@SassyKiwi
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Pathetic people easily attracting relationships
Posted by DonJohn
women have themselves to blame. they set a standard too high for men and are not willing to settle.so a lot of women end up falling for the unstable con artist. smoke and mirror guys.
it all comes back to you. you won't date the humble, quiet STEMcel manlet in the corner.
Where do you place yourself on the scale again? A ??
Posted by SassyKiwi
Can someone explain how the fuck men like him keep attracting. Like I will never understand how the least stable are the best at attracting relationships. I know single beautiful, intelligent women who have the shittiest luck in that area. It's just really weird. I'm confused af.
Posted by DonJohn
women have themselves to blame. they set a standard too high for men and are not willing to settle.so a lot of women end up falling for the unstable con artist. smoke and mirror guys.
it all comes back to you. you won't date the humble, quiet STEMcel manlet in the corner.
Where do you place yourself on the scale again? A ??
-tall
-hung
-model tier
-mortgage free
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What about faithful? ?
Posted by DonJohn
women have themselves to blame. they set a standard too high for men and are not willing to settle.so a lot of women end up falling for the unstable con artist. smoke and mirror guys.
it all comes back to you. you won't date the humble, quiet STEMcel manlet in the corner.
Where do you place yourself on the scale again? A ??
I think calling people ...bad things etc ..well ok you don't like them so why worry about them unless they are doing something to you? If I don't want him she can have him. And no one is pathetic ...obv they are attractive to the one they are with ...good for them.
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It's an epidemic. I'm unable to avoid bad relationship stories anywhere I am.
Posted by DonJohn
women have themselves to blame. they set a standard too high for men and are not willing to settle.so a lot of women end up falling for the unstable con artist. smoke and mirror guys.
it all comes back to you. you won't date the humble, quiet STEMcel manlet in the corner.
Where do you place yourself on the scale again? A ??
-tall
-hung
-model tier
-mortgage free
What about faithful? ?
those days are over. 100% faithful now.
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That can only be measured after time. I'll come back to dxp in 20 years just for you ok
Posted by DonJohn
women have themselves to blame. they set a standard too high for men and are not willing to settle.so a lot of women end up falling for the unstable con artist. smoke and mirror guys.
it all comes back to you. you won't date the humble, quiet STEMcel manlet in the corner.
Abusers come in all shapes and sizes. Your saying the quiet ugly dude is always nice which is false.
Posted by DonJohn
women have themselves to blame. they set a standard too high for men and are not willing to settle.so a lot of women end up falling for the unstable con artist. smoke and mirror guys.
it all comes back to you. you won't date the humble, quiet STEMcel manlet in the corner.
Abusers come in all shapes and sizes. Your saying the quiet ugly dude is always nice which is false.
never said that. ur mental disability made it up.
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You inferred it. Strongly.
Posted by DonJohn
women have themselves to blame. they set a standard too high for men and are not willing to settle.so a lot of women end up falling for the unstable con artist. smoke and mirror guys.
it all comes back to you. you won't date the humble, quiet STEMcel manlet in the corner.
Where do you place yourself on the scale again? A ??
-tall
-hung
-model tier
-mortgage free
What about faithful? ?
those days are over. 100% faithful now.
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Are those days ever over?
Posted by starwars
probably cause an insecure woman would think the unstable man is all what she ever deservesadly, most women are insecure and instead of sorting things out for themselves, they try to find people who'd accept them and their problems, but end up with unstable ones who know that the only way to make these insecure women stay with them is by making sure they stay insecure.
exact opposite.
hypergamy is the problem.
why would someone with high standards accept and put up with being treated poorly by their partner?
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They wouldn't.
Posted by DonJohn
women have themselves to blame. they set a standard too high for men and are not willing to settle.so a lot of women end up falling for the unstable con artist. smoke and mirror guys.
it all comes back to you. you won't date the humble, quiet STEMcel manlet in the corner.
Abusers come in all shapes and sizes. Your saying the quiet ugly dude is always nice which is false.
never said that. ur mental disability made it up.
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It was clearly implied.
You may want to reword if that's not what you
meant.
Posted by starwars
probably cause an insecure woman would think the unstable man is all what she ever deservesadly, most women are insecure and instead of sorting things out for themselves, they try to find people who'd accept them and their problems, but end up with unstable ones who know that the only way to make these insecure women stay with them is by making sure they stay insecure.
exact opposite.
hypergamy is the problem.
why would someone with high standards accept and put up with being treated poorly by their partner?
security.
elaborate please?
Emotional, social, economic security
The fear of being alone, not willing to compromise her current standard of living and/or start over on their own, if there's children involved she'll stay for their sake and depending on what culture she's from there may be strong familial pressure to not break up the family whereby if she did leave him, she'll come out looking like the bad guy and not the man, all these pressures increase as they age and age for a single woman is another stigma that can keep her locked down in a dissatisfying relationship
gotcha
that's true, it sucks. I wish they'd realize -early on- that there's nothing secure about being treated that way.
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What sucks for women unlike men, they don't have as much room to screw up and make poor relationship choices. What I'm saying is, majority of the time men age better than women and are still in demand the older they get regardless if they have kids or divorces whereas as a women are usually considered far from marketable by a certain age (younger women being big competition). That's just the reality.
Posted by DonJohn
women have themselves to blame. they set a standard too high for men and are not willing to settle.so a lot of women end up falling for the unstable con artist. smoke and mirror guys.
it all comes back to you. you won't date the humble, quiet STEMcel manlet in the corner.
Where do you place yourself on the scale again? A ??
-tall
-hung
-model tier
-mortgage free
What about faithful? ?
those days are over. 100% faithful now.
Are those days ever over?
thankfully yes =)
cheers.
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How is it 'thankfully'?
title: Pathetic people easily attracting relationships
the term "beauty is in the eye of the beholder" isn't referencing just looks.
Every person's perspective is different. Just because you think someone is pathetic, doesn't mean it's true simply because you have an opinion about it.
Posted by DonJohn
women have themselves to blame. they set a standard too high for men and are not willing to settle.so a lot of women end up falling for the unstable con artist. smoke and mirror guys.
it all comes back to you. you won't date the humble, quiet STEMcel manlet in the corner.
Where do you place yourself on the scale again? A ??
-tall
-hung
-model tier
-mortgage free
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The shitty attitude kills it all. ?
Posted by DonJohn
women have themselves to blame. they set a standard too high for men and are not willing to settle.so a lot of women end up falling for the unstable con artist. smoke and mirror guys.
it all comes back to you. you won't date the humble, quiet STEMcel manlet in the corner.
that is so true.
it didnt make sense at first..but youre right!!
why aren't women just going for the manlets? 😛
Tom Cruise, Robert DeNiro...Danny Devito!
well they are all taken...but, manlets!!
(under the assumption that manlets are under 5'6, 5'7'?"
Posted by LovingSeraphina
When it comes to relationships only the two peeps involved know what it's really like for them you can't tell from the outside. Unless you are in it you don't know.
yup.
and unless you're into bigamy and polymary..... other people can come in and join.
Posted by DonJohn
women have themselves to blame. they set a standard too high for men and are not willing to settle.so a lot of women end up falling for the unstable con artist. smoke and mirror guys.
it all comes back to you. you won't date the humble, quiet STEMcel manlet in the corner.
that is so true.
it didnt make sense at first..but youre right!!
why aren't women just going for the manlets? 😛
Tom Cruise, Robert DeNiro...Danny Devito!
well they are all taken...but, manlets!!
(under the assumption that manlets are under 5'6, 5'7'?"
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Male celebrities are like winning in the lottery to women. Would you throw 500 $ away if you won in the lottery just because you won 1000 $ the last time?
Posted by cheekyfaerie
The kind of guys you're referring to don't start out as abusive. They tend to come off as charming and exude strength. I think it's one of the reasons women stay. Most people think they've got a catch. It's not until the bad severely outweighs the good, if ever, that the woman musters the whatever it takes for her (and usually some kids by now) to leave.
Imo I wouldn't have kids until like 3-4 years into the marriage. I think that's the problem with most people. No patience. I think if you can tolerate just each other for that long in a marriage, you can safely throw in kids to the mixture... any less and you might just be locking yourself in something toxic you never saw coming. I guess people do deserve what they sow.
Posted by LovingSeraphina
Why do you care?
^
Posted by DonJohn
it's very simple.if women dated men on their level. everyone would be with someone.
it's because women reject men on their level and lower..... that is the only reason single people exist.
women are delusional when it comes to their self image. their self esteem is far more delusional than the average man in terms of mating.
Don't you think men are the ones who are delusional in the image of women in the first place though? Or cause women to become delusional in their self image. Like, men grovel to women and that's what leaves women over estimating themselves in the first place.
Seems to me that men who are 6's will treat a woman who's also a 6 like she's a 10, so the woman falls for her own hype.
What do you think?
Women have to stop settling for what they don't deserve. Sadly it's not just a lot of women that are insecure a lot of men are. The ego and pride causes them to show their insecurities in a insensitive way towards women. Stop settling and these type of men will have no choice but to be better in order to get anyone but as long as their is a weak women willing to settle they'll never change. Just like as long as their is a weak man that don't have to man up he will always be weak.
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Can someone explain how the fuck men like him keep attracting. Like I will never understand how the least stable are the best at attracting relationships. I know single beautiful, intelligent women who have the shittiest luck in that area. It's just really weird. I'm confused af.