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Women especially have this issue lol If a guy does/says all the right things.....wait a minute...something must not be right...he's too good to be true...there's not anything for me to analyze so naturally I must question it...I must put him to the test in many different ways & then manipulate my mind into believing that my "testing" was justified & necessary b/c after all, hearts are fragile & there's a lot to lose by not playing it "safe" right??!
The girl who's too forward, & isn't afraid to go snatch up what she wants (the woman who will approach a man 1st, ask him out on a date 1st, & won't mind doing the chasing) is told that she's NOT A CHALLENGE...That she's stripping the man of doing what he's naturally supposed to do/be ----> The leader of the pack..the pursuer.
And then there's the girl who isn't forward enough. She's terrified of looking clingy. She's terrified of the attraction not being 100% mutual. She's terrified of looking desperate. She'll hold back even if her heart/mind are telling her to give in & be vulnerable. She'll pull back & test him. She'll start over-analyzing things that aren't even worthy of analysis. She'll make something out of nothing. And the next thing you know, the guy has picked up on these things & is automatically likely to call the girl a nutcase & consider her behavior as "red flags." Red flags = run. Or "stay" for some people who are unconsciously attracted to toxic people/situations
Everybody wants love. Everybody wants to let go, live on cloud 9 & love that state of euphoria. Everybody wants that! But how many people wanna let go of their fears, insecurities, defense-mechanisms, fears of vulnerability and commitment, & fears of possibly ending up as prey in the hands of a wolf in sheep's clothing— NO ONE!!! lol
And yet we wonder where things went wrong
The girl who's too forward, & isn't afraid to go snatch up what she wants (the woman who will approach a man 1st, ask him out on a date 1st, & won't mind doing the chasing) is told that she's NOT A CHALLENGE...That she's stripping the man of doing what he's naturally supposed to do/be ----> The leader of the pack..the pursuer.
And then there's the girl who isn't forward enough. She's terrified of looking clingy. She's terrified of the attraction not being 100% mutual. She's terrified of looking desperate. She'll hold back even if her heart/mind are telling her to give in & be vulnerable. She'll pull back & test him. She'll start over-analyzing things that aren't even worthy of analysis. She'll make something out of nothing. And the next thing you know, the guy has picked up on these things & is automatically likely to call the girl a nutcase & consider her behavior as "red flags." Red flags = run. Or "stay" for some people who are unconsciously attracted to toxic people/situations
Everybody wants love. Everybody wants to let go, live on cloud 9 & love that state of euphoria. Everybody wants that! But how many people wanna let go of their fears, insecurities, defense-mechanisms, fears of vulnerability and commitment, & fears of possibly ending up as prey in the hands of a wolf in sheep's clothing— NO ONE!!! lol
And yet we wonder where things went wrong
Munchkin is right.
Many millennials are narcissists, and narcs do not value anyone except themselves.
Want to know who you are really dealing with? Check out their FB pages.
When a millennial has 3000 photos, and 2999 of the photos are selfies....
Pure narcissism on display, folks.
Many millennials are narcissists, and narcs do not value anyone except themselves.
Want to know who you are really dealing with? Check out their FB pages.
When a millennial has 3000 photos, and 2999 of the photos are selfies....
Pure narcissism on display, folks.
Munchkin is right.
Many millennials are narcissists, and narcs do not value anyone except themselves.
Want to know who you are really dealing with? Check out their FB pages.
When a millennial has 3000 photos, and 2999 of the photos are selfies....
Pure narcissism on display, folks.
Many millennials are narcissists, and narcs do not value anyone except themselves.
Want to know who you are really dealing with? Check out their FB pages.
When a millennial has 3000 photos, and 2999 of the photos are selfies....
Pure narcissism on display, folks.
Some of you peeps are such pessimists, it prevents you from seeing that there is at least as many people who are the opposite of what you're describing.
Posted by Damnata
I really don't care if I "win" or "lose" or if I will get hurt or happy.
I'm grateful for the experience. Why people put their ego over the opportunity for self-growth is beyond me.
Such a good point.
Posted by ScorpioFish
Munchkin is right.
Many millennials are narcissists, and narcs do not value anyone except themselves.
Want to know who you are really dealing with? Check out their FB pages.
When a millennial has 3000 photos, and 2999 of the photos are selfies....
Pure narcissism on display, folks.
The funniest part is they do the whole "i'm a good person" when clearly it's self serving. " I just like people " nah you like attention bitch.
Posted by tizianiPosted by munchkin
And it doesn't do shit to prevent people getting hurt. Look at the chicks crying over guys on dxp. They take for granted that ALL guys will be aloof even if they like them, and they go rabid over the slightest affection because they're starved for it. And they try to hide or outright deny their feelings because of the phobia of seeming "desperate". So they carry on like a "cool chick" and act like they're just in it for fun.
Then they're absolutely devastated when the guy never one day pulls off the mask and goes, "Surprise! You PASSED my Not-Desperate/Psycho Test! I love you! We are hereby committed!"
I mean ffs. What do people expect?
LOL That's mainly down to movies.
The guy in the films who's so hard to break down at first, but in the third act he comes around as she gets to know "the real him".
I think desperate guys fall for this illusion too when it comes to guarded women.click to expand
Goes right in hand w the narc man or women
Posted by BoomShakalakaBoom
Some of you peeps are such pessimists, it prevents you from seeing that there is at least as many people who are the opposite of what you're describing.
To be fair it goes both ways. If 50% of the world is good, & the other 50% bad, the person choosing to focus on the "bad" part of it for the moment shouldn't be criticized or put down as if what they're actually noticing isn't really happening LOL
Anytime there are goods AND bads to a situation, neither the optimist or the pessimist is in the wrong. If the pessimist is in the wrong for only noticing the bads, then the optimist is just as unrealistic & close-minded for not noticing the bads (the other side of the story)
Posted by krysrenee7Posted by BoomShakalakaBoom
Some of you peeps are such pessimists, it prevents you from seeing that there is at least as many people who are the opposite of what you're describing.
To be fair it goes both ways. If 50% of the world is good, & the other 50% bad, the person choosing to focus on the "bad" part of it for the moment shouldn't be criticized or put down as if what they're actually noticing isn't really happening LOL
Anytime there are goods AND bads to a situation, neither the optimist or the pessimist is in the wrong. If the pessimist is in the wrong for only noticing the bads, then the optimist is just as unrealistic & close-minded for not noticing the bads (the other side of the story)click to expand
I think the point is that the majority of people are better than what one assumes.
So the vast majority of millennials are NOT narcissists?
Hahahaha, thanks for the laugh.
There isn't enough room on this planet for the egos of such idiots.
And Tiz, you lose a cool point for getting along with these people.
I know Libras are all about balance and diplomacy, but come on, dude.
Have some standards when it comes to dealing with people with ZERO FUCKING ETHICS OR INTEGRITY.
Hahahaha, thanks for the laugh.
There isn't enough room on this planet for the egos of such idiots.
And Tiz, you lose a cool point for getting along with these people.
I know Libras are all about balance and diplomacy, but come on, dude.
Have some standards when it comes to dealing with people with ZERO FUCKING ETHICS OR INTEGRITY.
Posted by BoomShakalakaBoomPosted by krysrenee7Posted by BoomShakalakaBoom
Some of you peeps are such pessimists, it prevents you from seeing that there is at least as many people who are the opposite of what you're describing.
To be fair it goes both ways. If 50% of the world is good, & the other 50% bad, the person choosing to focus on the "bad" part of it for the moment shouldn't be criticized or put down as if what they're actually noticing isn't really happening LOL
Anytime there are goods AND bads to a situation, neither the optimist or the pessimist is in the wrong. If the pessimist is in the wrong for only noticing the bads, then the optimist is just as unrealistic & close-minded for not noticing the bads (the other side of the story)
I think the point is that the majority of people are better than what one assumes.click to expand
I tend to agree with that. I have always believed that deep down in general people are inherently good.
Posted by ScorpioFish
So the vast majority of millennials are NOT narcissists?
Hahahaha, thanks for the laugh.
There isn't enough room on this planet for the egos of such idiots.
And Tiz, you lose a cool point for getting along with these people.
I know Libras are all about balance and diplomacy, but come on, dude.
Have some standards when it comes to dealing with people with ZERO FUCKING ETHICS OR INTEGRITY.
Well, I suppose it's my generation that raised the millenials.
Or should I say lack of raising since we let technology do a lot of the raising for us. 😕
However, since my children are millenials (ages 17 and 21), I do know very many in this generation that are hardworking, kind, have morals and standards and have a good head on their shoulders.
So, there is hope for the future.
What's scary is thinking about the NEXT generation after the millenials and what they're going to be like. 😕
However, I am already hearing they are expecting these children today to become more like the generation of my grandparents, raised post depression era and appreciating hard work and with not as much entitlement.
There's hope.
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People get used to negative results. They're told from an early age to expect to have to go through many bad frogs before getting to the prince. They're pre-programmed to expect betrayal & hurt to an extent. And they don't even realize it. Society tells them to prepare for a life of many let downs but does NOT give us manuals on how to get through & prosper AFTER such letdowns. THAT is where everybody messes up. That is where everybody gets caught up & stuck. Society tells you to expect a war, but doesn't give you the tools & the manual on how to get through it & survive it. They tell you that love is a game, but no one tells you how to play it. So people go through life just kinda "winging it," & hoping to find their way.
FEAR runs this society. Parents are constantly telling their children who to stay away from, what not to do, who not to hang out with, who not to fall in love with, who not to give your body to, how not to end up somebody's prey. etc. Children grow up like little fragile beings who are always subconsciously on guard. It's no wonder these fears transfer over into their adulthood & manifest in their adult relationships.
They don't even realize that their pre-programming is a good way to literally & automatically attract the bad apples LOL. As they say, the universe gives you what you think you're gonna get, which is why people tend to attract the very thing/types of people they fear.
By the time they finally find someone who's imperfectly perfect, they suddenly are no longer in the "familiar" & need to find reasons to push back or find something wrong. People who've been hurt actually become dependent on pain & unsatisfactory situations. Comfort zones that aren't technically comfortable, but nonetheless, at least familiar. And people cling to what's familiar. Obviously, this can be a very BAD thing & the reason some people can't seem to get a break or figure out what keeps going wrong in their love life!
But realistically, people like games. They're actually bored unless there's some sense of confusion, games or something to over-analyze in the picture.