Jarax
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Should I address growing concerns over minor verbal abuse with a friend?
Posted by tiziani
what do you like about her as a friend?
She's pretty funny and her energy can be infectious (for better or worse). She's a very giving person (she has gotten me a gift before that I needed) and when she's not being toxic, she's pretty affectionate and fun to be around.
she might be trying to flirt with you
tell her to fix up if you don't like it. unprovoked insults don't pass as banter.
if she is flirting, she will learn
tell her to fix up if you don't like it. unprovoked insults don't pass as banter.
if she is flirting, she will learn
Posted by Jarax
TLDR at the end of this post.
We playfully tease each other all the time and have a generally good rapport when it comes to taste. It's because of this rapport that I know when she's joking and when she's serious.
A couple days ago, I was talking to her about how cacti aren't as attractive as another flower (referencing some random instagram post she liked) and she called me an idiot and said sometimes I sound stupid and I'm worried that it's going to affect all future interactions we have with one another. I know that my discomfort with the situation is likely just a bruised ego but I can't shake the fact that it's starting to get to me.
You can’t take her brand of personal teasing if it’s got you in your feels.
Open your mouth and express this. Cause otherwise she just thinks it’s playful banter. Which is the standard when it comes to your communication.
Posted by ChimichangaPosted by JaraxPosted by Chimichanga
Is she a Gemini or Virgo?
She is actually a Gemini Sun/Aqua Moon.
She's flirting.
@LaPetiteEtoile pay meclick to expand
Is that really how Geminis flirt? She has expressed to me how I'm always nice and there for her (when I was telling her I didn't deserve the gift) but she always finishes with her saying she isn't going to get mushy and then she called me a bitch?? And she sounded really serious and annoyed when she called me stupid so I didn't feel like she was joking.
Capricorn Sun/Scorp Moon btw
Posted by dilettantePosted by JaraxPosted by Chimichanga
Is she a Gemini or Virgo?
She is actually a Gemini Sun/Aqua Moon.
damn was gonna say this kinda sounds like aquarius energy gone wrong.
whats her mercury /mars? any clue?click to expand
Gemini Merc & Mars with Taurus Venus. My Venus/Mars/Uranus (which rule my 8th/7th/asnd 5th houses respectively as well as being the chart ruler with Libra ASC) in Aquarius stellium all conjunct her Moon which is her 5H ruler if that helps at all.
Posted by MareInfame
Just tell her you don’t appreciate being called stupid or an idiot... and that she needs to learn how to be more respectful. Be assertive.
Don’t tell her that you are hurt. She won’t handle that well. And you won’t like what she will say as a response.
Keep it very simple. Don’t explain much and have firm opinions. She will respect that. If she argues, don’t respond.
I'm actually glad you said this because my initial response was to have an entire paragraph explaining why I felt a certain way about it. Knowing I can just wrap it up in two sentences is less stressful.
Posted by LaPetiteEtoilePosted by ChimichangaPosted by JaraxPosted by Chimichanga
Is she a Gemini or Virgo?
She is actually a Gemini Sun/Aqua Moon.
She's flirting.
@LaPetiteEtoile pay me
As soon as you said flirting I was worried. Bet she still has a Cancer Venus though. 😛click to expand
Taurus Venus.
Posted by LaPetiteEtoilePosted by JaraxPosted by MareInfame
Just tell her you don’t appreciate being called stupid or an idiot... and that she needs to learn how to be more respectful. Be assertive.
Don’t tell her that you are hurt. She won’t handle that well. And you won’t like what she will say as a response.
Keep it very simple. Don’t explain much and have firm opinions. She will respect that. If she argues, don’t respond.
I'm actually glad you said this because my initial response was to have an entire paragraph explaining why I felt a certain way about it. Knowing I can just wrap it up in two sentences is less stressful.
Ask her directly if she knows her flirting sucks.click to expand
I'm POSITIVE she would vehemently deny liking me in any way lol. My Mars/Venus/Uranus Aquarius stellium sits firmly in her 12th house touching her Neptune and Moon. She's a Pisces Rising to top it off.
Buddy if it is hurting you then you can't ignore it and brush it under the carpet. Your self respect comes first then anything else. She is just 20 so not that mature to know how to behave. Either you can ignore her and focus on others but it seems you like her energy so better tell her the way she talks to you is disrespectful and it hurts you. If not you will start resenting her and it won't be a friendship anymore.
Stare are her while she's sleeping.
Posted by dilettantePosted by JaraxPosted by dilettantePosted by JaraxPosted by Chimichanga
Is she a Gemini or Virgo?
She is actually a Gemini Sun/Aqua Moon.
damn was gonna say this kinda sounds like aquarius energy gone wrong.
whats her mercury /mars? any clue?
Gemini Merc & Mars with Taurus Venus. My Venus/Mars/Uranus (which rule my 8th/7th/asnd 5th houses respectively as well as being the chart ruler with Libra ASC) in Aquarius stellium all conjunct her Moon which is her 5H ruler if that helps at all.
mmk i find taurus energy to be kinda mean sometimes. like bully energy.
she kinda has a wack chart. all air w/ that one earth placement? yeeshclick to expand
I mean her Jupiter/Saturn are also in Taurus if you count the outer planets but then Uranus/Neptune go back to air in Aqua.
Posted by FactCheck
Have you tried calling her a stupid idiot or a little bitch back?
I literally always roast her and it devolves into a bunch of back and forth playful teasing. I even brought it up to her when she said I was nice and she told me it was funny and she liked feeling bad about herself. Girls are weird.
Posted by LaPetiteEtoilePosted by slug
"I'm hesitant on bringing it up because it I'm afraid of being viewed as "hypersensitive""
Red flag.
"The thought of talking to her has begun to fill me with anxiety"
Red flag.
Trust your instincts.
That's why I think telling her what she's doing wrong and giving her the cold shoulder is the only option.click to expand
I heard Geminis get really upset when you ice them out though and start trying to get your attention even more?
Posted by dilettantePosted by JaraxPosted by dilettantePosted by JaraxPosted by dilettantePosted by JaraxPosted by Chimichanga
Is she a Gemini or Virgo?
She is actually a Gemini Sun/Aqua Moon.
damn was gonna say this kinda sounds like aquarius energy gone wrong.
whats her mercury /mars? any clue?
Gemini Merc & Mars with Taurus Venus. My Venus/Mars/Uranus (which rule my 8th/7th/asnd 5th houses respectively as well as being the chart ruler with Libra ASC) in Aquarius stellium all conjunct her Moon which is her 5H ruler if that helps at all.
mmk i find taurus energy to be kinda mean sometimes. like bully energy.
she kinda has a wack chart. all air w/ that one earth placement? yeesh
I mean her Jupiter/Saturn are also in Taurus if you count the outer planets but then Uranus/Neptune go back to air in Aqua.
does jupiter & saturn conjunct her venus at all?
jupiter vs saturn, super conflicting energy right there
if i were in your position, i’d tell her how she makes me feel & prob never talk to her again.
the bad times will eventually outweigh the good. get out while you can.click to expand
She has Venus conj Jupiter/Saturn and square Uranus as well as squaring her ASC and trining her Neptune. The orbs are wide at 6-8 degrees though (except the square to ASC which is at 2 degrees).
Posted by Jarax
And she sounded really serious and annoyed when she called me stupid so I didn't feel like she was joking.
she was seriously annoyed by your opinion, it has no deeper meaning, she's just way too comfortable around you and tell you what comes through her mind (at least most of), she doesn't care how rude it sounds because she wouldn't be offended herself.
it doesn't mean she doesn't like you, it doesn't mean she think less of your opinions in general or anything, no deeper meaning, both of you deal with those energy in way too different ways.
you could tell her how those remark made you feel, I doubt she would be offended either, probably baffled at the idea, but doubt it would be the first time she got that, I also doubt she's gonna manage to change that part, your relationship might shift a little though, now I'm sure I would react differently as a Leo, but a gem sun shouldn't be offended.
Posted by LaPetiteEtoilePosted by JaraxPosted by LaPetiteEtoilePosted by slug
"I'm hesitant on bringing it up because it I'm afraid of being viewed as "hypersensitive""
Red flag.
"The thought of talking to her has begun to fill me with anxiety"
Red flag.
Trust your instincts.
That's why I think telling her what she's doing wrong and giving her the cold shoulder is the only option.
I heard Geminis get really upset when you ice them out though and start trying to get your attention even more?
Hmm. That's not exactly what I was going for here.
More like Geminis need to process things. She needs to know her behavior isn't working and she won't understand that if you keep playing her game back to her. That will only make her think it's okay to behave like that with you.click to expand
How likely is she to go to the other end of the behavioral spectrum if she actually is flirting? (I honestly don't see it. She jokes like this with all her friends. I just seem to get an extra helping of shit.) If she gets super sweet out of the blue, that's going t be just as weird.
I'll be back when she responds lol.
Posted by MareInfamePosted by JaraxPosted by FactCheck
Have you tried calling her a stupid idiot or a little bitch back?
I literally always roast her and it devolves into a bunch of back and forth playful teasing. I even brought it up to her when she said I was nice and she told me it was funny and she liked feeling bad about herself. Girls are weird.
So... you could dish it but can’t take it?
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This isn't it. I constantly take her PLAYFUL jokes on the regular because it's what we do. This wasn't playful banter. I even asked her afterwards what I said that warranted that and she kept going. I have to address it.
Posted by Ramin
Some geminis won’t stop even if you ask them to. It’s entertainment for them. You have to outwit them and pull absolutely no punches for those types. They can take it until they can’t. When they have stopped talking that’s when you know you’ve won otherwise they will keep going on forever and ever. But you have to keep mentally attacking her throughout the friendship to give her the mental exercise she needs on a daily basis.
That sounds really toxic LOL
Posted by MareInfamePosted by JaraxI literally always roast her and it devolves into a bunch of back and forth playful teasing..
So... you could dish it but can’t take it?click to expand
right? everyone here is talking shit about how toxic she is, even when he clearly stated that he has encourage this kind of behavior for about a year now.
he also didn't mention if he likes her, even if many post here mention the possibility she was flirting, he only has downplay it saying that she acts like that with other people....
whatever OP keep listening to more emotion driven people 🙄 we all know how much gems like that.
Posted by LaPetiteEtoilePosted by EndlessPosted by MareInfamePosted by JaraxI literally always roast her and it devolves into a bunch of back and forth playful teasing..
So... you could dish it but can’t take it?
right? everyone here is talking shit about how toxic she is, even when he clearly stated that he has encourage this kind of behavior for about a year now.
he also didn't mention if he likes her, even if many post here mention the possibility, he only has downplay it saying that she acts like that with other people....
whatever OP keep listening to more emotion driven people 🙄 we all know how much gems like that.
He has never answered the question directly on any of his threads about if he wants to be more than friends or not so I think he’s part fuccboi.click to expand
I'd say he was fine with dissing the banter before, but now some feelings are surfacing and he's more sensitive about everything she says.
if I had a $ for every time something like that happened around me, I understand her attitude because I have a gem mars, and it is like that, doesn't mean any deeper meaning, is the same reason why my bffs have been all gem suns, overanalyzing what she says is a quick way to hell.
also we only have his side of the story.
Posted by MareInfame
Just tell her you don’t appreciate being called stupid or an idiot... and that she needs to learn how to be more respectful. Be assertive.
Don’t tell her that you are hurt. She won’t handle that well. And you won’t like what she will say as a response.
Keep it very simple. Don’t explain much and have firm opinions. She will respect that. If she argues, don’t respond.
It looks like she actually feels bad about it. Do I even need to go into detail on the why?
Posted by GobbyPosted by LaPetiteEtoilePosted by EndlessPosted by MareInfamePosted by JaraxI literally always roast her and it devolves into a bunch of back and forth playful teasing..
So... you could dish it but can’t take it?
right? everyone here is talking shit about how toxic she is, even when he clearly stated that he has encourage this kind of behavior for about a year now.
he also didn't mention if he likes her, even if many post here mention the possibility, he only has downplay it saying that she acts like that with other people....
whatever OP keep listening to more emotion driven people 🙄 we all know how much gems like that.
He has never answered the question directly on any of his threads about if he wants to be more than friends or not so I think he’s part fuccboi.
Hi,
I'm desperately seeking some sound advice, but won't give you all the vital information about the situation nor answer every crucial question posed by other users.
Oh, and I currently can't remember my sun sign.
Thanks!click to expand
he's a scorpio moon, god knows what he's hiding from us.
we're probably better not knowing either way.
Posted by LaPetiteEtoilePosted by JaraxPosted by MareInfame
Just tell her you don’t appreciate being called stupid or an idiot... and that she needs to learn how to be more respectful. Be assertive.
Don’t tell her that you are hurt. She won’t handle that well. And you won’t like what she will say as a response.
Keep it very simple. Don’t explain much and have firm opinions. She will respect that. If she argues, don’t respond.
It looks like she actually feels bad about it. Do I even need to go into detail on the why?
What other detail is there?click to expand
like why I don't appreciate it. It probably isn't necessary imo.
Posted by LaPetiteEtoilePosted by JaraxPosted by LaPetiteEtoilePosted by JaraxPosted by MareInfame
Just tell her you don’t appreciate being called stupid or an idiot... and that she needs to learn how to be more respectful. Be assertive.
Don’t tell her that you are hurt. She won’t handle that well. And you won’t like what she will say as a response.
Keep it very simple. Don’t explain much and have firm opinions. She will respect that. If she argues, don’t respond.
It looks like she actually feels bad about it. Do I even need to go into detail on the why?
What other detail is there?
like why I don't appreciate it. It probably isn't necessary imo.
Yeah I don’t think so.click to expand
I just hope it isn't awkward now.
Posted by Jarax
TLDR at the end of this post.
I 22(M) have this friend we'll call "R." 20(F)
We've only been friends for about a year and we usually get along great. We playfully tease each other all the time and have a generally good rapport when it comes to taste. It's because of this rapport that I know when she's joking and when she's serious.
A couple days ago, I was talking to her about how cacti aren't as attractive as another flower (referencing some random instagram post she liked) and she called me an idiot and said sometimes I sound stupid and I'm worried that it's going to affect all future interactions we have with one another. I know that my discomfort with the situation is likely just a bruised ego but I can't shake the fact that it's starting to get to me.
It's the 4th time she's said something along these lines (I have a habit of analyzing and internalizing every conversation I have to my own detriment at times) and I'm starting to slowly believe it might be true. I'm hesitant on bringing it up because it I'm afraid of being viewed as "hypersensitive" (she taunted me asking if I was going to cry after she made the comment). The thought of talking to her has begun to fill me with anxiety and recently I've just been quiet which leads her to ask if I'm ok (I don't think she even realizes the effect she has on me when she berates me in that way as the next time I talked to her, she was bubbly and happy to hear from me as if nothing had happened).
I'll be the first to admit that our communicative style s are quite different and she is a very opinionated individual. I tend to have trouble articulating what’s in my head as it is so when we discuss things, there’s always the possibility that what I say gets misinterpreted and when that happens she tends to insult me, making it really disheartening to talk to her about anything else. I really enjoy having her as a friend but I'd rather remain silent than end up resenting her for how she reacts to me just voicing my opinions. We can't even have intimate (because it feels like my feelings aren't considered) or intellectual (because it feels like my intellect is belittled) discussions because casual conversation feels like such a minefield to me.
What should I do?
TL;DR - Friend shuts me down for speaking my thoughts and it's becoming distressing to talk to her.
Unless you want this to be a part of your relationship, SPEAK UP. If this is a one off or their in a bad mood, it's understandable but it's still abusive. Hash it out, accept it, or walk away altogether.
Posted by JaraxPosted by Chimichanga
Is she a Gemini or Virgo?
She is actually a Gemini Sun/Aqua Moon.click to expand
Lol 😂 Gemini are evil!!
That aqua moon tho! Look my mom is a Pisces with an aqua moon and she’s vicious af.
Like the whole reason why I was never afraid of a bully my whole life and why NOW as an adult, no altercation with another adults (fight/argument) can scare me or hurt me....is because my aqua moon mother literally was/is the most vicious person I’ll ever encounter in my life.
Don’t get me wrong tho. She’s an amazing mother, loyal, hard working, ethical and she’s just an amazing empowering person to look up to. I truly love her, but her hidden ability to cut your mistakes and opinions down to mere shreds within seconds and just a few calculated words (shook).
Aqua moon be cold 🥶
RIP
Posted by 7thHousePosted by JaraxPosted by ChimichangaPosted by JaraxPosted by Chimichanga
Is she a Gemini or Virgo?
She is actually a Gemini Sun/Aqua Moon.
She's flirting.
@LaPetiteEtoile pay me
Is that really how Geminis flirt? She has expressed to me how I'm always nice and there for her (when I was telling her I didn't deserve the gift) but she always finishes with her saying she isn't going to get mushy and then she called me a bitch?? And she sounded really serious and annoyed when she called me stupid so I didn't feel like she was joking.
Capricorn Sun/Scorp Moon btw
Honestly, I would not take it as flirting. If she wants your attention, she better show respect. Otherwise, you're basically becoming a doormat if you become OK with this. No woman or friend is worth your self respect.click to expand
COMPLETELY.
Posted by LaPetiteEtoilePosted by Arielle83Posted by LaPetiteEtoilePosted by Arielle83
Any person saying she’s flirting is the same stupid line of thinking as, “men are mean to girls they like.” And that thinking got absolved due to abusive sexist interactions.
She’s a dumb bitch that thinks she’s right in all her opinions.
Her perspective is better than anyone else’s.
She’s 20 years old.
I’d dump her as a friend and hang out with more fun, happy, open minded girls.
You got to nip these assholes in the butt before they go out into the world, and we all have to deal with them.
I think it’s very common in young people especially those that didn’t learn how to communicate properly.
I think you’re reading it too harshly. I did as well from the first post when I didn’t realize it was the same guy from other threads. Plus if you read the rest of what he’s saying and his other threads about this girl she’s not evil. He’s doing similar back to her just not using the word idiot.
Maybe two abusive people mirroring each other, and both thinking the other person started it.
I guess if you reeaaaaally have to use the word abusive.
I would call it ignorant.click to expand
We're both pretty young yeah. She has alot of redeeming qualities I don't think alot of people see too. Abusive is a pretty big stretch for usual banter. I didn't want anyone to bash her but I guess it's my fault for not providing enough information initially. This is really the only one that's ever struck a nerve for me (likely the Mercury opposite Mars). We do have aspects to work through any potential issues though like Saturn/Moon, my ASC trine her Moon/Mercury and my Sun hitting her Sun/Moon midpoint (and the obvious "forgiveness" aspect in Moon/Venus DW).
Posted by halalbaePosted by MareInfamePosted by JaraxPosted by FactCheck
Have you tried calling her a stupid idiot or a little bitch back?
I literally always roast her and it devolves into a bunch of back and forth playful teasing. I even brought it up to her when she said I was nice and she told me it was funny and she liked feeling bad about herself. Girls are weird.
So... you could dish it but can’t take it?
He wants to roast her but shes the bad guy when she does it back, smh. Let the girlz tell him hes the victim of abuse lol
This guy has a crush on her and is becoming needy, sensitive and egotistical because she isnt reciprocative
He hid the thread where he admits he wants to be more than friends with her and asks for a synastry reading:
https://imgur.com/a/qh99ih3
https://imagehost.imageupload.net/2020/04/16/jarax.png<div class="bqfade">click to expand
I feel like I've literally explained a million times that the roasting wasn't the problem and that it was that I couldn't tell she was joking with this single repeated joke but go ahead I guess.
Posted by tizianiPosted by JaraxPosted by LaPetiteEtoilePosted by Arielle83Posted by LaPetiteEtoilePosted by Arielle83
Any person saying she’s flirting is the same stupid line of thinking as, “men are mean to girls they like.” And that thinking got absolved due to abusive sexist interactions.
She’s a dumb bitch that thinks she’s right in all her opinions.
Her perspective is better than anyone else’s.
She’s 20 years old.
I’d dump her as a friend and hang out with more fun, happy, open minded girls.
You got to nip these assholes in the butt before they go out into the world, and we all have to deal with them.
I think it’s very common in young people especially those that didn’t learn how to communicate properly.
I think you’re reading it too harshly. I did as well from the first post when I didn’t realize it was the same guy from other threads. Plus if you read the rest of what he’s saying and his other threads about this girl she’s not evil. He’s doing similar back to her just not using the word idiot.
Maybe two abusive people mirroring each other, and both thinking the other person started it.
I guess if you reeaaaaally have to use the word abusive.
I would call it ignorant.
We're both pretty young yeah. She has alot of redeeming qualities I don't think alot of people see too. Abusive is a pretty big stretch for usual banter. I didn't want anyone to bash her but I guess it's my fault for not providing enough information initially. This is really the only one that's ever struck a nerve for me (likely the Mercury opposite Mars). We do have aspects to work through any potential issues though like Saturn/Moon, my ASC trine her Moon/Mercury and my Sun hitting her Sun/Moon midpoint (and the obvious "forgiveness" aspect in Moon/Venus DW).
Your thread title has the word "abuse" in itclick to expand
I'll admit at the time I posted I was being dramatic. I'm just gonna blame my Scorpio moon for that one. 😣
Posted by halalbaePosted by JaraxPosted by halalbaePosted by MareInfamePosted by JaraxPosted by FactCheck
Have you tried calling her a stupid idiot or a little bitch back?
I literally always roast her and it devolves into a bunch of back and forth playful teasing. I even brought it up to her when she said I was nice and she told me it was funny and she liked feeling bad about herself. Girls are weird.
So... you could dish it but can’t take it?
He wants to roast her but shes the bad guy when she does it back, smh. Let the girlz tell him hes the victim of abuse lol
This guy has a crush on her and is becoming needy, sensitive and egotistical because she isnt reciprocative
He hid the thread where he admits he wants to be more than friends with her and asks for a synastry reading:
https://imgur.com/a/qh99ih3
I feel like I've literally explained a million times that the roasting wasn't the problem and that it was that I couldn't tell she was joking with this single repeated joke but go ahead I guess.
Youre intentionally leaving important stuff out of your opening post and hiding your thread where you admit youre crushing on her after the pick-me's in this thread side with you
Why? Just admit the dent in your ego is growing by the minute because the girl your heart chose, wont move you out of the friendzone. Thats why it makes you feel better that strangers on the internet shit on her and you get to play the victim of verbal abuse over some banter _you_ started with her
Leave her alone, and keep your mind games on the playgroundclick to expand
Bushed the thread way before this even happened because I decided to let whatever happens happen. Definitely stated that I didn't want anyone to bash her. The banter wasn't started by me (although I guess poor phrasing made it sound that way), it's mutual. Either party can start it at any time but whatever.
Posted by JaraxPosted by Chimichanga
Is she a Gemini or Virgo?
She is actually a Gemini Sun/Aqua Moon.click to expand
ooooooooooooo
predictions on point!
damn. halalbae 4 president
You both sound annoying and immature and perfect for each other. Cut at each others’ ego and skin until yall are both so infuriated at each other that yall end up having sex 🙄
Posted by JaraxPosted by tiziani
what do you like about her as a friend?
She's pretty funny and her energy can be infectious (for better or worse). She's a very giving person (she has gotten me a gift before that I needed) and when she's not being toxic, she's pretty affectionate and fun to be around.click to expand
I had a male Gemini "friend" like that, but unlike you, I did not wait long to give him a tongue-lash and proceeded to cut the shit out of my life.
It doesn't matter how great someone appears to be. If they're not this way with you all of their good qualities should count next to nothing.
You have to learn how to check in with yourself. Why is there problem here? Because it takes two to tango. She's a lousy friend and you are a doormat too reluctant to end this "friendship."
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Has anyone ever had their significant other disappear on them and the reappear?
Tomorrow is the day, which falls every four years, when women can propose to their men ❤️. If the man declines he has to buy her a gift of her choice 😀
For anyone that plucks up the courage to propose, share your stories here of acceptance or rejection
The “what are we” question.
I’ve been seeing my guy friend for 3 months, is it too soon?
I 22(M) have this friend we'll call "R." 20(F)
We've only been friends for about a year and we usually get along great. We playfully tease each other all the time and have a generally good rapport when it comes to taste. It's because of this rapport that I know when she's joking and when she's serious.
A couple days ago, I was talking to her about how cacti aren't as attractive as another flower (referencing some random instagram post she liked) and she called me an idiot and said sometimes I sound stupid and I'm worried that it's going to affect all future interactions we have with one another. I know that my discomfort with the situation is likely just a bruised ego but I can't shake the fact that it's starting to get to me.
It's the 4th time she's said something along these lines (I have a habit of analyzing and internalizing every conversation I have to my own detriment at times) and I'm starting to slowly believe it might be true. I'm hesitant on bringing it up because it I'm afraid of being viewed as "hypersensitive" (she taunted me asking if I was going to cry after she made the comment). The thought of talking to her has begun to fill me with anxiety and recently I've just been quiet which leads her to ask if I'm ok (I don't think she even realizes the effect she has on me when she berates me in that way as the next time I talked to her, she was bubbly and happy to hear from me as if nothing had happened).
I'll be the first to admit that our communicative style s are quite different and she is a very opinionated individual. I tend to have trouble articulating what’s in my head as it is so when we discuss things, there’s always the possibility that what I say gets misinterpreted and when that happens she tends to insult me, making it really disheartening to talk to her about anything else. I really enjoy having her as a friend but I'd rather remain silent than end up resenting her for how she reacts to me just voicing my opinions. We can't even have intimate (because it feels like my feelings aren't considered) or intellectual (because it feels like my intellect is belittled) discussions because casual conversation feels like such a minefield to me.
What should I do?
TL;DR - Friend shuts me down for speaking my thoughts and it's becoming distressing to talk to her.