Feeling crappy after an ex texted me he got married.

I just got a text from an ex bf: I just thought about you, hope you are doing well during this pandemic. I got married at the end of last year.

WTF,that totally ruined my peaceful guaranteed life. I already heard of the marriage and had suspected he had cheated on me, given we broke up in August and he got married in 3 months. But I sucked it up and got over it, we broke up after all, confronting him is pointless. Now he just texted me out of blue about this, I'm totally triggered, and being in lockdown alone makes it worse.

If it's just a well wish to me, I might have replied thank you. But why would he tell me about his relationship, and when he got married. That makes the message a bomb even he might have good intention. Am I just holding grudge or he is really an a-hole? Why I'm feeling so crappy?

Background: I felt not being treated well towards the end of our relationship, so I broke up with him. To avoid any drama, I downplayed my bitterness and said more good things to him. We agreed to be friends but I never got a sincere apology about all his bad behaviors, so I never contacted him afterward.

Posted by freespirits
I just got a text from an ex bf: I just thought about you, hope you are doing well during this pandemic. I got married at the end of last year.

WTF,that totally ruined my peaceful guaranteed life. I already heard of the marriage and had suspected he had cheated on me, given we broke up in August and he got married in 3 months. But I sucked it up and got over it, we broke up after all, confronting him is pointless. Now he just texted me out of blue about this, I'm totally triggered, and being in lockdown alone makes it worse.

If it's just a well wish to me, I might have replied thank you. But why would he tell me about his relationship, and when he got married. That makes the message a bomb even he might have good intention. Am I just holding grudge or he is really an a-hole? Why I'm feeling so crappy?

Background: I felt not being treated well towards the end of our relationship, so I broke up with him. To avoid any drama, I downplayed my bitterness and said more good things to him. We agreed to be friends but I never got a sincere apology about all his bad behaviors, so I never contacted him afterward.

Live a better life than he did. Some people can be true butter no matter how good you are to them. And you know, it doesn't matter. Believe in karma. Remember the pain so it never happens to you again and make better, happier choices.

Posted by freespirits
I just got a text from an ex bf: I just thought about you, hope you are doing well during this pandemic. I got married at the end of last year.

WTF,that totally ruined my peaceful guaranteed life. I already heard of the marriage and had suspected he had cheated on me, given we broke up in August and he got married in 3 months. But I sucked it up and got over it, we broke up after all, confronting him is pointless. Now he just texted me out of blue about this, I'm totally triggered, and being in lockdown alone makes it worse.

If it's just a well wish to me, I might have replied thank you. But why would he tell me about his relationship, and when he got married. That makes the message a bomb even he might have good intention. Am I just holding grudge or he is really an a-hole? Why I'm feeling so crappy?

Background: I felt not being treated well towards the end of our relationship, so I broke up with him. To avoid any drama, I downplayed my bitterness and said more good things to him. We agreed to be friends but I never got a sincere apology about all his bad behaviors, so I never contacted him afterward.

I’d be like “oh yeah I knew about your wedding that occurred three months of breaking up with me.
Just figured u cheated on my prior to that but thanks for breaking my peaceful quarantine life, you piece of butter. Does ur wife know ur bored with her that u need to text me? “

You can be as harsh as that or gentle like this” what do you want to come clean about your cheating while with me? Give An apology? Or cheat on your wife now like you did me with her?”

Think of it this way - and you know for a fact this to be true:

Cherish your downtime and your peace of mind, knowing that his wife is stuck with HIM. He clearly thinks of himself as God's gift, thinking you would give a butter about him being married. Except he's oblivious to the truth: that he is an asswipe, and you dodged a bullet.



Better yet: if you have a trollish bone in your body, tell his wife about it and then stand back and laugh your candy ass off. Kinda like this, you horny lil she-devil you!!!

I'm with 40cal... and I'm not a vengeful person, but it suits.

In all seriousness, I wouldn't give him the justifcation of a response. Anything more than "ok" is too much.

You can be hurt, trust your guts.. but also look at it this way. You still have power over him. He's still, some part in some way, invested. Otherwise, why would he care? Why would he need to demonstrate or do anything to try and "one up" if he felt he was some kind of equal or worthwhile? You didn't feel any need to get validation from him for any of your successes, did you? Nope. He needs you to hurt for him.. think about that. Who has the power there?

See it for what it is. Good for you for dropping him when you did. Now it's his wife's problem. 💅🏻

A dick will never think they’re a dick. No point being bitter about someone you didn’t like in the end

what are you upset about?

a) that you are not married?
b) or that you are not married to him?
c) that things didn't work out and you are apart now?
or
d) or that someone agreed to marry him?

a) marriage is hard work and can be stressful. domestic violence has shot up exponentially during the lockdown with more women now stuck with their abusive husbands. not something to envy. better to be single and happy, than married and terrified you are going to get punched in the face everyday.
b) you guys weren't a match. why is the world be upset about not being stuck with him? sounds like you are way better off.
c) relationships end. it sucks but you gotta get rid of the things you don't want to leave space for the things you do want.
d) you don't want him. who cares? let them go in peace and happiness.

any way you slice it i think you are much better off.

So bizarre he would just drop that in like that - not even asking how you are and how life is for you?!

Better off without someone like that, good riddance.

If any consolation
Look he’s talking to you behind his wives back
He’s bored n not trustworthy

photoshop yourself in a luxury room with a type of gorgeous men you like ( Viking, Model, Liam Hemsworth, K pop, ... ) and preferably some girls to spice it up and go wild on details like money, booze, drugs, food, exotic animals...whatever. Make it a good one...hell even hire someone professional to do it...and send it to him with a message: "Got stuck here as a series of unfortunate events. Thank You for remembering me in these difficult times. Hope You and your wife are doing well. Congratulations on the wedding❣️"

What’s his sign , yours and hers?

Posted by freespirits
I just got a text from an ex bf: I just thought about you, hope you are doing well during this pandemic. I got married at the end of last year.

WTF,that totally ruined my peaceful guaranteed life. I already heard of the marriage and had suspected he had cheated on me, given we broke up in August and he got married in 3 months. But I sucked it up and got over it, we broke up after all, confronting him is pointless. Now he just texted me out of blue about this, I'm totally triggered, and being in lockdown alone makes it worse.

If it's just a well wish to me, I might have replied thank you. But why would he tell me about his relationship, and when he got married. That makes the message a bomb even he might have good intention. Am I just holding grudge or he is really an a-hole? Why I'm feeling so crappy?

Background: I felt not being treated well towards the end of our relationship, so I broke up with him. To avoid any drama, I downplayed my bitterness and said more good things to him. We agreed to be friends but I never got a sincere apology about all his bad behaviors, so I never contacted him afterward.

LOL,
He wins, you lose.
Anyways move on.

Posted by Sailor_Mars
photoshop yourself in a luxury room with a type of gorgeous men you like ( Viking, Model, Liam Hemsworth, K pop, ... ) and preferably some girls to spice it up and go wild on details like money, booze, drugs, food, exotic animals...whatever. Make it a good one...hell even hire someone professional to do it...and send it to him with a message: "Got stuck here as a series of unfortunate events. Thank You for remembering me in these difficult times. Hope You and your wife are doing well. Congratulations on the wedding❣️"

whaaat? why? way too much effort for not really giving a treetrunk .....

Posted by freespirits
I just got a text from an ex bf: I just thought about you, hope you are doing well during this pandemic. I got married at the end of last year.

WTF,that totally ruined my peaceful guaranteed life. I already heard of the marriage and had suspected he had cheated on me, given we broke up in August and he got married in 3 months. But I sucked it up and got over it, we broke up after all, confronting him is pointless. Now he just texted me out of blue about this, I'm totally triggered, and being in lockdown alone makes it worse.

If it's just a well wish to me, I might have replied thank you. But why would he tell me about his relationship, and when he got married. That makes the message a bomb even he might have good intention. Am I just holding grudge or he is really an a-hole? Why I'm feeling so crappy?

Background: I felt not being treated well towards the end of our relationship, so I broke up with him. To avoid any drama, I downplayed my bitterness and said more good things to him. We agreed to be friends but I never got a sincere apology about all his bad behaviors, so I never contacted him afterward.

tap into your phone settings .....you know the shpiel......
ofc we don´t know the whole history, but you mentioned further down the line you remained "amicable" although you did not really mean or feel it ....and he took your word for it and just wanted to be clear that he is married and off limits in that regard. ofc as i mentioned, we don´t know the dynamics ....