oh
doesn't it suck for her that she bailed.
I think he was saving that money all along, but never ever would
he have invested it it in ANYTHING that involved OP.
Ever.
But helluva life lesson-- not everyone is nice, and hardship
makes some people damn near evil.
Posted by BlackMambaShe paid for groceries, too?
Why did you pay for groceries?? That's crazy! I wouldn't have!
I bet there's a lot more that she did, that we don't know about... and
she still doesn't realize just how much they took advantage of her.
Posted by BlackMambaWell, if you look at apartment cost - 550 sq ft and $ 1100/month, you might be looking at somewhere around Boston.Posted by ImpulsvA kids job of to take care of their parent it they're not able too within reason!
No I'm thinking of what mother used her children to get her own free ride from her son to the detriment of his relationship
I would have been impressed with such a man!
Only problem is the 100k where is the rest of the money going?click to expand
A 5 bedroom, 3 bath home in that area on a 1.76 acre lot (not sure if you find lot sizes that big) can cost, let's say $ 800k. Assuming the son, minus the $ 600 in rent from the Sag, covers the full cost of a 30 year mortgage payment, assuming 20% paid down. he's paying $ 32,400 per year. That leaves about $ 67,500 annual. Out of that, take in monthly expenses and maybe he banks half that, leaving $ 33,800 annual. And he's not saving all of that for house payment/partnership buy-in. So its going to take several years.
Additionally, you don't know if he's helping mom and sis with other expenses. If he is, he's putting away less than that. If he's kicking in more to buy down principal on the mortgage, and his mom can't chip in a lot......and in an area like Boston, $ 40k down payment is not going to get you much if you're putting 20% down. He'd need a few more years.
Now, at $ 500k a year, its a bit easier, but the story so far is just the time he's living at home. Pretty easy to see where the money was going.
I forgot taxes, which would also be high in that area. But you get the idea.
Posted by BlackMambaHE owed her free living with him at his mother house.Posted by GreyWizHis mom probably is a water sign she sounds manipulative as heck!
I agree he should move the hell out and with the rest of her points. I just didn't like how she ended it.
I find it very weird. I feel his mom is manipulating emotionally somehow. Most leo guys i know would move the hell out at earliest opportunity if possible. I find it very odd.
The OP should have never moved in! She should have rented somewhere else.
They don't owe her free rent! She's not family!click to expand
If mom wanted to get rent - HE should pay her a rent.
Because of the fact that OP wanted to move out and
he didn't. So it wasn't her wish to stay at moms.
How DARE would any man wants not to leave and have
his own life? Have OP ever said if he was an Italian?
Posted by MontgomeryPosted by seacloversDon't EVER have lunch with that woman again.
And the join account was strictly for the down payment on the house. We went going to share finances in any other way.
They do not like you.
Enterprising mthrfkrs is what they are.
And liars.
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Yep, MOMSTERS!!!
Posted by BlackMambaDo you always steaming up and repeating same crap in each post? Just wondering.Posted by TwodrinksThat's ridiculous! I'd never trust anybody enough to have a joint account . hell naw well unless he's making 500k lol
And I don't think a joint bank account after four years together is too unreasonable either. My 19 year old sister has a joint account with her boyfriend. Even teenagers understand the need to prepare for the future of the relationship.
As harsh as it is, the truth is that he just didn't see a future with you. Im not buying it that he was saving money in secret.click to expand
I am trying to read and each time I get you (which is every other post) - its a same crap!
Posted by BlackMambaShe's probably cancer or scorpioPosted by GreyWizHis mom probably is a water sign she sounds manipulative as heck!
I agree he should move the hell out and with the rest of her points. I just didn't like how she ended it.
I find it very weird. I feel his mom is manipulating emotionally somehow. Most leo guys i know would move the hell out at earliest opportunity if possible. I find it very odd.
The OP should have never moved in! She should have rented somewhere else.
They don't owe her free rent! She's not family!click to expand
Posted by GemitatiSo I'm curious--what else does he owe the OP?
HE owed her free living with him at his mother house.
If mom wanted to get rent - HE should pay her a rent.
Because of the fact that OP wanted to move out and
he didn't. So it wasn't her wish to stay at moms.
How DARE would any man wants not to leave and have
his own life? Have OP ever said if he was an Italian?
Posted by Arielle83And I stay strong in my opinion.Posted by GemitatiOmg we agree!Posted by Arielle83HERE is the answer.Posted by MontgomeryNaw what?Posted by Arielle83😱
Wait, his mom charged you $ 600 a month while he paid nothing and this was to cover his sister's education?
Yeah, MOMS is in on it, too.
You jokin?
I would never live with a man who would let me pay his mother rent.
He was supposed to pay his mother OPs rent. Because he is having
a love of his life next to him and he shouldn't have to let her pay.
I think ALL the parties in this story are money-challenged.
Cheapskate boyfriend like that...no thank you.
And to think you called me an evil bitch etc.click to expand
Posted by BlackMambaHmm sounds like married cancer women to me.Posted by GreenteaThere's a difference! Security is knowing your childfen, family, and home are protected.Posted by BlackMamba
500k ... You're an idiot! That's good security. Hopefully he finds a crab!
Nothing wrong with a little financial security
Is that how you define gold digger, call it security now days.
Gld digging is using a man's wealth to stay lazy and not improve oneself . everyone has potential for greatness. One should use all their abilities!
Taking easy way out and acting as if you've built it yourself... This is what caps do. Is ridiculous! You're just a wife nothing moreclick to expand
Posted by MontgomeryPosted by ImpulsvBoth of your posts-- exactly.
N possible happiness. Unless she knew her sons intention was never to cement with op.
When taken piecemeal--
No there's NOTHING wrong with charging her rent
(hell of a lot, considering how much her son made, but w.e.).
No, nothing wrong with him not being ready to commit to a
house with her.
What IS wrong is the fact that he strung her along most
passively, so he and his family could continue to benefit
from her, while she had been led to believe that it was
actually Going Somewhere.
Then, the icing on this hellcake... mom makes sure she knows
that her son has been given this amazing opportunity, and oh
doesn't it suck for her that she bailed.
I think he was saving that money all along, but never ever would
he have invested it it in ANYTHING that involved OP.
Ever.
But helluva life lesson-- not everyone is nice, and hardship
makes some people damn near evil.
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A to the mof*ukin MEN!! Tell it sister!!
(Always wanted to say that)
Posted by MontgomeryPosted by BlackMambaShe paid for groceries, too?
Why did you pay for groceries?? That's crazy! I wouldn't have!
I bet there's a lot more that she did, that we don't know about... and
she still doesn't realize just how much they took advantage of her.click to expand
It's easy to take advantage of an Independant, and giving person. OP may have been naive in some ways, but the blame should be put on the heartless people that took advantage of that. They knew what they were doing. Smh
Posted by GreyWizI am here! lol
she was taking advantage of his good heart and dumped him probably trying to find a richer man. she cares nothing about him. I just hope has enough sense to share it with someone who loves and cares for him.
where is a evil gemini when you need one?
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