the harmful mentality that everything is expendable...

does anyone else think that the "everything is expendable" mentality is harming relationships and human connections...?

i was up last night thinking about how a lot of us nowadays would rather throw away something than to fix whatever is broken...

as technology and everything advanced, we no longer had to wait for things like they did back in the old days...you can pretty much warm up anything in a microwave in a matter of sixty seconds, you can throw your clothes in a washing machine and dryer and they come out clean in less than an hour, you can make a smoothie in just a few seconds using a blender, look up anything online and get your answer in a matter of seconds etc etc...

basically, we can pretty much obtain nearly anything with just a push of a button or a swipe of a screen, if something breaks, you can just get a new one at an affordable price.

i feel like, it's just getting easier and easier to toss things out and replace it with something new.

and we kinda developed this mentality that "everything is expendable" , "everything is replaceable."

i sometimes can't wrap my head around how quickly somebody will drop a friend or significant other just 'cause they're temporarily acting up or something like that...lol

does anyone else feel this mentality seeping through in our lives...?

@BonJuki

i fully agree! if there is an easier way to go about something, it should definitely be explored too 🙂

#RIP#DMX

@bmoon8

I agree! if something is truly not working for you, it's best to let go...

people think that the grass is always greener someplace else

I’m guilty of this mindset but that’s because I outgrow people and I don’t tolerate nonsense because I can gauge who will make an effort to change or who won’t.

For example, I just recently threw away a friendship that is 36 years old. This woman is my cousin/friend and we called each other best friends. It has always been a long distance friendship even though we visit here and there. Our mutual cousins, her family and my family always questioned how we are friends when we are so different in personalities and I told everyone that being similar is not an essential criteria to be friends. Little did I know that we are considerably different and I just didn’t know how different until I started hanging out with her in person. As a friend, I have been transparent with her about my life. She has kept two very big things about her life from me, which makes me not want to tell her anything about my life. So what friendship do you have when you can tell each other about monumental things in your life? I overlooked the two instances but I don’t feel like sharing anything about my life anymore when it’s not mutual. So I disposed the friendship this month after 36 years. I see it as it’s not the history and longevity that matters, it’s the treatment.

I’m done being a consumer only. I love being self sufficient. I’m putting more money into things that will last me. No more disposable stuff if I can help it.

I didn’t realize this was about relationships my bad…. Relationship forum duh haha

Posted by DigitalGhost

It's a double edge sword: on one hand society has leaned hard into an individualistic society. Self empowerment is good. We are responsible for our own happiness. However, the collective suffers when value is place solely on the individual. And turnabout is fair play.

There are some really good studies on the topic. Its a lot deeper than just being an instant gratification society. Technology has facilitated that. The deeper aspect is why people value others less while valuing themselves more. Which Technology also facilities

Isn't it amazing how at the same time technology has made it easier to communicate, people are more lonely than ever? Isn't it amazing that at the same time self empowerment was made a priority, people are more and more depressed?

💯

Yes… consumerism is definitely the root of it. The increasing amounts of dating apps and platforms have also turned people into products that you ‘shop’ around for and compare heavily on the market.

It is very overwhelming. It is very nauseating. It is not sustainable. When you are very in tune with your inner self, you can feel these things are not good for anyone spiritually. They send you down an endless spiral.

The issue is the average person fails to balance their life and is a slave to overconsumption. They lead a life of chasing after excess, unnecessary things as if it’s a need.

The only thing you can do is personally stop participating in such things or do them with extreme self-awareness and surround yourself with others who see similarly.

Cancer 2nd house cusp

Venus in Capricorn 7

Venus sq Saturn

Everything has value. Even if I don’t want it. Quality over quantity. Treat me like Beyoncé backstage passes and I will treat you like the air I breathe

@DigitalGhost

i agree. self empowerment and being responsible for our own happiness are both great concepts but at the same time, we kinda became more isolated from one another and there's an overall feeling of disconnection among people...

i will definitely check out that documentary and let you know what i think...! 🙂

@virgoOPP

yeah the grass is greener syndrome is definitely a thing. especially when we're young, we haven't seen enough things or done enough things, and we don't have much real life experience to base our life and decisions on. but that changes as we age. we gain more perspective.

@GammaArietis

1 in 4 or 5 is a lot. I didn't know the numbers were that high.....damn....:/

i fully agree that if they have no desire to face their issues even after you've tried to help them numerous times, it's best to let them figure it out on their own. your health shouldn't be compromised...i'm glad you got out of that situation.

@Wizardz_

i definitely agree that we are having a harder time enjoying exactly where we are, immersing ourselves in each activity/moment, and going inward within ourselves (engaging in some healthy introspection). i can recall some instances where i was distracted by something that was happening in my phone or on tv that i missed something else more important that somebody was telling me or some important detail about a situation. now, i try to put the phone down whenever someone is talking and just focus on them only.

@_fyrephish

i agree. it depends on the situation for sure. if it's clear that the other person is making an effort, i don't leave. (whether it's a friendship or a relationship or family related)

the effort is what counts.

@aquarius09

damn....36 years is a long time. i can tell you really tried. you should be proud of yourself. and i don't know if this is an aquarius ? thing but you guys try to see the good in people (even those people that society tends to misunderstand or shun?) you guys don't judge a book by its cover and i think that's a beautiful thing. i'm sorry that your friend's secretiveness? ended up hurting you tho....😢 and yeah it's definitely not the history or longevity that matters.

there was a quote: "you can meet somebody tomorrow who has better intentions for you than someone you've known forever...time means nothing...character does."

@AbbyNormal

lol that's ok. it's not just about relationships lol

i agree with you about putting your money towards things that last...!

@peachy06

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@SassyKiwi

i definitely agree that those apps have turned people into things we "shop around" for and it's kinda inhumane in a way...:/

and yeah there's way too much temptations and distractions in today's world, that you gotta be extremely self aware in order to be able to resist all of that.

@DMV

that "everything has value, even if i don't want it" mindset is dope...! lol i gotta adopt that too lol

you're probably the type of person who can see the beauty in most things and that's amazing..

never settle for anything less than top class. you're gonna make some dude real lucky one day... 🙏

@Hypnotoad

i agree with you that back in the old days, things were a lot harder in terms of getting help for mental illnesses and stuff. people probably didn't have easy access to professional counselling like we do nowadays, so many people probably internalized everything and had to suffer on their own. which sucks.

@DigitalGhost

thanks for the link...! i appreciate it!

it's interesting that counties who value independence tend to be have the most issue with loneliness...i guess at the end of the day, humans aren't wired to survive without the help of one another....but i mean, if you think about it, it makes perfect sense. we depend on other humans to help us get wifi/electricity to our house, to make sure there's hot water coming out the shower, we depend on other people to get us from place to place (like the pilots who fly the planes, cab drivers etc) and many other things like that. we really can't do much without the help of other people...



@alexscaries

beer's expensive in sweden? lol