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Posted by aquarius_beautyThank you xPosted by pooface222Don't feel guilt. You have a beautiful baby, the only lyrics good that came out of that relationship. I know you'd want him out of the pic but honestly your baby needs her father around.Posted by aquarius_beautyYou are not selfish x as you said your kids will grow up and what will you be left with?Posted by pooface222Exactly. Which is why I chose to walk away. I'm still young my kids will grow up and what will I be left with? I rather move on now than later. I'm not willing to sacrifice my happiness. Call me selfish. IDCPosted by aquarius_beautyYou're right. I get the same from my mum. Whenever I talk about my unhappiness I get 'you've got to take care of your little girl.'Posted by pooface222Yes it is. Especially when you have family telling you to pull through for the sake of the kids but what about our happiness?Posted by aquarius_beautyHi..Thank you for responding ..you sound like me right now. I'm not suicidal but some days I feel like I'm falling apart. And as you know being a mum when you are so unhappy is very hard indeed because you don't have time to be sad.
I went through something similar. I stayed for far too long in my marriage. I was so unhappy. Miserable, even contemplated suicide. But i pulled through because of my kids. It's difficult but you need to do what's best for you. What's worse? Staying in a miserable relationship with your husband and seeing him 24/7 or tolerating seeing him once in a while?
I'd walk away if I was you.
Are you still with your husband? I'm guessing not.
Does he see the kids? I am dreading having to spend time away from my little girl. I couldn't bear it.
No we're not together. Been separated since January. In the process of divorce. Almost finalized. Yes he does see the kids. He takes them for a couple of hours but I don't mind. I need the space and time to myself. But I understand more emotional mom's are more attached.
Everyone else says it too!
It's like they think I Don't Know this!
As mums we also need to think long term for ourselves as you said because one day our kids are going to grow up and lead lives of their own. Therefore once they've left home for University etc what then? Are we to be left sad and lonely still? No. We need to look after ourselves too.
I like that your ex has the kids for just a couple of hours. Will it always be that way? Or will he want joint custody once the divorce has finalised?
I know for sure my husband will want joint custody and will fight to see her. Quite frankly I wish he would go away and leave me with my little girl. I shouldn't have given him a child in the first place. I didn't want to as he was treating me badly. But as I said in my original post, I thought 'better the devil you know...'
He wouldn't and will not fight for them half term. Hes too selfish. He loves his kids but I know it comes in between his freedom. I'm actually fighting for him to take them at least every other weekend. He hardly sees them and when he does it's just for a few hours on the weekend.
You say he only sees the kids for a few hours at the weekend..at the moment I would love it if my husband did that (once we're divorced). I actually wish I would just leave me and not want to see her again.
Am so tired of his bullsh*t.
But I know that he will want to see our little girl regular and I wouldn't like that! Especially as he pressured me into having children. Wouldn't take No for an answer. Then shut down on me and the communication (not that it was good anyway), completely broke down. It was like emotional torture. Pretending he's fine but acting like he's not but not talking to me.
Once I gave him a child, his issues were sorted but mine were left. And got worse.
There were unresolved issues in our marriage anyway. So I have made it worse by having a child to a man I can't stand!
Now? All I feel is guilt!
What was his sun sign again?click to expand
He is Aries. I am Capricorn.
NOT a good combination! (In the link below, ignore the part about the sex life. So not true with us!)
http://www.sunsigns.org/capricorn-woman-aries-man-love-compatibility/
Posted by aquarius_beautyOh hell Yes! And he is very very pushy about everything. And won't back down. Ever. And if he does back down, he does it by making some put down comment!Posted by pooface222Oh wow. Now it makes sense as to why he was so pushy. That's an Aries for youPosted by aquarius_beautyThank you xPosted by pooface222Don't feel guilt. You have a beautiful baby, the only lyrics good that came out of that relationship. I know you'd want him out of the pic but honestly your baby needs her father around.Posted by aquarius_beautyYou are not selfish x as you said your kids will grow up and what will you be left with?Posted by pooface222Exactly. Which is why I chose to walk away. I'm still young my kids will grow up and what will I be left with? I rather move on now than later. I'm not willing to sacrifice my happiness. Call me selfish. IDCPosted by aquarius_beautyYou're right. I get the same from my mum. Whenever I talk about my unhappiness I get 'you've got to take care of your little girl.'Posted by pooface222Yes it is. Especially when you have family telling you to pull through for the sake of the kids but what about our happiness?Posted by aquarius_beautyHi..Thank you for responding ..you sound like me right now. I'm not suicidal but some days I feel like I'm falling apart. And as you know being a mum when you are so unhappy is very hard indeed because you don't have time to be sad.
I went through something similar. I stayed for far too long in my marriage. I was so unhappy. Miserable, even contemplated suicide. But i pulled through because of my kids. It's difficult but you need to do what's best for you. What's worse? Staying in a miserable relationship with your husband and seeing him 24/7 or tolerating seeing him once in a while?
I'd walk away if I was you.
Are you still with your husband? I'm guessing not.
Does he see the kids? I am dreading having to spend time away from my little girl. I couldn't bear it.
No we're not together. Been separated since January. In the process of divorce. Almost finalized. Yes he does see the kids. He takes them for a couple of hours but I don't mind. I need the space and time to myself. But I understand more emotional mom's are more attached.
Everyone else says it too!
It's like they think I Don't Know this!
As mums we also need to think long term for ourselves as you said because one day our kids are going to grow up and lead lives of their own. Therefore once they've left home for University etc what then? Are we to be left sad and lonely still? No. We need to look after ourselves too.
I like that your ex has the kids for just a couple of hours. Will it always be that way? Or will he want joint custody once the divorce has finalised?
I know for sure my husband will want joint custody and will fight to see her. Quite frankly I wish he would go away and leave me with my little girl. I shouldn't have given him a child in the first place. I didn't want to as he was treating me badly. But as I said in my original post, I thought 'better the devil you know...'
He wouldn't and will not fight for them half term. Hes too selfish. He loves his kids but I know it comes in between his freedom. I'm actually fighting for him to take them at least every other weekend. He hardly sees them and when he does it's just for a few hours on the weekend.
You say he only sees the kids for a few hours at the weekend..at the moment I would love it if my husband did that (once we're divorced). I actually wish I would just leave me and not want to see her again.
Am so tired of his bullsh*t.
But I know that he will want to see our little girl regular and I wouldn't like that! Especially as he pressured me into having children. Wouldn't take No for an answer. Then shut down on me and the communication (not that it was good anyway), completely broke down. It was like emotional torture. Pretending he's fine but acting like he's not but not talking to me.
Once I gave him a child, his issues were sorted but mine were left. And got worse.
There were unresolved issues in our marriage anyway. So I have made it worse by having a child to a man I can't stand!
Now? All I feel is guilt!
What was his sun sign again?
He is Aries. I am Capricorn.
NOT a good combination! (In the link below, ignore the part about the sex life. So not true with us!)
http://www.sunsigns.org/capricorn-woman-aries-man-love-compatibility/click to expand
Such a bloody smartarse too! ! GRRR!
In the end you actually want to hit him!
I find that Aries girls are not like that so much. At least the ones I have met anyway.
Posted by aquarius_beautyFunnily enough my husband is a March Aries - but he is not so sweet sadly!Posted by pooface222Aries women are more laid back but still very arrogant. At least the ones born in April. March Aries are a lot kinder and sweeter.Posted by aquarius_beautyOh hell Yes! And he is very very pushy about everything. And won't back down. Ever. And if he does back down, he does it by making some put down comment!Posted by pooface222Oh wow. Now it makes sense as to why he was so pushy. That's an Aries for youPosted by aquarius_beautyThank you xPosted by pooface222Don't feel guilt. You have a beautiful baby, the only lyrics good that came out of that relationship. I know you'd want him out of the pic but honestly your baby needs her father around.Posted by aquarius_beautyYou are not selfish x as you said your kids will grow up and what will you be left with?Posted by pooface222Exactly. Which is why I chose to walk away. I'm still young my kids will grow up and what will I be left with? I rather move on now than later. I'm not willing to sacrifice my happiness. Call me selfish. IDCPosted by aquarius_beautyYou're right. I get the same from my mum. Whenever I talk about my unhappiness I get 'you've got to take care of your little girl.'Posted by pooface222Yes it is. Especially when you have family telling you to pull through for the sake of the kids but what about our happiness?Posted by aquarius_beautyHi..Thank you for responding ..you sound like me right now. I'm not suicidal but some days I feel like I'm falling apart. And as you know being a mum when you are so unhappy is very hard indeed because you don't have time to be sad.
I went through something similar. I stayed for far too long in my marriage. I was so unhappy. Miserable, even contemplated suicide. But i pulled through because of my kids. It's difficult but you need to do what's best for you. What's worse? Staying in a miserable relationship with your husband and seeing him 24/7 or tolerating seeing him once in a while?
I'd walk away if I was you.
Are you still with your husband? I'm guessing not.
Does he see the kids? I am dreading having to spend time away from my little girl. I couldn't bear it.
No we're not together. Been separated since January. In the process of divorce. Almost finalized. Yes he does see the kids. He takes them for a couple of hours but I don't mind. I need the space and time to myself. But I understand more emotional mom's are more attached.
Everyone else says it too!
It's like they think I Don't Know this!
As mums we also need to think long term for ourselves as you said because one day our kids are going to grow up and lead lives of their own. Therefore once they've left home for University etc what then? Are we to be left sad and lonely still? No. We need to look after ourselves too.
I like that your ex has the kids for just a couple of hours. Will it always be that way? Or will he want joint custody once the divorce has finalised?
I know for sure my husband will want joint custody and will fight to see her. Quite frankly I wish he would go away and leave me with my little girl. I shouldn't have given him a child in the first place. I didn't want to as he was treating me badly. But as I said in my original post, I thought 'better the devil you know...'
He wouldn't and will not fight for them half term. Hes too selfish. He loves his kids but I know it comes in between his freedom. I'm actually fighting for him to take them at least every other weekend. He hardly sees them and when he does it's just for a few hours on the weekend.
You say he only sees the kids for a few hours at the weekend..at the moment I would love it if my husband did that (once we're divorced). I actually wish I would just leave me and not want to see her again.
Am so tired of his bullsh*t.
But I know that he will want to see our little girl regular and I wouldn't like that! Especially as he pressured me into having children. Wouldn't take No for an answer. Then shut down on me and the communication (not that it was good anyway), completely broke down. It was like emotional torture. Pretending he's fine but acting like he's not but not talking to me.
Once I gave him a child, his issues were sorted but mine were left. And got worse.
There were unresolved issues in our marriage anyway. So I have made it worse by having a child to a man I can't stand!
Now? All I feel is guilt!
What was his sun sign again?
He is Aries. I am Capricorn.
NOT a good combination! (In the link below, ignore the part about the sex life. So not true with us!)
http://www.sunsigns.org/capricorn-woman-aries-man-love-compatibility/
Such a bloody smartarse too! ! GRRR!
In the end you actually want to hit him!
I find that Aries girls are not like that so much. At least the ones I have met anyway.
click to expand
My little girl is also Aries! And a March one
Posted by aquarius_beautyFunnily enough my husband is a March Aries - but he is not so sweet sadly!Posted by pooface222Aries women are more laid back but still very arrogant. At least the ones born in April. March Aries are a lot kinder and sweeter.Posted by aquarius_beautyOh hell Yes! And he is very very pushy about everything. And won't back down. Ever. And if he does back down, he does it by making some put down comment!Posted by pooface222Oh wow. Now it makes sense as to why he was so pushy. That's an Aries for youPosted by aquarius_beautyThank you xPosted by pooface222Don't feel guilt. You have a beautiful baby, the only lyrics good that came out of that relationship. I know you'd want him out of the pic but honestly your baby needs her father around.Posted by aquarius_beautyYou are not selfish x as you said your kids will grow up and what will you be left with?Posted by pooface222Exactly. Which is why I chose to walk away. I'm still young my kids will grow up and what will I be left with? I rather move on now than later. I'm not willing to sacrifice my happiness. Call me selfish. IDCPosted by aquarius_beautyYou're right. I get the same from my mum. Whenever I talk about my unhappiness I get 'you've got to take care of your little girl.'Posted by pooface222Yes it is. Especially when you have family telling you to pull through for the sake of the kids but what about our happiness?Posted by aquarius_beautyHi..Thank you for responding ..you sound like me right now. I'm not suicidal but some days I feel like I'm falling apart. And as you know being a mum when you are so unhappy is very hard indeed because you don't have time to be sad.
I went through something similar. I stayed for far too long in my marriage. I was so unhappy. Miserable, even contemplated suicide. But i pulled through because of my kids. It's difficult but you need to do what's best for you. What's worse? Staying in a miserable relationship with your husband and seeing him 24/7 or tolerating seeing him once in a while?
I'd walk away if I was you.
Are you still with your husband? I'm guessing not.
Does he see the kids? I am dreading having to spend time away from my little girl. I couldn't bear it.
No we're not together. Been separated since January. In the process of divorce. Almost finalized. Yes he does see the kids. He takes them for a couple of hours but I don't mind. I need the space and time to myself. But I understand more emotional mom's are more attached.
Everyone else says it too!
It's like they think I Don't Know this!
As mums we also need to think long term for ourselves as you said because one day our kids are going to grow up and lead lives of their own. Therefore once they've left home for University etc what then? Are we to be left sad and lonely still? No. We need to look after ourselves too.
I like that your ex has the kids for just a couple of hours. Will it always be that way? Or will he want joint custody once the divorce has finalised?
I know for sure my husband will want joint custody and will fight to see her. Quite frankly I wish he would go away and leave me with my little girl. I shouldn't have given him a child in the first place. I didn't want to as he was treating me badly. But as I said in my original post, I thought 'better the devil you know...'
He wouldn't and will not fight for them half term. Hes too selfish. He loves his kids but I know it comes in between his freedom. I'm actually fighting for him to take them at least every other weekend. He hardly sees them and when he does it's just for a few hours on the weekend.
You say he only sees the kids for a few hours at the weekend..at the moment I would love it if my husband did that (once we're divorced). I actually wish I would just leave me and not want to see her again.
Am so tired of his bullsh*t.
But I know that he will want to see our little girl regular and I wouldn't like that! Especially as he pressured me into having children. Wouldn't take No for an answer. Then shut down on me and the communication (not that it was good anyway), completely broke down. It was like emotional torture. Pretending he's fine but acting like he's not but not talking to me.
Once I gave him a child, his issues were sorted but mine were left. And got worse.
There were unresolved issues in our marriage anyway. So I have made it worse by having a child to a man I can't stand!
Now? All I feel is guilt!
What was his sun sign again?
He is Aries. I am Capricorn.
NOT a good combination! (In the link below, ignore the part about the sex life. So not true with us!)
http://www.sunsigns.org/capricorn-woman-aries-man-love-compatibility/
Such a bloody smartarse too! ! GRRR!
In the end you actually want to hit him!
I find that Aries girls are not like that so much. At least the ones I have met anyway.
click to expand
My little girl is also Aries! And a March one
Posted by HarukkaSorry was that comment for me Harukka?Posted by GemitatiAren't you that an old woman who follow me around talking about your shyt.Posted by pooface222You have to be ready!Posted by GemitatiThank you Gemitati xPosted by MontgomerySO WHAT if there is—
Isn't there another man you want to be with (who has another girlfriend, who
left her husband, for him)?
I seem to remember this from another thread. 😕
I swear these people tattooing our stories on their foreheads!!!
Agreed. So what.
Tabs on you are kept and will follow you forever! Lol
Treat it like you are popular now!
Hugs
You are not a popular
You are a piece of shyt ?
click to expand
I hope not!
Posted by HarukkaPhew! Relieved.Posted by pooface222No not for you .Posted by HarukkaSorry was that comment for me Harukka?Posted by GemitatiAren't you that an old woman who follow me around talking about your shyt.Posted by pooface222You have to be ready!Posted by GemitatiThank you Gemitati xPosted by MontgomerySO WHAT if there is—
Isn't there another man you want to be with (who has another girlfriend, who
left her husband, for him)?
I seem to remember this from another thread. 😕
I swear these people tattooing our stories on their foreheads!!!
Agreed. So what.
Tabs on you are kept and will follow you forever! Lol
Treat it like you are popular now!
Hugs
You are not a popular
You are a piece of shyt ?
I hope not!
Sorry, but I can't stop myself 😄
click to expand
No worries ?
Posted by HarukkaAnd you still follow me.Posted by GemitatiAren't you that an old woman who follow me around talking about your shyt.Posted by pooface222You have to be ready!Posted by GemitatiThank you Gemitati xPosted by MontgomerySO WHAT if there is—
Isn't there another man you want to be with (who has another girlfriend, who
left her husband, for him)?
I seem to remember this from another thread. 😕
I swear these people tattooing our stories on their foreheads!!!
Agreed. So what.
Tabs on you are kept and will follow you forever! Lol
Treat it like you are popular now!
Hugs
You are not a popular
You are a piece of shyt ?
click to expand
LOL pathetic loser!
Posted by HarukkaAnd you did it again. You just can't keep out of it can you? Get a life! What is wrong with you?Posted by GemitatiHahaPosted by HarukkaAnd you still follow me.Posted by GemitatiAren't you that an old woman who follow me around talking about your shyt.Posted by pooface222You have to be ready!Posted by GemitatiThank you Gemitati xPosted by MontgomerySO WHAT if there is—
Isn't there another man you want to be with (who has another girlfriend, who
left her husband, for him)?
I seem to remember this from another thread. 😕
I swear these people tattooing our stories on their foreheads!!!
Agreed. So what.
Tabs on you are kept and will follow you forever! Lol
Treat it like you are popular now!
Hugs
You are not a popular
You are a piece of shyt ?
LOL pathetic loser!
click to expand
Posted by HarukkaI know! You aren't even hiding it.Posted by GemitatiI'm a fan for youPosted by HarukkaAnd you did it again. You just can't keep out of it can you? Get a life! What is wrong with you?Posted by GemitatiHahaPosted by HarukkaAnd you still follow me.Posted by GemitatiAren't you that an old woman who follow me around talking about your shyt.Posted by pooface222You have to be ready!Posted by GemitatiThank you Gemitati xPosted by MontgomerySO WHAT if there is—
Isn't there another man you want to be with (who has another girlfriend, who
left her husband, for him)?
I seem to remember this from another thread. 😕
I swear these people tattooing our stories on their foreheads!!!
Agreed. So what.
Tabs on you are kept and will follow you forever! Lol
Treat it like you are popular now!
Hugs
You are not a popular
You are a piece of shyt ?
LOL pathetic loser!
click to expand
And you dying to know if my story is true
Posted by VenusAquarius
Try counseling first.
My husband and I were divorced for 4 years and got back together. He worked on his issues and I love him like the first day.
how romantic!
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