What do I do now?

Ok. My ex (together for 2.5 years physically, then did 6 months LD before we broke up a year ago)has a boyfriend, he's been gone for the last 3 months they got together 8 months ago. (she didn't tell me about him until I got back)

when she told me I said, well I wish you would have said something sooner! but I guess this is goodbye. She started texting and calling 1 - 2 days since we met that first time. We've been talking the last 2 months. literally just communicating some flirting, picture exchanges...

She and I have been communicating and trying to figure out how and if we want to fit into each other's lives. We still have chemistry.. the only reason we broke up was because of the distance.

Now she's with the new guy. He just got back yesterday(I found out by accident calling her to say hi), we went out and talked last week.

She told me she wants to keep talking, even though he's back.

I told her its not a good idea, you know I have feelings for you and I can't talk to you, to respect your decision.

She replied "well even if you decide to stop talking to me, Above all else you and I are friends."

what move should I expect next on her part, just so I'm prepared? I am just trying to stay out of drama, but I do love her, which is why I came back

I didn't know about him until I got relocated back, she and I had been talking everyday I was gone. I came back for her, she said she was in a relationship, I told her I want her and if I can't be with her goodbye.

two days later she's emailing and calling saying hello, asking me about my life like she doesn't know. about game of thrones (wtf really)... telling me I look amazing and she's happy I am doing good. so we've just been chatting.

I figured it was part boredom on her part, part interest... I came back for her so I tried to see if our history would pull her back. We went out last week and had fund, I didn't push for anything we flirted a little and gave a good long hug good bye.

4 days later she's picking him up from airport. never mentioned he was coming back. I had called her while they were driving.

anyway I said well, good luck to you and hung the phone up. she proceeded today to call me twice and text me saying she still wants to keep talking.

I said no I can't be your buddy.... she said above all else we are friends even if you don't want to speak to me.

i think I see trainwreck....

i definitely hope not. I don't need drama.

I walked away with my text. I just want to anticipate future action on her part to be prepared. I don't like being caught off guard. This is the first woman I still have feelings for after a break up, in the past I didn't care enough about them.

If she'll cheat on him, she'll cheat on you

yeah. we didn't do anything. we were a couple that split due to a circumstance that reconnected. we both didn't take it past a meet up for an hour. but it's obvious we still have a connection.

I let her know how I felt, but she has a boyfriend and won't leave him for me so I have to walk away. she's my ex I'll let her go and figure my own stuff out.

no, i got too much respect for myself. I can't reasonably expect her to drop him just because I showed up.

I just hope I reminded her of how much I meant to her (again we had a great relationship just distance). I'm not going to bench play while someone else is actively physically with her.

You need to let this one go unless she's willing to break up. She's the scorpio right? If the sex was as good as I think it was, she'd be willing to cheat and keep him and you.

Don't let her play you like that. She's just horny and you might be a better lay then her current dude. She can have the best of both worlds if she has both of you wrapped around her finger.

Drop her like a bad habit. ?

@saggurl88

saggggggurl ... my mind is foggy from not getting any for 12 months. I'll go out in the field in a little while, but gosh.... I would REALLLLLY like to hit it at least one more time. we broke up without one last hurrah.

all jokes aside. when she sent me that text today it made me feel street walker cheap.... I don't mind escort cheap(because I'm classy).... but definitely not a street walker.

Posted by hellosaggy
@saggurl88

saggggggurl ... my mind is foggy from not getting any for 12 months. I'll go out in the field in a little while, but gosh.... I would REALLLLLY like to hit it at least one more time. we broke up without one last hurrah.

all jokes aside. when she sent me that text today it made me feel street walker cheap.... I don't mind escort cheap(because I'm classy).... but definitely not a street walker.

—— keep it classy !! She'll let you hit it more then that.

You're gonna get pulled into the cyclone lol. Once you start up with her again, there's gonna be drama. You know the choice will be yours. She's already setting up the scene.

No... no... I'm going to disappear into the shadows horny and all.... oh sex with me is better than that stuff Rihanna be peddling.

I swear there is some karma involved from my past life(not previous life, like 10 years ago lol)... my car has been in the garage for over a year...

I haven't pulled an ex away from her active boyfriend yet?... I wonder if that could be a bucket list item?

The worst part is my friends keep trying to set me up. And I'm not feeling any of them. Might as well just wait... instead of just doing someone to do it. Heck it's been this long.