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Posted by wagtailHon, everyone has their own problems, but that doesn't mean that they won't be willing to listen to yours. It might even be a welcome change for your friends to focus on something other than their own matters for a while.Posted by SpiceNSugarThat was part of my conundrum - who would be best.
@Wagtail
Reaching out shouldn't be the hard part. The hard part is deciding which of those 6 people is the best one to call for the given issue.
Is there one of those 6 who you think will be most receptive and responsive to your issue? When was the last time you spoke to that person?
And why.
I know I can call. I just don't feel like I should. They have kids. Or are expecting. Or have jobs and husbands and bills and things to do...
I don't want to call with my own problem, I want to call to see how they are going or what's been happening...
I want them to vent to ME -that's what I'm used to.
And, really, my Scorpio bf is the only sane option but she's too giving. I don't want her to have to give to me too...click to expand
If you think that your Scorp BF will provide you with good advice then GO FOR IT! That's what friends are for! Would she call you if she needed advice?
Posted by SpiceNSugar...yes she would... I suppose so...Posted by wagtailHon, everyone has their own problems, but that doesn't mean that they won't be willing to listen to yours. It might even be a welcome change for your friends to focus on something other than their own matters for a while.Posted by SpiceNSugarThat was part of my conundrum - who would be best.
@Wagtail
Reaching out shouldn't be the hard part. The hard part is deciding which of those 6 people is the best one to call for the given issue.
Is there one of those 6 who you think will be most receptive and responsive to your issue? When was the last time you spoke to that person?
And why.
I know I can call. I just don't feel like I should. They have kids. Or are expecting. Or have jobs and husbands and bills and things to do...
I don't want to call with my own problem, I want to call to see how they are going or what's been happening...
I want them to vent to ME -that's what I'm used to.
And, really, my Scorpio bf is the only sane option but she's too giving. I don't want her to have to give to me too...
If you think that your Scorp BF will provide you with good advice then GO FOR IT! That's what friends are for! Would she call you if she needed advice?click to expand
🙂
Posted by wagtailThen why hesitate? I'd call my BF in a second if I needed her and vice versa, regardless of how much passed since our last visit or conversation.Posted by SpiceNSugar...yes she would... I suppose so...Posted by wagtailHon, everyone has their own problems, but that doesn't mean that they won't be willing to listen to yours. It might even be a welcome change for your friends to focus on something other than their own matters for a while.Posted by SpiceNSugarThat was part of my conundrum - who would be best.
@Wagtail
Reaching out shouldn't be the hard part. The hard part is deciding which of those 6 people is the best one to call for the given issue.
Is there one of those 6 who you think will be most receptive and responsive to your issue? When was the last time you spoke to that person?
And why.
I know I can call. I just don't feel like I should. They have kids. Or are expecting. Or have jobs and husbands and bills and things to do...
I don't want to call with my own problem, I want to call to see how they are going or what's been happening...
I want them to vent to ME -that's what I'm used to.
And, really, my Scorpio bf is the only sane option but she's too giving. I don't want her to have to give to me too...
If you think that your Scorp BF will provide you with good advice then GO FOR IT! That's what friends are for! Would she call you if she needed advice?
🙂click to expand
@SpiceNSugar yeh.
Coz it's just not my thing that's all.
I don't share. I grew up with these people through childhood, jobs, high school, road trips, weddings, births and deaths and they only found out my mother was a severe paranoid schizophrenic in December last year @_@ I keep my shi real close to my chest.
It's just my way.
Now things have developed and I wanna learn how to open up. I want to know HOW I'm supposed to reach out when things get real for me.
We are talking baby steps here, not -oh who do I call with my latest drama *twirls hair around fingers*, like actual baby steps.
It's a bit hard for me.
Coz it's just not my thing that's all.
I don't share. I grew up with these people through childhood, jobs, high school, road trips, weddings, births and deaths and they only found out my mother was a severe paranoid schizophrenic in December last year @_@ I keep my shi real close to my chest.
It's just my way.
Now things have developed and I wanna learn how to open up. I want to know HOW I'm supposed to reach out when things get real for me.
We are talking baby steps here, not -oh who do I call with my latest drama *twirls hair around fingers*, like actual baby steps.
It's a bit hard for me.
Ah OK I see. Sorry if it took me a while to better understand.
TBH, I guess I'm not sure HOW because for me it comes naturally.
I wish I could give you a recipe. 😉
Baby steps sounds like a good way to go. Call and share a tidbit and see how your friend responds. Maybe this will give you courage to share more?
TBH, I guess I'm not sure HOW because for me it comes naturally.
I wish I could give you a recipe. 😉
Baby steps sounds like a good way to go. Call and share a tidbit and see how your friend responds. Maybe this will give you courage to share more?
Posted by SpiceNSugarHaha I could use a recipe lol
Ah OK I see. Sorry if it took me a while to better understand.
TBH, I guess I'm not sure HOW because for me it comes naturally.
I wish I could give you a recipe. 😉
Baby steps sounds like a good way to go. Call and share a tidbit and see how your friend responds. Maybe this will give you courage to share more?
There's really good advice here, by different members, so I don't have anything to add except to say:
I used to be like that. I slowly learned to open up more with one close friend, and that gradually lead me to being able to open up with other friends so now I don't have a problem reaching out when I need to. I can feel a bit embarrassed at times, still, but it doesn't stop me.
If you ever want to PM me, please feel free. 🙂 Not much shocks me, so you don't have to worry about that, lol, and I do my best to be objective when learning about other people's challenges, asking questions whenever needed to make sure I understand where they're at.
I used to be like that. I slowly learned to open up more with one close friend, and that gradually lead me to being able to open up with other friends so now I don't have a problem reaching out when I need to. I can feel a bit embarrassed at times, still, but it doesn't stop me.
If you ever want to PM me, please feel free. 🙂 Not much shocks me, so you don't have to worry about that, lol, and I do my best to be objective when learning about other people's challenges, asking questions whenever needed to make sure I understand where they're at.
Posted by CopperDoveYou're amazing Copper... Thank you for the kind offer, I like that you know what I mean... It's good to feel people understand.
There's really good advice here, by different members, so I don't have anything to add except to say:
I used to be like that. I slowly learned to open up more with one close friend, and that gradually lead me to being able to open up with other friends so now I don't have a problem reaching out when I need to. I can feel a bit embarrassed at times, still, but it doesn't stop me.
If you ever want to PM me, please feel free. 🙂 Not much shocks me, so you don't have to worry about that, lol, and I do my best to be objective when learning about other people's challenges, asking questions whenever needed to make sure I understand where they're at.
Not about the issue, but about the actual opening up part. ˜ everybody is so awesome too, I really did get some help here.
It's so odd to me to think DeeExPehLyfe peepz are the people I would talk to about this... But at the same time I just knew I could say something and it would be okay 🙂
#realwurldfail
#realwurldfail
Posted by wagtailYou're amazing too. 🙂 You're welcome.Posted by CopperDoveYou're amazing Copper... Thank you for the kind offer, I like that you know what I mean... It's good to feel people understand.
There's really good advice here, by different members, so I don't have anything to add except to say:
I used to be like that. I slowly learned to open up more with one close friend, and that gradually lead me to being able to open up with other friends so now I don't have a problem reaching out when I need to. I can feel a bit embarrassed at times, still, but it doesn't stop me.
If you ever want to PM me, please feel free. 🙂 Not much shocks me, so you don't have to worry about that, lol, and I do my best to be objective when learning about other people's challenges, asking questions whenever needed to make sure I understand where they're at.
Not about the issue, but about the actual opening up part. ˜ everybody is so awesome too, I really did get some help here.click to expand
You're on your way to opening up more by opening up on DXP about the problem you've having with opening up.
That was a very long sentence, lol, but hopefully it makes sense.
hahaha I love long sentences ahahaha
Yup, I guess dxp can be the practise run. It's good it's good- it feels ouchie but good @CopperDove
Yup, I guess dxp can be the practise run. It's good it's good- it feels ouchie but good @CopperDove
Posted by TrueFantasyoooh I'm glad to hear you can relate... that's exactly how I feel @_@
Hey wagtail (:
Holy bejeeezus this is something I relate to a lot! Like there is something that I want to say, to someone, but who? Will they really care, listen or what?
I do have this habit of keeping so many things to myself and I've been told that I'm too closed off from my friends 😢 I dealt with this for many years (high school was the absolute worst!) I would just think things over myself
But now I'm so grateful that I've found people who can just sense me and see through me. Exactly what I needed since I've been lacking this for so long. Reaching out was something I learnt, it did take time.
Do you have Mercury retrograde in your natal chart? I have that if it means anything in this context.
If you need to talk about anything I'm here *hugs* I love listening to people and giving advice so no worries.
I'm happy you're around ~hug~
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Aww thankyouuu wag! (:
Dont be worried okay.. It'll be alright if do share.. I know you are the type to put other people before yourself and you will never be inconvenience to anyone ever! 🙂 and that is why, it's good to sometimes open up 🙌